You havent met me yet, but you will, come July.
Your uncle Danny (whom I call the Chef on this website) talks about you all the time. Your dad is his brother Pat, you see. Pat, the Olympic skier, and now the man who put you on your first pair of skis a couple of months ago. You had flame-red hair and a big, lopsided grin, your small teeth as white as the snow. You hunched down over bent knees as you started to soar down a little hill. Your uncle saw that picture and teared up another Ahern skiing boy is born. I saw the pictures of you when we were visiting your Granddad and Grandmother in Tucson, last month. They are so proud of you.
Thats a great family youve been born into, kid.
Everyone in Tucson wished you could have been there with us. I know your dad had to work at the ski area, and you had visited Tucson only a few weeks before. But still. Think what fun you would have had, with all your uncles and aunts making a fuss over you. And I would have happily kneeled down on the floor to play blocks or read you a book. I just cant wait to meet you.
You see, there is a photograph of you above our stove. Every time your uncle makes us food, late at night, after he has returned from his restaurant, he looks up at that photograph the top of your lip smeared with a crayon-made moustache and sends out a little kiss to you. And next to you sits a photograph of Elliott, standing on a chair in his kitchen, contemplating the quinoa on his spoon quite seriously.
Elliott is my nephew, my dear-hearted, wonderfully particular, nearly-four-years-old little boy. From the day he was born, Elliott was my favorite person in the world. He dances with words, shimmies his way into every part of my brain, and waltzes out the door after a long visit, without knowing just how much the memory of him will tap across my mind. Yesterday, he was visiting me for the afternoon. The first thing he did was run into the bedroom I share with your uncle, climbed onto the bed, and bounced on the top of the covers for ten minutes. I watched his little, white-socked feet spring up from the mattress, his toes pointed downward, already anticipating the soft return, and saw his hair flop up from his face with every leap. He kept grinning, an open-mouthed smile that made me giggle.
And later in the afternoon, when he was standing in our kitchen, mixing yellow and blue food colorings in a glass of water, his mom told him that we were ready to leave for the store, to find him a toy. (He isnt old enough to know that we were only going to the local Goodwill, and the scuffed red rocket he clutched to himself only cost four dollars.) He stood up, his eyes excited. And then he paused for a moment, to contemplate. Suddenly, he thrust his arms out, into the air an expansive gesture, embracing the moment and said, And Shauna can come too!
My goodness, I love him.
You and Elliott will meet soon. You will meet in one of the most important weekends of our life: our wedding. You probably have no idea what that means, do you? A few weeks ago, I took Elliott aside after a long walk in the forest behind his house, and I said, Do you know what? Uncle Dan and I are going to be married. We are going to have a big party in a park, with all our friends. And we would love for you to be there. He nodded gravely, and let out an airy little yes . I dont think he understood. And hes over a year older than you. So you dont have to understand.
But on a day toward the middle of July this year, your uncle and I would like you to put on your brightest Hawaiian shirt, and a pair of cowboy boots, and walk a little distance, holding Elliotts hand, toward the two of us. Im going to be wearing a white dress. Your uncle will be wearing a blue suit, and well both be smiling at you. Somewhere in your small hands, youll be carrying these silver rings.
Last month, I was holding Elliott on my hip, pointing to the photographs on our refrigerator. He always laughs when he sees himself, and he recognizes his grandma and granddad, whom he adores. Then, he saw the picture of you there, your hair gleaming red and tousled, your hands clutching a rock you liked from the garden. Whos that? he asked.
Thats Cooper, I told him.
Cooper, he repeated, solemnly, curving his mouth around the letters of your name.
Cooper is Uncle Dans nephew, I said, pointing to the man standing behind me. Maybe one day you could be his friend.
Elliott paused for a moment, to think. And then, in his sweet, small voice, he said, Yes, I will be his friend.
I looked around at your uncle and saw the tears fill his eyes, immediately.
So, dont be upset if you see us both crying, on that sunny day in July, as you walk toward us. We will both just be happy, you see.
Last week, your uncle called your house to say hello. You just like Elliott has go in and out of liking the phone. Mostly, when he calls every week, you just listen on the end, your little breaths hitting the sound recorder. Once, after he had moved into this house, your uncle put me on the phone too, the both of us listening. Thats how I heard you say your first word to him: book. That made him tear up too, to hear your voice.
I remember the first sounds Elliott made that sounded like words. He sometimes pointed to the lamp above the chair in which we sat, and with every force and urgency he could muster, sputtered out, Dight! I can still remember the delight of hearing that d, the explosive force of the t at the end of the word. I knew what he meant.
Now, his voice is thin and reedy, sweet and pleading. I wonder every day now whether your uncle and I will meet our own children. I wonder what their voices will sound like in my ears.
Last week, when your uncle talked to you on the phone, you said your first sentence to him. Your father had stopped at a little Mexican take-out place for dinner, and he had just given you some food before he asked you to step to the phone. Apparently, you said, I have a quesadilla, and it is good. While your uncle talked to you, amazed to hear an entire sentence, you munched away, contentedly. All he could hear was the sound of your chewing.
And the first sentence you ever said to him was about food.
He called me just afterwards, to convey the conversation. He was a little misty still, his voice a little ragged. You see, every one of you in his family (and now every person in my family were all one family, joined by the two of us, now) is so deeply important to your uncle. Hes pretty sensitive to life, moved by everything, making jokes about everything else. But his family? And you? You are all, without a doubt, the most important part of his life.
Thats part of why I love him so. He loves his food, he works hard, and he treats people well. But in the end, the only thing that truly matters to him is the people he loves. I feel blessed to be one of those people.
Your uncle is a good man, Cooper. I hope that one day you will be a man as good as him.
All of this is how, last Saturday night, we ended up at a gargantuan grocery store, at nearly midnight, searching out the ingredients for quesadillas. This store was cavernous, with cold fluorescent lights, and almost no one there. But the two of us were laughing hard and discovering food on different aisles. As he walked through the produce section, he walked with his hand on my butt. (Youre going to have to be a lot older before you realize what fun that is.) Thats one part of being with someone you love this dearly anything can be a joy.
We rushed home, talking about families and nephews and customers in the restaurant all the way up to our home. And then we cut up chunks of avocado and grated soft cheese into a small hill on the plate. We opened the jar of salsa and flipped up the lid of the sour cream. He sautéed us some slices of steak. I took the corn tortillas out of their package and started to heat them in the skillet.
These tortillas were made by a company called Mission. This definitely wont mean anything to you for awhile, but I can eat them because they are gluten-free. Not only are they made of corn, but the company has taken the care to label them and explain their manufacturing process on their website. Later, when you are older, you might understand how loved it makes me feel to know that someone is taking care of me like this.
Sometimes, the best food is simple, spontaneous. If we had planned ahead, we might have made our own salsa, from scratch. We could have ground up chiles and bought better cheese. Its easy to make corn tortillas by hand. There are a dozen ways we could have made this meal more gourmet. And I could have made some again the next afternoon, just to take this picture in the best light.
But you know what? The best food is always shared with people you love. Just that day, I had gone to my friend Francoises house. When I entered, she jumped up to hug me, and gestured widely at the table, where Adriaan sat. She said, We are just eating lunch. Would you like to join us? And so, she raced into the kitchen to cut up an avocado, and dribbled it with balsamic vinegar. She sliced a tomato and sprinkled sea salt on it. A handful of greens, a squeeze of lemon juice. On the table, some hummus. That was all I needed. It was a tremendous meal. Not gourmet, not good enough to write about in a fancy magazine. Just good.
And when I told your uncle about what Francoise had done, he said, That is a good woman.
Because you were eating a quesadilla, and told your uncle about it on the phone, we sat in our bedroom, after midnight, eating hot quesadillas just off the skillet. We made jokes about Napoleon Dynamite (Get your own damned quesadilla!) and held each others hands. Sour cream and avocadoes spilled out both sides of the tortillas, and we both moaned with the messy pleasure.
Thank you, Cooper, for inspiring such joy in us.
Its amazing how much we all affect each other in this world.
See you in July, buddy.
Your soon-to-be aunt Shauna