August 30, 2011

warm brown rice and grilled vegetable salad

This weekend I spent exactly 25 hours in New Orleans.

It was a pell-mell trip, one of many I have made this summer. I rose in the darkness, kissed my sleeping husband, then my sleeping daughter in the other room. Leaving them, even though I would be back late the next night, made my heart hurt. I drove to the ferry at 4:45 in the morning, a motorcycle with loud bright headlights behind me the entire way. Exhausted, I drove off the ferry as the light started to hit the sky. Picking up a friend on a corner before the freeway helped. We talked and talked, then both grew silent at the sight of the Cascade mountains steely-grey against a pale peach sunrise.

Two flights. Even though I hate leaving Danny and Lucy, long flights mean time to read. I hunkered down into my narrow seat, between two people who fell asleep, and read half of Abraham Verghese’s book, Cutting for Stone. I tumbled fully into the world he created, turning pages as fast as I could. (On the way home the next day, I finished the book in one four-hour sitting session. The poor teenage boy next to me kept looking at me like I was crazy when tears ran down my cheeks and I gulped for air. This book, my goodness, this book. You must read it.) I remind myself to find something good about each place I’m breathing. Airplane journeys and reading? Not bad.

As I walked out the doors of the Louis Armstrong airport, I prepared myself for the wave of laughter, food, and fast conversations about to hit me. I was there to speak at the International Food Bloggers Conference (IFBC) and I was honored. I’m thrilled to be part of a group of people who are weird enough to take photographs of their food and talk about how much they enjoy their meals. Those good folks asked me to speak for more than an hour about living gluten-free and what it means to our food community. Pretty darned great.

However, on either side of that lovely time in a conference room were packed hours, together with people I adore, eating food in New Orleans.

I gathered with friends and people I have been wanting to meet. After a lot of research and talking on Twitter, a boisterous group of us went to Drago’s for charbroiled oysters and Pimm’s cups, and then we took over the small space in Cochon Butcher. Hands reached for rillettes and ashy goat cheese, boudin with spicy mustard, and flash-fried brussels sprouts that made us order two more servings immediately. There were peach pit cocktails and conversation about the state of food culture in this country. (Our fairly common consensus after much discussion? People, y’all need to just relax a little bit.)

There wasn’t much sleep. I wanted to talk with Danny, two hours behind me. I stayed up late reading my book. I nibbled on the crushed bits of a chocolate chip cookie Danny had baked the night before and tucked into my bag without me noticing.

In the morning there was breakfast at a great divey place around the corner from the hotel, Mena’s. I ordered an omelet with andouille sausage and grits with cheese. The plate arrived. I could tell by the bright-orange cheese with the weepy edges that the cheese nestled in my grits was Velveeta. For a moment, I paused. I haven’t eaten anything like this in over ten years. Velveeta? And then I thought, “What the hell? I’m in New Orleans.”

Damned if that wasn’t a good breakfast.

After the morning conference session where I spoke, before I had to run to the airport, three friends and I walked down the street to NOLA. We sat at the counter in front of the kitchen (right where Danny would have loved to be) and talked in slow spaces and calm. There was a BLT salad: a puddle of green buttermilk dressing, topped by a thick slice of ripe tomato, smoky bacon, and a tuft of dressed arugula. Perfect end-of-summer food. There were shrimp and grits — better than the morning’s grits — and a mint julep and incredible conversation with women I respect.

I went to that airport happy. And ready to be home.

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Is that the entire story of that trip? Of course not. There is no way to capture the quicksilver leaps of the mind between moments, the dozens of sights I saw in New Orleans I wish I could capture, the conversation with my cab driver heading back to the airport. Writing will never suffice for real life.

But there is also the shadow story, the one I never tell on this site.

I guess it’s just part of being in the public eye. This is what people tell me. I think it has more to do with the fact that we seem to have fallen into a position of derision and judgment in this culture. Everything is to be doubted. Someone has to be wrong.

From those brief 25 hours, I received emails that said, “Don’t you know that processed food is killing Americans? How could you have posted a photo with Velveeta cheese?” or “What kind of a mother are you, leaving your child for another trip? Selfish bitch.” or “Sausage? Andouille sausage? You don’t think you’re fat enough already, you have to stuff more sausage in your mouth?” There were complaints about where I ate, how much I ate, how happy I was to be with the people I sat with, that I was bragging by listing the people with whom I had dinner. There were comments about my weight, comments about my parenting, comments about the way I spend money, comments about the farce of gluten-free, comments about my photographic skills, and comments about how often I posted on Twitter (for some, that answer was: too much). Nothing goes undiscussed as being disgusted in my online world.

It’s more than offhand comments on Twitter or raging emails. It’s the systematic way that cruel comments come into my website inbox with every single post. When I posted the recipe for soft pretzels, within moments I received the comment: “I hope you choke on your own pretzels and die, you bitch.” Every day, there is some nasty, vituperative comment on a post, something I skim quickly then delete. It could be comments about my husband (“He’s obviously retarded. Look in his eyes. There’s something wrong.”) about our life on Vashon (“Oh that’s right, everything is perfect on  your fucking ISLAND.”), about our food (“That looks like dog vomit. Why does anyone pay you to do this?”), and mostly about me (my weight? my writing? my hair? my mere presence in the world? take your pick). New posts and posts from five years ago — it doesn’t seem to matter.

This happens nearly every day. Just from tonight: “i thought your kid cried all night and thats why you ate so much god damn pie. liar.”

That’s easy enough to rectify. Just hit delete. However, this ridiculousness is not relegated to this space. There are Twitter feeds devoted to mocking my voice and what I care about. There are blogs dedicated to excoriating every post I write by writing a companion post — same amount of paragraphs and sentences — in ugly language. There is a forum created just for those who hate kids and the people who write about their kids online. Apparently, my section is one of the biggest. Every time I have a recipe published in a magazine or a piece written about me, there are a score of vicious comments about me. Every time. There are lots of personal attacks hidden as reviews on Amazon.

I’ve come to terms with this, over the years. Most of the time, when I get a comment or see a link, I delete. I don’t look. I don’t read. It’s all so pathetic and sad. And I don’t put myself through it. Why walk into a room knowing you’re going to get punched as soon as you walk in?

However, there are some times it still gets me. The comments about Lucy make me enraged. Recently, I saw two bitter, older women having a conversation on Twitter about Lucy’s body shape and how “prematurely zaftig” she is. First of all, she’s not overweight. She’s healthy and strong and built of muscle from dancing through the world. But secondly, what kind of sick person are you to be making derogatory comments about the body of a three-year-old? Could be worse. When I published a post about strawberry shortcake, which included photos of Lu and her little friends around the table, Lu happened to be without a shirt, since it was a hot summer day. Within moments, the first comment? “I hope the pedophiles are watching and I hope they get your kid.”

I couldn’t make this up.

Just before Lucy had her surgery, Danny and I stumbled onto the Twitter feeds created to mock us. There was one in my voice, one in his, one for made-up old girlfriends and acolytes. Fine. Whatever. There was also one written in the voice of our daughter. Our 10-month-old daughter. And it was repeatedly making fun of the shape of her head.

Seriously, who writes a Twitter feed to mock the skull of a 10-month-old?

After we found that one, Danny and I froze. We didn’t want our lives public anymore. I thought about taking down this blog. Finding a new job. I made all the photographs of Lu private. I wouldn’t write about her at all. For a time, I didn’t want to write about our lives. I could make gluten-free cookies and not say a thing about us. Put up bread and everyone would be happy. I tried this for awhile.

And then I felt so stifled and itchy that I knew I couldn’t do this anymore. We got through Lu’s surgery and realized that I had given in. I didn’t want to let these people win.

I started writing our stories again. I haven’t stopped since.

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Believe me, this isn’t just happening to me. Read the comments section on You Tube and you’re in the seventh circle of hell. Washington Post, New York Times, CNN — these places are populated by crazy people with very definite opinions. Anyone who has a website with more than a few thousand readers has nutballs and spiteful people writing to them. I’m not naming names because my friends don’t want to talk about this publicly. Just know that everyone you read probably struggles with this.

I know that one of my friends, when she finds out I wrote this will probably say, “Shauna! Why the hell did you bother talking about these shit-for-brains? Don’t give them the time of day.” Another of my friends told me today, “Don’t do it. Don’t feed the trolls.”

Why am I talking about this when I have kept silent for five years? Why didn’t I just tell you about New Orleans and leave you with this recipe for a delicious brown rice salad?

I am tired of not talking about this. I’m tired of keeping this inside, tightening my lips, and deleting. It doesn’t feel honest to not talk about this.

But mostly, I want to put this in the open because this isn’t only happening to me. Even if you don’t have a blog, I bet you feel like this in your life too. All that judgment about your appearance, the unspoken whispers about the way  you are raising your kid, the way you wonder if you’re doing a good enough job keeping house when you’re plain exhausted by the end of the day. Where did we learn to become so cruel to each other?

I’m not sure what drives the minds of the people who spend far too much time reading my blog, my Flickr pictures, my Twitter feed, and what I write on Facebook so they can mock it. People, I don’t have much time to read other people’s blogs. How sad and small does the life of someone have to be to spend time online finding people to write shit about?

Brené Brown has helped me to see all this in a clear light lately. I was lucky enough to speak with her on a panel at BlogHer a few weeks ago. It was an extraordinary experience. If you don’t know Brené, you should. She works to understand shame and vulnerability in people and how those two emotions affect everything we do. When I joked in that session that it never made sense to me that someone (or several someones) could be this mad at me, she said, “I know exactly why some people must hate your guts.”

“Why?”

“Because you are joyful,” she said immediately.

“And I have endured a lot of suffering and I still love my life,” I told her.

“Yes, who do you think you are?”

“And I write cookbooks for a living and I’m not a size 4,” I said, knowing this was true.

It’s fascinating to me that the trolls harp mostly on how I look. What the heck does it matter to you?

This is, of course, far more widespread than comments on my blog. How dare anyone be overweight? Or  more accurately, not look the way that society narrowly defines us?

Here’s the deal. I write about food. I cook food all day long. People give me their baked goods when I make public appearances. And may I tell you, after a summer of speaking at food-writing conferences? There are only a small handful of food writers who are a size 4. Lovely people, all 12 of them. The rest of us? We look like the rest of America.

More than that, there is some misguided notion that having curves and holding weight in our hips necessarily makes us unhealthy. Poppycock. Every medical test I have comes back with solid numbers. Our doctor, one of the best in Seattle, told me, “If I could get the rest of my patients to eat the way you and your family do, I’d be thrilled.” I walk nearly every day, when I am not running or dancing or doing yoga or swimming. I am fit and healthy and happy in my body. Finally.

You see, like most women in America, I have struggled with the way I look, and how I think I should look. I wrote about it last year. Last year, I tackled my emotional, mindless eating. I don’t do that anymore. I started exercising regularly. I feel fantastic. And still, after the initial 30 or so pounds, my weight doesn’t budge. Why? I’m on medication that makes me hold on weight. Even more than that, my oncologist shared this with me recently. Many reliable studies show that women over 35 must exercise vigorously for an hour a day, every day, for the rest of their lives, to maintain their weight. Maintain. Not lose. Maintain.

What are we doing to ourselves? Why do we deny and starve and try to be something other than what we are? Look at Meryl Streep, one of my favorite actresses. Young? Rail thin. Older? A little fuller. This is an actor, someone who makes her living with her body. She could hire every trainer and personal chef. Instead, she just looks comfortable in her skin.

More than that, increasingly, studies are starting to show that those of us with a little more weight than others might live longer than others. Why? Maybe because we’re not straining our bodies to be something other than what they want to be.

So, could I lose some weight? Sure. Will I? Maybe. Does this affect my happiness in the world? Not anymore.

I suppose I have the trolls to thank for this, in some weird way. Since I was 10 years old, I have fought my own body. I have never fully, fully inhabited it. I was always waiting for it to be less than it is. For the first few years, hearing these nasty excoriating voices with horrible comments about the way I look, I shuddered. I believed them. But slowly, oh so slowly, I started to realize those voices were not my own. This one is.

For the first time in my life, at 45, I am relaxed into my body. What am I going to do, spend until I’m 75 wishing someone I was someone a little bit different, a little less, a little more conforming? Hell no.

* * *

And so, I still sort of hesitate sometimes. I had to think twice before I put up the photo of the strawberry picnic that Lucy asked if we could have the day after I returned from New Orleans. Bare legs, dirty feet from playing in the garden, skinned knee. I started to hear the trolls in my head.

Then, I sat for a few moments, breathing. I remembered again how sad the life has to be of that person who pulls up this website again, just to find something wrong again. I found compassion in my breath. I sent it out.

And then I put up whatever picture I wanted.

I’m sorry that your life is so small and sad, but I’m not going to stop saying my story.

I am here.

And by the way, why don’t you go find a different hobby? Get some fresh air. Make a friend. Life could be better than this.

WARM BROWN RICE AND GRILLED VEGETABLE SALAD

Something powerful I have learned about food over the course of writing this site: relax and enjoy it a bit more. If we listen to our bodies, and not the chorus of judgmental voices telling us what we are doing wrong? Our bodies know what to do. After eating moderate amounts of rich food in New Orleans this weekend? The only thing my body wanted to eat was the strawberries I shared with my daughter and this warm brown rice salad Danny made up for us.

Maybe if we all relaxed a bit more and thought of our diet over the course of the week, instead of every single bite, we might find that our bodies gravitate toward what is good for us, more and more. I know that’s true for me now.

1 medium zucchini, sliced lengthwise
1 medium red pepper, cut into rings, seed removed
1 large tomato, sliced lengthwise
1 yellow squash, sliced lengthwise
½ onion, sliced in rings
12 tablespoons olive oil
salt and pepper
3 cups warm brown basmati rice
1 cup cooked chickpeas
6 leaves fresh basil, cut into chiffonade
3 tablespoons sherry vinegar

Toss the zucchini, red pepper, tomato, squash, and onion with 3 tablespoons of the olive oil. Season them with salt and pepper. Grill them on a hot grill. Make sure that the vegetables have grill marks on all sides and are tender. Bring them in and let them cool enough that you can handle them.

Chop all the vegetables into even pieces. Put them in a large bowl with the chickpeas and fresh basil.

Combine the sherry vinegar and the remaining olive oil. Drizzle it over the rice, vegetables, and basil. Toss. Season to taste.

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Tea August 30, 2011 at 11:48 pm

Oh Shauna, I have never commented before, but I just wanted to say that I am sorry for the hate that has been directed towards you and very thankful that you have chosen to speak out. I’m an opinionated, talkative person and I like a bit of debate more than most but it seems that online, anything goes. There are no boundaries – no manners, courtesy or respect. Perhaps because it’s so easy to be anonymous online, it’s easy to be nasty without realising what that means to the person being subjected to the abuse. I don’t know. Anyway, bravo to you for speaking out. And for having created a wonderful, warm online space. I hope that in time, people change their approach to the internet and posts like this won’t be necessary anymore.

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jeanelane August 31, 2011 at 8:43 am

@Tea, I agree with your whole post! Its the anonymity that allows all the garbage. I’m afraid that this will just be growing so it is not anonymous. But so much for the downer talk!

Shauna – I love to read your posts! They are always so lively, joyful, and full of life. I envy that. But I don’t envy you Vashon! :) I love where I live (for the most part!). I love that my kids are grown. I am slooowly getting used to my wheat sensitivity. And sites like yours help tremendously. Not just with the recipes, but with the writing. How joyous to eat what you can and be who you are. The way you have written this post, it sound like there are a whole lot of horrible people. I am not naive enough to think that everyone is good. But I guess I didn’t realize how awful so many people are. Or maybe its the same 5 with different screen names multiplying themselves all over the place. The first nasty word you read, hit delete. I know when I start reading comments and see the garbage, like you say on YouTube, I quit reading. So off topic, so not worthy of anyone’s time. Blessings to your and yours in your corner of the world. Even when you take your corner around the country!

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Chris September 3, 2011 at 8:24 pm

The motive’s of these people are the question. If they are so utterly miserable that they read blogs they obviously aren’t interested in just so they can virtually beat someone up, that is a pathetic individual indeed. While I’m sure there are some like that. The truth is there are lots of sockpuppets out there.

There are corporate interests that are threatened by real independent media. They are threatened by real people who have large followings and provide information that has not been processed by the mainstream for public consumption. They bash people in hopes of discouraging them. I encourage you not to accept any of those comments as authentic and throw them out without even giving them a thought as the motive is perverse either way. The only thing that kind of negativity is good for is exposing it and writing an excellent post like you have done!

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Mo August 31, 2011 at 4:31 pm

I can’t even imagine. I left myspace years ago for this very reason. I ran a group of maybe a couple hundred people and was personally attacked, had my pictures stolen, defaced and reposted, etc. It was awful. And that was before kids. I don’t know what I would do if someone dared say something against my babies. I don’t think I’d be able to handle it as analytically as you!

It’s pretty amazing how awful and disgusting some people can be on-line, in their own little world where manners and common decency apparently don’t need to exist. Good for you for being so awesome.

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Gail September 4, 2011 at 6:21 pm

Thank you for your blog. You have been a little place of joy for me nearly every day for years. This is amazing work! I’m so sorry that you are on the receiving end of the anger of so many joyless people in the world – and plain old disheartened to hear that people ARE this sad and joyless. This is why your work is so important, and why we need reminders (like your blog) of hope and optimism.

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Emma @ Poires au Chocolat August 30, 2011 at 11:53 pm

I can’t believe people say such awful things about you. I bet there are thousands more people who love reading your stories. What an awful waste of their lives, to spend it mocking someone. Their loss. Keep strong!

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Grace September 3, 2011 at 2:32 pm

Agreed! Your blog has always been a positive voice in a world where being negative is so often the easiest choice. Keep on truckin’, we’ll keep on reading.

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Mary August 30, 2011 at 11:57 pm

Well, I for one thing you are wonderful. I love reading your blog and seeing the snapshots of your life. These trolls probably never had awesome mothers who taught them how to behave as humans. Lu will never out down other people- you are raising a lover of people and of life. There aren’t many things in life more important than that. :)

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meg- grow and resist August 31, 2011 at 12:07 am

Beautiful and honest post. The trolls are out there. I have no idea what they gain from the pain they inflict. But I am glad you stood up, exposed them and yourselves!

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Kate August 31, 2011 at 12:11 am

so much love to you Shauna! ashamed that people made out of the same flesh and blood as I am could be so very terrible. please know that for every idiot that says something shitty to you, there are ten more people who love and appreciate your blog, your stories, your life, you! thank you and your family for being there. always being there. I look forward to checking your blog, nearly every day, and always feel extra happy when there’s a picture of that beautiful baby, or your beautiful little family or friends, even more than the amazing food you make. stay strong, woman! so much love is coming at you. xo

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Courtney August 31, 2011 at 12:13 am

Shauna, this post was just beautiful. I never really considered the constant ridicule and harassment my favorite bloggers deal with so regularly. If I stumble upon a blog that doesn’t suit me, I move on, but I realize, unfortunately, that not everyone does that.

I also just adore your photos. All of them. Outdoor, food, family, anything. Some of us will always keep reading without judgment and cruelty in our hearts and minds. Hopefully, we will outweigh or at least somewhat balance those who find the need to put you and your family down. Thanks again for being you. =)

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shannon August 31, 2011 at 12:16 am

this post was heartbreaking. i’m sorry that you have to endure such senseless cruelty. i’m not sure that i could. in fact, i know that i couldn’t. bravo for sticking up for yourself and for loving yourself in spite of the ugliness directed your way. i don’t eat gluten free at all, but i keep coming back to your blog because i love your writing and i love reading about your life and how you do live with such joy. keep it up. xoxo

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KK @ Preppy Pink Crocodile August 31, 2011 at 12:28 am

Oh I am just sick after reading this. Especially the parts about sweet Lucy!! I am so sorry.

I get nasty comments too here and there. Years ago I wrote a brownie recipe and promptly got a comment saying I was a fat bitch and they would never make this because they like to eat healthy and stay fit. Mind you, I don’t even have personal photos on my blog. Just because I said I made brownies. I didn’t say I bathed in them.

I’ve been reading your blog since before you were married. And making your recipes since waaaay before I went gluten free. I think it’s so inspiring that you were able to turn a fun blog into a career. Also, your family is precious.

So the next time some icky comment comes your way, remember that you have a lot of fans who lovingly come by daily to see what fun adventures Lu has been up to and just how to make a perfectly imperfect gf pie.

KK

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Anna-Marie August 31, 2011 at 12:30 am

Never in a million years could I have imagined that you would have to put up with such utter rubbish and ugliness as you have described – I am truly staggered by it. Your honesty and open-ness is one of the reasons that I continue to read your blog – including this entry, especially this entry where I now realise the price that you pay for being public. From the bottom of my heart, thank you for taking the risk. And if you ever decide to not post pixs and stories of Lu to protect her, it would be completely understood.

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AmandaonMaui August 31, 2011 at 12:30 am

The internet has always had trolls, and always will. I remember before blogs, and major social networking sites, on the small forum sites (like the one I met my partner on) there were trolls making nasty comments just for the hell of it. Our little web community took care of dealing with each one and some of them actually ended up turning into good people once they were given some guidance (that’s a very minute percentage, barely detectable of course).

Your life is beautiful because you experience it that way. I struggle every now and then to be happy amidst the stresses of my life, but it’s something I’m learning. I’ve only been around a couple decades, so I’ve got some time to recognize the importance of finding joys in things that would normally seem annoying or tedious (like flying).

I am still shocked by the comments people have sent to you. They’re never things that crossed my mind, and how awful that they crossed someone else’s. How sad it is that people in the world exist the way they do, by living on torturing others so they don’t feel their own pain.

Thank you for continuing to write, and continuing to share your photographs. Thank you for not letting the trolls win.

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Wendy Norlin August 31, 2011 at 12:38 am

I am from New Orleans and my only comment is, You ate grits? I always avoided them out of risk of cross contamination.

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Katie September 1, 2011 at 8:13 am

OOC, cross-contamination of what, exactly?

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Cyn September 4, 2011 at 5:11 pm

Milk and wheat. Jim Dandy (a paragon among grit manufacturers) explicitly states the cross-contamination risk of these two allergens.

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Jan Hughes August 31, 2011 at 12:40 am

What a sad commentary. I guess it’s easier to be cruel when you’re more or less anonymous. Like you, I wonder where they get the time and energy -don’t these people lives?!

Life cries out to be lived, and you folks do it beautifully. Carry on, and don’t let the assholes get you down.

Jan

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cathy September 5, 2011 at 9:06 am

Totally agree!

These people must be lonely and jealous of your life.

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Courtney @ Translating Nutrition August 31, 2011 at 12:43 am

This post broke my heart. How people can be so cruel is beyond my comprehension. This goes beyond the anonymity of the internet. We have a saying/question in my family for the type of person who would make such comments: what is wrong with you? (emphasis on the wrong with humor in the tone). Clearly for someone to make such cruel remarks about a little girl, there must be something wrong in their head.

I love reading your blog. I love reading about your joy and resilience; it is an inspiration for me to be more joyful everyday. And as a Dietitian I commend your healthy habits. Your views on eating right and being healthy far trump any number on a scale. If we all focused more on health and less on weight I think we’d be in a far healthier and happier place.

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Ann August 31, 2011 at 1:04 am

Dear Shauna
I was shocked when I read your post – when I stopped to think about it, I guess the internet, with its anonymity, provides the perfect screen for people who are unhappy with their lives, and want to spread it around. Good on you for resisting it, but it must be tiresome sometimes – sometimes when you are tired, or a bit dispirited, when something hasn’t gone according to plan, you know, ordinary life that happens to us all – that is when you do not need someone chipping away, and worse, taking out their lack of life on you.

I remember when you were posting about changing from cups to measuring with a scale how some people blamed YOU for their discomfort about changing. You were so positive, and so so encouraging, and took the time more than once to explain why you felt we would get a better result. I felt then that you were very patient, and very caring. Good on you!

I would like to re-inforce what you already know – that their stuff has nothing to do with you. Remember to never take it personally. As someone once said (forget who) What someone thinks of you is actually none of your business.

I look forward to reading about you, about your life, about your passion, and look forward to running into one day as we go for the same gluten free meal somewhere – then I will look at you and tell you in person that you have a made a positive difference in my life, and thank you for all the hardships you put up with/ignored/turned around for my sake.

Thank you Shauna
Ann

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Julie V. August 31, 2011 at 1:23 am

I so appreciate you and what you do here.

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Sanjeeta kk August 31, 2011 at 1:27 am

I like this simple and comforting brown rice with loads of veggies and chickpeas in it! If only those people who dislike any post go and use their energy to write something worth reading…

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Annie August 31, 2011 at 1:28 am

((hugs)) I truly hope that the nastiness that you have had to put up with is MORE than balanced by the hundreds of tweets, emails, comments, letters and face to face conversations that you have had over the years from those of us who have nothing but praise, thanks, and blessings for you and your family.

Many newly diagnosed coeliacs stumble across your blog (and others like it) when they are feeling the shock of “losing” gluten, wondering if there is a life to be lived, wondering how they can cope. Your blog is such an inspiration! It shows people that life gluten free is NOT second rate, nor a substitute. It is something to be embraced.

I still get down days, days when it just wish it would all go away as it would be so much easier – 4 out of 6 of the family are gluten free including 3 children – and then your latest post comes into my feed and I smile, nod, and come away feeling stronger.

I used to blog daily – in another life/guise – and I have a small idea of what it is like to share your life so openly, so honestly, and how those reading it feel like they know you to the point of *owning* you… sometimes that can be positive – that virtual but very real connection such as has reached out to Jeannie over the past weeks – but other times it can be hugely destructive.

Keep listening to your heart. Pictures, or no pictures. Sharing your life, or not sharing your life, you have hundreds of people supporting and loving you all.

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TJ August 31, 2011 at 8:28 am

This post says a lot of what I wanted to say. I have felt the sting of stupid, mean comments too, though not to that extent, and I am SO sorry for what you are going through. It isn’t right.

Know that we love you and love your blog. When we had to leave gluten behind us for our child, it was scary and visions of cardboardish, horrible and nasty food filled my sights for a bit. But you aren’t just settling for “something to eat.” You’re not whining and crying about the miserable-ness of living gluten-free. You are happy, rejoicing, creative, meeting challenges and making beautiful and amazing food. You look like you are having fun, and as I wrap up my first year of gluten-free life, I find that I am having fun, too!

The other night I served a gluten-free cake to about 30 gluten-eaters. . . and it got RAVES. Do you know how much of a relief that is? To know that we can still participate in the “food events” of life? To bring things to gatherings that are so good that people ask for the recipe? To be able to have BIRTHDAY CAKE or PIZZA or even GRAHAM CRACKERS (loved those)?

I owe a lot to your blog. It helps inspire me. It makes me want to cook, laugh, live life and spend time with my family. Don’t listen to lies.
We love you.

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Amanda August 31, 2011 at 1:33 am

Beautifully written, as always, and better than that it was honest. You wouldn’t be human if the cruelty (and, more accurately, the jealously manifesting itself as cruelty) didn’t get to you sometimes…but honestly, be complimented. Your life is so full that people despise themselves for not living as you do and direct their anger your way. What a magnificent testament to you and your family.

I firmly believe that no one who does good in this world goes without punishment, it’s some sort of sick way of keeping us all humble. Just like air, you rise.

Keep doing what you’re doing, the voices of those who adore you might not be as shrill or as piercing as those don’t but man oh man–ours are stronger.

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Kathryn August 31, 2011 at 2:06 am

For every one person that sends you a nasty email, there are thousands out there who you have helped and who you bring joy too.

As for the picture of Lu, it made me smile because my knee looks exactly like hers at the moment!

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Kris September 2, 2011 at 2:49 pm

I’ll second that. Thank you for bringing wonderful food to my celiac daughter’s world and writing so beautifully about how good life is so I can tackle the challenges of feeding her with joy and excitement. It can be hard to remember the silent majority, but thank you for continuing to make this world better despite the resistance.

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locke August 31, 2011 at 2:07 am

Eh, I went searching for those websites out of curiousity, and now I have lost all hope for mankind. Seriously, Shauna, why would you care what *these people* think? They are obviously the most pathetic human beings on earth, what with their sterile, silent, sad homes and so-called fit, healthy and lonely lifestyles. They are *the opposite* of what you are, and what you like, and what you care about. And I would presume, of your readers. Why would you ignore so many people who like you, your writing, your way of life and listen to this sorry lot?

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Eimear August 31, 2011 at 2:37 am

Shauna, if iIcould I would give you the biggest, warmest hug right now. I’m so sorry that you have to deal with this, and I think that you’re absolutely right in deciding that compassion is the only way to respond that won’t eat you up inside. Bravo I say! Do I always agree with what I read in blogs? No, of course not. Do I even always agree with what I read in your blog? No, of course not. We’re all individuals. But the internet is a vast and limitless place. If you don’t like it, if it doesn’t suit you, if whatever has been posted doesn’t resonate with you on the particular day and at the particular time that you are reading it, then, for god’s sake, move on. Find something that does! Sending you a deep sense of love and acceptance, and a round of applause for speaking your truth as you see it. Love. Eimear

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Amy August 31, 2011 at 2:50 am

I love your blog and hearing about your adventures as a family and I am so glad that you are not going to let the trolls get you down, you go girl!

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Kate Lam Sam August 31, 2011 at 3:19 am

Shauna, thank you for sharing your life with us. I had no idea about the horrible comments that you are getting, and reading about it made me feel physically sick inside. But I am super duper glad you told us! And I agree with Kathryn about the thousands of wonderful people you have helped verses the small minded people who obviously need the help of a brain doctor.

I wish I had the talent you do to explain the way you feel, but the best I can do is say that when I read your blog, I always come away feeling Calm and Strong. I know that might sound strange, but whenever I see that you’ve written something, I go straight to your page (well, as soon as I can – busy mum and all) and take in all of the beautiful words you write, the words that describe summer, taste, scents, emotions and everything in between.

You are truly an inspiration, and I’m glad that you decided to continue writing. You’ve brought joy and gladness to my life – not just the GF cooking side of it, and i feel privileged to be able to share in your life.

Hugs to You, Danny and beautiful Lu

Kate, Chris, Zac (3) and Zebe (14mths) :D

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Netty August 31, 2011 at 3:43 am

OH MY GOODNESS!!! What is WITH PEOPLE? I can see making negative comments…. people are stupid and judgmental and it’s easy to do…but creating a twitter feed to make fun of you? Writing a separate blog post every time? Doing all the other stuff that you speak of…. that takes real time and effort. Maybe if they directed that energy into something worthwhile they wouldn’t be so EVIL! Sorry girl! I don’t often comment….but know there are tons of other people who read and appreciate you and what you do.

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Katie August 31, 2011 at 3:55 am

Shauna,

Good for you. This post really inspired me to keep writing on my blog, but more importantly, to stop taking to heart every little comment that people may direct towards me. I have always been ultra sensitive- I stopped saying overly sensitive because I don’t believe there is anything wrong with being sensitive to others and the world around you. But I have a thin skin. You have definitely revealed a dirty side to the blogging world that I could not have imagined before. It’s hard to think about my favorite bloggers (who I feel a kinship towards, I mean, I wake up and read their work every. single. day. I tell my Husband stories you share, like any other friend of mine. It’s a strange relationship, but it fills out my life) having to deal with such hatred and horrible people. I’m really sorry. And to the trolls reading this comment, I’m sorry for you too.

Keep up the incredible work Shauna!

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Samantha Saltzman August 31, 2011 at 4:02 am

These people have nothing else to do but comment on you and what you are doing, dont ever! listen to them. Continue you life for you, and amoung all, make it the best life you can. Regardless, you cant and wont be able to change their opinion, but why would you want to, with a sweet lovely daughter and a man that loves you for who you are in every bit. Rise above them, erase everything they say and don’t even bother with them!
Samantha

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Wendy August 31, 2011 at 4:11 am

Trolls Be Damned!

I do believe your friend Brene is right, these people do not know what joy is and live to suck it out of those of us who do. Pay no attention to the trolls behind the stinging words, they are such sad, sorry, little people with too much time on their hands.

Now back to the real world….skinned kness and strawberries, what a lovely combo to come home to! And brown rice salad is always a good thing! Blessings to you and the Chef and little Lu! Remember that joy is portable….take it with you!

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Rayanna August 31, 2011 at 4:15 am

Just a quick note to say that you and your recipes and your stories and zest for life are all appreciated! I came to look for a biscuit recipe…. and found your post and decided that the proper response isn’t simply to not say mean things, but to say kind and honoring things (rather than just think them). So, thank you, for sharing your life and experiences and food with all of us- we benefit a lot!

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DW August 31, 2011 at 4:38 am

I never comment, but was shocked into it today! Please don’t stop blogging. When I changed my diet to gluten-free, I was thrilled to find you & I continue to be thrilled by your website. Clearly these nasty people are missing the mark as they ignore wonderful recipes and good writing to invent mean & hurtful things. For what it is worth, I think your family looks happy & healthy & it is too bad you don’t live in my town.

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Julie August 31, 2011 at 4:47 am

I can’t believe there are whole websites and twitter feeds out there just to mock people. I guess I shouldn’t be surprised I’ve just never seen one that’s awful. I think the drive to perfection is unhealthy and you get a lot more peace out of life if you can try to accept yourself and others with all of their flaws.

I did want to make one comment though about something in your post about people who are slightly over weight living longer. There are also studies that show people who practice calorie restriction and are under weight also live longer because they will have fewer free radicals and less damage to their mitochondria. We really don’t know yet what is best in this regard but I think your philosophy is very close to mine. Just eat real food and move some and you will be fine.

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Sirena August 31, 2011 at 4:52 am

It makes me so sad for you, Shauna. I don’t think I could handle reading such hateful, ugly comments, and I see them all the time, everywhere. There’s no way for me to wrap my brain around something like that – and I’m glad it hasn’t stopped you and Danny from sharing your lives with your readers. I love seeing your joy and reveling in the beautiful moments you share!!!

I guess some people not having a great life, or feeling so good about themselves, need a punching bag- the cool, white, anonymous expanse of the internet is a great place to leave a deposit of rage and then move anonymously on. SO cowardly.

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Robin August 31, 2011 at 4:53 am

Shauna, thank you.

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Julie August 31, 2011 at 4:56 am

Its amazing that people could put so much effort into hurting you when you are so warm-hearted. I started reading your blog in 2007, my first blog, the beginning of reading blogs and cooking gluten free, for me. I have been reading you regularly for four years and know you so well but don’t comment or write anything. I noticed when you stopped writing so candidly, I stopped reading your blog so regularly. I’m glad you’re back.

For all the freaks who attack you, at least know that there are probably three times as many readers who care about you and treasure your thoughtful and generous writing, but never comment!

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Colleen August 31, 2011 at 5:01 am

I shouldn’t be, but I’m shocked that people would spend the time and energy to follow someone’s writing just to criticize and cruelly mock. You have outlined one of my main worries about the society that my 13 and 8-year-old boys are maturing in to, one where people feel emboldened by anonymity and distance to say things publicly and in social media that they would never say should they be sitting across from someone. (Not that it should be said or thought at all.)

I feel horribly old-fashioned, but whatever happened to minding your own business, taking what you want from a source and leaving the rest behind, and not saying anything if you don’t have anything nice to say.

I’m so sorry that you and your family has had to endure such mean-spirited correspondence. Kudos for being brave and putting it out there on your blog, and for not letting them stop you.

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Madeleine August 31, 2011 at 5:20 am

Shauna,

For every troll, there are hundreds, no thousands of us who silently love you, Danny and Lu. Your words have helped me rediscover the joys of baking after being diagnosed with celiac. If I am having a bad day, I know I can find a post about your adventures with Lu or Danny or mice you discovered living under your oven and then I smile again. So ignore those trolls. They are unhappy, bored, envious people and I hope they learn how to change the channel and enjoy life again.

So keep sharing your soul with us and we so enjoy the efforts of all your experimentation in the kitchen!!! Looking forward to your next cookbook!

From a loving, admiring follower,
Madeleine

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Joan August 31, 2011 at 5:22 am

i stumbled upon you through a story about your friend Jen. and i am hooked. lots of gluten free people in my extended family. but i love your writing. i dont understand why people feel the need to attack other people they dont even know just because they may disagree. i would love to write a blog but i dont because of that. i dont think i could handle the negative comments. i bet your fans completely outnumber the detractors so keep the blog going

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aubree August 31, 2011 at 5:24 am

let me add my voice to the many who say that I *like* what you do, I appreciate the time and effort you put into your blog and your recipes, and I love reading about your family and the journey you have taken to get you to living a fuller, more joyful life. I feel the love that goes into everything you do, even through the computer. It’s the love that will always win out in the end.

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Davi Heintz August 31, 2011 at 5:24 am

I never post comments, but here is one. You saved my life! Really! Three years ago when I found out I had to go gluten free, my doctor told me to ease into it, do some research. I googled “gluten free” and up came your site. I never looked back. I have been a devoted reader ever since, and going gluten free was easy. I love your site and your pictures and just want to encourage you to continue being yourself and loving yourself. You, like the rest of us, are human and everyday is a mix of joy and consternation. We all struggle with our body images and finally at 62 I have come to accept myself. It has taken a lifetime! You are doing just fine. Delete all those nasty toxic people and their comments. They have no life. You and your family have a beautiful life. No life is a fairy tale but thats ok, thats life. I love your writing – keep it up. You are a true pioneer ! Thank you for being who you are and being brave enough to talk about the realities of life.
Davi

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deb g August 31, 2011 at 5:33 am

Thank you for posting this, thank you for sharing all you do. I do see love and joy when I come to your blog. We need as much of that as we can get in this world because there are a lot of trolls…

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Tracee Dawn August 31, 2011 at 5:33 am

Shauna~ This echoes all the other comments I’ve read, but you are amazing, and I am so glad that you did not let the trolls win. Reading your words, as I have everyday for years, has taught me so much. You’re right, these peoples lives must be so sad, and so small, that they have nothing better to do. You are an inspiring, funny, honest, beautiful, happy person, and it is plainly obvious. Even your struggles and hardships reach out to us, and touch us, because every single one of us goes through their own hell. How they come out of it is up to them. You don’t have to share a damn thing with anyone, but you do, and my world, at least, is better for it. As you and many women around me have, I struggled with looking the way we”should”. After today, those 20 pounds? They can stay as long as they want. They don’t define me, nor will they make me better if they are gone. So please, keep writing. Keep sharing your life, family, good and bad times with us. These things make my world a better place, me a better person.

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Rae August 31, 2011 at 5:36 am

I know that after reading the comments (the ones you have posted), that you can remind yourself that you are loved, you are courageous, you are a pioneer and a very special person. Like everyone else posting, I was shocked and so sad for you, Danny and Lu.. Keep going Shauna. Your blog is even more precious to me now given what I have read this morning. Your work is important to SO many people.

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Margaret August 31, 2011 at 5:36 am

Shauna-
Your blog and your family are wonderful. It is the first website I check each morning when I turn on my computer. I wonder what new cooking inspiration I will get from you today.
My daughter was diagnosed with Celiac one year ago. She was in tears over the prospect of giving up so many baked goods. I was overwhelmed with the idea of trying to accommodate her needs. Your blogs, with its simple descriptions and encouragement to experiment, gave me the courage (and the recipes) to try baking for her. I now own a scale and have a repertoire of items she likes to bake. For her sleep-away camp this summer, I sent many frozen baked goods which were devoured by all five of the Celiac kids (at a regular camp) as well as “homemade pancake mix” which was preferred to the commercial mixes the kids were used to. The camp cook asked for “my” recipes. My frig is full with 15 kinds of flour. I would never be comfortable with all of this if not for reading your blog.
Ignore the trolls, life is too short to pay attention to them. Keep doing what you are doing

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Rachel August 31, 2011 at 5:46 am

This just shows you what today’s society has come to. People watch reality shows and celebrity shows and they get all into the criticism and forget that we are all real people with real feelings and words hurt. I think that the advances in GF these days have also attracted the attention of fad dieters and people obsessed with the way they look… that kind of obsession just breeds all kinds of negativity. Whatever breeds the ugliness in their heart, It’s from a place of being all about them self. I have lovely friends who post all kinds of things on their blog… from dirty kids rolling in the mud to downing a whole box of girl scout cookies (granted these are my stay at home and skinny friends) and I love them for it. Life is real and people are real and it’s a beautiful thing. If life wasn’t a little messy it wouldn’t be worth living : )

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Mia August 31, 2011 at 5:47 am

I read your blog, every post. You have a beautiful life and family. Unhappy people will be jealous, but I am so sad and shocked by the vitriol. I appreciate what you do by sharing your joy with us all! I’m keeping this short because it’s written on my phone, but I hope you don’t stop writing anytime soon!!!!

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Anna August 31, 2011 at 5:51 am

Shauna you know your own worth and you know how good your life is. Stick it to the sad hating trolls and just continue your life as you want to live it. Those pathetic trolls will always be with us, in person and in print, sadly. Ignore them, starve their words of the light of day and MAYBE some of them will go away.
But do know there are more sweet supportive people than there are haters in life. I hope you continue your blog for decades to come.

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Robin August 31, 2011 at 6:00 am

What an awesome post. Be strong! Shame is such a powerful emotion.

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Stephanie August 31, 2011 at 6:14 am

Thanks so much for sharing your reality.

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Silvia @ orono west August 31, 2011 at 6:15 am

Good for you, Shauna! I cannot even imagine how I would handle it if I had to deal with this kind of hatred.

I’ve only learnt that the way people treat others is also the way they treat themselves. If they hate you, they also hate themselves. If they are mean to you they also use that mean voice on themselves. So, the haters are in their own hell, if that is some sort of comfort.

Just be safe.

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Ashley August 31, 2011 at 6:18 am

Shauna, there needs to be more people in the world like you. You give us who are gluten free hope that we can have the life that we dream for ourselves! I would have never imagined that you of all people would have haters. Please do not change the way that you write, it is beautiful. I am grateful for everyday when I can read a new post and a new recipe by you! Keep on trucking, and know that there are hundreds of thousands of us who are amazed that you can come up with gluten-free pasta that is as good as the original!!!

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lucy August 31, 2011 at 6:21 am

I want to jump on the bandwagon- beautiful blog, beautiful babe, beautiful life…. Imagine the loneliness of being so negative.

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Laura August 31, 2011 at 6:31 am

Thank you for having the courage to post this. There are many sad, sick people in this world, but I hope that you can find strength in the comments from your supporters here.

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Amy P August 31, 2011 at 6:33 am

Bravo to you for putting all of this out there. I am continually inspired by the way that you cook and live your life, so know that there are many more of us out there who feel that way than the other. Keep writing, eating, dancing, living, and cooking!!!

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Teresa August 31, 2011 at 6:35 am

Shauna, I had no idea that this kind of thing goes on. I am so sad that you have to deal with this kind of hatred. Sending lots of love to you and your family from Canada.

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Katy August 31, 2011 at 6:37 am

Thank you. For your honesty, for your joy. I am so sorry for the pain that it has caused you, but I thank you for having the confidence to continue sharing your life with us. It brings me a rare sort of hope and delight, encouraging me to embrace the gluten-free life in a way that the recipes (however delicious) couldn’t do alone.
Also: That picture of Lucy? The skinned knee was the first thing I noticed, and it made me smile. It reminded me of carefree summer days, full of discovery and activity and the occasional bump or bruise that couldn’t mar the joy of a picnic. I think it’s just perfect.

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Joy Sacalis August 31, 2011 at 6:38 am

Shauna, thank you for posting this. It takes courage to put this out there for us to read and I’m glad you did. It is better for us to know this and for you to tell it honestly. My heart hurts to know the ugly side of this world and the pain that it causes. I often turn it around in my head and heart and think of the amount of pain a person must be suffering in order to be so cruel. They not only hurt others but most of all themselves. My motto has been ” Be kind for everyone is fighting a great battle.” And I think of all of the beautiful peoples who light up the world with love and joy which is way more powerful than hate.
Keep on writing, sharing family stories, and cooking sumptuous food, please. And may you heal knowing that we are your big family, those of us who love you for who you are , as you are. I have always loved your blog and your books. Your stories have inspired and helped me gain self esteem and your recipes light up my taste buds. Keep saying YES! to life…we support you and love you.

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Chrstina H. August 31, 2011 at 6:39 am

I only wanted to say that I’ve been reading your blog for a few years now and there is, without a doubt, soooo much obvious love in your sweet little family. I don’t need to meet you or your family to understand the way that you look at one another. Simply beautiful.

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Michelle August 31, 2011 at 6:40 am

I had no idea. No idea. I keep a blog and it is nice and small, a personal space that I feel very comfortable in. I have had only positive comments and from the bottom of my heart I wish this was true for everyone. This is a positive community that we choose to be part of. Seriously folks, Get a life, a happy life. Thanks for sharing, time to get that shit out of your strong and powerful way!

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Chrstina H. August 31, 2011 at 6:46 am

…and about the grits. I live in Illinois now but was born and raised on the gulf coast of Mississippi and Louisiana. For the first twenty something years of my life I ate deep fried everything and it was GOOD! DAMN GOOD! However, I have two kids now and the way we eat is not far off from the way your family eats but when I drive 11 hours south the first thing I want is fried chicken and the shrimp po-boy isn’t too far behind. Life is short. Have cheese grits.

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Elisabeth August 31, 2011 at 6:49 am

I love pictures of children with bare/dirty feet and skinned knees. It means they’re living their lives and having fun and being carefree. It’s the way childhood is meant to be experienced.

I decided a while ago that I could live my life worrying and wishing I was taller, thinner, prettier, better…or I could just be happy and love and live my life. I’m glad you’ve found your happy space.

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Carrie Anne August 31, 2011 at 6:49 am

I am new to your blog & I think you are awesome. You are very inspiring…thanks for what you give to the rest of us!

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GM August 31, 2011 at 6:51 am

Hi Shauna,

This site is such a wonderful resource for those of us who must live gluten free. Thank you for all the information and please do not stop. You channel forth such positive energy that is enough to lift any spirit. Forget the bitterness that is out there and focus on what makes you and countless others happy.

I have some questions regarding gluten free flours (I am very new to this, 4th week gluten free and I am ready to tackle baking):
1. Where can I find buckwheat flour? Bob’s red mill has it but not labelled gluten free.
2. What is the difference between sorghum and sweet white sorghum? I was only able to find sweet white sorghum. Can this be used in it’s place? If not what is a good sub for sorghum?
3. How crucial is sweet rice flour to gluten-free baking? Is there anything it can be subbed with? Again this is something I am having trouble finding.

Thanks!

GM

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Amanda August 31, 2011 at 8:14 am

GM–

Welcome to the GF community! I had a lot of trouble finding speciality flours as well when I first started baking, I don’t know what stores you have near you but Giant Eagle and Whole Foods will both usually order things in for you–and when I haven’t been able to do that I’ve ordered flours off amazon.com and they’ve been just as good! Good luck!

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Laura August 31, 2011 at 8:35 am

Hi GM!

I second what Amanda said: Whole Foods & larger chain supermarkets. Also, Bob’s Red Mill will ship to you! EVERYTHING is online. I live in Chicago and often cannot find sweet rice flour in stores so I order from Bob’s directly or Amazon (shockingly, you can buy food products from Amazon. Though I cringe at not buying from local retailers, it does have everything you need!).

For buckwheat flour, you could make your own with buckwheat groats and a mighty blender if you can’t find it GF.

Also, if you search around Shauna’s posts, you’ll see a piece on substituting flours. It even includes a link to flours by volume and weight. Substituting flours is easy and fun once you get the hang of baking by weight (really, it’s SO worth the $25 investment in a scale).

Good luck & have fun!
Laura

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merrie August 31, 2011 at 12:59 pm

I too grind my own buckwheat flour. But I just use my coffee grinder and then swirl it through a sieve to separate out the few remaining gritty bits. I use unroasted buckwheat groats, not kasha, which has been roasted. The flavour of the plain groats is soft and blends well with other flours, whereas the pre-made buckwheat flour made from kasha is, to me, harsh and discolors everything. Good baking!

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i-geek August 31, 2011 at 9:03 am

1. I’ve found GF buckwheat flour at Whole Foods, sold by Arrowhead Mills.
2. All the sorghum flour I’ve bought has been labeled “sweet white”. I’m guessing there are other strains of sorghum but maybe those aren’t processed into flour as often? I’ve had good luck with the GF sorghum flour from Bob’s Red Mill.
3. Nuts Online usually sells bulk GF sweet rice flour, although when I went to place an order yesterday, they were out of stock. I think you could sub in potato starch or other starchy flours, but I really like the sweet rice flour for texture in baked goods. I’ve heard that Asian grocery stores might sell it as well, although I’ve never checked.

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Mary August 31, 2011 at 8:07 pm

GM-
Trust me, it will get better!!! Shauna has some great links in her history and on the right side of the main page, where it says new to gluten free.
Tips from me you are welcome to take or ignore:
1. Get a kitchen scale
2. blend mixes of flours (2 blends from this site are great) and don’t worry about trying the “gluten free all purpose” ones you buy for $18 a pound
3. Bean flours are yucky and coconut flour has a strong flavor
4. Build new, don’t just try to replace the old!
5. Keep a GF snack in your glove box for emergencies.
xoxo

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GM September 1, 2011 at 2:45 am

Thank you everyone for all the advice! Amazon.com does not ship food to Canada but I will have to try through Bob’s.

GM

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Jill September 1, 2011 at 11:08 am

I use the BRM flours not labeled gf…and after 8 years, got retested and was very negative. So *I’m* comfortable with them for Celiac me and my family. I don’t usually get their products though, as I need a big quantity (we don’t eat out, and make everything from scratch) and we’re on a budget. I get my grains/flours through a local food buying group…UNFI and Azure Standard, which each serve different parts of the U.S., but certainly Canada has some too. A food buying group often splits up large quantities of grain (but I often get the entire, say, 25 lb bag of rice because we go through it fast enough). I grind many of the grains myself with a Blendtec, which is sometimes cheaper, and always tastier and more nutritious. (I make a lot of nut butters and such, which will pay for the blender in money saved by buying bulk nuts and seeds). I also don’t use all of the flours in recipes–sweet rice, for example. I have about 2 starches and 6 grains I use for flours, substituting them into recipes as needed (Shauna’s ratio concept of starch/grain in her latest baking recipes is a blessing for substituting!)

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Jeanne in Massachusetts September 2, 2011 at 11:43 am

See if there are any asian stores near you. That’s where I found the sweet rice flour. Whole Foods didn’t have it and I wasn’t about to pay as much as the cost of the flour just to ship it! Good Luck!

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Elena August 31, 2011 at 6:53 am

There is no a way to persecute those who attack your child?

You are fantastic!
Greetings from Spain,
Elena

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Christine August 31, 2011 at 6:59 am

Shauna I am sorry that people in this world have that much vitriol. I am sorry that you have been the subject of their attacks, but I am so so happy you share your thoughts and life with the world. I had a blog that had all of ten readers, so I have never been the subject of anyone’s hatred (from there anyway), but man, what sad lives those people must lead. So what if you’re not a size 4? So what if you don’t look the way society deems acceptable. What is sad is that SO many people have bought into this BS. That you need to be thin in order to be healthy, that they have any right to police my health at all. I’m a size fourteen. I used to starve myself (four oreos and an apple some days! after working out for four hours) And you know what? I weighed 10 lbs less than what I do now. And was much less healthy. Whose business is it what I weigh? or what I look like? I am not society’s property? My value doesn’t lie in the size of rear, the shape of my belly.

I recently got into Fat Acceptance, and even though I identify as a “smaller fat” it has changed my life. You only get one body and one life (as far as I know or can remember). I’m going to spend it trying to be happy.

And for those people who spent one minute discussing the size and shape of Lucy, at 10 months, at three, whatever. If you send me at ‘em I might rip up limb from limb. I’m all for live and let live, but once you go about hurting someone else, a child? Well, that might be the only time you might find me condoning violence. Sometimes, the human race is a sad one indeed.

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christine August 31, 2011 at 8:01 am

PS- I’m not really condoning violence, but something in my head does go all “mama bear” when someone tries to hurt a child. What is wrong with people?

xoxo

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Mel August 31, 2011 at 7:04 am

Hi Shauna,
I’ve never commented on your blog or even cooked any of your food. But I love reading your stories. I’ve been reading your blog for years now, and after reading your post today I thought it was finally time to reach out and tell you how much I adore coming here every couple of days and reading about your life, love and of course food.
Stay strong, you’re very inspirational.
Mel

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Ina Gawne August 31, 2011 at 7:10 am

Love and Hugs to you Shauna! I can not believe how mean spirited some people can be! They truly have sad unhappy lives, and honestly….they are just plain “sick”! I love your blog, your recipes, your writing, your stories. Thank you for continuing to share, and holding your head high with dignity despite those nasty naysayers! Shame on them!

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The Other Laura August 31, 2011 at 7:16 am

I hardly ever comment here but I always enjoy your heartfelt writing and beautiful photos. I love that you LOVE your life, your daughter, your husband so unabashedly.

I am sorry that you have to endure such hatefulness in your comments. It is just wrong and it makes me so sad.

So, for the record, here is one voice of loving, enthusiastic support for you and your family. I find your joy contagious and I’m grateful.

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Adrienne August 31, 2011 at 7:18 am

I knew you must get some wacko comments here & there, but never did I imagine you would be told such awful, hateful things. WTF?! It just wouldn’t occur to me to say nasty things like that to anyone – I’m really shocked. (The things about Lu particularly irked me. I have a toddler. That shit’s just not acceptable – not remotely. And BTW, you already know this of course, but she’s beautiful. Full stop.) Those people really do have sad, sad lives… to spend your time openly talking crap about someone else… wow. How unhappy must they be with themselves? The fact that you’re truly *content* is a blessing. An enormous one. You could be a size half and on the cover of every magazine, but if you weren’t content with yourself and comfortable in your own skin, none of it would matter. Your happiness is a gift. Keep sharing it.

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Theresa August 31, 2011 at 7:19 am

First time on your site Shauna. And you are beautiful and so is your family and the food you create– and the photos of them. Please dont let people who have nothing to do all day but critique your creativity and your passion because they dont have one of their own get too much in your way. yes its hard to ignore. But the good people in this world extraordinarly outweight the bad. Keep up your amazing work, gorgeous!

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Deirdre August 31, 2011 at 7:22 am

I comment so rarely on blogs because I always think that I have no right to tell someone else how to live her life. I read your blog frequently even though I revel in eating wheat and am a vegetarian. Yet I have a lot to learn from you, as we all have a lot to learn from each other. I am saddened but not surprised that the internet has become such a hateful place, and good for you for calling out these hateful people. In the town where I live (not much longer, thankfully), a small local website is a source of news for many people. My husband, who worked in local government, was mocked by name on this site by people too cowardly to sign their names or contact him personally to discuss their issues with his work. Even after he was fired, thanks in part to this culture of nastiness, he is still the subject of derision. When I wrote to the site’s owner about it, he said lamely that people need to feel free to comment and so do not have to use their names. My husband described these comments as “drive-by shootings” that leave wreckage in their wake (in this case his job and our life). Well, good for you for fighting back when these people tried to shoot into your home.
On another note, thanks for organizing the fundraiser for Jennifer Perillo. I am not a food blogger, nor any kind of blogger, but I read all of your sites, use your recipes, and was moved by her story. I bid on and won a beautiful hand-knit blanket by Janis. I even joked with her in an email about her site being full of meat pictures and my being a vegetarian, and we laughed about it. It’s not that hard to be nice to people and respect our differences, or just to stay silent if we cannot.

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Jay August 31, 2011 at 7:24 am

Shauna,
I was diagnosed with celiac disease a little over 3 years ago. Your book was the first thing I read to help me along my path of healing. While I’ve read numerous other books about celiac disease yours is the one site I still read on a regular basis. I love the way you write and I share your love of food. Reading your posts brings a little joy and happiness into my life.
I’ve never responded to any post before, but felt it was necessary to respond to this one. I am sure there are hundreds or thousands of people like myself who read your blog on a regular basis but never respond.
Just wanted to send a little love and appreciation your way so you know what you do is important to many of us. I am sure you won’t let the trolls get you down. Keep on blogging Shauna!!!!

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Jodi August 31, 2011 at 7:31 am

Hi Shauna – I have not written in a long time. I read often, and some times I need to stop because of the wonderful writings cause me to cry at work – can’t have that!
Anyway, my first thought when I saw Lucy’s scuffed knee was – my goodness she’s a healthy little girl. What a blessing she must be to you and Danny.
Most of us don’t know what others are saying behind our back, and we can go through life thinking that all is well and we think people love us. You are given no such blissful ignorance. For you and Danny and possibly one day Lucy, the nasty world is in your face. How you handle it is completely up to you. I tend to close my eyes tight and ignore the stuff that I know is bad – it’s kind of like pornography – don’t look at it and it won’t burn a hole in your brain. I know you aren’t asking for advice – I don’t have any to give. The world is an ugly place and really always has been.
As always, thank you for sharing your life with us. You are appreciated -

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Liesl August 31, 2011 at 7:37 am

Thank you so very much for all that you do and say and write. It means a great deal to me and brightens my day and brings me wonderful food to make and eat. I may spend a lot of time on the internet, and some of it may be because I’m lonely sometimes, but I so appreciate the joy and community my favorite bloggers bring me. You are truly a blessing.

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nina August 31, 2011 at 7:44 am

THANK YOU for writing this! I think this really is a commentary about more than just the internet trolls. I see this kind of thing in everyday life. Unexpectantly, this post shed some new light on a bad situation that I’m dealing with right now. Thanks for writing it!

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vanessa August 31, 2011 at 7:44 am

Shauna, I would like to share with you a quote from Dr. Seuss (yes, really!):

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because the people who mind don’t matter, and the people who matter don’t mind.”

You and your family are a gift to this world; your happiness and ability to find joy in any situation is contagious and utterly heartening. Keep sharing your wisdom and stories and delicious food, because for every wacko that comments negatively about you, there are a thousand who are inspired.

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Pétra (Creative Mom) August 31, 2011 at 2:25 pm

I love this quote from Vanessa!! It’s so simple and so true like your blog Shauna!!

Like everyone else I am shocked to hear the extent of bitterness and hate you have had to deal with and I think like you I would have to be truthful and share it with readers. The times I have held back things on my blog it hasn’t felt right. Thank you for sharing your life with us you truly inspire!!

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Kimsue August 31, 2011 at 8:00 am

Amen, sister!

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Rhonda August 31, 2011 at 8:01 am

Shauna~ I don’t even suffer from Celiac but I absolutely love, love, love reading your blog. I love the pic of Lu with the strawberries and scraped knee….it is beautiful. I love that you are willing to share your life with all of us. Thank you so much! I am saddened by the negativity that people choose to spread in the world. For shame! They must truly be miserable souls. I would be devastated if you ended your blog because of some thoughtless cyber-bullies. You and your family are amazing!!!!!! Love from Alaska!

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Ruth August 31, 2011 at 8:03 am

Oh Shauna!
What a brave post! And how crazy has our world become that through the anonymity of online venues people can vent their anger, their frustrations, and their pettiness without thinking of the consequences, and with no shame.

When I read your essays or am offered a peek into your life with Danny and Lu the one reoccurring thought that I have is how much I would like to meet you and have you in my small circle of friends. The gift that you offer all your readers is the deep joy you experience in simple pleasures: the taste of a just-picked tomato, snuggling with your daughter, dancing with Danny around the kitchen. I can’t imagine how anyone could resent this; I’d rather think that people are inspired instead to look to their own lives and find the joy there.

Perhaps your post today is a good wake up call to all your other readers, those of us who quietly enjoy your work, to be more vocal in sharing with you all that we appreciate about what you do, how you live with such integrity, and how honesty and compassion are truly the best responses to ugly and irrational encounters.

I wish you and your family well. Thank you for sharing your life with me.

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C August 31, 2011 at 8:19 am

The trolls will never read it to the end…the rest of know that kids are sometimes dirty, and often have skinned knees – if they are having fun, that is. Remember coming home at the end of a long summer day, stained green from rolling in the grass? I do. I ran into a lady at the grocery store who told me it was her first week at work. She has twin three year olds and told me she was thrilled to be working. “That probably makes me sound like a terrible mother.” “No it doesn’t,” I told her. It makes you sound honest, and tired, and hard working…and how I generally feel on the (too many) mornings that I make the early trek out, much as you describe, kissing sleeping heads on the way…and hoping that they understand that I’ll be home soon because, as my daughter says, “Momma has to talk to some peoples.” Your life is just that – it is your life, and it is what you make it. Do what you do…its all good.

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magpie August 31, 2011 at 8:21 am

i’ve never commented and i rarely read your blog (not because it’s not great, but because there’s too much to read!) but man, this post got me. the internet is a crazy scary place sometimes, but most of the time it isn’t. i’m glad you’re embracing that side, and i hope the trolls go out and dance in the sunshine.

cheers, and lots of luck.

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Y August 31, 2011 at 8:21 am

I read your blog all the time but never get round to commenting. Shocked to hear about the vicious comments you receive. So sorry to hear that there are such mean spirited people out there. Rest assured there are plenty more of us out there who actually love what you do and love you for being you!

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Allison August 31, 2011 at 8:21 am

Amen, Shauna. Amen!

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Nicole August 31, 2011 at 8:23 am

So sad and so cruel – and those people have so much hate: toward THEMSELVES. Thank you for your courage, and for sharing your story. You give me courage too.

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Meagan August 31, 2011 at 8:24 am

Shauna – your passion and dedication to your family, friends and good food is beyond inspiring. You have made me smile, laugh and cry – your Gilt Taste piece about how you met Danny is one of the best love stories I have ever read and your heartfelt outreach for Jennie was so honest and pure and literally brought me to tears. Thank you for being honest, and thank you for sharing your life with us!

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Jennie (the gf-gf) August 31, 2011 at 8:25 am

If I had to venture a guess, I’d guess that the number of people you’ve helped far outnumber the trolls, and because I am among them (the people you’ve helped, that is) I’m glad you’ve continued to blog despite the haters. Thank you for sharing.

PS – Life does seem pretty idyll on your effing island – people are bound to be jealous!

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shauna August 31, 2011 at 9:42 am

We’re just lucky that Vashon is home. I think anyone feels that way about home. It doesn’t matter where it is.

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Jennie (the gf-gf) August 31, 2011 at 2:19 pm

Whoops, I meant idyllic! My fingers were going a little faster than my brain.

I wanted to add, too, that for those of us who grew up on gluten, unaware that it was damaging our bodies, sausage is health food!

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Liz @ Southern Charm August 31, 2011 at 8:26 am

What a touching post. Thank you so much for sharing it with us!

Glad you had such a great time in my home town! Isn’t the food amazing?! It gets me every time :)

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Megan August 31, 2011 at 8:29 am

Ah! People are the worst! Just know that there is love here for you! You are a lovely lady!

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shauna August 31, 2011 at 9:41 am

Thank you. But I think people are mostly really wonderful. Even the trolls — somewhere they were treated terribly or else they wouldn’t do this.

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Susan M Burke September 9, 2011 at 7:59 pm

You just hit the nail on the head Shauna! It all has to do with the voices in their heads, their self- talk must be pretty nasty for them to lash out continually at you and others who live openly, joyfully and post about it on their blogs!

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Lea August 31, 2011 at 8:30 am

Shauna. I’m so glad you haven’t stopped. One line, either in your book or on the blog – I forget which, has totally changed my life. I’ve been gluten free for almost 2 years and constantly looking to find foods that are “the same”, never once noticing that I now have foods that are better. I might have missed that if it weren’t for you. Yes, there are mean people out there, but there are also millions of very kind ones. For what its worth, you are an inspiration to me. Keep up the good work.

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Megan August 31, 2011 at 8:30 am

Wow. I have to say reading this actually made me feel … scared. I have been fortunate enough to not be popular enough to receive such horrific comments and attacks. I am thankful you shared your experiences and your brave attitude towards those trolls. I can’t say that I’d be so strong. Sharing a part of your personal life, your family, your lifestyle is what makes you and your blog entertaining to read and revisit. The back-story behind a recipe, the way you enjoy what you made, all of that is what makes for interesting and captivating reading. In fact, your openness is what inspired me to make the switch from an anonymous recipe poster to a story teller on my own blog. So, thank you Shauna – and thank Danny & Lu for being part of those stories too. :)

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Chef Gwen August 31, 2011 at 8:31 am

Brilliant post… all that really matters is that you stay true to yourself, love yourself and to hell with the haters. You have a beautiful daughter, a loving, kind, generous husband and you have made a difference for thousands of people who suffer from gluten intolerance.

Thanks for sharing your personal stories… all of them.

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wine out loud August 31, 2011 at 8:31 am

Wow. Thanks for sharing that. I had no idea. This is good to know for those of us who are newbies in the blogging world. I think you look great!

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Michelle August 31, 2011 at 8:32 am

Wow, this just broke my heart to hear of all the horrible comments you have received. Lately, I’ve seen those types of comments on online newspaper articles. I was mentioned in one recently after speaking up at a school board meeting. When I looked at the comments online, I couldn’t believe the things people were saying about me. It really opened my eyes to this world of people that apparently spend their days reading stuff online and writing every horrible, opinionated, mean thing they can think of. I’m so sorry that this happens to you on a daily basis. I would want to throw in the towel, if it was me. Kudos to you for keeping your head up and keeping on posting. Thank you for all of your great recipes.

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Patricia August 31, 2011 at 8:34 am

Thank you for your post. I am sorry you have to go through that. You and your family are beautiful. – inside and out.

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Amy August 31, 2011 at 8:35 am

Shauna, thank you for writing this eloquent and moving post. There is far too much hostility on the Internet, and far too much of it is personal, and directed against women (not sure if you’ve seen this post from IttyBiz on that issue, http://ittybiz.com/death-threats-online/), and it’s time for it to stop.

You’re absolutely right that we must live our lives in full defiance of the petty naysayers. We can also try to find compassion and/or invite them to find hobbies that would help them make better use of their time. But the threats–surely there is a way to go after those who actually threaten us and those we love? I say “us,” which is misleading–my blog’s readership is clearly too small to encompass the trolls, unless the spam filter has sucked them all up, which would be fine with me. But it is us, it’s all of us really, even those of us who haven’t been directly harped at or threatened, because it’s a hostility to life and love and the world of those who choose to move foward in joy rather than carp in bitterness.

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Sam Breach August 31, 2011 at 8:36 am

Shauna. I am disgusted to hear this. And glad to hear you have the strength to deal with it, although I wish you weren’t put in that position. I think it is time we stamped out anonymity on the web and I thank Google+ and Facebook for starting to make headway in that direction. We should all embrace that for the future.

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shauna August 31, 2011 at 9:38 am

Thanks, Sam. And I agree — I love that you can choose who you want to talk with on Google+. Maybe we’ll make more moves toward common sense!

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Janet August 31, 2011 at 8:37 am

I too will add my voice to the many who love you blog, appreciate everything that goes into creating your recipes and the wonderful stories that go with them, and admire your persistence and integrity. I have been gluten free for a year, and your blog and recipes have brought me great joy and hope that I don’t have to go without. Let the trolls be damned. Keep on keeping on Shauna and please don’t change a thing.

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Violet C August 31, 2011 at 8:39 am

This poisoning of the internet started early. People who fill their heads with trash ‘reality’ tv, then, minds dull and envious, look for targets. The adrenaline helps them feel alive. Anonymity online allows them to lash out aggressively. If they were in the same room with you? They wouldn’t have the confidence to raise their heads and meet your eyes. Very sad.

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Jenny August 31, 2011 at 8:40 am

Oh my God, I’m so sorry that people are so fucking miserable that they have to cause you and your family pain. I’m so sorry that you have to endure this. I honestly believe it isn’t that they hate you, they dislike what you write or what you look like – they are jealous – they are envious of your beautiful life – your beautiful family — I am crying reading this.

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Kelly August 31, 2011 at 8:49 am

Agreed. The nastiness has nothing to do with Shauna. It’s entirely a reflection of the miserable, nasty people saying them.

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Kristie August 31, 2011 at 8:40 am

I just want to say that you are fantastic! This brown rice salad looks AMAZING and I can’t wait to try it! Keep up your wonderful spirit! :)

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Cheryl Arkison August 31, 2011 at 8:40 am

Oh Lordy. That is insanely awful. And of course, the more famous you are the worse it is.

You are joyful and that should be celebrated, by all. And admired by those of us just trying to remember to live one day like that.

PS Cutting for Stone was incredible. I finished it this past weekend as well. Then had a lovely conversation with a little old lately buying it in the book store. No wonder I was craving injera!

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Ali August 31, 2011 at 8:40 am

While I can believe that people can be that mean and nasty, I’m constantly surprised that they take the time to post it somewhere. So very sad and pathetic.
And, while I’m here, I wanted to say thank you for taking the time to answer my email even when your auto-reply says that you don’t have time. I really appreciated it and am very touched. My kids will be getting the child-friendly knives for Christmas with you to thank.

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Cheryl Arkison August 31, 2011 at 8:42 am

Oh, and I work heavily in the quilting world and ugliness is horrible there too. And we’re surrounded by such beauty!

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shauna August 31, 2011 at 9:37 am

In the quilting world? That’s amazing. And thank you.

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Patty August 31, 2011 at 8:42 am

Hugs to you, Shauna. So sorry about the pain caused by such small minded trolls. Thank you for speaking up! There is way too much hate out there. Be strong and know that love is so much more powerful! Sending lots your way.

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Marcela August 31, 2011 at 8:42 am

My blog is not popular, so I don’t have online trolls, but I have had them in real life, plenty of times. It is hurtful, but at some point, just like you did, I just stopped caring.
It hurts me, though, when a friend I love, or a blogger I admire, shuts down her blog because of this. It happened last year and, for this reason, I took the kind hearted bloggers ‘pledge (you can see the link here: http://emjayandme.blogspot.com/2010/07/kind-hearted-blogger-campaign.html). If I don’t have anything positive or at least constructive to say, I prefer to just shut up and not contribute to the bad energy that goes around the blogosphere. I try to protect my children and not post pictures of them, though, but I must confess I adore to see pictures of lovely, happy children such as yours.
Love from and Argentinian living in Cyprus.

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katie August 31, 2011 at 8:42 am

I am so happy you wrote this post. I have experienced some of the things you have, but no where near the level you have. I can’t imagine. I know it’s hard to shut that stuff off in your mind. The delete button doesn’t always erase what we’ve read from our memories.
Like others have said, for every hater out there, you have many many more who love you, and everything you do. You have admirers! Your blog is a joy to read, your family is beautiful, and you are teaching many out there how to live and eat happily being GF.
For the life of me I can’t figure out why people do the hateful things they do. But, I’m happy that you have spoken out about it. I know it will help many people, including me, that you did :) Much love. xo -Katie

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Gina August 31, 2011 at 8:43 am

This brought tears to my eyes. I’m sorry people are hateful. Keep doing what you’re doing. You are awesome…and they….well they’re sorry, too-in a whole different way.

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Maris August 31, 2011 at 8:43 am

Thanks for sharing the “shadowy” side of blogging. I’ve gotten a few rude comments and usually I don’t post them. If it’s someone voicing a difference of opinion than mine it’s fine, but if it’s “You’re stupid and I hate you’re cooking” then I make the executive decision that won’t add value to the conversation on my blog.

However, I don’t think that people who diet, watch what they eat, abstain from sausage are necessarily “denying and starving ourselves to be something other than what we are.” It’s great that you are comfortable in your body but as you said, it took you 45 years. A lot of people aren’t there yet and others, well, others DO believe the hundreds of scientific studies and doctors that say that saturated fat can be bad for you. I don’t think it’s a black and white issue and while it works for you and that’s fantastic, I don’t agree that everyone should eat the same way.

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shauna August 31, 2011 at 9:36 am

Maris, I don’t at all think people should eat the same way. I hope that should be clear from everything I write. And I was a vegetarian for ten years. It’s more about tolerance, instead of people jumping at each other for the way they eat. As I wrote back in a post in January, “How about I eat what I eat and you eat what you eat?”

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i-geek August 31, 2011 at 9:44 am

“How about I eat what I eat and you eat what you eat?”

I don’t know why this concept is so difficult for people to grasp. I don’t know why people feel the need to intrude so often or so vociferously into other people’s personal decisions. What I eat/where I live/how many children I have/where I worship/who I voted for is none of anyone else’s business (well, except my husband’s since I do most of the cooking and most of the other stuff concerns him as well).

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Maris (In Good Taste) September 3, 2011 at 10:57 pm

i-geek, I don’t think the concept is difficult to grasp. I think that when people write (on the internet for the world to see) about what they eat and the way they think others should eat, it becomes topic for public discussion. If someone doesn’t want discourse about their diet and cooking, then why contribute to public forum?

Shauna, thanks for clarifying, though I’m not sure what you mean to imply by the fact that you were a vegetarian for 10 years? I know a lot of carnivores who are quite fit and similarly, vegetarians who are overweight or have otherwise unhealthy diets. I suppose a “healthy diet” means something different for everyone and as food bloggers, we are taking on a huge responsibility when we say something is healthy or otherwise. Lots of gray areas.

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shauna September 4, 2011 at 10:18 am

The only thing that I would quibble with here is …and the way they think others should eat.” After all these years, I don’t want to tell anyone else how to eat. We all have our own bodies and our own way of being. We’re just sharing our joy here.

Maris August 31, 2011 at 8:44 am

And yes, I did use the wrong you’re/your in that comment on purpose…trolls aren’t known for their grammar :)

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lulu August 31, 2011 at 8:45 am

Shauna,
I’ve read your blog for a long time, but this is the first time I’ve commented. I just wanted you to know that I really enjoy reading about your joyful life with your family – it makes me joyful, too. Don’t ever change! Cheers =)

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Kelly August 31, 2011 at 8:46 am

I don’t know if I’m naive, expect more from people or both, but I’m always shocked when I hear horrible things like this. I guess I shouldn’t be. I’ve seen enough comments around the web to know how anonymity can bring out the absolute worst. I just read a post the other day about a blogger receiving death threats. People were conspiring to kill her. Because of A BLOG. People are fucking NUTS. I about fell out of my chair. This is insanity.

I admire your strength and joy and genuine love of your family and friends that GLOWS from your posts, tweets and photos. You are a gem, Shauna. I hope you continue to shine your joy all over the damn internet.

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i-geek August 31, 2011 at 8:46 am

Brene Brown was exactly right. There are a lot of unhappy people, and many of them don’t realize that life is not a zero-sum game. They will not make themselves happier by tearing down someone who already is happy. They are cowards, usually (evidenced by the fact that most of them post anonymously), and wallow in hate-filled lives of their own making. They are not brave enough to see if they could also take their sufferings and turn them to joy, so they mock those who are so brave.

Your photo of Lu and strawberries made me smile. When I was her age, strawberries were my absolute favorite food, to the extent that I asked my parents if I could live off of them, and I certainly was never known for physical grace. I’m surprised that my parents don’t have an identical photo of me. And in fact, there is much about your blog that makes me smile. It was one of the first resources that I found after my celiac diagnosis. It gave me hope when I was scared and wondering if I would spend the rest of my life feeling ill and like a freak. I’ve lost count of how many new things I’ve tried after reading about them in your posts or your books. Thank you for sharing your life with us all.

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Victoria August 31, 2011 at 8:48 am

That salad is TOTALLY getting made to bring over to my parent in law’s this weekend (father in law just had back surgery yesterday).

And “How sad and small does the life of someone have to be to spend time online finding people to write shit about?” So true. I’ve been an active online person for… shit… 15 years, back to BBS and chats and early message boards. I’ve had a particularly disturbing stalker from Australia (dude? Halfway across the world, you never met me, and you fixate like that? And this was before “online stalking” was taken seriously by law enforcement). The problems of all the hate people can spew from behind a keyboard are not new, but they have kept in pace with the growth and use of the internet. The funny thing is that they haven’t yet figured out THEY can be Googled in return. How do you think that behavior reflects upon future personal and professional relationships, hmm?

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Janine August 31, 2011 at 8:49 am

Wow. Reading this makes me sad and angry for you. I stumbled upon your blog a few weeks ago and can’t for the life of me understand why someone would be compelled to go to such levels of cruelty. Making fun of your child is unconscionable. I have 2 small children of my own and can’t ever imagine what I would do if I read someone making fun of them online. I personally have been the subject of cruel and anonymous comments left on a mommy forum. There are people out there who are so unhappy they go to great lengths to make sure other people hurt as much as they do especially when they see someone happy, popular and successful. Just let it go and know that for every 1 of those people, there are thousands more who admire you, love your blog and respect your work.

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Ruthie August 31, 2011 at 8:49 am

My Gluten-Free Girl-Friend…I cannot describe how sorry I am to hear of these “attacks” that have been levied against you. I hope that you continue on with the important work that you started. Do NOT give up! I adore reading about Danny and Lu and your life on Vashon….it is so nice to know who you are and feel like a friend without ever meeting. I love to learn about different places and people. Isn’t that what we are here for? The joy, the sorrow, the sum of life…I have used your “life experiences” many times to encourage newly diagnosed Celiacs. They come into my store…lost, sad, confused…believing that their life is over, or nearly over. They cry and I hug them and tell them that it will be all right as soon as they learn to say “yes”. And then I tell them your story and recommend that they buy your book. I tell them that they are not alone. Find her website, I say, because she has lived your life (as far as Celiac Disease goes) and look at all the resources there. I tell them that there is hope…I know this because I KNOW YOU! Thank You, Shauna! God’s richest blessings to you and yours! Love, Ruthie Mills

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Mel in Mo August 31, 2011 at 8:50 am

Hey Shauna!
I really think that there are so many good people out there who never say anything. And so many mean people that never shut up! Know that for every ugly person saying something mean, there are thousands enjoying every post and not saying anything. Know we are here, don’t leave us because of some ugly assholes!
Mel in Mo
P.S. I love Lu’s skinned knee! It reminds me of my daughter’s knees growing up.

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Stacey August 31, 2011 at 8:50 am

Unbelievable, honestly, unbelievable! If you ever stop blogging I will understand but be deeply saddened.

I am not gluten-free at all and this is one of my favorite blogs! I love, love your posts about your family, Lucy (the pics are the best) and the joy with which you live your lives!!

Love the pic of the skinned knee – reminds me of my son right now – not even two with little scarred up knees already!

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shauna August 31, 2011 at 9:27 am

Don’t worry. I’m not going anywhere. And thank you.

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Kait August 31, 2011 at 8:52 am

I don’t even want to put my website on here because the very first troll comment I got was from someone who followed the link from your website to mine via a comment I made.

I still hear the hateful words they left as a comment on my blog in my head on a regular basis. I know I shouldn’t. I know they shouldn’t matter.

I’m thankful that you’re standing up for this – for being real and honest and open and living your life with joy. You’re handling it much better then I would have, had I found out someone was attacking my child. I hate the ugliness that comes from blogging but it sometimes makes the lovely things that much better.

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Elizabeth Flora Ross August 31, 2011 at 8:52 am

Unlike many of your commenters, I was not shocked by this post. Sadly, I know how common this behavior is. I started a project called the Take the Pledge Campaign:

http://themompledge.com

It is a set of principles women commit to following in all their online activities. As a community, we stand up and speak out about cyber bullying. It is NOT OK. And I’m sorry you have been a victim. I admire your attitude and your willingness to speak out. You will no doubt help someone with this post. Thank you, and BRAVO!

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Mira Dessy August 31, 2011 at 8:52 am

I love the joyous, enticing way you write about food. And I adore the sweet glimpses into your life with your wonderful husband and adorable daughter.

There’s a Sandra Boynton cartoon that says “Don’t let the turkeys get you down.” That’s all those other people are…turkeys. You, obviously, are an eagle, meant to soar.

I’m so glad to hear that you will not give in to the hatred and stupidity of these others. There are too many who admire and respect you for you to allow your own light and inner joy to be quieted.

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KSalty August 31, 2011 at 8:53 am

Hi Shauna
I’ve been reading your blog for a while and really enjoyed your book – I’ve never commented before but I was so shocked and saddened by reading this post that I felt I had to add my voice to all those others urging you to ignore the trolls and carry on doing what you do. The disparity between people’s behavious online and in the real world is a really worrying trend – but I hope the supportive voices still outnumber the angry, small, always-anonymous ones. K

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bakerina August 31, 2011 at 8:54 am

Oh, dear friend.

Mark Morford is a columnist for SFGate.com, the online edition of the San Francisco Chronicle. (He is also one of my yoga teachers.) He has been writing for the Chron in one form or another for more than 10 years — and he has amassed a lot of hate mail. I mean, a LOT. First it came to his email account at the Chron. Then it came to the comments field on his SFGate columns. I would not be at all stunned to hear that there are Twitter feeds and Facebook pages dedicated to mocking him, and making loathsome personal comments about him and everything he holds dear.

Last year, he published a collection of his favorite Chron/Gate essays, The Daring Spectacle. He included samples of particularly noteworthy hate mail (with sender’s names redacted) sprinkled throughout. Those sections were titled “i hate you i hate you i hate you.”

Now, I’m not suggesting in any way that you should do the same thing. Nor am I suggesting that you will, or should, eventually find the hate stuff funny enough to include anywhere. I *am* saying that the two of you are in very good company. You’re both outstanding people, and your ability to communicate so warmly and so well seems to enrage a lot of people who live with a mix of misplaced priorities and poor impulse control. The bad news is that they will always make a noise in this world. The good news is, so will you — and your priorities, and your impulse control, will guarantee that we will always hear you loud and clear.

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Janell August 31, 2011 at 8:55 am

Thank you, Danny, and Lu for being a nice exam of a loving family. You sharing your life with us helps more than you will ever know. You post in good times and bad. You are real, raw, and honest and the world is missing that right now. Keep the faith because there are more of us out here happy reading you than unhappy. Unhappy people just make more noise. Thank you for doing what you do.

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Gillian August 31, 2011 at 8:55 am

Just a comment to say I think you are wonderful! May the voices of those who love ring louder and the voices of those who are hateful fade away.

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Brandae August 31, 2011 at 8:56 am

Bravo to you. Thank you for enduring and persevering for the sake of being true to yourself. Your example will lead many to stand up for their beliefs and opinions no matter how cruel or evil others behave in this world. What a beautiful person, mother, wife, friend, and blogger you are to people all over the world who benefit so greatly from hearing and reading your voice in this sometimes very dark world. God bless you and your family!

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Moira August 31, 2011 at 8:56 am

I had someone once comment “No wonder your daughter has diabetes. You’re FAT. Maybe if you took better care of yourself your daughter would not be suffering.” Yes, I know Type 1 has nothing to do with weight. Yes, I know that when I had her I was still barely past my former semi-pro athlete self. But yet I still find myself going back to that ugly, albeit wrong, comment. Bet they’d never say that to my face. Hrmph.

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shauna August 31, 2011 at 9:24 am

I know that feeling, how that one sentence can ring through your mind repeatedly. But try to let it go. Because not only is it ridiculously cruel but also sort of stupid. You keep doing what you are doing.

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TBJ August 31, 2011 at 9:01 am

Shauna,

Thanks for sharing this. It is disgusting the way some people take the opportunity to be anonymous to be absolutely vicious. I’m sure we all had that experience in high school, a group of kids being mean about someone else. It felt good to be in on the joke, and not the butt of it. Thankfully most of us left that behind with too much eye shadow and bad hair. Guess these vitriolic trolls are a hurtful example of arrested development. Stay strong, Shauna!

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Bodi August 31, 2011 at 9:01 am

Hey Shauna,

I came across your blog a few years ago, when I was recovering from a severe illness and trying to find a better way to live gluten-free. Your first book had just been published, and shortly after that, I picked up a copy of it and have treasured it since.

I’m the sort of person who likes to keep her books in pristine condition. My copy of your book is far from pristine, in fact, it has become mishapen from use, spills, etc. I prefer to think of it as “loved”, a sign of money well-spent.

I have several gluten-free recipe books, but yours is the one I turn to the most often, if not for the recipes, then for the story therein contained. Your journey of getting to “yes”.

I’m glad you are going to persevere in spite of the Trolls. I’m glad you’ve come back to “yes”.

Thank-you, Shauna,

Bodi M,
Winnipeg

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Ed DeGeorge August 31, 2011 at 9:02 am

That’s a great picture! Thanks for sharing it, and your joy, with us.

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Erin August 31, 2011 at 9:02 am

I wonder if one day they will have documentaries on internet trolls and what makes them tick. Sort of like a Hoarders or My Strange Addiction, there has to be some sort of mental illness of extreme proportions that drives people to anonymously belittle others to this degree. I have been around those who boost their non existent self confidence by putting others down, but never to the degree that trolls utilize. I picture someone logging onto the internet after a stressful day and sending out 10 hate emails and posting 20 nasty comments on various sites, only to log off feeling so much ‘better’ after dumping their garbage onto others. Such a life.

Thank you for not letting them win Shauna.

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Shosh August 31, 2011 at 9:02 am

I maybe commented here once before…but this makes me want to write.
When you wrote the section about what Brene told you, I was thinking something different – that these people are so hateful b/c they’re jealous of the fact that you’re living your life the way you were meant to. Maybe that’s the same as joyful…
Ignore them – who has so much time to spread hate (instead of love)?
And also – I’m not a lawyer, but there must be a way to get those twitter accounts down – and maybe other blog posts – isn’t this defamation of character?

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Marie August 31, 2011 at 9:03 am

This was so beautifully written and heartfelt. You do a wonderful thing with this blog and with sharing your joy in life and family. It saddens me that some of the most vocal are the ones speaking such cruelties, and shames me that I have not raised my voice of praise to help drown them out before now.

Please keep doing what you do, sharing your happiness and light with the rest of the world.

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Ron August 31, 2011 at 9:04 am

I came here after a post by John Scalzi. I’m glad I did.

A few years ago, I was starting a cooking vlog. It was aimed at men, and to be called, “The Kitchen Cassanova.” Nothing fancy. Just some “how-to’s” of cooking romantic meals for two, along with some basic technique help. How to put together a small, urban kitchen. How to use a knife safely and quickly. How to use basic, fresh ingredients to make a meal for a date if you’ve never really cooked before. I wanted to demystify some of the techniques that sound impressive but are actually quite easy. It was a fun little hobby. I put up the first few recipes and vids.

I laughed at the first few commenters saying that, since I was such a fat guy, it made sense that I must be able to cook. So of course women trusted me in a kitchen. Then it started getting more and more personal. It got downright ugly.

When I got the comment that it wouldn’t help me to get a woman over for dinner, since I was so fat that nobody could ever find my privates, I deleted the site, went on a search and destroy mission against the videos to try to ensure that nobody would ever see them again, and shut up.

I let them put me in my place.

This post shames me. It shows me how weak I was. And it does it in the kindest way possible, by showing me that there is an alternative. You’ve reminded me that I didn’t HAVE to cave in, that I could have just accepted it, and maybe fought back.

Bravo is a word related to the word “brave.” For this post, I say bravo.

(I wonder if my video camera still works, and if I still have the lights I used…)

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shauna August 31, 2011 at 9:21 am

Go find that video camera, Ron. And when your first new post is up, please let me know. I’d love to see it.

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Kiki September 1, 2011 at 6:26 pm

I cried when I read this post. I was scrolling down to give Shauna a shout of support, but this comment really got to me. I absolutely LOVE the idea of your vlog! Please, oh please think about starting it again. There are many miserable people in this world who want nothing more than to have company in their misery. I bet your light shown too bright for them and it scared them that you were out there shining. Say “NO thanks” to the invitation to join them and come spend some time with those of us that enjoy life, no matter how many rocks are thrown at us. Turn that camera back on!

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shauna September 1, 2011 at 8:23 pm

I agree, Kiki. I have been thinking about that vlog for the last two days. Please start it again!

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Elisa September 2, 2011 at 11:13 am

Ron please do restart your vlog – and Shauna please share it with your readers!!!

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Rochelle August 31, 2011 at 9:05 am

I love your post. Kiddos to you for not giving up. I am so sorry that there are such hateful and mean folks in this word. It makes me sad to read this, but it also makes me proud that you kept on doing what you love.

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Sheri August 31, 2011 at 9:06 am

Shauna,
I found your website through John Scalzi’s blog. Your blog is beautiful and the warm brown rice recipe looks fantastic. I look forward to browsing through your site.
I am sorry you are the target of such hateful people. I am at a loss as to why anyone thinks your life is their business. Why not just “change the channel”?
I am sorry you and your family are subjected to this hatefulness.

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Sheri August 31, 2011 at 9:06 am

I would like to add, you should borrow John’s mallet.

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Larisa LaBrant August 31, 2011 at 9:06 am

Thank you for having the courage to keep writing and focusing on your joy. We’ll be busy baking, dancing, Living in joy with you.

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Jodi Brown August 31, 2011 at 9:08 am

Bravo!
Those spineless trolls HIDING behind their computer screens wield only as much power as we allow them.
Keep doing what you’re doing.
Spread your joy.
Love your life!
Lead by example!
Delete!
The blogging community is lucky to have you.
I loved your presentation Saturday.
NOLA anxiously awaits your return.
Jodi

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eileensideways August 31, 2011 at 9:10 am

i am so sorry this has happened to you. there is a lot of hatred and negativity in the world, and i feel sorry for those people. you just go on doing what you do, hold your head up high, stand up for what you think is right and don’t get sucked into their pathetic lives.

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Amy August 31, 2011 at 9:10 am

Shauna,
Your post was great in so many ways. I think shining some light on the trolls of the Internet is useful so that when they do post, there will be equally strong mob action against them. However, I am not naive enough to think they will go away. Traditional celebrities have always had to deal with paparazzi and worse; online celebrities just have a different brand of crazy to deal with. A practical suggestion would be for you to hire an assistant to monitor your accounts. It’s easy enough to segregate the trolls from the useful or supportive comments. That way, you don’t have to read the hurtful or hateful comments. An assistant could provide an overview the content and any trend analysis you want to keep track of. If you can’t afford an assistant, an intern could do the job. The person wouldn’t even have to be physically near you once you got things set up (I know you live on a island, but Seattle is full of students!). Best wishes, and thanks for all the great GF thoughts and recipes. Amy

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Ron Bryan August 31, 2011 at 9:10 am

Shauna, A very good post. I was not aware that everyone who puts them self in the public eye would be subjected to this treatment. Our national discourse on public issues has certainly lowered to the level of nasty perosnal comment, but it appears this garbage has extended to any and all aspects of public conversation. Amazing! I am glad you are able to continue and are not intimadated into covering yourself up. Ron Bryan, Seattle

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JudyB August 31, 2011 at 9:11 am

Wow. Shauna, I have no gluten issues, but I read your blog because of the joy you project and the wonderful recipes you share. You and your family are all beautiful. Maybe people are jealous because through your suffering and recovery you have found a wonderful way to live and share your life, and make a living doing something you love. More power to you!! There is so much hate and jealousy in the world…I have come across another blog devoted entirely to making fun and spreading hate about another well-known blogger. Many blessings to you and your family, and wishing you continued success.

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Diane August 31, 2011 at 9:11 am

Shauna,
Thank you so much for sharing your life with us. We don’t all get to sit around a table and break (GF) bread with you, but I like to think we all feel like your community. I have seen some of these troll comments in the past on one of your external posts and I was stunned by the hate. Now, I know just how much more you have to put up with. So I send another thank you to you for that. Thank you for putting up with that cr@p so that we can enjoy your writing, and your recipes and your pictures.
I think we all need to stand up to bullies more, in our “regular” lives and online.

And can I just say: I love that you are a “normal” looking person! You eat good food and exercise too, but you sometimes struggle (like all of us) to keep it all in balance. I am usually slightly annoyed by food bloggers you are teeny-weeny, gorgeous model types! (though, I don’t hate on them!) And I love, Love, LOVE and you are comfortable in your own skin – we all should be so lucky.

Blessings to you and your family.
Namaste
D.

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Nicole August 31, 2011 at 9:12 am

Shauna, I’ve followed your blog on and off for years since my mother was diagnosed with celiac around 2006. Your posts have always been touching, thoughtful and filled with emotion. Thank you so much for sharing your life, your family and your experiences with us.

I’m so sorry that people attack you and your family in this way.

I think it is unfortunate that some live to tear others down. And you are so amazing for finding ways to manage it and overcome. We live in a society where we are expected to feel bad about ourselves (especially if we are overweight or different from the “ideal”) – to criticize our bodies, our methods and lives. I think it throws people through a loop when you are happy, confident and content. I’ve experienced similar things – but not nearly the volume or extent that you have.

Thank you for doing what you do!

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Medusa Dot August 31, 2011 at 9:12 am

Shauna, you are my LIFELINE for learning how to be gluten free.

I have been gluten free for 3 months now, and I am very, very, very slowly recovering my ability to keep my balance, and even walk a tiny, tiny bit without the walker. Your first book and your cookbook and this website are crucial for me during this time. I wish your new cook book were available right now, as I’d buy it in a flash.

I know at this point that I’ll wind up bedridden if I cannot stay GF, so I am incredibly grateful to you for all that you do. Not only for the recipes, but for the dose of “happy” I get each time I read the entries on your website.

So, as my distant Irish ancestors would say, “Bad cess to your small minded, carpng, IGNORANT critics!!”

Much, MUCH love to you and your family.

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Karis August 31, 2011 at 9:12 am

Love. So much love.

And, deep, deep gratitude for who you are in this world, what you do and all that it means to me and my patients.

I’ve long wondered why people are more apt to write letters of complaint than thank you notes, to take action when enraged and not when blessed… thanks for bringing it all in to the open.

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Rose Chavarin August 31, 2011 at 9:13 am

Shauna–I read your blog all the time and enjoy hearing the JOY in your voice; know this…for the amount of trolls out there with too much time on their hands, there are at least double the amount of people who “connect” with you on a spiritual level…no doubt about it. Keep your chin up, embrace your body and keep doing the remarkable work you do – this is your purpose on the planet. Much love to you, Danny & Lulu from a woman who admires your talent and sees you as a model for overcoming obstacles. Stay strong!!

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Amy August 31, 2011 at 9:15 am

Shauna, I have never read your blog before. I was going to say how sorry I was for you, but that isn’t right. You are an amazingly strong person, and while I’m sorry you have to deal with this, you will be just fine. You and your family are lucky to have each other.

These losers, on the other hand… Honestly, is there anything more pathetic than devoting time and energy to something like this?? They must have unbelievably low self-esteem. May they find a backbone someday and find out that they really do have their own lives to live, if only they would get around to living them.

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Jamie (Thrifty Veggie Mama) August 31, 2011 at 9:15 am

People are so cruel! It really is sad that there are so many people in the world that are so unhappy with themselves and their lives that they feel that they have to try and belittle those who are happy. I am very sorry that you have experienced this. I love your blog and hope you continue to do what you love.

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Judy@Savoring Today August 31, 2011 at 9:17 am

I sit here stunned. Simply stunned that anyone could say anything like what you have described. The delete button was designed for such rubbish. I don’t know you personally, but I am so sorry for the pain it has caused you and your family. Glad you are addressing it, dealing with it, and living life anyway.

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Angie @ Bigbearswife August 31, 2011 at 9:17 am

I love you, Your blog, Your Recipe and your First Photo, Skinned knee and all. HUGS!

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Dan Tannenbaum August 31, 2011 at 9:17 am

Sometimes people give knee-jerk reactions based upon their beliefs, not what you wrote about. Disregard them and realize they are the blog-equivalent of the Tea Party! Besides, I’ve never seen you blog about encouraging people to eat massive amounts of anything. You blog on quality and recipes. I’ve got a spare mallet for their mullets if you need one! :-)

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Kristen August 31, 2011 at 9:17 am

Last October I found your blog. It was the first site I found after I received my diagnosis of celiac. I feel compelled to tell you that instantly, you became my hero. Without you, and the wonderful work you do, I don’t think I would have had the strength to move forward with my life. After my diagnosis, I thought my life was over. Thanks to the example you have set, you have given me the courage to keep living my life, and working toward my goal of becoming a nutritionist. Honestly, you’ve given me hope. You’ve shown me that there are still decent and caring people out there. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for sharing your life, your family, and your wonderful work with the world.

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Jillian_R August 31, 2011 at 9:18 am

This was one of the most disturbing posts I have read. I am so sorry that there are people out there like that. I have never run across any of these sites and I am personally glad for it. After hearing all the bullying reports from children who kill themselves because they can’t take it anymore, it never occurred to me that there same bullies would carry on into adulthood. I thought that finding out that you personally drove someone to the brink of ending life itself would somehow change their personalities to be more understanding or at accepting… Or maybe they would learn something about behaving responsibly… I guessed wrong apparently. These people live in the shadows and are true to their names – trolls.

Don’t let them win. You are so strong to share your stories. Keep on sharing and writing. Happiness is yours to share however you want. I have learned a great deal from your posts and recipes and talk about your blog to my family. Let them keep their hate, it isn’t yours.

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Isabelle @ Crumb August 31, 2011 at 9:20 am

Hugs to you, Shauna. I’m sorry you’ve had to read those ugly, ugly words.
I love that your writing gives us these little glimpses into your life – unvarnished and honest and a little messy, like real life usually tends to be. It feels like it’s the real Shauna who’s writing those words, not a carefully cultivated facade created for the sake of a blog. (And hey, maybe you are just a facade, and you’re really a wannabe actor living in LA who eats a whole baguette for breakfast every day… but I’ll never know the difference.) That’s what keeps me coming back to your blog.
I hope that you know that for every nastygram you get, there are dozens of us who quietly lurk in the background and have nothing but love for you and Danny and Lu. I guess we just need to be louder in our appreciation, all the better to drown out the haters.
You just keep doing you. The rest of ‘em can go screw themselves.

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Lisa F. August 31, 2011 at 9:23 am

Thank you for speaking out about this, shining a light on that nasty stuff. I’m in tears. so sorry that you have endured all that. trying to feel compassion for the people who feel that it’s ok to act that way. Love your blog, your photos, your writing, and your generosity. I hope the love & affection & gratitude in the other comments helps. and I LOVE Brene Brown & her work.

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Sherri August 31, 2011 at 9:23 am

Shauna -

From reading the unending support above – I know the people who truly honestly appreciate you go a long way in why you continue to write the way you do. I truly value any “person” who is honest about always “learning” to love life, love ourselves and love the path of feeling healthy. There is a lot of ugliness in our world ~ and all we can do is continue to try and live above it, thank you for the honest post and really a heads up for anyone who feels a passion about opening themselves up to the “on-line world” – I am heartened that you and your lovely family have risen above this, and you continue to do what “motivates your soul” and puts “passion into your life”. Thank you.

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Alexis August 31, 2011 at 9:23 am

Shauna, I just became Gluten-free after being a self-diagnosed Celiac. I feel like I have come back to life from being a zombie walking around in my body. Trying to explain the difference I feel is indescribable. Until I read your blog, you have an amazing way of capturing readers & describing everything I’m feeling, so much so as to move me to tears. Your blog has made the not-so-easy switch to be gluten-free much easier & I want to thank you.

People are more likely to say negative things than positive ones.
I would not have written to you, had I not read this post. & I want to make sure you hear the feedback from someone you have helped tremendously!
Thanks again.

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Anneliesz August 31, 2011 at 9:23 am

I’m glad you brought this up & particularly wove something ugly in with the beautiful. My mom asked me when some girls were being nasty to me in high school, “why do you let them steal your joy?” If I were to think to the root of the animosity, the breeding grounds for hatred, it seems to come back often to comparison and coveting that then leads to the mean words people feel okay releasing like bullets from the gun of the mouth. It reminds me of what my acupuncturist has said of inhaling the word “gentle” and exhaling the word “kind.” Or as my cousin says, “be careful what you say for you don’t know the road another person is currently walking.” You sharing your life is powerful. You have a gift for weaving your story into words that are then put out into the internet ether. For the people who hurl the nasty, I have no idea what their personal nasty consists of. But I do know, most of the time it is done in secret and behind pseudonym in comment forums. I’m sorry for the behind-the-scenes anger you’re finding yourself receiving but I do appreciate you bringing it to the forefront so perhaps from this they might be willing to dig deep and explore other ways to vent frustration about what life has to offer for them and find their own joy instead of feeling like they need to steal yours.

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Yuri @ Ingredients We Choose September 2, 2011 at 10:48 pm

That is so utterly beautiful.I am inhaling gentle. I am exhaling kind. Every part of my body feels completely different…

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Alonda August 31, 2011 at 9:23 am

*STANDS AND APPLAUDS PROUDLY*

Speaking as someone who has lived through hell herself, and lived to tell about it….
Speaking as someone who has conquered depression and has recovered her joy….
Speaking as a big woman (A LOT bigger than you) who is learning slowly to enjoy food rather than letting it abuse, soothe, or wound her more…
Speaking as a woman your writings have helped heal on many levels through this journey to mental, spiritual, emotional, and physical health….

I am grateful for your post. I have always been grateful for your joy, your graciousness in the midst of the storm, your down to earth, yet exuberant take on basic things. When I was in the depths of panic when I realized I couldn’t eat gluten again and had no idea what to do NOW, I found your site at exactly the right moment and found my hope again. I have tasted and tested right along with you, cried with you, laughed with you, and have been very, very blessed by your family’s (your ENTIRE family’s) beautiful presence. You taught me the beauty of picnics on bad days (and on good ones), gave me permission to bake again (at the time I needed permission), and inspired me to try my own recipes and find my own way. This blog is a work of good, of beauty, and of grace.

Of COURSE idiots are going to abound. Since the beginning of time, evil of some sort has worked overtime to try to crush anything beautiful and good. It’s inevitable. You can’t stop it coming in, unfortunately, but you can affect your response to it.

This is the most well-spoken response to them I have ever had the privilege to read. All I can say is don’t let em get you down…keep doing what you are doing….it’s changing people’s lives for the better. I can attest to that. I’d be a LOT more miserable, a LOT more ill, and at a LOT less peace in my life if you hadn’t been doing just what you are doing now.

Thank you.

Blessings, peace, and love all over y’all. And that means ALL y’all.

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Kara Buntin August 31, 2011 at 9:23 am

This is the second thing that I’ve read today about people going after bloggers for no good reason. I don’t understand what someone gets out of it, it’s bizarre. The nasty comments obviously say more about them than about you, so keep on deleting…It’s too bad that people are so stupid sometimes.

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Adrea August 31, 2011 at 9:24 am

You are appreciated and valued.

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sara August 31, 2011 at 9:24 am

I am so bothered, I can feel the sympathy and anger behind my eyes. This makes me so sad, and my heart breaks for you and for your family. I am so sorry that you have to hear things like this – they are not true, and as you mentioned, from unhappy people. As sad as this makes my heart, I am UNBELIEVABLY impressed that you keep going. My skin is pretty thin in general, and I can’t imagine letting all those terrible things slide off my back and rise above it. What an example you are – your self confidence and assurance is so inspiring. Keep telling your stories for those of us who love you for it.

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Cynthia August 31, 2011 at 9:26 am

You are beautiful. Thank you.

I am sad for all of us that people are so overflowing with negative energies that the black filth spills out of them at the slightest provocation, or (worse, as you describe!) they proactively seek opportunities to try to smear it onto others. THAT feels like the real battle between good an evil here on earth.

Keep your positivity. Keep your joy. Be the light.

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Kate @ Savour Fare August 31, 2011 at 9:26 am

Thanks for this, Shauna. I personally don’t understand how anyone who spent even ten minutes in your company, real or virtual, could fail to find you beautiful. We deserve to feel comfortable in our skin, and we do not deserve to be shamed for it, but looks are ultimately so immaterial.

And dont’ get me started on the culture of mother-guilt.

Hugs to you. And to Lu.

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Nina August 31, 2011 at 9:28 am

They are small people with small lives. What have they given the world? Nothing but ugliness.

You bring beauty, joy and love to so many.

It’s all about karma, baby. You are golden.

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jodi August 31, 2011 at 9:29 am

sadly, i am not entirely surprised by the behavior of the trolls, but i do have to say that i am ASTOUNDED by some of the things they have done to you. good for you for speaking up and just know that there are so many of us out there who love who you are, what you write about and how you share it all with us.

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Lyla August 31, 2011 at 9:30 am

Love the recipe and love the skinned knee and dirty feet. That’s what childhood should be!

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Nutmeg Nanny August 31, 2011 at 9:30 am

Where there is anonymity there is hate. People love to talk behind the “cloak” of the internet. It’s the fact that you can still keep happy through it all that is truly amazing. Don’t let them bring you down. You’re amazing :)

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Meredith August 31, 2011 at 9:31 am

Shauna-
I have never commented. I just want you to know that for every meanie, there are probably hundreds who love you, but are too busy with their lives to do more than read your blog. You are an inspiration to many, and your positive views help me out on days when being gf is overwhelming.
It is so hard for me to comprehend that people are so unkind. I wish I could sit down and chat with you on a tough day. I can’t get my head around people being unkind to Lu.
You (and your family) are beautiful- as is. Don’t let the meanies win. The good people (most of us!) will miss you too much.

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Leslie August 31, 2011 at 9:32 am

Have read you for years, rarely comment but this post horrifies me. You put so much of yourself out there, sharing your joy, your love, your expertise so generously. That there are so many people out there who have nothing better to do than to mock, tear down and denigrate is sad and demoralizing. I’m grateful for your work and for the courage that keeps you doing it despite all the trolls and hope you’ll never stop!

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Jean Layton August 31, 2011 at 9:32 am

Once again you have captured the essence of a situation, distilled it to the core of life, and released it to nurture others.
Thank you.
And for all those trolls, I’ll second the notion. GET A LIFE!, it is just too short a time in this world to waste it on cutting another person down.

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Katie August 31, 2011 at 9:33 am

Shauna,

I have never commented here before. I just recently found your blog when my four year old daughter was diagnosed with multiple food allergies and celiac disease. Then my husband was also diagnosed with celiac disease. I am so grateful for your blog and what you write. I feel compelled to comment. Its hard to believe people can be so cruel! I am appalled. If it were me, I know I would’ve wanted to shut down the blog and make my life private so that I wouldn’t have to deal with such crazy, nasty comments. But for the rest of us, who appreciate what you do, and the way you share good food and your life, I am so thankful that you didn’t. I am so sorry you and your family have to deal with this. I am glad you have found peace despite all of it. More American women, including myself, especially could use that peace with their bodies. Thank you for sharing here with us.

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Rebecca August 31, 2011 at 9:34 am

Others have said what I feel. You go, girl! Don’t ever change.

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Nicole W August 31, 2011 at 9:41 am

Shauna,

I don’t commet on blogs often but I just have to say that I’m not GF, I read your blog because of *you.* Because of your joy and your beauty (inside and out!). Because you taught me to be strong in illness and recovery – even though my illness was different. Because you are not afraid to talk about the hard parts of life, and to infuse joy into every dire situation. Because of the beautiful pictures you take and post, like Lu’s skinned knee up at the top of this post. That’s life, and I feel sorry for any person who is so caught up in criticizing your life that they don’t have one of their own.

Your family is amazing, and your daughter is probably the cutest child I’ve ever seen. And I’m totally jealous that you live on Vashon. :)

Thank you for posting this. Hopefully this serves as a reminder to all the sane people out there to express our appreciation for the bloggers etc we love, and our words can encourage you to just keep hitting delete when hurt people in this world try to tear you down into their own pain.

You’re wonderful, Shauna. Thank you for being you.

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Móna Wise August 31, 2011 at 9:43 am

You are a brave woman. I get plenty of trolls on my blog too but do not read them. Most of them have fake email address – cowards in my book – and thrive on the reqctions we have to their behaviour. Ignore them. Love your life and your family. Let it go.

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Callie August 31, 2011 at 9:44 am

People are sick.

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Rebecca August 31, 2011 at 9:44 am

Shauna,
I don’t often leave comments on blogs; however, I feel compelled to after reading your post. Please, please don’t change a thing about your blogging/twittering/facebooking! Your positive way of dealing with life is exactly what people need to hear. My hubby and I are GF only for our Celiac son, who like your sweet girl, is 3. When I get angry about his diagnosis, I read your blog because I want to teach him to look at the world in the same way you do. I want him to not be afraid of food but be joyful for all of the wonderful things he CAN eat. I want him to know that the interactions with his friends and family are so much more important than anything else.

Shame on the rude people in the world for thinking it’s OK to mock and insult you. Sadly, they are lacking the light that you have and graciously share with the world. I know your blog makes many people who are scared of being GF feel at home and joyful. Thank you for being you!

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Allison Wilson August 31, 2011 at 9:45 am

God, people can be so vicious and I will never understand it. I’m sorry you’ve been subject to this kind of bullying. Even when they say things that aren’t true, they still sting. It’s really hard getting past the cruel things people say, even when they’re people you don’t even care about.

I think you’re wonderful, and a constant source of inspiration to so many people. Hopefully some of the love from your loyal readers will buoy your spirits and edge out the darkness that the small minded people have tried to place in your life.

Shine on, you crazy diamonds!!! (I told my son, Julian, this recently and he got pissed and said “Don’t call me a crazy diamond!! What does that even mean, anyway??” I guess being 7 excludes him from some good older songs, huh?)

xoxoxoxoox,
Allison

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Erica August 31, 2011 at 9:46 am

Wow… I’m not one to comment but I felt compelled to after reading this. First, thank you so much for speaking out about this issue – - I, and I’m sure other readers as well, have seen blogs that mock and ridicule and justify their existence by wrapping themselves in the blanket of free speech and ironically, the notion that “if you don’t like what I’m writing you don’t have to read it.” So very sad. Pathetic. I applaud you for talking about this and for being brave enough to continue to write in a personal way. Those posts, the ones where you talk about your family and your health struggles, are the ones I think I, and many others, appreciate the most. To know that there is someone else going through what I may be going through, who can put words to that which I cannot necessarily find within myself to express… I hope you know that just because many of us may not always comment to say so, we appreciate your honesty and vulnerability and thank you.

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Veronica August 31, 2011 at 9:47 am

I just came here after reading Scalzi’s (whatever.scalzi.com) comment on your bullying problem and i must say I’m totally shocked. Just three words for the hateful comments: flush the toilet.

Thanks for being so brave and sharing your experience with us, it has cleared my mind about many things. Enjoy your family and let the haters stay where they belong: in the sewage.

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Kate August 31, 2011 at 9:47 am

Mean people suck.

Fortunately, karma’s a red-hot bitch.

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Gina August 31, 2011 at 12:43 pm

Amen, Kate! :)

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Cheryl August 31, 2011 at 9:48 am

{standing ovation}

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Kristy August 31, 2011 at 9:50 am

It takes courage to be one’s self fully and truly. But it’s the only way to true happiness and a sense of genuine connection. I come here to your blog because you share your life and your stories, and there is often a positive spin which I apprecaite so much. Thank you for also taking about the not so positive….I really had no idea that is what bloggers and public people face.

The best way I can explain such nasty behavior is that those people are mentally, spiritually and emotionally ill.

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Denise August 31, 2011 at 9:50 am

Wow, I never would have guessed that you deal with all of those evil comments. Please know that there are far more people out here that so appreciate your positive outlook, your wonderful recipes and your beautiful family! Your book was the first I read when I was diagnosed with celiacs. I’m certain it helped shape how I look at this disease and the limitations that we all have. Your writing is beautiful and inspirational. Regardless of how much personal information you share, I will always be a grateful fan! I hope that you feel enveloped by the love and support of many positive comments today!

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Valentina August 31, 2011 at 9:50 am

You ARE joyful. You have helped so many. You are an accomplished writer, momma to a wonderful girl and HAPPY in your marriage. A lot of people can’t deal with this. You’re a great person, Shauna. And lots of us love you!

I stopped reading comments completely after I read this one on CNN recently: “slavery should still exist so we can dominate primitive races such as blacks and Latinos”. I had a comment-meltdown. Being Hispanic in the US can be a very rewarding experience but sometimes, when you read things like that, it’s plain scary. And that’s nothing compared to things like “we need to eliminate” or “we need weapons to control” when it comes to the issue. Horrible. Reading these comments made me feel unsafe.

Also, I was glad to read your thoughts on “love your body”. I’ve struggled with weight my whole life and only recently, came to terms with my booty. Your words are empowering! ;-)

Much love,
V

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Nicole August 31, 2011 at 9:51 am

Go Shauna! I read your blog as much for the joy that you share as for the gluten free ideas. Please keep writing for yourself and for those of us who enjoy salivating over your descriptions. Thanks.

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Carolyn August 31, 2011 at 9:51 am

OMFG. *facepalm* what is wrong with people? I know it is a hard uphill battle kind of thing, but don’t listen to the jackasses. What you do is powerful. Powerful and very, very needed. You spread hope, and not only hope, you remind people that a little gratitude for the little things in life — like taking the time to sit and just ‘be’ with loved ones or even stop to say “I love you” — is something we should all practice more often. So don’t listen to the trolls, what you do, who you are and the wider audience you reach are much, much more important than all that piddly little BS.

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Ashley August 31, 2011 at 9:52 am

I am tears reading about the cruelty that you have to deal with. YOU!?!! Your strength and grace are inspiring. I think you handle it bravely and with this post you have given us all a lesson in how to deal with the sad reality of this cruel world. There are times when we have to acknowledge it, band together to form strength and rebuild our skin and other times, most of the time, we delete, move on and focus on the joy that abounds. You do that beautifully. Thank you. I wish I could give you a giant hug. Soon.

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shauna August 31, 2011 at 9:59 am

Thank you, so, Ashley. And yes. Soon for that hug. xo

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Farah August 31, 2011 at 9:52 am

Bravo. I follow you but am dropping by from John Scalzi’s site where he discusses the gender issues of this and marshals support. I’ve had hate mail. Not much, but enough.

I didn’t know about the post 35 weight retention, but yes, 43, 168lbs. I walk about five miles a day and exercise in the gym a minimum of three times a week.

Keep going: your gf site cheers me up. Today I am recovering from God Knows What, while away from home which makes it even more difficult.

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Kathy August 31, 2011 at 9:53 am

An old Cherokee tells his grandson, “My son, there is a battle between two wolves inside us all: One is Evil. It is anger, jealousy, greed, resentment, inferiority, lies, and ego; the other is Good. It is joy,… peace, love, hope, humility, kindness, empathy, and truth”. The grandson thinks about it and asks, “Which wolf wins?” The old Cherokee simply replies, “The one you feed.” We will keep feeding you, Good Wolf!

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shauna August 31, 2011 at 9:58 am

this is just so lovely. thank you.

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shayma August 31, 2011 at 9:55 am

dear shauna, this is the first time i am commenting on your blog- i visit it when someone RTs one of your posts- it is lovely. from the little that i know about your blog, it is a happy, optimistic one. i get nasty blog comments- some of which i publish. i am also that stupid person who reads the comments on CNN online when there is an article about Muslims or Pakistanis- my people- and the comments are full of bile against us. to me, it’s like looking at an accident on the highway- you just have to look. but i realise your situation is different- these people target you- sorry about that. i hope you continue writing, dancing, singing and cooking w. your loved ones- and as the Irish would say- feck the haters! x shayma

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Kicki August 31, 2011 at 9:56 am

I’m not usually the one who makes comments on blogs because I’m so incredibly shy. Now, however, I would like to explain how sorry I am to read this. How cruel and pathetic some people can get because of their low self esteem, which make them so jealous that they have to offend other, decent people, is completely beyond me. And to say such cruel things about your sweet little daughter!

I would also like to say how glad I am to have found your blog. You and The Chef seem to be so incredibly warm and lovely people. Now I have also bought your book :) It arrived three days ago and I devoured it hungrily! Your love story is so warm and pleasant. When you share your love for each other it seems that some of it spills over to me and makes me excited (and hungry!) ;) In Sweden we like to say that a woman’s love is awakened through her belly. In your case, that seems to be the truth for both of you! ;)

Thank you for writing Shauna! And much love to you and your family!

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Danika August 31, 2011 at 9:59 am

Wow. Simply unbelievable. I want to echo what many others have said. You are obviously surrounded by lots of love. I am so very sorry for all the hate directed towards you. No one should have to endure that. I share your outrage that people would spend their time obsessing over the appearance of a small child. Indeed, what is wrong with these folks? In any case, thank your for being so brave and thank you for not going away.

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Lori August 31, 2011 at 9:59 am

Thank you for continuing to post, Shauna. As someone with a gluten intolerance I appreciate your insight, determination to enjoy life and food, and willingness to share with the world. I don’t understand the point of spending so much time and energy spewing hate about others, particularly just because someone has children and loves them. (Isn’t that hypocritical? After all, we were all raised by someone.) I don’t have children or want to be a mom, but that doesn’t mean I expect everyone else to want the same things or to make the same choices. Being happy is about delighting in the variety, I think. Thank you for your bravery. And your daughter? She is beautiful.

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Cathy/ShowFoodChef August 31, 2011 at 10:00 am

Thank you for sharing your experiences, pain, success, pictures and journey. I bet for every horrible comment you’ve gotten, you have lifted the spirits of a hundred others who really needed a dose of your loving spirit and humor. In the poet’s words: “Living well is your best revenge”. Sending you applause and love~

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Mary August 31, 2011 at 10:01 am

You and your life remind me of this:

“You are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hidden.”

I think this is not just what you do, but who you are. And when your light shines brightly, it can illuminate the darkness in others. Some choose to learn from your lessons, others choose to try and use whatever words they think might cause you to dim your light. I am so glad you choose to let yourself, your chef, and your daughter shine. I think you are fantastic, and I love the glimpses you give us into your life: even into life on your “perfect little island.” (I do think life on your island sounds so delicious in every way., and it inspires me to bring your island to my own land-locked home!)

You make every moment count. You know who and what are important to you. You are not just alive, but you LIVE. Your honesty about this situation shows you aren’t here to give us stories of sugar-coated perfection; I think you pretty much gave up sugar anyway, right? :)

I believe in you, and in what you are doing.

ps – Lucy is a rainbow personified, the light after your storm.

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shauna August 31, 2011 at 10:05 am

Thank you, Mary. What a wonderful quote. And you pretty much left me breathless. (p.s. I still eat sugar sometimes. I believe in moderation.)

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mosey (kim) August 31, 2011 at 10:02 am

As you may recall, I was at that panel with Brené – stalking you down for a hug and a photograph afterward. (one of the highlights of Blogher weekend for me!) My friend and I listened with our mouths slackjawed as you recounted the “haters” attacks on you, your work, your family. It’s unbelievable to me that anyone has either the time OR the energy to criticize and mock anyone else’s life. As I try to remind my 7 year old when she struggles to understand why some people are mean to her, we can try to empathize that their own lives might be sad enough to make them lash out at others, but it’s slim consolation.

You inspire me to live my life as large and unapologetically as you have chosen to do.
Me, I think you ROCK.

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Archer August 31, 2011 at 10:03 am

Your post brought tears to my eyes. Shauna, you really have such a beautiful heart. I love that you function out of it. You are truly alive, and it shows.

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Keely August 31, 2011 at 10:03 am

Shauna,

I’m a fairly new reader. I had no idea what I was walking into with this post. When I saw “bullies” on Twitter and then the photo of your daughter’s scraped knee, I thought it’d be a story about playground battles followed by comfort food. I was shocked to find out that it was so much more.

I’m horrified to hear that people attack you and your family like that. I don’t know you, but I’ve seen enough of you online in the last couple weeks to know that you of all people certainly don’t deserve that. You are a joyful person and you take time to share your joy with others. You should be commended for that, not persecuted.

And, for the record, I loved your posts from New Orleans. Thank you for sharing.

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Tami in Oregon August 31, 2011 at 10:03 am

I was in shock reading your post. I had no idea you had to put up with such garbage. Please know you are a breath of fresh air to many and I, for one, enjoy your blog immensely. You have a beautiful family and a joyful life. Thats all that matters! You win!

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Mari August 31, 2011 at 10:05 am

Shauna, I’ve been a reader since Clotilde linked to you years ago, and have never posted before – but had to after reading this. I don’t eat gluten-free; I read your blog because you’re joyful and enthusiastic and happy, no matter what life throws your way. I find that inspiring and have tried to do the same in my life.

I’m disgusted at what you’ve had to deal with and can’t imagine how sick someone has to be to read the same things I do, then turn around and be nasty and hurtful. You and your family don’t deserve it, and I’m glad you are able to ignore these people and stay true to who you are. Don’t stop.

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Barbara P August 31, 2011 at 10:06 am

Shuana, I am so glad you posted this, I had no idea. I am naive for sure, but this is beyond my ability to comprehend. You are so wonderful and have literally saved lives with your gluten free blog and recipes. I have read for many years and you have helped me incredibly with this lifestyle change. I am shocked that anyone has a bad word to say about you. I am so glad you have risen above their sickness. Just know that you have made the world a better place and I so look forward to your posts. I am still shaking my head at the hatred. I do not understand it. You are loved and I am so thankful for your blog/life line. Barbara

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jenn August 31, 2011 at 10:07 am

and here all i thought was, ‘awww, look at her little skinned knee and cute little feet! i want to blow raspberries on the bottom of those cute little feet!’ you are a big beautiful warm hug to the rest of us. screw them. keep being honest and open. you are a salve for the world!

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Kirsten August 31, 2011 at 10:07 am

Oh Shauna. I cried reading your post today. I haven’t had time to catch up on them all, being in school at the moment, but something caught my eye and made me read today.
I’m so sorry for all the negativity thrown your way, and wish people would live by the rule of so many good parents: If you don’t have anything nice to say then don’t say anything at all.
There’s *no need* for them to be thrusting their opinions on an unwilling victim, especially when they’re negative opinions… Unless the people are just mean and intent on hurting. That’s really the only reason to do it. Right? They’re certainly not trying to be helpful!
I wrote this (below) recently to a friend in response to mean people she was encountering at her stall as a vendor at our local farmer’s market. She is very sweet, bounces with joy, and has a heart of gold. There is no reason in the world to be unkind to her. And I thought that the words apply well to you too.

“Mean people are everywhere and are STUCK in, and enjoy spreading, their filth and darkness. People are attracted to light, joyous and shiny souls (which you are, in fact, you are like a strobe light that beckons), even the mean people. Mean people are *attracted* and they want to be light and shiny too but can’t; at least, not the way they continue to carry on without changes. And frustration can be ugly on mean people. Plus, misery loves company.
So… water off a duck’s back right? Don’t let them infect you with their unhappiness virus. Think of it like a mental hand-washing.”

Shauna, for the record, I think you are curvy-licious. You also have that joy and shine that draws people in. You are beautiful. But you already know that, hopefully. Sometimes it is just nice to hear it from outside. I am glad you are able to keep the mean people, and their filthy comments, at bay.

I think back to when I was first diagnosed as Celiac, and had to do so much research on my own and I struggled to come to grips with CD and all its implications. I stumbled upon your website and I’ve never been the same since. Your joy in cooking, in food, in gluten-free food, made me excited to eat again, without fear. It made me excited to try new foods and recipes. It gave me the confidence to go forth without feeling sorry for my situation. But most of all, it made me realize that there are still SO MANY wonderful foods that I can eat without having to modify them one bit. Somewhere in the panic of being diagnosed, and in that transitional learning phase…I had somehow forgotten that important bit of information, and you joyfully reminded me.

So thank you, thank you, thank you for sharing yourself and your family with the world. We are richer by far because of it.
And I wish you and your family nothing but good things.

I hope that the other people that share these warm sentiments take the time out of their day to send you equal love, and hopefully counterbalance the yuckyness.

You changed my world, and I am so grateful.

Sincerely,
Kirsten

And keep spreading that joy. It’s contagious.

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MJ August 31, 2011 at 10:08 am

Shauna -
you were probably the first blog I found several years ago when trying to nail down my stomach problems and gluten issues, and the blog and book were such a comfort to me. Your warm, welcoming voice and exuberant sharing of the joy you’d found and created gave me hope and reassurance of the possibility of “better”. You have been such a gift, blessing and help to so many. Thank you, and Danny, and Lu for your courage and generosity in spirit, word and deed. Namaste.

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Nicole Lauffer August 31, 2011 at 10:09 am

I’m so sorry that you bear the brunt of so much hatred and judgment. I think you’re right: most of us ARE judged based on our lifestyle or our looks or our parenting, but people feel like they can get away with telling YOU what they think because you’re in the public eye. I love your blog: it brings joy to my day to read about your beautiful life. You encourage me to take joy in all the precious little things life offers. DON’T STOP! You’re not alone.

Nicole

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Jane S August 31, 2011 at 10:10 am

Hi Shauna. I think you are absolutely lovely the way you are(and your family), and thanks for all the positive gluten free words and fabulous recipes you have brought into my life. Have a FAB day! XO

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Diana August 31, 2011 at 10:13 am

Amen sister! People don’t realize the cowardly hate that’s out there. The internet is unfortunately a great medium for people who are so miserable that they think tearing others down might make them feel better.

Bullies and bullies and they’re almost always insecure cowards who don’t expect anyone to stand up to them. Good for you for speaking up. Pointing it out doesn’t give them power, it sheds light on the evil things they think they do in secret. In the teen recovery program we led we always told the kids, you’re only as sick as your secrets. Whether it’s a blog, a counselor, some trusted friends, sharing the hurts in our life brings healing. I’m SO proud of you!

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Diana August 31, 2011 at 10:14 am

oops that should be “Bullies are bullies”

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Speckle of Dirt August 31, 2011 at 10:14 am

Hi Shauna,
We met briefly at Andrew Scrivani’s workshop via @bonnevivant. I think I might be one of the hypothetical 12 food bloggers you mentioned, and you know what, we (I) worry about weight too. It doesn’t matter if you are a size 4 or 40, our culture has programmed us to strive for a perfection which doesn’t exist. And, as you point out, the haters will find anything to pour their vials of poison onto: success, marriage, family, appearance…and, yes, our very existence. So I’m glad you included the dark side of a delightful life. If we all hid our light under the shadow of darkness, how in the world would encouragement, inspiration and love beam through?

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angie_seattle August 31, 2011 at 10:14 am

Shauna -
I hope you keep doing exactly what makes you joyful and feels right in your heart.

I was just thinking about this topic yesterday. I think many people find it easy to focus their negative energy and unhappiness outward and direct it to others, instead of searching deep to understand why they feel hurt or lonely or scared or jealous or just plain angry about everything. Doing the inner work is hard. It’s a sad reality that so many spend their energy trying to put others down instead of lifting them up.

Love your blog and your kindness.
Angie

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l.overstreet August 31, 2011 at 10:14 am

shawna, shawna, shawna. how people can berate you baffles me, when i admire the hell out of you. your energy. your honesty. your love. your perseverance. your photography. your jewelry. your beauty. your family. your freaking EVERYTHING.

i know that you know that all the bollocks comments are just that, but i hope your heart continues to be renewed and buoyed so you can keep the bad at bay. i think that those of us who feel warm things about you just don’t take the time to write, but the folks who can’t manage their own grief/loss/sadness/inadequacy/etc. have a whole lot of vitriol from which to spew. know that the love outweighs the hate, we just aren’t as vocal, sadly.

i am also so glad to know you know of {and know!} brene brown. i recently found her work and my life is improving with each page i read, in direct relationship with a decrease in my concerns about what other people think about me. i hope she continues to inspire you in the same way.

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Jamie Utter August 31, 2011 at 10:15 am

You’re a good writer. You’re a great cook! You’re a wonderful wife and mother. And you’re a really good person.

I’ve spent the better part of the last twenty years as a checker in a grocery store of a major chain. I’m out there in the world with the public. We’re in each other’s faces, up close in real time and space. People often say things to me like: “How can you work with the public day in and day out? I don’t know how you do it.”

And my answer is this: the truth is that most people (and here I gesture to myself and those around me) are quite nice. Most people are very nice, wonderful people. They’re polite and kind hearted. The truth is, the people who are ugly mean a**holes are a small minority. It’s fitting because just about everything (I’m presuming a few things here) about them is small. That’s why they work so hard at making the loudest noise. They’re coming from a place of fear…and everything goes downhill from there. The point is they seem bigger and more important than they are. But in fact, it’s not *how* they are. And it’s not the way it is.

Once when I was working in the check-stand, I was dealing with a particularly loud, mean and angry person. As a young woman I took this personally. Over the years I quickly learned to think of myself as a rock in the stream bed and everything simply washed over me and I didn’t budge. I could decide what to let in. There was no delete button, sadly. I took a lesson from my mother whose favorite saying was “love your enemies; it’ill kill ‘em.” I developed a litany of phrases expressing regret: “I’m so sorry you had a problem.” “Is there something I can do for you?” “Would you like me to call a manager for you, sir?” And I accompanied these inquires with my *concerned* look. The guy eventually stormed off and then I did what I always do. I looked up at the next person in line, smiled and said: “Hi. How are you today?” The woman looked at me and said: “I just want to say that it was an honor to stand here and watch you be the bigger person in that situation.” I think it’s one of the best complements I ever got. It felt like triumph over adversity.

Maybe there’s something about the written word or print that makes things seem more significant than they really are. The daily news for example, is not comprised of stories that tell the truth which in fact is that bazillions of people and their families and loved ones woke up this morning and did just fine. Indeed, for most of us around this part of the world, that’s the case! We take it for granted and the daily news is the documentation of the opposite of that: these people woke up today and everything went painfully wrong. But it’s the exception not the norm. I’m taking a long time to remind you that the small brains and the haters–although louder and demanding more attention–are the exception, not the norm.

Most people are quite lovely and nice. They just don’t make a big show of it.

I thought the picture of the skinned knee at a picnic with strawberries was sweetly touching. And I’m glad for you that you have a delete button and you’re not afraid to use it. :-)

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Elizabeth August 31, 2011 at 10:15 am

Isn’t it so sad that this type of behaviour is so widespread? That it is amplified by the anonymity of the internet, that people can be so heartless, so cruel, so disgusting as to be this shallow.

I see this on my site sometimes, but I can only imagine the amplification of someone with your readership and followers.

I’ve said this to my husband a lot when we are talking about why people are so mean or why some of my family has nothing but negative things to say about my achievements. They are jealous. They see your happiness, your comfort in your life, in your body, in your voice, they see all that they have never been able to achieve and they lash out.

It takes a certain amount of maturity to see the beauty in someone else’s life when they have all that you do not, and I see a lot of people have not achieved this maturity. Yet they have the technology to spread their words wherever they want, trying to bring down the happiness of those they despise (or is it really idolatry?).

This is a beautiful piece Shauna, a piece full of beauty that shines with your inner strength. Thank you for sharing your pain with us, and I hope that you know there are more of us that love you for what you do than despise you.

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Amy Lee August 31, 2011 at 10:18 am

I think your writing is brave and beautiful. I am so grateful for your recipes and how much of yourself that you share with all of us. Having once been a blogger myself who let the haters get to me, I applaud your strength and vigilance. I know it’s not easy. Thanks for not letting them win. It is a victory for all of us.

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Nancie McDermott August 31, 2011 at 10:20 am

What a magnificent essay, what a powerful, profound, moving piece. There is so much in there, like a wonderful meal which encourages gatherings. Thank you for finding what it took to put this into words and put them out there. You have nailed something that we prefer not to see, as our seeing things made them true or not true. Every kind word multiplied, every mean word shrivelled up into rice husks that blow away into the wind. Keep on.

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Nancie McDermott August 31, 2011 at 10:22 am

Mistake in what I wrote and it matters: a crucial “if”.
“…You have nailed something that we prefer not to see, as if our seeing things made them true or not true…”

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Noel August 31, 2011 at 10:23 am

Thank you for having the courage to share this. On a high traffic day, my blog only sees around 200 hits, but I’ve still been on the receiving end of many vicious, hateful, personal attacks via the comments. I cried the first time it happened. I didn’t delete it at first because so many sites say it’s wrong to delete comments. A few days later, I deleted all the hateful comments this person left. It’s very challenging to learn to put aside the hate and anger and realize that it’s not about you. I’m still learning to do it. While I am very sorry to hear how much hate is wrongly directed at you and your lovely family, I appreciate your willingness to out these trolls (though that seems far too gentle a word for them). Thank you for your beautiful work and for being brave enough to share it.

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Cindy in Tennessee August 31, 2011 at 10:24 am

I don’t have the words to express how sad I am that you have to endure such crap. But I am so glad that you are still posting and sharing. I’ve read your blog since before you were married. I’m not gluten-free, don’t know anyone that is, but I enjoy hearing about your life and your perspective on it, the good parts and the bad.

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Sophia August 31, 2011 at 10:24 am

Wow, people seriously have too much time on their hands! They must be jealous of your confidence and success. I’m sure I am just saying what most normal reasonable people think. Keep doing what you are doing, you are an inspiration!

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Lauren August 31, 2011 at 10:25 am

Interesting, the Washington Post just did a piece on almost the exact same phenomenon, so you’re certainly not alone! http://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/e-mail-brings-a-blue-streak-of-hate-filled-profanity/2011/08/19/gIQAXJvoQJ_story.html

Anyway you and your family are beautiful, lovely people, but you already know that and I’m glad you’re not going to let the trolls win. Of course they’re projecting their own insecurities. How many of them do you think are happy with themselves and have secure, healthy relationships? Probably not too many. Anyway you have too much talent in writing to stop now!

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laura August 31, 2011 at 10:25 am

bless you shauna, and keep up the good work!

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Julie August 31, 2011 at 10:28 am

Shauna,

I have to tell you that I have never left a comment on anyone’s blog. EVER. But, sitting here, reading this and hearing how people who are just so absolutely jealous of you and your success are saying these things to you….it makes me sick. Nevermind the tears that went streaming down my own cheeks, just knowing that other human beings can be so cruel breaks me in two. These people obviously have nothing better to do with their lives. You have worked very hard for all the good that has come into your life and I give you credit for being strong and continuing on for those of us who enjoy your writing, your images, your recipes and all else that you offer. If it weren’t for your blog I would have been totally lost when I was first diagnosed. I have devoured it from the beginning. Those of us that have followed you for even a short time know that you are a good hearted soul and a good mother to Lucy. What we are have to realize is that the ones doing the criticizing are the ones that need quite a bit of self improvement.
All the best to you and your beautiful family Shauna. Keep up the AWESOME work!!

By the way-I make your pizza recipe all the time. It brought pizza back into my life!

Thank you!

Julie

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Jen August 31, 2011 at 10:31 am

you bring delight to the world. you have changed my life. to have spent a tiny amount of time in the presence of you, your kind and funny husband, and your lovely, sparkly daughter? One of the greatest gifts the universe has given me. to read your words, to cherish my signed copies of your books, to come here for laughter, tears, inspiration, lovely food? a bit of beauty, light, happiness, and comfort in the world. that you have the confidence to be yourself and to live beautifully is an absolutely wonderful thing for the rest of us.

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Emily August 31, 2011 at 10:35 am

Thank you for your honesty, Shauna. Almost as soon as I started writing art reviews for a blog last year, I got my first nasty, personal attack comment – it was shocking, infuriating and cowardly. And it took awhile to learn how to ignore it.

I appreciate the joy you share through your blog so much, keep on chuggin’.

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Lisa @ GF Canteen August 31, 2011 at 10:36 am

Hey Girlfriend. ::Applause:: Standing up and saying this is a milestone. I wish more people would take a moment and let those very unfortunate, unhappy bullies know that their words are not going to make our voices silent. (I can think of many instances where that silence grew, only to lead to dark places in our history.) I am hoping that now that you’ve said it aloud, that more people will take a stand and not let this stuff slide. As we can see in the larger world, letting it slide is leading to some serious issues. One (joyful) voice at a time – not silenced by the bullies – can make all the difference between a world with daylight or a world filled with darkness. I love you even more for this. And anyone who messes with Lu has to answer to a way bigger power – karma. With a little help from your friends, of course.

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Beth (OMG! Yummy) August 31, 2011 at 10:41 am

It truly makes me sad that in your beautiful writing, food, and photos, so many can find ways to be ugly. I am so glad you shared the details – it is a lesson for all of us and I find it particularly meaningful having two teenagers that are living in the online world and already experiencing some of the less pleasant aspects of it.

Thank you for your honesty and for writing through it and continuing to share your positive attitude.

For the first time in my life, I am struggling with a slowing metabolism and a scale moving in an upwards direction, despite my usual exercise and good diet. Yesterday my husband said (somewhat jokingly but not really): If you’re happy you won’t gain weight (or at least you won’t care). He knows I eat well and exercise and will figure this out. And stressing out will certainly not solve the problem.

I was at a Jewish Food conference weekend before last and saw a pediatric neurologist speak who changed her whole practice to focus on healing people through food. She felt constrained by only having prescription drugs as a tool for healing and started focussing on other ways to help people get well. Her practice is called BrainMending. It was fascinating and a good reminder of just how important food is to our health and happiness.

Thanks for reminding us of that every time you write.

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pnkrokhockeymom August 31, 2011 at 10:42 am

Thanks for this. I’m so excited to have found your blog! We seem to have a lot in common. I’m looking forward to taking some time to read older posts and to seeing your new ones.

Your family is beautiful, from where I’m sitting here in my office (procrastinating) as a new reader.

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Mama without instructions August 31, 2011 at 10:42 am

I really can’t believe people can be so awful. Thank you for continuing to share the joy and love despite it all. You are so strong and grounded, truly an inspiration!

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Christine (Blisschick) Reed August 31, 2011 at 10:44 am

For every sick and sad troll out there, you have a hundred people who adore you, who see your beauty, who admire your wit and wisdom, and who can’t wait for every word your write because each bit of it resembles the best meal we have ever eaten, locked away in our memories and called forth through your magic.

People are cruel because people have been cruel, so every day you live in that joy and you pass that on to Lu know that your love for one another ripples out and on good days? It saves people. IT SAVES PEOPLE.

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practical cat August 31, 2011 at 10:45 am

I just wanted to echo what everyone else here is saying, in the hope that another positive voice might be some comfort. I’m sorry, from the bottom of my heart, that you have to put up with such terrible responses… and I hope it’s some comfort to know that you do a lot of good for a lot of people (far more people, I am sure, than are deranged enough to harass you).
Thank you for having the courage to speak out about this, and the courage to keep going in spite of all that negativity. And thank you for once again reminding us of the importance of being comfortable in our own skin!

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DessertForTwo August 31, 2011 at 10:45 am

I am absolutely apalled at the comments people have said to you. For every nasty comment, may 1 million times the love be showered on you.
You are FABULOUS, SELF-MADE & DESERVE EVERYTHING WONDERFUL IN LIFE.

MUCH love,
xoxo
Christina

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SE August 31, 2011 at 10:48 am

I’ve never commented before, but I wanted to applaud you for telling the truth and not letting a handful of bullies stop you from doing something that a whole bunch of other people think is wonderful. Including me. Just reminds me that I need to leave more positive messages for the bloggers I love. Thanks for everything you do!

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Caryn Rose August 31, 2011 at 10:49 am

I have been in your shoes. I have been in your shoes, for writing about music, for caring about it passionately, for having the money and the freedom to travel and experience music live, to be able to live my life as I wished to live it. I had people angry that I lived in a city they wanted to live in, but for whatever reason could not.

For that, I have been pilloried, and criticized, and I have had – and still have – lies made up about me. I too let it silence me for too many years, before I realized that the people doing that were such a small majority. I woke up one day and decided I was tired of not getting credit for the work that I was doing, because I was scared of small, petty people.

But it is hard to get there! Very, very hard.

I am just glad there was no Twitter or Facebook when I was in the middle of it. And I may be in the middle of it yet again – I currently have someone who, while blocked from commenting on my website and on Twitter, has a column open on Tweetdeck following my conversations, and when anyone agrees with me or RT’s me or replies to me, he instead attacks them. I have had to stop following friends who for some reason follow this person because I could not stand to see his name in their timeline.

I am a busybody who will call out bullies where they stand because no one ever did it for me.

I am glad you are standing up for you.

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Dani August 31, 2011 at 10:49 am

That is absolutely disgusting. It is so sad there are people in the world like that-it’s one thing if it is a verbal fight and it comes out in the heat of the moment because it is usually something that was only used to attack…but in this case for people to take the time to write such hurtful things with the intentions of being malicious is unbelievable. Keep ignoring them-their lives are obviously less than yours anyhow

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Snippets of Thyme August 31, 2011 at 10:50 am

Have you hugged people who are a size 4. All bones and fragility. But when my more womanly sized friend gives me my monthly coffee morning get-together hug…it is such love! So here is a big warm happy hug from me to you!

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Very Bloggy Beth August 31, 2011 at 10:51 am

This is my first time to your blog. I saw Jennifer Weiner link to the post in her Twitter feed, and I found this post. I’m so, so sorry to hear that you have had to put up with those awful comments. I’m a blogger too, though my blog has a MUCH smaller audience. I have thus far been able to avoid this kind of attention. But, I read a lot about it from more visible bloggers, *especially* mom bloggers for some reason. I think people are jealous, and uncomfortable in their own skin, and feel the need to take it out on people they’ve never met, and likely won’t meet. It must make them feel better, maybe for a moment. At least I hope so, because if it doesn’t even give them a false sense of self-esteem, well, then it’s the most evil thing on earth. Judgment for judgment’s sake. What a shame. P.S. Your blog is lovely. You gained a new reader today.

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Amaia August 31, 2011 at 10:51 am

Hi Shauna,
I am so sorry to hear about the hurtful messages that you receive. My heart goes out to you and your family to have to endure that horrible negativity. You are someone who is are happy with the life you have created for yourself, and that makes people very jealous.

For every person who writes a hurtful message, I bet there are at least 2 others out there like me who have been moved by your words here and in your books to be passionate about food again. Others like me who were upset by their diagnosis and were stuck on the words “I can’t have” until they read your work and had an entirely new world of food open up to them, pomegranate molasses and all.

Your posts are inspiring, caring and a such a joy to read. I appreciate every one of them. Thank you for courage and strength to keep posting and sharing.

God bless,

Amaia

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Kathleen Ojo August 31, 2011 at 10:52 am

There are people in the world that almost have me convinced that we have lost the last of our humanity; there are others who remind me that warmth, joy, kindness, and acceptance still exist. You are the latter, and I am grateful every day for your words and recipes, the images of your beautiful family, and your fearless approach to life which is always conveyed through your blog.

I can only assume people are mad raving jealous: that you travel, that your opinion is sought out and valued, that you do not work a typical 9-5 in a cubical, that you have a healthy, beautiful daughter and a husband that embraces and supports your chosen career, and that food and exercise are thoroughly enjoyed in your house, rather than feared, restricted, or used for punishment.

I wish all the haters would realize that, if they could only pull their heads out of their asses long enough, fulfillment of that magnitude could exist for them too. Joy is there for all of us, if we could only open up to it.

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Phinn August 31, 2011 at 10:53 am

Hi,

I just found this blog via another one. I enjoy your writing very much! I particularly enjoyed the first few paragraphs describing your trip to New Orleans. It’s obvious that when you write from joy, your words flow and paint beautiful pictures. When you write from frustration and sadness, it feels much more flat and cold. Don’t do that anymore! Forget the trolls! Be happy! Be healthy!

I plan on reading you regularly from now on as well :) Thanks for your blog!

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mary August 31, 2011 at 10:56 am

Shauna turn the comments off this is appauling you shouldn’t even have to sit thinking about deleting this vile rubbish.

And it does just sound like envy and spite.

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Becky August 31, 2011 at 10:57 am

People SUCK.

Only it’s not just on the internet – I’ve had people criticize me to my face for things that they know nothing about. I just keep in mind what my dear Granny always said – Opinions are like a**holes, everyone’s got one. And then she would not so politely tell you what could you do with yours. (She was not particularly known as a sweet old lady.)

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Jenna August 31, 2011 at 10:58 am

Shauna,
I think you are beautiful, but not because of your hair, your weight or any of your physical attributes. Your Soul is beautiful, and that is the only thing I see.

The others that criticize and tear down, their souls are beautiful too. They’ve just forgotten… and they are working overtime to cover up their beauty. I hope they discover their own beauty again, so they can shine too.

Keep being beautiful. The beauty that you are eliciting across the world far outweighs anything else.

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Kelly August 31, 2011 at 10:59 am

I’m so happy you are finally speaking up about this abuse and going public. It’s a shame that some people have no happiness in their own lives that they have to spread that hate they carry to people that do not deserve it.
You keep on keepin’ on doing your thing.
Let the love fill you up.

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Sara Kate August 31, 2011 at 11:00 am

Brava, beautiful woman.

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Kelly Tirman August 31, 2011 at 11:00 am

Beautiful post – great timing. Just today I got a similar nasty hateful comment on one of my blog posts. It really bummed me out but you made me feel 100% better.

You are a beautiful person.

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Yc LePew August 31, 2011 at 11:02 am

What is WRONG with people? This made me so sad to see that there is needless hate which only generates more.
I, for one, find great joy in your blogs and thank you every day for helping me through life.
Keep on keeping on.

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Lindsay August 31, 2011 at 11:03 am

You are a beautiful women inside and out! These terrible people are extremely jealous of your life and how happy you are. I was diagnosed the same time that you were and your blog has helped me with so much more than celiac disease. Please continue to be the YOU that all of your readers love and admire!!!

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Amy August 31, 2011 at 11:03 am

Isn’t it so much easier for people to either envy someone or judge them. They are truly the easy paths. I hate you because you’re better than me; I hate you because I am better than you. Accepting and taking charge of your own life is the hardest work of all.

I can’t even tell you how much I value and cherish your insights. Your medium is food and recipes and cooking, but your real gift to all of us are your insights and reflections on life. Celiac is your way in to the soul. Thank you for all you do. There are lots of us who cherish and accept you just as you are (even if we don’t really know you). xo

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z August 31, 2011 at 11:03 am

Keep up the good work. You are sending love and positive messages and wonderful recipes out into the ether, and we are grateful to you for it. Shame on those who would send such hateful and cruel thoughts in your direction.

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Rob August 31, 2011 at 11:07 am

I just found this post on Twitter. Never saw your site before, may not again. But for what it’s worth from a random stranger, you do not deserve the abuse. No one does. It would be a much better world if no one ever had to experience garbage liek this.

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Ann Marie @ CHEESESLAVE August 31, 2011 at 11:08 am

When my first cookbook hit the bookstores 5 years ago, I couldn’t believe the nasty emails that started flooding in almost instantaneously. I have ended up a food blogger. And the vitriol keeps a comin’.

It seems that there is an inverse relationship between how popular you are and how many ogres emerge from the netherworlds, waving lit torches.

I want to also add that plump children are HEALTHY! Look back at photos from the early 20th century. They had meat on their bones and pinchable rosy cheeks. The cookbooks from that period recommended cooking with lard, butter and heavy cream.

My 4-year-old daughter towers over her friends and wears a size 6 already. It is my personal belief that most kids in this country are malnourished, appearing waiflike and scrawny. Not surprising, as they subsist on cereal, skim milk, packaged chicken nuggets and low-fat frozen yogurt. I believe that deep down, the parents of these children are angry because they deprive themselves (and their children) of ice cream and butter. And so they light their torches and rail against those of us who are not starving ourselves.

Your writing is like a leisurely bubble bath with the New Yorker. Thanks so much for this post, and for your lovely blog.

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Melissa August 31, 2011 at 11:11 am

I am so sorry you have to deal with the, “trolls.” You are a total blessing to me. I recently found out I am gluten-intolerant and a google search led me to your site and it was kind of like the clouds parted, the angels began singing, and a bright light was shining. I am very thankful for you and what you do. Warm thoughts, heartfelt best wishes, and positive vibes to you and yours.

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Emily August 31, 2011 at 11:11 am

Shauna….I guess you are a hugging person and I will give you a virtual hug right now. Consider yourself hugged. If people say mean things, they are reducing themselves. YOU ROCK!! I love your posts, your blog, and your recipes. I do not think I have ever posted before, but I want you to know that my husband Jon and I admire you and your beloved Danny and Lu very very much. I know it’s hard to let what other people say go “in one ear and out the other,” but truly in this situation, it is a must. They are the losers. We love you!!!

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Karla August 31, 2011 at 11:11 am

Shauna, I am utterly astounded, shocked, disgusted and saddened that people would not only criticize you, your family, your writing, and your photos but be so hostile. I’m so sorry that you, and others, have endured that. One of the reasons that it is so shocking to me is because with every entry that you post (and I read them all!) you maintain optimism and light and sheer goodness in spite of the nastiness sent your way. On days that I’m not feeling at the top of my game, or a little lost in the world, I have found that you are a touchstone and you always inspire me on so many levels. If there were more people in the world like you and your family, the world would be a much much better place. Thank you for not letting them quash your beautiful spirit!!!!

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Cynthia Baxter August 31, 2011 at 11:11 am

I’m totally floored!
Wow. Well, what they’re saying has Nothing to do with you, that’s obvious to me.
It is a fact that what we think we don’t like about another is really a reflection of how we feel about ourselves or an issue we struggle with and haven’t been able to see, thus the “projection” on others.
Any time you put yourself out there you open yourself to this, because there are millions of humans out there – all seeing the world differently.
I love your blog and your family seems so wonderful.

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Sarah August 31, 2011 at 11:12 am

Shauna, thank you for your strength and courage and wisdom. When you embrace who you are, and celebrate your flaws as part of what makes you unique and beautiful, it paves the way for others to do the same. It paves the way for me to do the same. Thank you for your spirited posts and for sharing the spirited life you lead! I am grateful for your presence online and for the many smiles that your writing — and YOU — have brought to my face. Your writing and your life as as delicious as your recipes! Thank you, thank you, thank you.

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Rachel Stone August 31, 2011 at 11:12 am

I’m sad that people say such awful things to you. You’re right–their lives must be very small and pathetic. Your response is so wise, mature, and courageous.

My blog is still new, so I haven’t gotten a lot of judgment yet. Already, though, people have suggested that I am “too thin” to spread an authentic message of joy in eating and body acceptance (my blog is Eat With Joy). Here’s what I said to them: http://eatwithjoy.wordpress.com/2011/08/22/am-i-too-thin-to-say-accept-your-body/

Bottom line? You GO, Gluten Free Girl! So glad you keep walking on and singing your song.

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Dawn Casey August 31, 2011 at 11:13 am

I’ve never commented before either. But obviously, I’m agreeing with everyone else on here: these people are ridiculous. I used to have a public online life (different name) and was so beaten down by the trolls I went offline for an entire year. I didn’t even want to check my email, which of course would only be from family and friends. I was so freaked out and upset that I couldn’t do it. Now, I ignore them. I do think, however, that this is a scary trend that is only getting worse. The internet and its anonymous wall are making it possible for people to do things they never would have before. And it’s not making us better, it’s making us worse!

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ceaadams August 31, 2011 at 11:15 am

I’ve been reading for years and never commented, but this post compelled me. I am so sorry that you deal with such awful, awful people. I absolutely love your blog, though I’ve never even made one recipe. I love it because of your attitude towards life. You say Yes! You live and love the people around you voraciously. It’s inspiring. Please forge ahead. Eventually joy will win. It has to.

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Deliciously Organic August 31, 2011 at 11:16 am

Your post brought a flood of tears. I can’t believe how harsh and cruel people have been, especially when it comes to your family. I’m encouraged that you’ve kept going and decided to be bigger than them and continue on. I love what you’re doing and think your family is absolutely precious.

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Corrin August 31, 2011 at 11:16 am

Shauna, I’ve never posted before, but I had to after reading this. Kudos to you for carving out a wonderfully educational space for all of us, gluten eaters included. Happiness thieves abound, as a happy person you obviously get that. Just knowing their there is enough. Keep on with your posts and thank you for coming clean with the negativity. Everyone benefits from the while story. That is the only way to live. Nice job.

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Kate August 31, 2011 at 11:17 am

I love to see when a new post comes up in my RSS feed. Even this one, maybe especially this one, because of your honesty. The clarity that you put through words is one of the best parts of your writing and I look forward to it, looked forward to it even through this post brought tears to my eyes. All the things you have done for this community, for its individuals, and miserable little people with hateful minds have the gall to do these things to you. It’s shameful. But you make me proud to comment here, to post on my own blog, because you’re not afraid of them or their nastiness. Keep saying yes.

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nicole August 31, 2011 at 11:17 am

I barely have words to write in response to this — how can people …?! Well, you know all that already.

Mostly, just briefly to say: I am sorry you have to deal with this (and I agree with your friend; you are joyful, which for so many of us is lovely and inspiring but then for others calls to their minds their own insecurities and failings) for it’s truly awful. But also, bravo to you for speaking out and for staying strong. You are wonderful.

And Lucy is a beautiful and lucky little girl. She radiates light and joy, too.

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Kristin August 31, 2011 at 11:18 am

All I have to say is “WELL DONE!” As someone who has struggled with self image my entire life, this post brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for being yet another voice that speaks the truth about loving and accepting our God-given bodies! It is a truth that many people- including me- need to hear. :)

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Judi August 31, 2011 at 11:20 am

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Eleanor Roosevelt
One of my favorite quotes.

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pamela August 31, 2011 at 11:22 am

It is unfortunate that in the midst of so much positive and appreciative feedback, the cruel and biting ones will still grab us. My blog is fairly new has a very small following, and what I’ve experienced is far, far less than what you’ve described, but it’s there. I have toyed with stopping, considered being less positive, wondered for a heartbeat if it was my fault.

I love what you write about food and friends and family, but I am even more grateful for your open direct comments about this truly shadowy subject.

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Amélie August 31, 2011 at 11:24 am

I rarely comment; I tend to be more of a lurker, maybe because I’m shy in person and so end up being shy online, too. I did feel the need to say, however, how much I appreciate your blog. I love how joyful it is, I love the good recipes I find there. I am immensly sorry to hear about how much hate is directed at you because of it. I think anyone in the public eye is bound to have “haters”, but I never realized how bad it could be. They must be unhappy people with empty lives to say such things. I’m glad that you continue blogging anyway, as I trememdously enjoy reading what you write! I wish you all the best.

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pamela August 31, 2011 at 11:24 am

Oops, I forgot to mention that rice salad looks absolutely wonderful.

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Alexa August 31, 2011 at 11:32 am

Hi Shauna: I love your blog. I read it three to four times a week. I think your writing is wonderful, your life, exciting and I tune in for the recipes and the joy. I’m not celiac, just someone who likes cooking food that is gorgeous, like EVERYTHING you put up on this site. I think I’ve commented only once or twice before, but I just wanted to say that if I’m out here (the silent superfan) then there must be many more of me. I feel sorry for those who are eating themselves up inside with vitriol and hatred. I feel more sorry that they have targetted you with their mongering. You rock. I think you said it best. Just hit delete.

Thank you for the many lovely hours I have spent with you and your family.

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Jillosopher August 31, 2011 at 11:35 am

I simply want to leave you a message of love and support, in my own tiny way, hopefully, negating some of the hate. <3

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Lynn Pawluk August 31, 2011 at 11:36 am

Shauna,

In the immortal words of one of my mentors (who was 75 years old and sporting a silver pony-tail at the time): F**k ‘em if they can’t take a joke. You and Danny and Lu are nearly perfect in every way – take a good long look at all the posts before mine, I’m not the only one who thinks so. Sadly, there are people in this world who just can’t go on unless they are criticizing others to make themselves feel better about themselves. So, skim those nasty posts, tell the psychos they’re welcome and let it go. You’ve done them a service. To the rest of us, you bring joy. Love you guys! Lynn

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Madeliene August 31, 2011 at 11:38 am

Thank you for sharing your experiences. This post moved me to tears, and I appreciate your honesty – it mimics what so many female bloggers experience.

Love who you are, dance and post and play and eat as you please, and live with all the joy and gratitude you feel for life. <3

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Maria August 31, 2011 at 11:39 am

Far out! This makes my blood boil! Fair enough our blogs are there for everyone to see (and therefore give criticism), but those comments you’ve received are simply disgraceful, unnecessary and plain stupid. I’m sure you know there are many of us who look up to you and are here to support you! Keep doing the good job Shauna! xx

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Dee August 31, 2011 at 11:39 am

Keep on keeping on, Shauna.

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Melaina August 31, 2011 at 11:42 am

Hi there, this is the first time ive read your blog and i am so happy to have come across such an inspiring individual. I to am a joyful person and have had some set backs due to behaviors of people who are not comfortable in their own skin. I thank you so much for sharing your life with us. Its sounds like so much fun. This recipe looks amazing and i will try it sometime soon. (: Im sorry that you have to deal with such small minded individuals that feel that the only way to feel superior is to put down someone just because they are “JOYFUL”. You have such a beautiful personality and it comes across in your writings. Stay strong momma and keep keeping it real…..Fake people suck ( such a the trolls you encounter on a regular basis) Thank you again. Looking forward to your next one. (:

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Aylin August 31, 2011 at 11:46 am

I had no idea. I am so so sorry you have to endure that. Thank you for continuing to share your story here despite it all. As I’m sure you know, for every hater out there, there are thousands of us sending love your way.

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Green Key August 31, 2011 at 11:49 am

Shauna, I haven’t commented in a while, but I check your blog regularly and always delight in a new post. I love your personal stories, and that you share so much of who you, and your family, are. You are a wonderful writer, and you’ve done so much to help the GF community. I just wanted to be another positive voice against the haters today. I hope they find their way out of hell, and quit sharing it with you!

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Valerie Rawlinson, RD August 31, 2011 at 11:51 am

http://www.yarnharlot.ca/blog/archives/2009/07/25/dear_blog.html
You are not alone in trying to shine a light on this issue. Stephanie Pearl McPhee aka “Yarn Harlot” is a wonderful blogger about knitting, and has also spoken publicly about this issue, you might find a kindred spirit in what she had to say (link above). She’s wonderful too. :)

I am a RD, and am gluten intolerant. Your blog is one of my favorites personally and one I send new GF people to, especially those who need a good shot in the heart of hope and joy in life after gluten. Your cookie posts and what I learned from them gave me back wonderful, soft, beautiful, perfect Sugar Cookies, an integral part of the Holidays for me- the best I have EVER made. You understand that food is joy, family, soul, spirit- not just chemicals, with or without gluten- and you help people create that in their own lives again, or for the first time. Don’t ever shut up. Get Louder!!! :)

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Liz August 31, 2011 at 11:52 am

I’ve been a size 2, and frankly, it was no fun at all. I was so set on what I could eat and drink (mostly processed junk) that I couldn’t enjoy the dining experience and stopped palling around with some wonderful people simply based on the chance that we might end up in a situation where I’d have to eat something made with real olive oil or my wine glass might not be an exact 6 ounce pour! Who wants to sit around eating cooking spray with people they don’t like?

A couple of years ago, I met my boyfriend, John, and was somewhat forced by the situation (his refusal to eat diet food) to start eating in public again…and not at places where I could order a boneless skinless chicken breast cooked with no oil or butter, please. I gained 20 pounds in the first five months we were together, just from eating real food. While that is a large amount of weight for such a short time, those were not unhappy pounds. Quite the opposite. I loved making dinner with him, and I still do. We have Sunday dinner every week with his Puerto Rican parents, and there is no way that I’m not going to enjoy a fried plantain or two when they have spent the afternoon making them to share with us! This blog, and so many others, have piqued my interest in whole grains and good carbohydrates. I’m going to eat double coconut jasmine rice and curried millet and oatmeal with banana and Nutella. I am going to do these things because I feel like this small thing of eating foods that I truly enjoy has made me a happier person. It has made loving my boyfriend and my friends and my family a joy, because I can share with them and not be worried about how I’m going to explain my uneaten potatoes. If it is possible, gaining weight has made me the happiest person I’ve been in my young life. Sharing food and conversation has increased my capacity for love.

You, Danny, and Lu, young as she is, all understand the type of sharing that I am writing about. In my opinion, and that of so many of your readers, that is what makes you special and what has drawn us to this page day after day. The need to share things that have made your days better has made our days better. Sure, there are people out there who don’t like you or your writing, but they are insignificant in the grand scheme of things. They may not like your weight or your hairstyle or your schedule, but you know what? There are plenty of size 4 women out there with an abundance of free time, and they are criticized, too…just ask my wonderful mother.

The bottom line is that at the end of the day, you just have to make yourself happy, and that joy will find its way into the hearts of the people who value you. Shauna, in your writing, your cooking, and your philanthropy, you have been so successful in this. The wonderful comments on this wall are here because you have put a little more joy in our lives.

Sorry I wrote a novel.

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Terry August 31, 2011 at 11:58 am

Your friend said exactly what I was going to say – unhappy people can’t bear seeing other people happy, so they do all they can to tear them down and make them unhappy.

I’ve never understood the people who waste so much energy endlessly mocking the things they dislike (Dooce sees a lot of this sort of thing, too). Life is too short.

I guess you could also say you’ve hit the big time, if you have mock Twitterers out there! ;)

I’m sorry you have to deal with the haters. Know that the rest of us love reading what you write.

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olivia August 31, 2011 at 11:59 am

Thank you.

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Dorothea August 31, 2011 at 12:01 pm

My heart always breaks at the realization that such cruelty does exist in our world, and that it’s often directed at innocent targets. By its nature, cruelty needs a target. Bless you for wanting to stand up against it – you and your family are loved and your anger at such cruelty is justified.

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Jeanene August 31, 2011 at 12:03 pm

I think your blog is wonderful, your food is delicious and looks great, and I enjoy reading your posts. I’m inspired by your story. I’m new to the world of reading blogs so I’m also shocked at the level of hate and vitriol you, and other bloggers, experience. It’s horrifying. I don’t get it at all. I worry about your daughter because some idiot/criminal may indeed want to do her harm. Hang in there and know that the vast majority of your readers are big fans of your work, your writing and your food. The rest are just sick.

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Jenny August 31, 2011 at 12:04 pm

Dear Shauna,
Never commented before either… but we have a mutual friend! (Marcela, Pip in the City from Buenos Aires, she’s my bestie and has always spoke so highly of you!) I saw this post retweeted by a friend of mine and clicked out of curiosity because I have felt that shadowy side to having an online presence, but never experienced it personally – more just through the community… whoa. I cannot believe the magnitude of hate that you have dealt with! I am so baffled that is out there, towards you and other bloggers. I do not understand it… but then again, everything you say reminds me of how every blog friend I have that has more than a few readers deals with this. You don’t deserve it, not one bit of it! I hope that the love and joy that you have gained from sharing your beautiful stories and recipes far outweighs all that ugly! And I think putting it out there isn’t giving the trolls attention, but telling your truth. Ignoring this kind of abuse may may compound the heavy burden of having to always pretend it isn’t there. No human can withstand that kind of constant hate, and it can feel alienating to wonder if you are the only one getting it. When you say stop it loud and clear on your blog here, I feel like it makes you stronger.

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MizDahlia August 31, 2011 at 12:08 pm

You know, Shauna, I’ve been reading your blog for years because it’s so relentlessly positive. It’s not that you don’t have a real life, with real hurts and real scares and real disappointments – but what you CHOOSE, consistently, to put out in the world, is joy. I always respond to that with a small inner thank-you…and I think many, many of us do. Thank you for choosing joy and for being brave enough to put it out there. There will always be haters lurking behind the vast anonymity of the Internet; but you, YOU…keep on spreading the love. And I’ll keep on reading :-) .

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RachelB August 31, 2011 at 12:09 pm

I’m here from Shakesville, where you were linked in the blogaround. Just popping in to say I’m sorry that people are hateful to you, that I am happy you are both systemically joyful and willing to talk about why online harassment is messed up, and that the brown rice salad looks gorgeous and I am bookmarking the recipe. All best to you.

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Angie August 31, 2011 at 12:10 pm

Thanks so much for writing this. There’s alot of days I only get negative comments. They are mean, hateful and sometimes just make no sense. And although the sweet comments outweigh the bad, it’s always the bad one’s you remember, not the sweet ones, no matter how flattering and wonderful they are. I am always so careful what I tweet, facebook, or blog about, so careful not to put up something that may offend, and I’m frankly sick of it. I’m so glad you opened up the conversation about this, sometimes I think it’s just me. I hate it so much than I’m writing to prevent ahole commenter trolls from ruining my day, constantly restraining from sharing my opinions or lifestyle in fear of retaliation.
Your beauty and joy inspires me to keep on going, thankyou so much.

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Angela Korra'ti August 31, 2011 at 12:11 pm

Hi, I came over from John Scalzi’s blog, and after reading your post, I just wanted to drop you a comment in support of not only your choosing to post whatever you feel is appropriate on your blog, but also with your body comfort and your peace with your health and life, which is beautiful. :)

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Arya August 31, 2011 at 12:13 pm

Dear Shauna,

I think it is important to speak out, and I applaud your post (well, every post, actually, but perhaps this one in particular). As a personal style blogger, I post pictures of myself. I, too, responded publicly when I received a harrassing comment. It was my first one, but I decided that I would not tolerate such behavior, and I made sure to let everyone know. I understand that it isn’t necessarily that you “care what people think about you”, it’s that you want this space to be safe, inspiring, and joyful for all of us, but especially for you. It is, after all, of your creation!

Last spring I started a “Shame-free Blogging” campaign. I mainly shared it with other style bloggers, but I feel that it is something that reaches beyond a blog’s theme to its very content. If we share about our joyful-by-choice lives, those who are somehow damaged often respond with venom. We don’t have to drink their poison, nor do we have to pretend that they aren’t dosing it out. It’s bullying, plain and simple – an effort to shut someone else down. I believe that we can make a difference with posts such as yours.

I hope for the Shame-free Bloggin campaign to be an annual event in the blogosphere, and I wonder if you – and anyone else reading this – would like to participate in the 2012 event. You can read about it at this post (http://www.seattleyogini.typepad.com/style_trumps_fashion/2011/04/my-perfect-body.html). We’ll do it again on April 15, 2012.

Good for you for speaking out. We cannot expect the blogosphere’s climate (or the “real life” social climate) to change if we stick our heads in the sand so as not to “attract more trolls”. No. We must take a stand for respect, civility, and joy. Thank you for continuing to inspire.

Cheers,
Arya
http://www.styletrumpsfashion.com

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Rachel August 31, 2011 at 12:21 pm

I’m glad to see that so many other readers had the same reaction I did — anger that people have been so senselessly cruel (where do they even find the time much less the resentment to write such things?), and a desire to let you know that there are many, many of us out here who regularly read and are inspired by your writing.

So keep it up! I hope the negative and angry commenters can move on and do something more productive with their time.

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Wenderly August 31, 2011 at 12:25 pm

*standing ovation* whether it be the “editor’s voice” or some poor pathetic soul, nothing can contain your brillant sunlight. Keep shining. {many tight 8 second hugs to you}

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Courtney Cantrell August 31, 2011 at 12:27 pm

Shauna, this is my first visit to your blog. GOOD FOR YOU ON ALL COUNTS. I love your attitude. You’re an inspiration. Thank you.

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Maureen August 31, 2011 at 12:28 pm

Hi there, I’m very new to your blog and new to being gluten free. I was diagnosed with Hashimoto’s Thyroiditis a year and a half ago. I had literally off the charts antibodies, but it hadn’t killed my thyroid yet (it was borderline), so I was told there was nothing I could do to stop feeling the way I felt. I was told to just wait a year and then the antibodies would destroy it enough I could be on medication. I was told that probably my hair would fall out and I would gain weight. I was told there was nothing I could do.

I spent the last year and a half, painfully, crushingly exhausted. My skin grew flaky and brittle and had broken out in a horrifying acne that spread across my entire face and neck, resistant to any over the counter medicine. And worse, I felt like a couldn’t think, speak, be myself. I was in a horrible fog.

Randomly, last week, I stumbled on an article about Celiac disease and possible connection to Hashi’s. Next, I found your blog. I am only on my third day of being gluten free and I could cry from joy. I had no idea it would be so sudden and profound of a change. After weeks and months of being so tired it was painful to stay awake past 8pm, I bounded out of bed this morning, refreshed. I ran last night. Not because it was scheduled exercise, from the sheer exhilaration of having energy in my body. I am so, so, SO happy, grateful and relieved that there is a road back to me, who I used to be, and maybe even someone healthier and happier than that.

A huge part of this beginning of my recovery was (and is ) your blog. Thank you, thank you, from the bottom of my heart for relating your experiences, your wisdom, your journey and most of all your joy of living. It absolutely inspired me and has helped change the direction of my life. I am deeply sorry you’ve had to deal with such vicious attacks in the course of sharing your life. I have no idea why people are so cruel on the internet, but I just wanted you to know that for all of the horrible comments, there are probably a dozen people like me who are so sincerely grateful for your blog and for you as a person. Thank you, so much.

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Maureen August 31, 2011 at 12:29 pm

I meant for EACH of the horrible comments there are probably dozens who are grateful. I am pretty sure that many more than a dozen people read your blog. ;)

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elizabeyta August 31, 2011 at 12:28 pm

Shauna,

I have never understood why so many people would take so much energy and time to be so negative and hurtful. I have had friends who have dealt with this same situation and I still do not understand.

I enjoy your writing and recipes. If I did not, I have the choice not read it or recommend it. I recommend your blog all the time to people who are dealing with having to avoid gluten or be gluten free.

(((hug))) and blessings

elizabeyta

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Emily | Nomnivorous August 31, 2011 at 12:28 pm

Seriously? I cannot believe people are this cold and mean… Ok, I can believe it, but it blows my mind. To dwell SO MUCH of your life on hating someone else hurts my brain. And the “anonymity” of the internet has made trolls much braver at spitting their vitriol. We should be talking about this, because the bitterness that exists in this world needs to be fixed.

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lynne palmer August 31, 2011 at 12:37 pm

I’ve heard of your blog, but never read it before. Today was my lucky day! Wow! You speak for all the women I know who have felt the tyranny of expectations. And those idiots, don’t let the haters stop you from telling your story. As you said, who has time to go and read all these blogs and find something to hate in them!

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Janice August 31, 2011 at 12:39 pm

Thank you for posting this, and talking about the dark side of social media. It is perplexing and disturbing that the same medium that can bring people together to support Jennie in her time of need is also the same medium that allows trolls to perpetuate such vicious and mean spirited attacks.
I continue to be inspired by your joyous spirit and exploration of the world of food, and am amazed by your generousity of spirit — especially in the face of such nastiness. Keep up the good work, and please give Danny and Lu an extra hug from all of us!

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Nina August 31, 2011 at 12:46 pm

I’ve only just recently discovered your site (and after the gluten free oreos, you can darn well bet I’ll be trying out every other recipe you’ve got here! :D ) and I’m so sorry that there really are small minded, bigoted, utterly *repugnant* trolls running around. You’re doing wonderful work.

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bridget {bake at 350} August 31, 2011 at 12:53 pm

Wow. I have seen some of the hate directed at another blogger. And the funny thing is, I think Brene is right, she is joyful. She is happy. She enjoys her life. And THAT gives people reason to be so hateful? It makes me really sad.

I’m so sorry that you’ve been a target for them. Here’s what I know…I’m not gluten-free, but I read your book and was moved to tears. You keep doing what you’re doing…you inspire people. Hoping some of them read your post and see the light.

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Jeanne August 31, 2011 at 12:53 pm

Hello, I’m a new-ish reader of your blog and just wanted to join the chorus of support. It is sad that people have nothing better to do than be evil, that they’d rather belittle others efforts than create something of their own. I can’t imagine filling my life with such negative energy.

Which is why I am a a fan of yours and your joyful approach to life and cooking. I just read your and your husband’s cookbook cover to cover and thought it was fantastic. Your unabashed love for each other and great senses of humor make the story a joy. Thank you for sharing your story, in the book and online, honestly and joyfully.

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Cam Seslaf August 31, 2011 at 12:53 pm

Delurking to say that you and your family are a great inspiration to me. Really. Just that. So THANK YOU.

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Sarah V August 31, 2011 at 12:55 pm

Shauna,
I’m new to your blog, but your writing, photos and recipes are life-giving, beautiful work. I’m horrified at the mean-spirited comments you have gotten. Your post just took my breath away. I know you already know this, because I can tell that you’re a joyful person who is healthy in body, mind and spirit, but these people are sick, and their own worst enemies. Please don’t give them a second thought or waste any of your time and creativity on them. Keep being the authentic, wonderful person that you are–I love your work, and your family is beautiful! Blessings on your day!

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LauraJayne August 31, 2011 at 12:55 pm

I really REALLY really sorry for the negative comments, tweets, etc that you receive – I had no idea and I’m not sure I understand what motivates people to be mean, hurtful, and negative like that. I want to think that it is more reflective of themselves (or their own self image) and I KNOW it has nothing truly to do with you, but that doesn’t mean that what they say doesn’t sting or hurt. Even if it doesn’t hurt you, if you’ve learned to move past it, that negativity still hurts others, simply by being said. Thank you for continuing to blog and to write – it has already helped me so much.

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Andrea Meyers August 31, 2011 at 12:57 pm

You voiced so eloquently what many of us feel. I wish that people didn’t behave in this way, hiding behind their computers and leaving a trail of hurt across the internet.

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Cindy August 31, 2011 at 12:58 pm

I sat in on your panel for BlogHer ’11. I went to that one to hear Brene and I didn’t know you in the blog world then. But your story resonated in my the deepest. I was absolutely shocked to hear that people do this to you. Completely floored. I think mostly because I don’t understand that kind of behavior. I just don’t get it. There is absolutely no reason to be mean to people. None.

I posted something once about a person that left an annoying comment on something of mine. The person who had left the comment was my mother and she was just being her judgmental passive aggressive self. I know she’s unhappy with her life and it’s probably painful to see me very happy with mine. Suddenly the mean people made a little bit of sense. I feel so sorry for people who obviously have very little love or happy in their lives that they feel reduced to pulling others down with them. Such a waste of energy.

You are beautiful and amazing just the way you are.

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Heather Jones August 31, 2011 at 12:59 pm

Shauna, you keep doing what you’re doing and don’t let the trolls bring you down. I don’t know if you are a spiritual/religious person but if so just remember what God has for you is for you and no one can take that away. Relish in your blessings and keep talking, teaching, and sharing. There are so many people who are benefiting from every single one of your posts.

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Christina August 31, 2011 at 1:01 pm

I’ve always admired people who are real and honest and confident. Something spectacular and disappointing has happened in our food world in the last decade. With the launch of more food tv shows and with the rise of blogging and web videos, we have more access to food, cooking, chefs than ever before.
On the downside, however, we started emphasizing celebrity personalities more than food and community. I’ve always found myself relating a little more to Martin Yan and Julia Child –who cook slowly, don’t use a gazillion swap outs, and teach more than try to entertain, and in doing so make you feel at home in their kitchens. Shuana, you do such a phenomenal job of teaching about living gluten free and educating a world. You were my lifeline when I first started eating GF. I don’t know how I would have done it without your courage, with your “Yes!” attitude. Life would have been much harder.
I join the chorus of readers who say that hate mail is horrible and undeserved. You’re wonderful. Your family is wonderful, skinned knees and all. :) Thanks for sharing, and I hope you continue to share! Keep on keepin’ on!

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Maureen August 31, 2011 at 1:02 pm

I also have never commented before, but wanted to thank-you for your honesty and let you know that there are NICE people out here too…and we love you. I frankly can’t quite believe there are people who would criticize your weight or that of your sweet child’s (and they’re allowed to vote and drive cars)….it’s shameful.

Take care and God Bless.

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Brenda August 31, 2011 at 1:03 pm

After getting about 2 minutes into reading your blog I forgot about my initial intention…the recipe. Although it looks amazing, it doesn’t compare to the strong and encouraging words you wrote. Lavish in your success, and know that the opinions of those who insult you don’t matter. Who is anyone to sit in judgement of someone else? Especially when it comes to your child. I hope you enjoy many more sunny days filled with dirty feet and fresh strawberries. I work at a bakery that makes Gluten-Free Macaroons. I’ve been known to have one or two or even three once in a while. That doesn’t make me a bad person…does it? Best of luck in your endeavors. I’d love to see/hear you speak if ever you are in or around New Hampshire. -xoxo

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Kate Hoag August 31, 2011 at 1:05 pm

I love your blog. I related 100% to what you wrote. Thank you for sharing your gifts of good food, good humor, & love of life. So very many of us appreciate the work you do. In the words of my husbands grandfather, kill ‘em with kindness, Shauna. Kill ‘em with kindness.
Big hugs from AZ

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Kim August 31, 2011 at 1:09 pm

This is my first post online; I guess I would rather read than talk… But after reading your latest post, I wanted to say thank you. Thank you for sharing your love of food, and a corner of your life online. It is saddening, disappointing, and startling to hear about the hate you have encountered. In light of this, I am even more thankful that you take the time and effort to share with us. Thank you. Keep deleting.

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allison burgueno August 31, 2011 at 1:11 pm

Thank you for sharing. The recipe you posted looks something similar to what we had for dinner a few nights ago – and it was brilliant.

I think your photos look full of love. You look like you enjoy your life and the food.

I’m so envious that you can make a living doing what you love. It shows and that’s beautiful.

Even though I don’t know you, I wish I could meet you, only to be inspired and have a mentor that was REAL and didn’t try to hard at everything they were good at nothing except trying hard.

Best of luck to you. You’re lovely.

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Diana@Spain in Iowa August 31, 2011 at 1:11 pm

Shauna, I’m just crying after reading this. I wish more of America could see that healthy is not what our media claims it to be. Well said and I hope that selfish, hurtful people will leave you alone. You are a breath of fresh air to many!!

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Gina August 31, 2011 at 1:11 pm

Hi Shauna. It’s clear you and Danny and Lu are so loved by the amazing responses to this post. :) I just wanted to say that sometimes when I read my local newspaper online, I inevitably scroll down to the comments and am no longer shocked by the hate that anonymous people tend to spew. It used to make me feel so icky and violated after I’d see how mean and nasty people can be. But then, I noticed that in most cases, the comments contained poor grammar, misspelled words, and plain old bad form. Somehow, this made me feel a little better….knowing that these people were displaying not only their nastiness, but their ignorance and lack of basic education as well.

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Erica August 31, 2011 at 1:20 pm

Shauna,

I found your blog five years ago after I was diagnosed with celiac and it was the inspiration that kept me going through the diagnosis, the death of my mother, having my boyfriend walk out on me because my life had gotten too real for him, and a host of other crises that all seemed to cluster together. I am so grateful for your bravery and your willingness to be honest and joyful because there were plenty of days when I would turn to your blog to borrow a little bit of the courage and joy I was having trouble finding for myself. Thank you.

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Jean August 31, 2011 at 1:25 pm

Well, this just makes me want to barf, scream, and cry. I will never understand why some people are ugly. I have a son who is impaired, but he LOOKS normal. I’ve been stunned and wounded over the years at the hostile and ugly comments I’ve gotten about his behaviour. People feel they have some sort of RIGHT to say whatever they want to you. It’s hurtful, but
I am probably a nicer person today because of it. I am not gluten-intolerant, got your book from the library, was charmed by it, and started to read your blog. I’m still charmed, and I love reading about you and your family. I am a LITTLE jealous of where you live, but that might be because I live in Texas and it’s been about 245 degrees all summer. You just ignore those folks, Shauna, and as my dad would have said, “Don’t let the bastards get you down.”

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casa de crain August 31, 2011 at 1:27 pm

First time here. You write wonderfully. I’m sorry you have to endure this. Know that for every simple, unhappy, ugly person out there, there are many more who are thoughtful, happy and beautiful and you are definitely one of them.

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LSH August 31, 2011 at 1:27 pm

You are an amazing, brave woman and Lucy is lucky to have you for her mom. I hope you realize how important the lessons you are teaching her are and how well they will carry her through what can unfortunately be a cruel and heartless world. I have fought with my weight for nearly 40 years and am finally relatively happy with where I am; just prior to giving up gluten two years ago, I suddenly lost 20 lbs. (from eating applesauce & plain chicken) and certainly didn’t look better or healthier. Thank you for all you do for the GF world and for rising above the idiocy that the Internet seems to breed.

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Melissa August 31, 2011 at 1:32 pm

I’ve only been an occasional reader over the years, occasional for no other reason than I don’t spend a lot of time on the internet. I found this post from Cheeseslave’s facebook post today. I want to say that I think you’re lovely. And I have always loved your love story.

Reading this made me think about a story my dad often tells. I can’t remember it word for word but it has to do with Mexican blue crabs found on the gulf. He said that if you put a bunch of crabs in a bucket and one tries to climb out then the other crabs will pull it back down. He said that a lot of people are like this. That if one person is successful then all the other crabs/people will try to pull them down.
Don’t let the crabs get you!

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sarah August 31, 2011 at 1:36 pm

My heart is heavy with the thought of someone saying such awful things about that sweet little Lu. I never will understand and don’t want to.

I commend you for keeping this place up. For trudging through the negative to bring your life and passion to the front line to those of us that are so very thankful. I’m sorry you must endure and I’m not sure if I wouldn’t just pull it all down and retreat. Thank you for battling on.

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Liz D. August 31, 2011 at 1:37 pm

I love your blog and read everything. Hang in there. Those people who judge you and say such mean things? I have a feeling they won’t fair very well on Judgment Day. God will judge them and it won’t be pretty. I know you have tons more fans than trolls, but I know it hurts because we all want to be accepted. It’s just that these trolls don’t matter.

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Lisa August 31, 2011 at 1:39 pm

Wow.

I know you mentioned hateful comments before, and I was astounded then, and I am astounded now. Why would anyone spend even a moment of time writing such hurtful things to someone that they don’t know? Or even, if they knew you, why bother? I honestly don’t understand the drop in civility I see in the online community. Is it the anonymity? Even so, what could provoke someone to speak to anyone so hatefully? (My own opinion is “talk radio” – the drivel and pomposity that emits over the air waves makes some believe that they have license to behave badly too.)

I’ve been reading your blog for years. I’m not even gluten-intolerant! I read because I love your writing, I love that you are so positive, and you’ve made things happen in your world. How brave you are. And you are a role model.

When I meet someone who is gluten-intolerant, I say “oh I have a friend who has celiac, and she writes a blog that’s so helpful”. That’s right – my friend. I’ve watched you through meeting the chef, and waited anxiously when Lu was born, then going through her trials. I feel like you’re a friend, someone I like, and I care about.

The comments piss me off! I’m sorry you have to endure them. I don’t know, maybe you should take Scalzi’s approach, and just out them when they come. This community will defend you vigorously. But, selfishly, I’m glad you delete them. I no longer read my local paper online, because my eyes would stray to the commentary there – egads!

Keep writing. Your good, and you make me hopeful.

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Sofya August 31, 2011 at 1:40 pm

A beautifully written piece, Shauna! I am glad you got it out – I think other people who come up against this experience (in life or on the web) are helped by your sharing, certainly I was!

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Teresa August 31, 2011 at 1:41 pm

Shauna,
I never comment on here but read every single one of your posts. I felt compelled to today. The ugly and vicious words of others that you described breaks my heart. These despicable people obviously lack the beautiful and loving people in their own lives, and feel the need to cast their resentment and jealousy onto you and your family. I’m so sorry you have to endure this. Keep pressing that delete key! <3

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Spark August 31, 2011 at 1:45 pm

I don’t read your blog. I don’t know who you are. I was given a link to this, and I just want to say thank you for writing it. It was beautiful, and somebody needs to be saying it.

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Laura August 31, 2011 at 1:45 pm

Trolls, by definition are not nice people. Do not listen to the trolls.

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Jeanmarie August 31, 2011 at 1:46 pm

I had no idea things were so bad. My sympathies! ROCK ON, grrl!

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Marsha MM August 31, 2011 at 1:48 pm

Hi. I just hopped to this article from a friend who linked to John Scalzi’s blog about you and this post. I am so sorry. There is so much hate in the world today and I sometimes fear we’re going to explode of it. I am sorry that it hurt you.
I kind of get why people lash out (but not much). At one very low time in my life, I was lashing out offensively on the theory that if I struck first, it would keep those who would hurt me at bay. Yeah, but it also kept those who’d be my friends at bay. Not so effective, and happily, I figured that out really quickly.
I have no idea in the world why any person would post that kind of psycho crap on a stranger’s site. As you’ve realized, it’s not you, it’s totally them. please stay yourself and keep blogging, cause now I know you’re here and will be reading avidly.

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Julie August 31, 2011 at 1:50 pm

Wow, I am absolutely agog with this intense, mean-spirited judgement of your life and work. I am “lucky” to have a site that gets very little traffic which is just fine with me as it is more of a personal scrapbook for my family and close friends. I do not know what I would do if I was constantly wading though a shit-load of nasty comments. Well, actually perhaps I do. I would attempt to emulate your honesty and openness and take a big breath in an out and I would choose joy. I read your blog often but have never commented before but felt compelled to today (me and everybody else!). Sending you love and happiness and most of all JOY!

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lulu August 31, 2011 at 1:50 pm

I never would have thought you would get hate mail or awful comments like that. What is wrong with people? I have a shop on Etsy, and not long after i had opened it i was “featured” on Regretsy… It was really disturbing, the comments people made about me personally. Say what you want about the things i make, but so much hatred? I guess there are some bored, very unhappy people out there who have nothing better to do.
I love your blog by the way, it’s fantastic,and thank you for continuing to share :)

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Mel August 31, 2011 at 1:52 pm

Absolutely beautiful – the salad as well as the sentiment explored in your post. I write a small blog, but of the many I read, this seems to be a recurring problem. As with any unprovoked negativity, it always feels best to meet it with compassion, which is what you are doing. There is so much room for all of us, and I’m happy to see you are comfortable in continuing to take and make your own space.

Best,
Mel

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Rhian August 31, 2011 at 1:54 pm

Both my daughter and I have Celiac disease. We were both diagnosed this year, and it rocked both of our worlds, hard. Because of your blog, we have kept our sanity.

You inspire us. Please, please, please, please, don’t let the naysayers affect you. You are beautiful, as you are.

Your family is beautiful, your soul is beautiful, your heart is beautiful, your food is beautiful

(I even purchased your book, just to keep print alive.)

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Irene August 31, 2011 at 1:58 pm

Shauna,
If it weren’t for you, I would still be mired in self-pity, not knowing what to do about this gluten-free world my naturopath directed me towards. You taught me to be joyful about what I could eat, to not dwell on things I could not. I am so much healthier and without pain now. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. As for your “tormenters”, pray for them and ask God to bless them — bless and not curse them. How many thousands of people have you blessed? Only God knows!

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Annie August 31, 2011 at 1:59 pm

As if life itself isn’t hard enough, there is always someone who has to go and make it worse. The photo of your daughter is the picture of a summer well lived! Playing and running around outside in the dirt and eating fresh strawberries with your mama. It doesn’t get any better than that! Thank you for continuing to share your life with us.

p.s The rice salad looks divine. I can’t wait to try it!

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AlexandraRS August 31, 2011 at 2:01 pm

Thank you for taking the time to address the backside to blogging. I had no idea this sort of stuff was happening. And probably happening on other blogs I read. I hope you’ve received enough positive comments on this posting to know that you’re doing the right thing. Keep doing what you love!

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Elizabeth August 31, 2011 at 2:04 pm

Shauna, this is the first time I’ve read your blog. I plan to read it in the future not just because I’m gluten-free but also because I’ve just gained a whole world of respect for you because of this post. It quite brave of you to write about this in such a forthcoming way. It’s shocking to hear that people write such terribly hateful things to you (my jaw actually dropped at some of the statements), especially because you’ve done something that is so hard for most women: You’ve come to accept your body as it is, and you as you are. In this day and age, that’s a huge personal accomplishment. It’s inspiring to read you writing about the trolls with such maturity and grace – things that they so sadly lack. I’m sure you don’t need a reminder, but I’m going to say it anyway: There are those of us who would never think of saying such things to you or anyone else. There are those of us whose hearts go out to you when reading such hateful words. And we’re reading too.

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alyssa August 31, 2011 at 2:05 pm

I want to say you are beautiful. Your family is beautiful. Your food is beautiful. I am twenty years old and stumbled across your blog recently after being diagnosed with celiac disease one month ago. Please keep living life the way you are. You are obviously doing something right to be so successful in many different ways. The only reason people feel the need to say negative things to you is because they are not comfortable with their own lives and they can’t stand to see others happy and successful; those type of people want everyone to be miserable along with them. The only thing I have to say to those type of people is, if you don’t like what this inspirational woman is posting online or doing with her life, then don’t look at it or involve yourself in it! No one is forcing you to read her blog or follow her on twitter! I wish, as a society, we could all grow up and come together and support each other. Imagine the things we, as a whole, could accomplish if all of our energies came together towards a common goal of support for each other. The result would be beautiful. Keep inspiring people everyday, you are excellent at it. Love always.

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kellypea August 31, 2011 at 2:05 pm

Wow. I’m not naive because sadly, I have seen the trolls on YouTube and The NYTimes as well, amazed at how pathetically they exhibit their ugliness, so full of hatred the only way they can feel good about themselves is to wallow in the anonymity the Internet provides us. So very weak. But I wonder, isn’t it harassment when you have to deal with what you’ve been delivered? I think so. I’m horrified.

I’m glad you’ve decided to write about this because if no one speaks out, then nothing can be done. And? I had no idea you were 45. Gorgeous skin, beautiful eyes, and a bright, bright spirit.

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Caroline August 31, 2011 at 2:05 pm

I heard about this post on twitter and I had to read it, beautifully written it was too. I am so over the hate and bile you see on comments these days, on every single post on Facebook and on News stories and Youtube (especially youtube) just has a stream of angry hateful posts following them. It makes it all so meaningless though, I don’t really have any respect for any comments I read anymore, they just say much about society and humans in general and nothing about what they are supposed to be commenting on. Just remember, it means nothing, its not about you, as soon as they’ve done with your blog they’ll be in youtube posting something equally vile. It’s a complete waste of time for you and the person who’s writing it, I mean maybe it makes them feel good at the time because they would never dare speak up in real life but they don’t achieve anything. Sorry success means dealing with these things these days.

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Miss @ Miss in the Kitchen August 31, 2011 at 2:06 pm

Shauna, I have been thinking of sending you an email, but I’ve been busy and I could tell so had you. After reading this I just had to leave a comment. I had heard of you for years, but only recently began to read your writing. I wanted to tell you, I think you are a beautiful person! Your writing speaks to me, tugs at my heart. I am relatively new to the world of blogging and luckily have not experienced the trolls. Horrifying, but as I tell my children, just because someone says it, it doesn’t make it true. I look forward to more of your posts, your writing is the real deal, not some made up b.s. from mamby pamby land. Also bravo for ratting out the trolls, what creeps!

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suzina22 August 31, 2011 at 2:08 pm

I am writing this post with tears in my eyes, mourning what has become of our society. Perhaps it has been this way from the start, but I have always looked for the best in people. This has been in spite of some very difficult interactions with very cruel children when I was a kid. I couldn’t understand the venom they were spewing until I realized it came from their parents. As the song says, “You have to be carefully taught to hate.” There is alot of ugliness out there at every turn. I made a decision to not grow up bitter, and to keep my joy. Most of “generalised hate” comes from inner feelings of their inadequacy, not yours. They are jealous of success of others. Keep what you are doing! Don’t give away your power.

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cin August 31, 2011 at 2:08 pm

Shauna, Good grief that malicious spew is cyber bullying really and truly and I am glad you spoke up. I have never thought anything other than how happy you all look and how healthy. I knew nothing about Lu’s surgery or head and I am thankful it all was fine. I enjoy hearing about your day and not just the food. Nothing is wrong with your hubby, how can there be when a man loves someone so fully and honestly to make his entire menu GF!!!
so for those that have nothing more to do with their lives than criticize, just realize that there are more of us out there that say nothing cos 1, perhaps we didn’t know it happens ( I didn’t!) and 2, cos I am here cos need GF recipes and love a peek into someone elses world. and God bless Lu with her skinned knee ( wow she’s a normal kid!) and her berries. better to see that than a fancy dressed little girl all dudded up eating a choc. bar!
Enjoy your life, continue what makes you happy and I for one am glad you spoke up and that you write this blog
HUGS all around!!!

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Michel Jevons August 31, 2011 at 2:11 pm

I have read your book, occasionally read your blog and follow your tweets. Your relationship with your husband is the most beautiful love story I have ever heard and it always brings me to tears. You retweeted the following quote a few weeks ago, “Don’t try to win over the haters. You’re not the jackass whisperer.” – Scott Stratten Amen! Another quote that my bestest friend is fond of saying, “”Fuck ‘em if they can’t take a joke.” -Bette Midler.
Your trolls, God bless their hardened, broken souls, should be ignored. You should be encouraged that you make a difference in many lives, you live with passion and grace and you are loved. I, for one, am grateful for the knowledge and experience you’ve shared. Thank you!

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Danielle August 31, 2011 at 2:17 pm

I am at work as I read this, struggling to keep the tears from flowing down my face. I personally almost never comment on blogs, news articles, etc., for precisely this reason – people use it as a forum for hate, intolerance, judgment and fear-mongering. I am so very sorry that these people exist in the world. I just want to reiterate what so many others have said and say, from the glimpses of you I get from your blog and twitter, I think you are a lovely person. A fantastic mother – that’s easy to see by looking at how HAPPY Little Miss Lucy is. You and the chef also just always seem so happy with each other and your life and that’s what’s important – clearly, though, you know that. And all I can think of, is what a loving, generous person given all you have done for Jennifer Perillo recently. But you don’t need me to tell you any of this. I just wanted to put my good intentions into the world, to counter-act some of the bad that’s out there all the time. Thank you, for sharing your work and your life with us and for letting us in. Please know that so many of us appreciate you and it is simply that the small, sad minority of haters has nothing better to do than comment. Thank you, also, for being brave enough to talk about it.

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Victoria August 31, 2011 at 2:19 pm

Additional thoughts…

There is a time to be a foodie/food snob. And there is also a time when American-flavored processed cheese food is totally appropriate. All about balance.

And also… skinned knees, dirty feet and berry picking? Anyone who thinks that is anything but a near perfect day in the life of a 3 year old really needs to try and remember what it was like to be a kid.

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Stacey Jay August 31, 2011 at 2:19 pm

*hugs*

I’ve never visited your blog before, but found my way here today via twitter. Thank you for this brave sharing.

Much goodness and admiration

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SherryQ August 31, 2011 at 2:21 pm

{hugs} and lots of joyful loving thoughts to you and your family! You are a brave and awesome soul – thank you for sharing yourself with us :)

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Ash August 31, 2011 at 2:27 pm

The amount of hate that flows through a computer screen boggles my mind. I’m a first-time visitor, but I already know I’m going to love it here. Anyone that can say “when in Rome” to grits and Velveeta is A-okay in my book.

Off to read your green bean recipe. Looks devine!

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Claire August 31, 2011 at 2:28 pm

Hello Shauna, I just wanted to add my voice to your cheering section today. I’m a new-ish reader, non-GF, first-time commenter. I very much enjoy your writing; I especially loved your essay on GILT about meeting Danny.

Everything I could say has been said, above, by people more eloquent than me. So DITTO to them, BRAVO to you. Keep on keepin’ on. — Claire

p.s. Also I’m lucky to be an acquaintance of Ms. Nancie McDermott, and I wanted to extend an invitation to come visit us in North Carolina. You know, in your spare time. :) We can make pie!

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shauna August 31, 2011 at 2:30 pm

Claire, any friend of Nancie’s is a friend of mine. I would love to make pie with you sometime!

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Barb August 31, 2011 at 2:28 pm

I am a first time reader. That was beautiful. Thank you.

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Duffi August 31, 2011 at 2:29 pm

Shauna, count me among the many who haven’t yet commented here. I am so sorry that you have been subjected to the vile meanness that the Internet can produce. I applaud your courage and I hope that I can reach your level of comfort with your body. Your child is beautiful and I appreciate the work you do. Many hugs from a distant admirer.

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Leatherneck6693 August 31, 2011 at 2:30 pm

Shauna – bounced over from John Scalzi’s blog to read the entire post. I wish I could claim to be astounded but you are exactly right – read the comment trails for YouTube videos and it seems that they all start with positive or intelligent comments and then start a death spiral to the most vicious and ignorant comments. There is an underclass of desperately unhappy, unsuccessful, and ignorant people on the internet who have so little opinion of themselves that the only way that can feel better is to try to shove someone lower than them on the pecking order. You are beautiful, your blog is delightful and I would guess that your three year old is the delight not only of you and your husband but a great many other people as well. God bless.

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Kelli August 31, 2011 at 2:39 pm

AMEN!!

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Desi (The Palate Peacemaker) August 31, 2011 at 2:42 pm

Shauna, where do I begin?! You are such a beautiful soul. Please don’t stop shining your light. People hate because they do not love themselves – it has absolutely zero to do with anything or anyone outside of themselves. Stay strong and know I’m sending you and your family so much love…. :)

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Sherry August 31, 2011 at 2:48 pm

Wow. I really can’t understand the things people say in comments sometimes. I guess the internet makes some people feel safe being vicious.

I once had an email from someone telling me I was being too secretive about myself on my blog, and they didn’t like that for some reason. I have dealt with weird and mean comments on projects I have done in the past, so I wanted my new blog to just be about the food. It’s strange how mean people can be.

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DerringUndo August 31, 2011 at 2:57 pm

I recommend your blog around so often, but am moved finally to comment. Thank you for writing this post, acknowledging the reality you’re facing. You are most awesome, and sharing your life and your family has been a gift. This part, too.

I am completely blown away by the hate that’s out there and the damage it comes from. And you’re right. It’s not about you.

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Anna August 31, 2011 at 3:10 pm

Shauna- I’m so pleased that you posted this and so sad at the same time that some people just never grow up! My dad recently left a job because he was being bullied by some women and it makes me so angry. The thing about online bullies is that they are complete cowards- never having to reveal their true identities. I’m happy that you’ve had the strength to carry on doing what you do- because for most of your readers it brings us huge amounts of joy to read your writing. Guess it’s easier to say than do- but try to ignore the bullies, they are sad, jealous people with too much time on their hands. xoxo

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June August 31, 2011 at 3:12 pm

Go girl! When I turned 40 I thought, “I don’t care what people think about me!”. Now that I’m 50, I caught myself thinking yesterday, “Now I really don’t give a shit what people think about me!!”. I literally gut laughed out loud in my office. It is true freedom. Walk boldly in it. There will never be an answer as to why there are so many stupid, hateful people out there. Let JOY be your strength. I’m a B.C.-er in the Okanagan Valley. If you are ever up this way we would love to visit with you!

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andrea August 31, 2011 at 3:13 pm

Wow, dear Shauna, Danny and Lucy,

I really had no idea. How awful. Seriously, WTF? This sort of thing makes me feel despair for the human race. Bravo for you to not cave in, keep the light of your voice shining bright and damn the trolls.

hope to see you soon

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cari August 31, 2011 at 3:16 pm

I don’t even know what to say. I love you is all I have.

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Barbara August 31, 2011 at 3:20 pm

Oh gosh Shauna I didn’t realise the depth of the hatered directed at you and your family. I have seen some of the nastiness on Twitter and felt for you, especially when it was directed at Lu. Good to see you rise above it. Hugs to you Danny and Lu.

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Claire August 31, 2011 at 3:23 pm

You are an easy read! Your writing flows.I am excited to have found your blog, please keep writing. Sorry for the people who hate, but I feel sorrier for them for their lives must be bleak.
I am buying your book as soon as I save the money, it will be so fun to cook the recipes! Thank-you for being you.

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MsH August 31, 2011 at 3:28 pm

I applaud you, Shauna, for your bravery for talking about a subject that is all too common these days in just about every walk of life. The level of hate and vitriol has reached an all-time high in the real world…and it’s taken to a whole new level in the anonymous online world. The world is full of unhappy, cruel, abusive people who can’t stand to be in their own skin, they are so miserable, and they take it out on people they know they are safe from through their anonymity. It’s especially hate/violence-fueled when their target is happy, successful, attractive, accomplished and/or kind. I’m just sickened by the things said about you, your husband and even your innocent baby! I know you really stepped out on a limb in approaching this delicate subject and you bared a part of your life that you have managed quietly, but I’m proud of you for speaking up and addressing a subject that is so rampant that it’s infiltrated our society as a whole…from those too young (we think!) to be capable of such cruelty to the elderly for whom life gave them what they didn’t want or didn’t give them what they did want and they are determined that someone’s going to pay…even a blogger they don’t know. It’s not fair, it’s abusive and some of the behavior is almost sub-human, but these wretched souls are filled with hate and evil and that has nothing to do with you, even though they’ve made it very personal. Keep your chin up, Shauna, and remind yourself it’s about what they are, not about what you are. The best thing you can do is continue to succeed and enjoy your blessings!

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Susan August 31, 2011 at 3:32 pm

I am stunned, saddened and heartbroken at the comments you have received. As a severely gluten intolerant and moderately overweight girl, your site has brought me more comfort than I can say. Not only do you live your life with joy, but you bring it to others in spades. I sincerely hope that for every troll, there are 10 times as many supporters. (I have a feeling there are!)

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Carrie Oliver August 31, 2011 at 3:33 pm

Shauna, I had no idea that you and Danny and Lu have been under attack especially in such a coordinated way. I am sending you all the biggest possible hug I can possibly offer to thank you for writing this post and for staying you, despite the horrible things that people have said about and done to you. It makes me shake my head: if someone writes about her passion for food and helps others learn to do so, too, and she is treated this way, it’s no wonder we don’t see some of the best, brightest, and most empathetic people running for political office.

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Anne Morgan August 31, 2011 at 3:35 pm

Dear Shauna .
I’m a 70-year-old fan living in Toronto and uncovering g-f recipes/methods for newly-diagnosed celiac disease. I love your life commentaries, tales of travel and family life. I am single and live vicariously through my friends’ experiences (am also on dairy-free, no salt and low liquid diet due to c.d. and dilated cardiomyopathy/heart failure), so need all the dietary help I can get while preparing meals for one on a very limited budget. Your postings are the first I read – you write as if you’re chatting with me – and I look forward to your family tidings and pictures. Fie on those who would try to spoil those lovely words and experiences. They need to get a life. Keep deleting and don’t read their garbage and take none of it to heart. God love you.

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Tammie August 31, 2011 at 3:45 pm

Thank you for this blog Shauna and for sharing your wonderful stories about life, food and love. I am so glad that you will not allow the trolls to silence you. You mean so much to so many and we love you! Please continue to do what you do!!!

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Suze August 31, 2011 at 3:46 pm

Wow Shauna. I rarely comment on your blog but I have to on this. Only I don’t know what to say. I’m sorry all this s*** is directed at you and your family. I love your blog and if I ever met you I would love you too. Who ARE these people anyway? How utterly pathetic their lives must be. Thank you, thank you for being braver and bigger and more beautiful than they are, for not giving in.

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Aggie August 31, 2011 at 3:48 pm

I have so much to say my head is about to explode!! Shauna I’ve only “known” you a short while and I think you are a beautiful person with a beautiful family. I feel your joy, your love for food and your family and for sharing it with others. THAT my friend is what blogging is all about in my opinion. I’m over all the meanness and negativity that goes around it. If people actually stopped worrying about what others are doing and focusing on living THEIR best life for themselves then all this surly talk would be gone. I admire you so much. Keep posting pictures of Lu and her cuteness. Kudos to you, your words and your talent…keep it real.

XO

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Elan August 31, 2011 at 3:52 pm

This is such an important post! Bravo to you. I absolutely LOVE the joy and verve you bring to your work, your family and your friends. Thank you for all your positivity. I look forward to your tweets and posts each day.

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Janet NZ August 31, 2011 at 4:01 pm

You and Danny are gorgeous, and Lucy is beyond gorgeous.
I’m so sorry there are sad people with sad lives who think it is ok to judge and to hate. My Grand-dad used to say “If you can’t think of something nice to say – say nothing.” Everyone should have a Grand-dad like him.
I’m so glad you decided to keep on doing what you are doing – I don’t often comment here, but I strongly believe there are more people who love you three, and the contribution you are making. Kia Kaha from NZ (it means ‘forever strong’ and is an affirmation) XXXOOO

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Nell August 31, 2011 at 4:01 pm

Wow! I know there are a lot of stupid and ignorant people out there but to be so cruel is ridiculous. You (and your family) are an inspiration. You are raising a strong an independent daughter in a home full of love and we as readers are lucky to have a glimpse of that. Thank you for your strength in sharing! Stupidity is exhausting.

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Amy Ware August 31, 2011 at 4:02 pm

Shauna,

I read your blog because you are awesome, positive, creative, loving, an amazing writer, beautiful inside and out, FUNNY, human, and fill me with joy. I am so fond of you (and Danny and Lu) exactly because of who you are. I still snicker to myself about how somebody farted during your proposal (can’t remember if it was you or Danny). : )

You make my life better. You remind all of us what is important. I’ve never commented before but had to today so that you know how loved you are. Yes, yes YES!

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shauna August 31, 2011 at 4:07 pm

It was Danny! (he’s proud.) and thank you.

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Nancy G. August 31, 2011 at 4:02 pm

Shauna,

I have never commented on your blog before, but I felt compelled to do so this time.

From what I have read, through Twitter and your blog, you and your family are absolutely lovely. I am sorry that you have to go through this ridiculousness and felt terror in my chest just reading your recap of some of the horrible comments. I can’t imagine a life so small, that it must be dedicated to this sort of thinking.

Please keep doing what you are doing, but also continue to out the haters and maybe they will start to go away.

Blessings – Nancy.

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Marcy August 31, 2011 at 4:03 pm

I have never read your (fantastic) writing before today, but I will be back. You are so brave and I am hopeful that letting out this frustration brought you peace! As I always tell my daughter, the way people treat you has everything to do with how they feel about themselves and nothing to do with you, really, so just live in your joy and let them be…

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Baking N Books August 31, 2011 at 4:06 pm

I just cried.

There is so much hatred in the world. I can’t handle it sometimes…

Bless You and Bless Your Family.

That is all.

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shauna August 31, 2011 at 4:10 pm

Ah, but there is so much love, too.

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PeeDeeFoodie.com Publisher August 31, 2011 at 4:09 pm

We didn’t formally meet at IFBC, but my wife and I admire what you do and how you do it. Stay strong, keep the faith and continue having fun being an excellent food blogger (and resource to others).

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Carrie August 31, 2011 at 4:10 pm

I had no idea. Well done to you for keeping going and doing what comes naturally. I read your blog and love it, I have purchased and read your two books and love them too. Your recipes are fantastic and work (always a bonus) and taste delicious even if I have had to substitute ingredients (I”m in Australia and some of your ingredients I have never heard of :)

I am sure you have brought love and light into lots of peoples worlds and it would be a crying shame if you felt compelled to stop. It would be understandable, but a great shame. I hope this great outpouring of love in the hundreds of answers here from normal people help.

All power to you Shauna and love and best wishes from Australia to you and your family.

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shauna August 31, 2011 at 8:39 pm

The day has been astounding. But believe me, I had no intention of quitting before I wrote this. Now? No way.

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Deborah Mele August 31, 2011 at 4:11 pm

Thank you for this blog Shauna and for sharing your wonderful stories about life, food and love and your family. I rarely looked at other food blogs until last year and yours was one of those I quickly became addicted to. You mean so much to so many and folks who follow you & appreciate all you do.! Please continue to do what you do as you do it so well! If you ever get to Italy you are more than welcome to visit us here is Umbria with your family.

Deborah

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Cookie and Kate August 31, 2011 at 4:19 pm

I’m so sorry that you’ve been the recipient of so many cruel comments, Shauna. I think the internet brings out the worst in some people. Growing up, my mother always said to me, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all.” That has become my policy in the online realm, too. I can only presume that the people who spend their time writing cruel, hateful and judgmental comments would be better off devoting their energies to improving their own lives.

I’m not gluten intolerant but I enjoy your blog and your recipes. You’re an inspiration, and I’m glad you don’t let those mean commenters bring you down.

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RMMC August 31, 2011 at 4:22 pm

First, that recipe looks wonderful! Second, so awesome to hear about your travels and eating without becoming ill. Very encouraging for me to hear. Last, I am so sorry about all the very sad people in the world who have nothing better in their lives than to be nasty on the internet where no one knows who they are.

You are an inspiration to many.

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Terry August 31, 2011 at 4:25 pm

I’m new to this site, directed here by blogger John Scalzi. I might not have clicked on the link had I not just read another piece about women bloggers being targeted. I guess I’ve been saved because of my androgynous first name (not to mention that my blog is so, so tiny, and my other blog, where I do most of my blogging these days, is impersonal and about books — not much about my life shows up there. But obviously sexism is alive and well, and worse, it’s been freed up to be terribly hateful online in ways it can no longer exist much in real life. Computers are a blessing, but they’re also a curse.

But sorry as I am for what’s been going on with you all these years, and as awful as I think it is, I’m even sorrier for myself that I haven’t known about your blog before this. Your voice is so true and compassionate and warm and funny and personal and wonderful. Your writing is amazing. This is a terrible reason to have discovered you, but it is a very happy accident indeed. I will be reading you every day now, to hear about Lucy and Danny and food and fun and life and love. What a joy it is to find something so special in the world, hiding right here on my desk all the while.

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Elisa August 31, 2011 at 4:27 pm

Shauna,

I’m new-ish to your site and to gluten free life. It’s been about a month for me. I stumbled across your blog that first week, when I was struggling to figure out what I could and could not eat. I became a fan immediately, and have recommended you to several GF friends and even a GF baker here in San Diego.

I’m not new, however, to online interactions. From message boards of 10 years ago to blogs today, people for some reason simply would rather be horrible to one another online than support one another. I’ve been a member of the Health At Every Size community (well, a marginal member; less a blogger, more a commenter/reader) for the last few years, and it seems that when people see someone who is truly happy with their body they can’t help but hate that person. Actually this happens offline too. I’m only moderately fat (a size 16, with gluten bloat gone a small 16), but I remember in college walking to a party, feeling excellent about myself and my cute outfit, and being mocked by people sitting on their front porch as I walked by them. “Jenny Craig is that way,” they said. I was so hurt. I’d never met these people before in my life, and had been minding my own business, but apparently I looked too pleased with myself.

The point is… People (especially online, since it’s so anonymous, but anywhere really) will be awful to one another. The majority of the people – like you and me – will be nothing but supportive and loving. But there are a select few “wonderful” people out there who will be terrible to others, no matter what. But they are not people worth paying attention to. For whatever reason their lives don’t make them happy enough, and they don’t feel good enough about themselves, until they hurt others. Ignoring them is the only option.

You are a beautiful person, inside and out, and your website is a constant source of comfort in my little gluten and gum free world (oh yes, I learned early on in my GF “career” that gums affect me just as horrifically as they affect you!). Your family is incredible and I love reading about your adventures. I even went back in time last week to read all about how you met the chef. Trust me, your stories do so much good – it would be a travesty to let the haters win.

Keep your head up and keep writing, please!!! :)

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Elisa September 1, 2011 at 9:51 pm

Wow… And apparently I angered a troll enough that they had to come over to my website and leave me a love note. I have ARRIVED!!!!

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shauna September 1, 2011 at 11:15 pm

Hey, congratulations!

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Elisa September 2, 2011 at 6:33 am

Thanks! ;)
((HUGS)) to you… No matter how hilarious my experience was… It can’t be fun to have that crap constantly filling your inbox. Keep your head up!!!!

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Kristie August 31, 2011 at 4:30 pm

I read this before work this morning and have been thinking on it all day. It doesn’t matter what others see when the look in your husband s eyes. It only matters what you see when you look in his eyes. People who look at Lucy and see negatives don’t matter. It only matters what she sees when she looks at herself. You seem to be living in a bright, fun and loving place. And if I recall my faitytales correctly “trolls” live under bridges in their own flith and unhappinesss. So keep them where they belong……beneath you. I am recently GF and have never been happier or healthier. My husband was inspired by yours and now is excited to find and cook food I can eat. So thanks.

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Gillian @OneGiantStep August 31, 2011 at 4:40 pm

This is the second post I’ve read today written by a woman blogger (two completely different genres) telling the story of internet bullying. I am beyond shocked that anyone would even take the time to write such vitriol and drivel but can’t imagine how I would react should it happen to me. I wish you strength and love and can only imagine that with Brene Brown on your side you will fight the good fight. good luck.

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Christiane August 31, 2011 at 4:40 pm

I am a chronic lurker to your site, and your twitter and FB posts. They truly make my day. You are truly a gifted storyteller, and your food has made my family happy to come to dinner again. My six-year-old shows everyone who comes to our house the cookbook that is “ALL GLUTEN-FREE!!!” before serving your delicious peanut-butter brownies. Thank you for what you do. Please don’t stop because of small, negative people.

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Wendy August 31, 2011 at 4:53 pm

I am probably 1 of many silent, grateful readers of your blog. When I first learned I had to give up gluten, I went straight to the internet looking for some sort of miracle cure. What I found was your blog. You quickly convinced me that this would be the start of a journey rather than mourning what I would have to give up. Your joy for cooking and experiencing life is contagious and I have spent more hours in the kitchen the last 3 months than I may have in the previous few years. My husband is excited about that! Thank you so much for your inspiration!

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Julie Melin August 31, 2011 at 4:58 pm

Shauna and Danny and beautiful Lucy,

I have learned so much from you all. When I was first dignosed with celiac 6 years ago finding you was my first glimpse of hope. Following your romance encoraged me to renew my own home’s romamance and helped me rememebr to make it count. When Lucy was born I sent you a suprise gift to Danny’s resteraunt because I wanted to celebrate these two people bringing a new life into their world to learn what love is about. Since then I have followed you on this and the other blogs often hopeing to be able to see pictures of you three so I could celebrate how life is good and how you are blessed. Because of you my world is bigger and I eat more and better for my body foods. I love seeing Lu and her friends and how she is learning and growing. It feels like watching a niec. Do not listen to the false voices that say untrue things about you they are lies and I hope some of the love from those of us out here in cyber land sinks in and erases some of the wrong words and lies that are vomited on you.
Keep doing the right things and saying yes it is the truth that needs to be spoken.

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Jamie August 31, 2011 at 5:06 pm

As someone who is so far out of the loop that is American food blogs I usually mostly complain about the pandering that I see; you know, those who seem to spend their time sucking up to anyone they think is important, grabbing onto their coattails hoping to be dragged upward on some invisible and imaginary wave of greatness instead of standing on their own feet and talents. The nastiness you describe is something I don’t see much of from my corner of the world although I have heard that it happens and I’ve experienced a so much milder version of it on Huff Post pieces. But your post has shocked me! I am shocked that there is so much hate and negative judgment out there. I am shocked that so many take the time and energy to actually search you or others out just to push their hate into your faces. One thing I brought away from IFBC this past weekend is the strength of our bonds, those who love what we do and take pride in it. We were all equal, all eager to meet and get to know each other, inspired to be together learning, sharing, laughing and, yes, eating with others who are as passionate as we. I am glad that we had the chance to breakfast together – and thanks to you, Kat and Lora for forcing me to try those grits – and chat. And I know for one, I won’t quit what I love doing so much. Thank you for having the honesty to post this.

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Michele August 31, 2011 at 5:13 pm

Thank you for this post. You are so brave and have set an amazing example of someone who rises in the face of adversity. Who we all strive to be. Shauna, thank you for being such an amazing example.

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Jen Catlin August 31, 2011 at 5:14 pm

LOVE! YES! DANCE NAKED!
M basic standards for life that you inhabit through everything you do. Thank you.

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Catherine August 31, 2011 at 5:18 pm

You are one brave lady! I’m glad you didn’t give up because I get great pleasure from your writing and recipes. When I feel down I look at your website! Is there a way to have comments with certain words blocked so you never have to see them? Where would we all be if you weren’t giving us all those wonderful recipes? Lots of love to you and your family!

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sp August 31, 2011 at 5:22 pm

wow. I had no idea. hang in there. I’m just average joe, no blog, no desire to. Just looking for gf recipes and a nice story. hang in there

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sonya August 31, 2011 at 5:31 pm

Shauna, Whoa! Perhaps I’m naive, but I am shocked by what you’ve written. How could people be so horrid!?! Yours is one of the first food blogs I started reading regularly, and it was in large part due to your voice being so strong and confident and honest and … sane. I never, ever would have guessed what was going on behind the scenes w. horrible troll comments. I don’t know if I could ever endure such nasty comments about my personal life as you have done so gracefully. Frankly, it makes me scared to think of ever increasing the traffic on my own blog. It is incredibly sad, as you say, that our culture has become so judgmental and critical. As a result, it is much easier to be dishonest – to falsify, embellish or minimize truths about ourselves. You take the high road by being honest – in spite of the fact that by baring yourself you make yourself vulnerable to various trolls who are hidden behind their computer screens. Kudos for your bravery. And integrity. Thank you.

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Peg August 31, 2011 at 5:35 pm

Shauna,
At this point you have 406 comments, but I wanted to add my own. Keep on truckin’ Keep doing what you’re doing. I’m mostly a lurker who is gluten sensitive. From the moment I found your site years ago, I have relied on you and on your writing to make my day – to cheer me up when work got me down – to be you. Thank you so much for sharing your life and your loves and your cooking with your LOYAL readers. If it helps at all, Paul Krugman, the nobel prize winner!, also has his trolls. And that’s what they are – trolls. Please keep writing and sharing.
I met the love of my life in my 50′s and we just celebrated our 3rd wedding anniversary in July. I’m not a cook, but I’m a knitter who is just beginning to design. My first design is a lace shawl, Waves of Lace, at http://www.mostlymerino.com/kit. You are an inspiration. You are my inspiration. Please continue to take good good care of yourself and your Family. You are the Best! And I’ll keep reading! And, to hell with the trolls!
All the Best,
Love,
Peg

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Keri August 31, 2011 at 5:35 pm

Thank you. For being strong. For being honest. For being above it all.

I teach my students everyday to be respectful of one another and to treat everyone as kindly as possible. But, really, it’s not the children who need retraining. It’s adults. Adults who feel entitled, who feel it’s okay to speak their mind because they have the ‘right’, adults who judge others on the basis of a single post. And yet, the only thing that they succeed in doing is creating a world where it is okay to talk badly of others with absolutely no repercussions. People need to be held accountable for their actions. Yes, especially adults.

Please know that I have read your blog and enjoy it thoroughly. And from the looks of it, you do have a lot of people who care!

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Sharon Wachsler August 31, 2011 at 5:38 pm

I was absolutely appalled and disgusted to read this. My heart felt so heavy. It’s just unbelievable. Truly, I don’t understand it. I read other blogs that have “comment policies” because apparently they receive these same types of horrific, violent “comments” as you do. They have posted getting rape threats, death threats. These are all women or transgendered bloggers, mind you.
I have been blogging for two years, and I never have gotten these kinds of comments. Maybe it’s because I mostly blog about my dog, and dog people seem to enjoy reading about dog training, I don’t know. I sometimes blog about controversial topics, but maybe my blog is too insignificant to trigger the kind of vitriol yours has. I have recently started a new blog that will focus on my writing, which includes erotica, and I wonder if I’ll start to receive hateful, vicious comments then. I hope not. It turns my stomach.
That people could say those things about your child, it turns my stomach. I can’t fathom that kind of hate.
Thank you for doing what you do. I only stop by your blog occasionally because I have so many food allergies that there is virtually no “recipe” I can follow (gluten-free is just the beginning), but I certainly appreciate that you and your blog exist.
Thank you for your courage and integrity.

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Bonnie Pierce August 31, 2011 at 5:43 pm

Just wanted you to know, you’ve been a life saver to me! I admire you, your work and your family so much!
hugs,
Bonnie

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Charlotte August 31, 2011 at 5:44 pm

Shauna, blessings to you and your family. You are so loved for the passion you bring to food and to life. I can’t explain the haters. I don’t understand it. But I understand joy and you are joy, you and your beautiful family whose adventures I so enjoy. Keep that in your heart. You are perfect the way you are.

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Shawnette Fox August 31, 2011 at 5:53 pm

Fuck ‘em. I am a size 2–and I am trying to emulate YOU. Talking about them doesn’t give them power-allowing them to affect your choices gives them power. Talking about them just illuminates how pitiful and pointless they are. I bet they weren’t hugged as children. Maybe you should invite them all to a special event where volunteers can stand in a line and just hug them until they melt.
And to those who cast doubt on a gluten-free lifestyle? I invite them to grind rocks into their food for two weeks, the same amount of time I must consume gluten before undergoing bloodwork and biopsies. Tell them it’s a lesson in empathy.

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Shauna August 31, 2011 at 5:56 pm

Thank you for posting such a thoughtful honest post.. this is the first I’ve read your blog, and will probably start reading more frequently, because I like what you write and how you write, and I also have little girls! I think there are 2 explanations for the negative vitreolic comments you receive. 1) unhappy or even mentally ill people with nothing better to do or 2) people paid to troll… are you kidding me? who does that?… if you accept pay to write such mean nasty stuff you probably also fit in category #1. I’m so sorry you have to deal with that stuff… just know there are many more people who LOVE you and consider you their personal friends….(which is another kind of funny caveat of blogging.. you get all sorts of people who think they know you and just love you for all the cool things you post on your blog.)

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Marla August 31, 2011 at 6:00 pm

Thank you for being such a wonderful, kind, generous and wonderful woman. I am so happy to know you and your sweet family. It is amazing how we share beauty, compassion & generosity with others and we get slandered. As my blog grows the crazies are finding me too. Some really hurtful & disturbed folks out there. Disgraceful.
Together we all need to seek happiness and peace in life. We need to cling to it and push the energy thieves away. Far, Far Away.
Give your sweet little girl a squeeze for me and always know that you are loved and appreciated by the people that you WANT in your life. xxoo

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Valerie August 31, 2011 at 6:03 pm

So sorry for all the negativity and rudeness you experience. I love your zest for food, family and life!

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Jenn Sutherland August 31, 2011 at 6:19 pm

Sharing these painful, vulnerable experiences…these honest, real stories – that’s why we’re all here, a real, living part of your community. You share the good, and the tough moments…you’ve risen to the top in the online food community, and wouldn’t those trolls just love to take you down. I love that you honor the sting, the hurt, and work through it to keep sharing. I love you and your family, and I’m glad you’re here to help all of us say YES to food and to life. And I am SO glad that I finally got to hug you in San Diego. :)

Also – Lu’s pic at the top…whoa! Those are big girl legs – long and lean and strong! The baby girl is growing up – WOW!

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Mrs. Q August 31, 2011 at 6:22 pm

Thank you for being so vulnerable about this terrible trolling. Ug — at least you handle it with grace and candor (as usual).
What you wrote today reminds me of one of my friend’s shirts, “Be yourself. Everyone else is taken.” :)

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Maggie August 31, 2011 at 6:23 pm

Bless you and your gorgeous family Shauna. Thank YOU so much for all you do for our community. And thank you for persevering. Walking your truth is a rough road but it is so worth it. I can’t wait to make your salad and enjoy every last bite. Lu is blessed to have such an amazing and strong woman guiding her through this life. You’re an inspiration Shauna. Thank you for trudging (through the muddy, troll-infested waters, walking, running, and dancing. xo

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gaile August 31, 2011 at 6:24 pm

people astonish me sometime with how small they can be. But as you have pointed out, for all of the small minded trolls with entirely too much free time on their hands, there are dozens of decent, good-hearted people in the world who appreciate the work you do, and know that you could just cook all that great food and never share how with anyone – but you share it out of love and passion and compassion. I have been reading for years, and I remember when you posted that you’d met Danny, when he proposed, when you had your wedding) and had to move it because people are insane….but I digress), when you went to Italy, when you announced you were pregnant with Lu – we’ve never met but I feel like I know you like a friend. And you and your family have so much love, and you share it with us, and you know what – we send it right back to you. with love…

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Heather August 31, 2011 at 6:36 pm

I am a big fan of your blog. You write beautifully and honestly. I do not have gluten issues, but read it because of your wonderfully compelling voice and the inspiration I find as a cook.

I felt compelled to post after reading your blog today. Your candor is refreshing, though I am so sad there was or is ever any cause for you to write it. Please know there are SO very many of us who think you are lovely, warm, funny, cool and brave and are deeply grateful that you share your life, your beautiful family and your fabulous approach to the joy of food with us.

Thank you, thank you, thank you for being on the side of goodness and truth. You are awesome.

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amy August 31, 2011 at 6:40 pm

i am so sorry. i want to make you a cup of tea and just hold your hand. i had no idea this level of negativity was going on. i don’t know why people feel the need to mock when someone puts their true self out there: it reminds me of middle school. sending you love…{and loving your picture of lucy! it evokes childhood summers, innocence, and kisses on booboos. love, love, love.}

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Jason August 31, 2011 at 6:40 pm

Despite growing up in a neighborhood that went from nice to exponentially dangerous/violent, I’ve always thought and found the best in people. This comes from the realization that the first chance someone gets, they WILL talk behind your back. There are, of course, exceptions to every rule. The amazing woman I have the privilege to call my gorgeous girlfriend is mine. And really, it’s just about honesty. Pure, unfiltered, brutal honesty. We don’t keep secrets (unless it’s a nice surprise).
But again, she’s my exception. I’d be willing to place a wager on everyone else I’ve ever known to have talked behind my back. Thing is, we all do it; from talking smack about the stupid boss, making fun of one sibling to another, or conjuring words of hatred for that punk who just cut you off to later share with friends.
However, I think the anonymity of the internet allows people to go farther into an extreme. The safety of being behind a monitor lets people devolve into that childish frame of mind where it’s fun to make fun of the “ugly kid” who looks just as human as the other kids. Combine that with years of knowledge and experience, and you have some really sad people who put forth the effort to waste time and life; theirs and others.
Before I spend hours ending up writing a 20 page essay, I’d like to stop and note that I don’t often read this blog and that my favorite person in the whole wide world (my girlfriend, if you didn’t gather that from earlier) reads every post. With that said, when I do read, it’s always fun, interesting, and informative. I’m also usually left hungry and wanting to try a new recipe you’ve the generosity in sharing. Thank you!

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Brandi August 31, 2011 at 6:42 pm

Shauna, every time I read your blog, I’m more inspired. I started reading when I was diagnosed with celiac, and I haven’t stopped since. But this post, this post brought tears to my eyes and an ache to my heart. And it reminded me that these people don’t matter. I recently started a new job. One where there is constantly food purchased for us. And usually, someone bakes cookies or bread or orders pizza. And every time, someone offers me something, and I have to turn it down. Because of the celiac. And every time I turn my back, I feel like my coworkers are ridiculing me for it. But they don’t matter.

This post reminded me that it’s about the love that we share with our friends, our family. That those who really matter will see the love in a dinner or a pie, and they don’t care what you look like or how much you’re eating, they just care about how happy you are. And I needed that reminder.

Sending you all the love you’ve shared with me. Thank you for the inspiration, and the strength to keep going even when it seems easier to just fall apart.

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Julie Fisher August 31, 2011 at 6:42 pm

Well said!! Shauna-I have enjoyed your posts in my Google Reader for some time now. I am so grateful that you have decided to stand up for your joy and your strength. For listening to your own true voice. Bravo!

I also am grateful that you chose to share the ugly side of blogging. I can’t imagine umping into blogging with exuberance and excitement and passion and without provocation finding such hateful response from the internet community. Now I have a more complete vision of what commitment to blogging will really mean. The GOOD and the creepy.

I raise my glass and my plate to you and your family :D

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Kate August 31, 2011 at 6:45 pm

Shauna…This post really surprised me. I had no idea. I knew the world was warped, but this was beyond me.

I have struggled for 15yrs with a debilitating eating disorder. Its triggered by a traumatic incident that I suffered as a teenager. For what it’s worth, I struggle every day with my weight. I’m a mother of two and wear a size 0. Believe me- we have our battles on the other end of the spectrum.

And if one more person tells me how lucky I am, I’m breaking out the skillet ;) LOL

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Rebecca Tien August 31, 2011 at 6:48 pm

I have felt really sad all day after reading this entry. It’s hard for me to wrap my brain around how very small and sad someone’s life must be to write such horrible things to a complete stranger. Every book I ever truly loved when I was growing up was because the story was based on how to live one’s life with integrity, honesty, kindness. And now that I have a son, my biggest wish for him is that he will grow up to be kind. I just can’t imagine wanting to spew so much unkindness (is that a word?) towards a complete stranger.
To offer something in counterpoint…..your stories bring me so much joy. Life is busier now than when I first started reading your blog and sometimes weeks or even months go by between check-ins, but when I do open your page, I love catching up with you and your lovely family and I’m grateful for the smile you bring, or the quite reflection, or the bittersweet ache that I feel when I read about the Pacific Northwest and remember how much I loved my time there and how much I miss it now that I live so far from the mountains in central Ohio.
Someone could make millions if they could figure out software that would detect messages with all the ugly words and filter them out before you had to have them land in your lap. I’m sorry that you ever have to experience that gut-punch simply for having the courage and open heart to share your life with others.
One last thing….thanks for introducing me to Jenny’s Kitchen. I wept when I saw the video of Mike’s last dance with his daughter. I shared it on facebook and many of my friends were reminded as they watched it of the importance of eating up life with joy and passion and gratitude which is what your blog reminds me to do every time I read it. So thank you. For everything.

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Julie August 31, 2011 at 6:51 pm

I’m just crushed that there’s so much ugliness out there, so much intent to hurt, and that it would be directed at you, Danny and Lu. It’s shocking what people have the nads to say when they are able to hide behind their computers – I’ve been on the receiving end of such comments myself, as have friends of mine who work in the public eye. It’s just shocking to me that we live in a world where this kind of behavior is acceptable – encouraged even. Good for you for standing up and speaking out, as you always do, of being big and kind and lovely and considerate even of the feelings of people who would make such an effort to attack you and your family. Life is too short to allow the hateful to snuff any of your joy. Thank you for spreading it so far and wide, and for helping those of us who have been uncomfortable in our skin to realize we’re not alone with our feelings. Excess weight is not a character flaw.

And oh, those little feet. I want to kiss them.

Thanks for being you. xo

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Leslie DR August 31, 2011 at 7:01 pm

Shauna,
I hope the outpouring of love and support from all of these posts demonstrates how important and inspiring you and Danny and Lu are to so many people. You inspire my cooking, my eating and my enjoyment of life every day. To hell with the trolls. Wishing you a joyous end of summer!

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Crystal Gorwitz August 31, 2011 at 7:02 pm

I wanted to write to you and say that I had no idea that you were receiving such awful comments! I am a huge fan of yours and I look forward to reading your blogs! I am a middle school teacher and I see my students struggle with their body image and it makes me sick!! I teach 11,12 and 13 year olds and it makes me so angry that these awesome young people are on diets and hate parts of their bodies! Please do not read these awful emails! Again, I love how you write and don’t let these people bother you!

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Ali August 31, 2011 at 7:09 pm

Wow, I guess I am more naive than I thought. I love your blog, and read it regularly, and also had the pleasure of meeting you and Danny and Lu at Bobs Red Mill. You are all smart and healthy and lovely, and I am just shocked that people are so awful. I am sorry on behalf of humanity. Keep up the good work and try not to let the bastards get you down.

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MaryAnn D August 31, 2011 at 7:18 pm

You and your blog helped us to save my husband’s life. Your recipes, advice and joyful approach to living with celiac were paths to getting my husband back to healthy. I appreciate and cherish all you do more than words could every express.

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Svasti August 31, 2011 at 7:23 pm

There is so much misery in the world. People are overwhelmed by their own suffering and some choose to hit out at others because perhaps that makes it better for them. For a few moments anyway. The internet has spread this sort of malcontent like the plague. It’s bizarre.

But really, for every hateful thing they say, they are really hating themselves more than they could ever hate you.

I love all of your photos and articles. I started following your posts and tweets when I was diagnosed with Hashimoto’s, requiring a gluten free life. Each and every one of your posts has been helpful to me – whether you’re posting about food or life.

I love what you’ve created for yourself. I love your visibly happy little family and I think Lu is incredibly adorable.

It is good to speak out. Sure, it’s a fine line between feeding the trolls and shaming them. But sometimes we just have to make our stand and speak our truth. Good for you.

P.S. When I first saw the photo at the top of this post, it made me chuckle. Scraped knees and strawberries. Perfect!

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Denise Rivers August 31, 2011 at 7:34 pm

Thank you Shauna, I passed this on to my friend Katie Granju (mammapundit) who gets the same exact shit day in and day out since posting about the death of her son over a year ago. She fights the trolls every day. Some days they win, others she is triumphant. And still, through it all, she writes. So thank you for giving voice to the kindness and joy in life.

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sally cameron August 31, 2011 at 7:36 pm

Shauna, my first time commenting. I am finally subscribed. This was brilliant. Good for you for speaking your heart and mind. I am so sorry that you have this happening to you. So far I have only received but 1-2 comments like that, and they were shocking, bothersome. I deleted. You are joyful, happy, centered, living a full, wonderful life! They are not. As ugly and stupid as the comments are, so are the people that made the comments. If you can, just sigh and forget them. They are sad, broken people. You, are not! Marvelous post. What is sad is that today many have become so vicious, hateful, judgmental, narrow, unkind. It’s sick. It’s unnecessary. Yet it exists.

Look forward to seeing you at the conference in November in Santa Monica. I’ll be there. Hope to meet you! Missed your table at IACP. Kind regards and blessings. We all need to be more kind to each other.

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Gina August 31, 2011 at 7:39 pm

I never read the comments on news stories, blogs, etc, etc. for the reasons you have cited. I just imagine the people who comment in such negative and nasty ways as people devoid of any life. But a friend posted the link to this blog entry…and I have to say from one mother to another…you have a beautiful family. And I applaud you for your blog and all your postings. Keep on keepin’ on!

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Cathy August 31, 2011 at 7:41 pm

Thanks so much for posting this. I feel huge sadness for that facet of society that feels as if they have to criticize everything and everyone. I have stopped reading comments under news stories, or You-Tube videos, because I just can’t take the constant barrage of negativity that is in our world. You’re right. It’s not just you. I, too, am trying to live a peaceful life, and share happiness with the world. Some will just never feel that contentment. I feel sad for them.

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E.D. August 31, 2011 at 7:45 pm

Thank you for a post, and thank you for always, always circling back to helping me and others like me find a way to feed our family safely and with flavor in spite of how not easy it is to open up your email and read such hateful things.

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Sondra August 31, 2011 at 7:52 pm

I started reading your blog this morning and finally got back to it tonight. Look at all the friends you have. You might be like me, I always needed to be admired or liked. Tried to please everyone. Now that I am in my 70′s I could care less. You have helped me be Gluten Free. Thanks for all you work on the many dishes you have worked on. I have both of your books. I love Lucy, you are the best parents. I laugh at all the kids that won’t eat hardly anything. Lucy asking for Kale. She gets to try so many things. Growing up on that Island is giving her the very best start in life. I thank God that there are such wonderful giving people as You.
Love, Sondra

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shauna August 31, 2011 at 8:46 pm

Sondra, thank you for such a sweet comment. And I love that you’re in your 70s and more free than earlier in your life! gives us all hope.

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Kristina August 31, 2011 at 8:06 pm

Wonderful, honest, raw blog post. I love you site. It was one of the first I found after being diagnosed as a Celiac. I learned that bread and pretzels were possible with a few new flours and little scale. I am sorry the world is so hurtful but your life reflects all that hurt back on them with it’s joy. I agree with your friend on that point.

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Mary August 31, 2011 at 8:17 pm

Thank you for sharing your life with us. It has dealing with my celiac disease something to learn from and grow with instead of just something to suffer through.

Also, they say hating someone or holding a grudge is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Thank you for being the kind of person who can let go of the hate directed towards you.

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Mary August 31, 2011 at 8:18 pm

PS my son has a matching scratch on his knee and extra bruises on his shin. :)

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Vicky August 31, 2011 at 8:23 pm

A friend passed this onto me because I have recently started blogging. She wanted me to prepare for the trolls I will encounter. Thank you

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Annie August 31, 2011 at 8:25 pm

I am so sorry you have to experience things like this. It’s so brave of you to put you and your family in the limelight and you do so with such grace. Thank you for continuing to share here. I am sad there are so many with so much hate in their hearts.
When I first saw the picture of the skinned knees I smiled. I know those skinned knees. They are those of a moving and excited small person who is eager to get busy in life!

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Rebecca Lee August 31, 2011 at 8:27 pm

You are a remarkable and wondrous role model! Keep up the strong work!

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Anne August 31, 2011 at 8:33 pm

Wow. This made me sad for the way humans treat other humans. You’re out there, you’re doing your thing, you’re raising a baby (a happy dancer!), you’re a contributor…how unfortunate that you have to waste energy on this. I think Brene is right…happy people are targets. It’s like they want you down there feeling miserable with them. I guess misery really does love company (no thanks, though, I’d rather eat alone).

And really?? dragging a child into the mix??? Shameful. There will be no escaping that karma when it comes due.

Keep doing your thing, dear lady, and focus on the love. You’re one of the lucky ones who are living their mission! (And you, I would gladly pull up a chair next too.)

p.s. – I was on Vashon a few weeks ago…I don’t get over there nearly enough (from Seattle). It must be a dreamy place to call home.

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Brooke @ Foodwoolf August 31, 2011 at 8:41 pm

Shauna,
I think change is coming. The Wild West notion that anything goes is beginning to lose its initial charm. Good and gracious people like you are now at their wits end with all the bad behavior out there. The good people who support freedom of speech and room for opinions for all are beginning to speak up for themselves and for civility.

We’ve graciously let the negative voices have their say for so long that the Trolls are beginning to feel like they can do anything they want without any consequence.

Those negative, fear-mongering people are so wrong.

Good strong people are shining a light on the darkness and saying “okay, guys. Enough is enough.” I’m so happy that the good voices are standing up for civility. I’m so happy people are beginning to report the abuses, the IP addresses, and dropping a line to the FBI.

I’m so glad you took the time to speak up for yourself. To demand the end to hate, trolls, and fearful attacks.

You are a woman of light and love. Keep shining, mama! You’re beautiful!

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Soup and Song August 31, 2011 at 8:41 pm

Gotta add my voice to the chorus singing your praises. Your writing is incredible and the way you live your life is inspiring. Kudos to you for speaking your mind about this. Screw the trolls. They clearly have such boring, sad lives to have nothing better to do than to get their kicks from being small and cruel. Your sweet daughter is blessed to have such loving, inspiring parents. Thank you for your bravery, your honesty and your kindness. You rock!

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leela August 31, 2011 at 8:46 pm

i just wanted to add another voice commending you on your honesty and attitude. you know, i can actually see how people would feel comfortable making ridiculous comments on sites like youtube and those of newspapers, since it may appear that it doesn’t really affect anyone personally. those comments are ridiculous, of course, but there also seems to me a world of difference between waxing vituperative to a random newspaper and doing so to a person who shows her life and her zest for it every day. best wishes to you and your family.

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Constance August 31, 2011 at 8:47 pm

Wonderful post. Brava!

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Sara R. August 31, 2011 at 8:53 pm

Wow, Well said, Well said indeed. You are my inspiration. Some of the things you said touches my own life. I feel uplifted, like you were giving ME a pep-talk. Thank you.

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Meg August 31, 2011 at 8:54 pm

Shauna, I had no idea such a terrible thing existed! I mean, I work in retail so I know people can sometimes be truly heinous just because they can be. But…but, you’re just such a GOOD person. Such an inspiration. Such an adorable family. And very much loved by your community!

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Rachel August 31, 2011 at 8:55 pm

Wow! As a non-blogger, I am shocked to hear the kinds of things people write to and about you. There are a lot of crazy people out there! I hope you continue to write your fabulous blog–the descriptions of your life and your family are what make it wonderful. I’m not even gluten-free, but I read your blog because of your beautiful writing and photos.

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Carol Henke August 31, 2011 at 8:56 pm

You really touched a nerve. I am sitting here bawling. I don’t understand why there is such meanness and hate. Especially directed at you! Thank you for being who you are, and telling your story.

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Ileen August 31, 2011 at 8:59 pm

Hi Shauna, I wanted to add my gratitude and encouragement to you and yours. I follow your blog, enjoy your stories, writing and love, love, love your recipes. Several of my family members are gluten-free and I have passed on your blog to them. It never occured to me that you would be a target of such hate, etc. I am so sorry for the pain it has caused you, but would encourage you to look over and beyond. These are really sad, sick and evil people. Please carry on your good work.

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Joan August 31, 2011 at 9:04 pm

Shauna-

Like a lot of others who have posted above I really had no idea about what bad stuff and personal attacks you have had to deal with. Your blog was the first I found after my diagnosis (at age 68) and you were so much help in getting into the GF rhythm. So I’m personally very glad you didn’t give up to the trolls — Thank you, thank you, thank you.

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Melissa August 31, 2011 at 9:05 pm

I am normally not a commenter – but your post compelled me to do it. It’s so sad to read about the extent of negativity out there. So I am sending some more positivity and love your way. Thanks for sending your joy and delicious recipes out into the world. Thank you! Thank you!

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Lindsay August 31, 2011 at 9:05 pm

WOW. how RUDE! Keep writing and sharing (and ignoring). The rest of us appreciate you :)

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Christie (@ARFoodie) August 31, 2011 at 9:18 pm

Hey Shauna,

I was going to contact you anyway and thank you for your visit to New Orleans. Having been part of the crowd you spoke with, I can tell you, you’re doing this for a very special reason. Some of us need hope that it’s OK to have challenges with how we can eat. I was nearly in tears when you told your story of being a sickly child, because it’s my story, too. And through your inspiration, I aim to use my own blog to help others however I can, too.

This troll/hatefulness thing is the only thing that really worries me about taking my blog to the next level. I’m what you might call a “peacemaker,” and any kind of angst, even if it isn’t directed towards me, cuts me through the heart. I’ve already had one really scary one attack me because I reported FACTS about a Food Network star’s troubles with Twitter. Random!

Anyway, keep on truckin’, girl. I hope to have more opportunities to learn from you and your bravery in the future.

-Christie

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shauna August 31, 2011 at 9:21 pm

Christie, it was wonderful to meet you this weekend. And let me tell you, in some weird way this has all been a valuable lesson. I believe in peace but I don’t feel like I have to be a pleaser anymore. It’s liberating!

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Coach Laura August 31, 2011 at 9:22 pm

Shauna, I don’t even know where to begin. I guess I’m naive because – although I know that there is vitriol on the internet – I never knew that “mocking” blogs exist. I’m a nascent blogger and it is saddening. Sure, I’ve been the victim of attacks on boards before but I’ve been able to ignore them…which is harder to do if it’s in your own blog’s comments. Now I’m worried about someone like Jennie, who could be victim of this type of thing right on the heels of her tragedy.

Lucy is glorious and I can’t understand any of the comments. You are a wonder. I’ve met you and the Chef twice and Lucy once and you are a bright light to the world. I’m glad that you can ignore them and I hope you and other bloggers can remain strong and sure.

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Leah August 31, 2011 at 9:52 pm

I wish people weren’t so disappointing. :P My mother used to go on about how people who find themselves the centre of attention should expect to have stones pitched at them, but that’s daft really. Being in the public eye doesn’t give the rest of the world the right to act the maggot.
What’s curious: this happens to bloggers rather a lot, right? So I sort of think that we probably all know people who secretly do this to others. What if we caught them at it and made them tell us why?

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Marissa August 31, 2011 at 9:53 pm

Amen! I hear myself saying, more frequently these days, “my favorite blogger…..” and then I insert some fabulous thing you wrote about or an amazing recipe. I even referred to your blog today while teaching my English class. I talked about how you have written wonderfully about Jennie and how, despite her insurmountable setback – she too will rise from the ashes. I promise myself that whenever I read an online news story, that’s it…I read just the story. The crass trolls that have time to belittle and share so much hate are not worth my time. I try to have compassion for them, but man that is hard to do. Keep on keeping on girl! Your blog feeds so many of us is so many ways. My tummy, my heart, and my soul are better because of you and your writing. Crazy to say to someone I’ve never met, but it is true. Thank you for your honesty and truthfulness, we should all be so lucky to find such peace with ourselves.

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lisa August 31, 2011 at 9:59 pm

I’m not a big commenter – I like to read and hear what others have to say, but I am really busy with my (wonderful!) life that has it’s ups and downs and hard times like everyone else. BUT, after reading this, I had to reply, because while I am not a public figure of sorts – I have had to work with people who think it is acceptable to be abusive to me and that behaviour is overlooked because of this person’s “importance”. I fully believe that this sort of bad behaviour is due to insecurity – and while I am not better than anyone else, and generally want to slap people for being such jerks – in the end, I feel sorry for them because they are such small and miserable people. Somehow, knowing that they are simply jealous of what I have (happiness, confidence, peace of mind) makes it easier for me to laugh at the pettiness. I am shocked and amazed at how rotten we can be – but also find it a good incentive to teach my nieces to be good people, and to continue to try for that myself. There are way more people out here that like you than not – don’t let the idiots get you down.

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Mary Beth August 31, 2011 at 10:21 pm

I just discovered your blog in the past week and have read two posts and your profile. I am so grateful for what you have to offer and your willingness to do what you love in spite of the hateful, hurtful words of others. Because of your story, I can support my husband who is gluten intolerant. Thank you for your love, passion, and joy. You make the world a better place. Thank you!

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Ali August 31, 2011 at 10:21 pm

Found your blog through a few other links and I wanted to thank you for adding your voice in bringing the trolling problem more to light.
It’s so, so stupid that people do this each other and I’m so sorry you’ve had to put up with it for so long.

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Scatteredmom August 31, 2011 at 10:37 pm

Your post brought tears to my eyes. I haven’t had the amount of hate directed at me that you have, but you are right-we all deal with it. My son deals with it in real life, and we have been fighting cruel, bullying behavior for the last six months that at times takes your breath away. Your post helped to inspire a story that has been forming in my head for awhile, and I’m submitting to Blogher this week.

Good for you for standing up and not letting them silence you. Consider me behind you 100%

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melanie August 31, 2011 at 10:52 pm

I think you and your family are beautiful! I read your blog everyday, please keep telling your story!

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shauna September 1, 2011 at 8:28 am

Oh, I will!

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Yalotar August 31, 2011 at 11:01 pm

Keep doing what you’re doing, you have a good thing going on here! There will always be small-minded people who have nothing else to do than pick on others. And when there’s nothing else to say (not a single argument left – if there ever was one), it’s easy to focus on the surface (looks, hair you name it).

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Kathryn August 31, 2011 at 11:09 pm

I don’t even know if you’ll see this, but I just wanted to lend my voice to the chorus here. Great blog, great children, great husband, and great you. I just don’t understand the level of hate, immaturity and ignorance that some people have, but I’m so glad that you’re not letting them win.

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shauna September 1, 2011 at 8:27 am

Thank you, Kathyrn.

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ttrygve August 31, 2011 at 11:16 pm

While I’m unfortunately not surprised people can be so vile, I have to admit I’m completely shocked by how *many* people can apparently be so vile. I wouldn’t have expected it to be nearly so prevalent.

Let me add my voice to all the others praising your strength, and sympathizing with the dehumanizing treatment you’ve endured. Few could take what you’ve put up with at all, let alone learn and grow from it as you have, you should be an inspiration to us all, even though most of us likely don’t lead a public life like you do.

As a humorous aside, you may appreciate this Penny Arcade comic from several years ago on the topic (NSFW language): http://www.penny-arcade.com/comic/2004/3/19/

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Janet NZ August 31, 2011 at 11:39 pm

When I first commented on this post I was number 300 and something. I hope the Tea at number 1 is the Tea I think it is. I want this list of positive comments to reach HUGE numbers.
Shauna – do NOT let the bastards get you down.
Please.
Keep doing what you are doing.
You are loved. LOVED.
All over the world.
Just know this to be true.
XXXOOO

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Tapia August 31, 2011 at 11:43 pm

Well, it’s all been said here, but I still want to thank you for this blog, your work, and your openness about life with food issues. I hope you are able to turn your back on these dark shadows and keep on in the light of knowing what an inspiration and godsend you are to so many. With peace.

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Gary Henderson September 1, 2011 at 12:04 am

Like many other commenters, I’m here from Scalzi’s blog. I first read his post and then yours, horrified at what I was reading. I’m appalled that anyone would make it their life’s mission to mock or insult you just for the sake of doing it. What is WRONG with people?

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shauna September 1, 2011 at 8:27 am

I really think a lot of it has to do with shame and secrets. When we feel ashamed of ourselves, sometimes we lash out at other people to make ourselves feel better. “They can’t really be as happy as they seem. That wouldn’t be fair! So they have to be flawed in these terrible secret ways.” It’s all a vicious cycle. For me, writing about this is part of breaking that cycle. It’s not a secret for me anymore.

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Jackie Baisa September 1, 2011 at 12:13 am

OMG. I knew you’d had a few trolls here and there, but didn’t realize the extent of it. Holy cow! I really have issues with harrassment in any form, but online bullying seems to be the current evil for a lot of folks. I am appalled and really saddened that this is happening to you, and other people that I care about. It’s a real problem.

I have no real words, nor any solutions, but just know that I support you 100%, Shauna. You always have a friend in me. Screw the assholes.

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shauna September 1, 2011 at 8:25 am

Jackie, I adore you.

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Sarah Bunch September 1, 2011 at 12:52 am

You go, girl! Tell it like it is! You are fabulous!!

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Fat Heffalump September 1, 2011 at 12:54 am

You have the most beautiful timing. I have had a post on the subject of trolls in my queue for about a week, waiting for me to give it one last edit and then publish it. But between getting a stomach bug of some kind at the end of last week, and then having to catch up with work and life and everything, I just haven’t got around to it. However, of the other posts I did publish, one pissed the trolls off more than usual. My responses to those trying to shame me silent in MY little corner of the internet, pissed them off even further. Overnight I was slammed on almost every social media site and my blog with vitriolic, hateful trolling. I’ve deleted a lot of it, laughed at some of it, and highlighted what cowardice most of it is throughout the day today, but have had to shut off all avenues of anonymous commenting everywhere because it was just wasting my time to be honest.

I came home from work, sat down to publish my post on trolls, and was reading Tumblr when I stumbled across a link to this post. I’ll have to go back and thank the person who posted it – because this post has not only confirmed all the things I have been thinking and saying, but has also given me further intelligent food for thought to add before I hit the “publish” button.

I will publish the post and I will link to you in it. Thank you for your honesty and your joyfulness. You are right. That’s why they hate us. Because they’re jealous and afraid and have empty little lives. Sad really.

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mendomamma September 1, 2011 at 2:00 am

You are amazing! Your story and your blog have changed the way I live in such a beautiful and healthy way, please, don’t stop sharing. Your partnership, parenting, food sharing and LIVING has been a true inspiration, thank you for putting your life “out there” in such a brave and proud way! Sending strength, love and hope for a better tomorrow…

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Sara September 1, 2011 at 2:01 am

Shauna,
you have my support. Your blog is full of live, interesting, passionate, rich with emotions, I love it. Now I’ve come to read your wondeful recipes, and I’ve read about this troll. I hope you goes on like that, like you are. Unfortunatly sad people existe, don’t suffer too much because of them, going on in living your life, you are a beautiful lady, keep up!!!

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Saskia September 1, 2011 at 2:15 am

Just two points Shauna, seeing as there are so many already and I’m simply repeating probably,

But,

1. Remember, the 80/20 rule, 20% of people wasting 80% of our time, and the 80% of us are the silent, appreciative minority!

2. Don’t you find it interesting that these trolls never post their vitriol publicly, here, like the rest of us? No, they sneakily and stealthily email you instead, fearing the shame of recrimination by posting their crap in here and being lambasted publicly by the ‘silent majority’

Sas x

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shauna September 1, 2011 at 8:24 am

I find it fascinating too. They send hateful comments from fake IP addresses, knowing full well I’ll never publish them. Really, when you think about it, it’s sad. These people must need a lot of attention.

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Allison Day September 1, 2011 at 2:32 am

Every day, I’m reminded that there are mean, nasty, horrible people in this world, who just love to bring other people down by criticizing anything and everything and make the world an unpleasant place. I’ve always thought people are inherently good, but the internet makes that really hard to believe, sometimes. There are days that I lose faith in humanity, days when I’m convinced that I would far rather live the rest of my life in isolation than deal with all the idiots and mean-spirited people who seem to have taken over the internet.

But at the same time, I’m constantly reminded that there are also amazingly kind-hearted, giving, loving people in this world. People like you, like the many mutual friends that we have, like everyone involved with Bloggers without Borders, like anyone who auctioned something off or donated money to help Jennie and other food bloggers in need. Thank goodness for good people like you, for you all help me hold out hope that maybe the world isn’t such a horrible place as the masses of internet trolls make it seem to be.

You’re an amazing woman, Shauna, and I always hate that you have to deal with so much venom just because you’re successful. XOXO

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shauna September 1, 2011 at 8:23 am

Thank you, Allison. I believe firmly in the goodness of people. Some people just need a little more love and help to let the goodness come forward.

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Gabriela (The Picky Foodie) September 1, 2011 at 2:34 am

Dear Shauna;
I think the last time I commented was when Lucy was born and you willed her to breathe. And she did. So beautifully, so gracefully, so happily. As do her parents.
Your joy, your laughter, your fun, your love of food and each other is why I come back to your site again and again. It started with gluten, but has become about so much more :)
I don’t care if you post this or not, this message is for you and Danny. I don’t care if almost 500 comments came before mine, I want to add my voice and say how much I love reading about your family, your food adventures, and the way you choose to live your life.
Way too often people choose to focus on the negative but if I have learned one thing, it’s this: it’s not that some people deal with more crap than others, it’s how each one of us chooses to deal with the crap that comes our way. And we can deny it or repress it, or we can talk about it on our blogs or just with loved ones — in the end, the way those choices directly affect the quality of our lives. How wonderful to see that you are choosing to face it head on. I, for one, want to make sure you know you are not alone in loving life, cherishing parenthood, living to the fullest. Sometimes it hurts.
But for every troll out there, there are 10 of us who welcome beautiful, thoughtful, real writing, cooking, sharing.
People can always find fault with others, because we are not perfect and because it’s easier to look outward than inward. It’s those of us making that journey inward and exploring what true happiness is all about who suffer the most but also experience life to its richest, fullest, most.
And you do.
And you remind many of us to do the same when we come to your site.
Or when you create beautiful food parties online that we can join from all over the world.
Or when you reach out to help a friend going through terrible loss and invite/inspire the rest of us to help too.
For the record, I think all three of you are beautiful. Because you look happy. It’s not about weight or shape of your head or hips. It’s about joy.
Stay well and keep enjoying
Gabriela

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shauna September 1, 2011 at 8:23 am

Thank you, Thank you Gabriela. I want you to know that I read this (I’m reading every comment, of course!) and I’m grateful. I love what you wrote: each of us deals with life in our own way. It’s not about suffering. It’s about what we learn from it.

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Gabriela (The Picky Foodie) September 2, 2011 at 12:43 pm

Thanks, Shauna
Wow, what an interesting bunch of comments your post has garnered. From the events of the last few weeks, one thing has become incredibly clear — much like the food community has rallied around your good friend and fellow blogger experiencing terrible loss, we are here to support one another. Isn’t that what breaking (GF) bread together (be it virtually or in person) is all about? :)
I’ve been reading Brene Brown and, well, it pretty rings true, doesn’t it?
Please don’t let the trolls stop you.
Looking forward to lots more
Gabriela

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mrs.miss alaineus September 1, 2011 at 3:26 am

thank you for telling it like it is. you can’t live your life through a lens made by other people. i’m gonna enjoying making some of your recipes. may those who mock you choke on their vitriol.

xxmrs.missalaineusxx

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Lea September 1, 2011 at 3:48 am

I am so sorry that I have never left a comment on your website before and added my voice to those that are supportive and kind. I often wonder what makes people so willing to spew their hatefulness when they are tucked behind their computer screens, but I really didn’t know it was so rampant. It makes me sad. Also, it makes me realize that I should be telling my favorite bloggers how much their writing means to me. Thank you for continuing this blog. I don’t know if I would have the gumption to do it, myself. Bravo!

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Alyson C September 1, 2011 at 4:16 am

Love, love, love your blog, and all the stories that you tell to make the blog personal. That’s what makes it so good.
Some people are just shits. That’s the way they are, unfortunately, and they like to suck the life out of others. Screw ‘em.
Keep shining as you are and telling your stories. There are plenty of us that love to read them, we just don’t speak up as much.
Maybe we should…
xoxo,
Alyson

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Sami September 1, 2011 at 4:54 am

Unfortunately that are a lot of nasty people who have nothing else to do but criticize others probably out of jealousy. You are successful, worked hard for it for sure, and don´t have to apologize to anyone for that! All the best and carry on being the caring, lovely person that you are.

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Stefanie September 1, 2011 at 5:11 am

Your mentality towards food has truly been a saving grace for me. Before I knew that I had celiac’s, I was depressed and held on to how thin I was. And then I kept losing more and more weight, I looked awful and I was very unhappy. Once I was diagnosed and began living gluten-free, my doctor told me to be careful what I ate because I might gain weight. All this time I had been the skinny girl….which was music to my ears after growing up overweight and then spending 2 years to lose 50 lbs as an adult. I love food. I love cooking food and I was scared about eating – scared to gain weight and scared of what I was eating could make me sick again. Then I found your blog, and ever since I have said “yes” to food. I don’t worry about every bite I eat, every calorie I take in. Now when I go to a new restaurant, rather than trying to find the healthiest option, I actually do think….What would Shauna order? And then I think, she would order what ever flavor combination moved her most. And that’s what I do. I cook with passion again, and eat with passion for the first time in my life. And I think I am mentally and physically the healthiest I have ever been. So thank you for being fearless for all of us that are not strong enough to lead the fight ourselves.

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InTolerantChef September 1, 2011 at 5:12 am

Don’t change Shauna, I love the ‘real’ photos of your baby with dirty face from playing, blue tongue from popsicles and even a :( skinned knee from dancing through life. Who are they who dictate what we should look/sound/ be shaped like? I think you’re right and it’s jealousy that causes this problem as a whole. You have conquered adversity in so many areas of your life already and I’m glad you’re tackling this one head on too. Shining light in the corners will always scare away a few rats!

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Sally Vargas September 1, 2011 at 5:33 am

I am so glad you wrote about this. It is important for you (to let out your breath on this) and it is important for others (to see that what may look so perfect from the outside has darker undercurrents.) An oscar-winning screenwriter friend of mine had critics chomping at the bit, wanting to see him fail, because his movie made them feel something and because it was inspirational. Sadly, there will always be those who enjoy watching the risen fall, or who will try to take them down. We should never give in to that!

I am sorry for those who cannot tolerate happiness and joy. It is a sickness, and one that is becoming an epidemic. The best way to fight it, and I think we should fight it, is not to engage in it , but to shine your light as bright as you can. Thank you for doing that with your stories, your blog and your beautiful family. As Nancie and others here have noted, if we don’t feed them, the nasty words will dry up and blow away like so many rice husks. Admittedly, it is hard not to let them get to you, so brava, my dear!

p.s. YOU are the picture of health, and the perfect size.
p.p.s. I loved Cutting For Stone! great to escape into a book like that to get some perspective :)

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Meg September 1, 2011 at 5:46 am

Shauna, thank you for your post and for shining a light on this darker side of being a public person and handling all this stuff, from the rude comments and digs on social media, to private emails and messages send with malice behind them. More people need to be talking about this sort of thing, and I think you are the perfect person to start the conversation.

I’ve been in the public eye (both as a blogger and a community manager), and also was on the receiving end of the nasty, abusive comments, constant digs, challenges to my intelligence and professional choices. In one case, commenters on a blog post in which I was mentioned decided it was ok to make offensive sexual comments about me. I got nasty emails from another group of people, and they went so far as to spam employees where I worked with emails containing false accusations. The worst part was when I received a message that included personal information – where I lived, my real name (I was operating under a pseudonym at the time – how they figured out who I was mystified me), and threats to my person. It was really scary. All because I made choices these people didn’t like.

The fact that people ridicule and speak derisively about Lucy is reprehensible, in my eyes. There really is no excuse for that sort of thing. None at all.

I’m so sorry you’ve been on the receiving end of the most base and loathsome behavior in the online world. I support what you do here, and encourage you to continue as you have been with your work. I love what you share – posts, pictures, text, tweets, and Facebook updates – and that you are determined to not be silenced or quelled by these people. I agree with Brené Brown’s observation – they hate you because you are joyful.

Thanks so much for all you do. Feel free to email me if you would like to compare notes on this issue, or even if you just need your virtual hand held. :)

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Alison September 1, 2011 at 6:09 am

It is sad, some aspects of the world we live in. Some people are so miserable that they feel a need for others to be, as well. It kills me. I feel sorry for them…but I still am angry at the things that they say and write. It’s true, they are cowardly. And jealous. I try to avoid them at all costs. However, when you’re in the public eye or these trolls are part of your family, it’s difficult. I have one particular relative who is downright hostile. I look at her life and how empty it is. She is 55 and I am 27. When she is rude to me (told me that I could stand to work on my arms…at my wedding!!!) or my mother (to whom she is unbearable) I try to pray that she finds peace in her life and thank God for all that I have. Is that self-righteous? Maybe. But it keeps me from being her.

I hesitated to post information about my wedding on my facebook page, in fear that someone would come and crash it. How sad! I used to be afraid (and still am) to blog because of what could potentially happen to me or my husband. And yet we have to spread positive energy. I read your blog, Soulemama’s, Jennie’s, simplyphoto, public bookstore, and more for the positive. I often don’t read the comments because I hate to see the negative.

Keep up the good work. I appreciate it. And you, your daughter, and husband are beautiful! Never entertain thoughts otherwise.

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Allison Fishman September 1, 2011 at 6:11 am

This has needed to be said for quite some time, only waiting for the right time, and this was it. There are naysayers in the world, and you have made your peace. I love that you thought about the trolls before posting the pic, gave yourself a minute and did it anyway. Inspiring and guiding. Well done, Shauna!

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E September 1, 2011 at 6:30 am

I’ve never commented before, but wanted to thank you. Thanks for working hard to get so many aspects of your life to where you want them, and for showing us online. Thanks for posting such adorable pictures of your family. Thanks for posting delicious recipes that make plenty of folks who don’t have to eat gluten-free hungry just a minute after eating breakfast. Thanks for cooking and inspiring so many of us to cook too. Thanks for ignoring the morons and doing all of this despite them. There are so many more of us who find your blog wonderful than of them, and we so appreciate what you’re doing!

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Gina September 1, 2011 at 6:37 am

Look these are a bunch of jealous fucks who need to get a life. Losers. Don’t pay any attention to them and keep on doing what you do. Living well is the best revenge.

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Lauren @ KeepItSweet September 1, 2011 at 6:38 am

Hi Shauna- I’ve never commented on your blog but just had to respond to this post. I’m so happy you put it up there because I think you voiced what so many people think and feel. You are an amazing person and I’m so glad you don’t let the nasty comments bring you down. The people who have time to leave messages, write emails or anything like that just to be mean clearly have bigger issues to deal with.

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Jen September 1, 2011 at 6:45 am

Shauna,I have never commented before but wanted to come out of anonymity to tell you how inspiring you are. I have been a diagnosed celiac for five years. My experience thus far has been….fine. I no longer get sick (woohoo!) but I enjoy food so much less than I once did. Then, a week ago I stumbled on your blog. The next day I bought your book, and the day after that, your cookbook. The day after that I started calling friends and family and telling them how inspired I am to really start cooking again. Since my diagnosis I’ve always cooked two meals for dinner parties-one for me and one for my guests, stemming from the belief that my food wasn’t “as good” as their gluten-filled food. Because of you, I am proud to say that tomorrow I will host my first, entirely gluten free dinner party! I am so excited and can’t wait to cook some of your recipes! Your joy is both contagious and inspiring. The haters? They’re obviously unhappy with their own lives -ignore them! Thank you thank you thank you for the giftof your blog-you have made me truly hungry for the first time in five years. Now if you’ll excuse me, I have some quinoa crackers to bake!!!

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shauna September 1, 2011 at 8:18 am

Oh Jen! This makes my heart soar. I’m SO happy to hear about your hunger for good food again. And thank goodness you don’t have to make two meals anymore! I’d love to know your menu. And please email if you have questions about any of the dishes.

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Sallie Tierney September 1, 2011 at 7:15 am

Sometimes ya just gotta pull the plug on the losers! Avoiding crappy comments from ignorant, thoughtless space-wasters is like turning down a slice of lethal gluten-filled Domino’s Pizza – not too hard to do if you care anything about yourself. As my Mom says: “Just because the dang phone rings doesn’t mean you have to answer it!” Just keep doing the excellent job you do, m’dear, and when the trolls slither in spewing poison just consider the source. It’s sad but true that when a person is in the public eye a certain percentage of low-lifes show up to the party. When they do, think of all the thousands of people who adore you and consider you part of their extended family.

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Medrith Nuttle September 1, 2011 at 7:16 am

You are a good, strong, intelligent person and a wonderful wife and mother; do not even consider for a moment that anything else is the case. You are right to continue blogging and to ignore those stupid, mean people. They have something very wrong with them and that’s why they want to hurt you.

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Emma September 1, 2011 at 7:27 am

Dear Shauna,
I don’t think I have ever commented on your site before, but I feel compelled to do so today. I was absolutely stunned by your account of the petty and unnecessary bile that has come your way unbidden. It deeply saddens me that people feel the need to do this – even seem to find some sort of twisted joy in doing it. I don’t need to eat gluten free – I can’t even remember how I stumbled upon your blog many moons ago – but I keep coming back to it because the recipes all look so delicious, and your prose is delicious too! As I scan through my rss feeds I’m always so happy if I can see a new Gluten Free Girl post to devour. So, please don’t ever be put off from doing what you so clearly love by these sad and small-minded folks, bravo to you for turning the other cheek, and hopefully one day someone will invent a troll-filter so that you need not even have to read through their vile musings.
{Hugs from sunny England}

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Rachel September 1, 2011 at 7:31 am

This is my first time reading your blog, I was led here by a friend. I have to say that I am hooked, I lost 40 lbs last year (gained 10 back, boo). I’m always looking for healthy meals, and my aunt cannot have gluten (I’m going to send her your site!). I hope you know that everyone who writes hateful things about you / your hubby / your daughter are extremely unhappy with their lives… and they’re jealous you’re happy, and successful, with yours. <3

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Jenny September 1, 2011 at 7:36 am

There is a word I use for silly people who take pleasure in criticising others for no good reason: nincompoops.

Keep at it Shauna :o )

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shauna September 1, 2011 at 8:15 am

I love that word.

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Caleigh September 1, 2011 at 7:55 am

After reading the first couple of hundred comments I started to skim so apologies if I’m repeating others…
Your writing is beautiful, this blog has inspired me many, many times. I am grateful that you have kept going despite the haters. As someone who has spent her life trying to put on weight, I have had my share of nasty comments too – it seems all body shapes are open to critisism! If you are happy and healty, what else matters?
I hope that the sheer number of comments to this post confirms that your openness is a gift to many.

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Zazie September 1, 2011 at 8:02 am

Irene was on us last Sunday. As a result, uprooted trees and three days without power. As I walked through my neighborhood yesterday, the smell of sap aun upturn earth in my nose, , I thought that people are like trees. Your roots are going deep in tha family of yours, of that island of yours, no wind can put you down. Keep your strenght for reaching both the sky and the earth core and let the mindlesswind blow.

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Gianna September 1, 2011 at 8:11 am

For all the reason you listed and more I discontinued comments over two years ago and I say on my blog that I do not correspond with readers. Not a solution for everyone, but it has been a blessing for me to do that. People still on occasion find my email address but those who do seem to be friendly…My traffic for the most part did not suffer either which surprised me.

Thanks for sharing your experience. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to go back to such a life with hundreds of emails and comments from anyone out there. I do admire those who continue to put themselves out there that way.

I don’t generally comment here either but have been an off and on reader of yours for years.

thanks.

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Jonas Wisser September 1, 2011 at 8:25 am

Rock on. If everyone were as happy in their jobs as you are, the world would be a better place.

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NM September 1, 2011 at 8:30 am

I’ve often wondered during political debates where all the good, reasonable people are. I am shocked to know that this type of horrible commentary is directed at you and your family. Just as in politics, all the reasonable people are busy living theirmlives, and it wouldn’t occur to a good person to devote any energy to attacking or mocking another person. But we are here. All the good and reasonable people. And there are way more of us. So I decided to take a few minutes To add my voice. And say that I really enjoy your writing. I have learned a great deal from you. I love your photos. I wish I could eat at your husband’s restaurant. Your daughter looks adorable and she is so lucky to have you and your husband for her parents. When my 8-year-old daughter was diagnosed with celiac last January, you showed me how to think about it in the best possible way. You made a hard time better for us. You gave us a point of view that has been our guiding principle and she and I both feel fine and happy being gluten free. Thank you for all you do.

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Jennifer Ginter September 1, 2011 at 8:39 am

Even though I am not naive about the ugly side of humans, I am disgusted and devastated by the comments you’ve received. Your site is truly a place of humour, joy, honesty, inspiration and deeply appreciated advice for those of us who must eat gluten free. It’s horrifying to think that so many people make a point of spending their time and energy on tearing you down. Thank you for being as strong and real as you are, admitting that it affects you but persevering. Please remember that even if there are hundreds of sick, damaged people who are committed to writing destructive posts about you and your family, there are hundreds of thousands of us who feel nothing but respect, gratitude and love for you, Danny and Lucy. And when all else fails, wrap yourself up in your beautiful family’s arms and remember that they are what is real and important.

Blessings and love,
Jennifer

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Ria Sharon September 1, 2011 at 8:56 am

I first discovered your blog years ago when I was in the throes of my son’s severe food allergy. Your photography has always been so lovely, your voice an inspiration and I’ve been cheering on the sidelines for your success.

Today, this post was forwarded to me from a colleague at Mom Crunch. We’ve been having ongoing conversations over there about haters and bullies so I shouldn’t be surprised. I know so many people that have been victimized in this way BUT I am still stunned! Today, I was also reading a post from my friend @nametagsoctt called “What My Nametag Taught Me About Anonymity.” And the unfortunate conclusion I came to was that people are cruel to each other online because THEY CAN BE.

This is what Scott said…

Anonymity is the death of civility.

In person. Online. Over the phone. In the mail. Doesn’t matter.
As a person. As an organization. As a brand. Doesn’t matter.
In your personal life. In the business world. Doesn’t matter.

When you’re anonymous, there’s no verifiable identity.
When you’re anonymous, there’s always something to hide behind.
When you’re anonymous, there’s a constant invitation for selfish behavior.
When you’re anonymous, there’s more incentive get away with bad behavior.
When you’re anonymous, there’s less people watching to modify your behavior.

Anyway, I wanted to comment because in this online world, I believe we do have a choice on how we behave. I wanted to do something positive. The haters don’t seem to hesitate to hit submit and yet, sometimes I’m “too busy” or don’t have the time to craft the encouraging word. That’s bs too, you know? In all the years I’ve been reading your blog, relating to you, enjoying your pictures, I honestly can’t recall every leaving a comment. Sure, I’ve tweeted and shared links to posts but today, I’m holding myself accountable and modifying my own behavior.

I’m so sorry that I can’t control others’ behavior or stop the vipers that show up in the comment sections of my friends’ blogs. But I can take a few minutes and step out from the sidelines and actually cheer in a way that could make a difference to you once in awhile! :)

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Sandy September 1, 2011 at 9:01 am

Why put yourself through this? The disrespectful and nasty comments have no information or other value for you and it clearly bothers you to read them. If you want to continue receiving comments hire someone to read and triage them for you. They don’t need to take this nonsense personally or respond in any way unless there are actual threats that need to be referred to law enforcement. The person (and it should be a business relationship not a friend) should save nasty comments in case they are needed later, but not provide them to you. Protecting you from the inevitable crazies is not a worthless job and someone would be glad to be paid to do it as a home business task. Your blog started as personal and still has nice elements of that, but it’s transitioned to being a business for you and this is a cost of doing business. Pay someone to screen and sort your comments, deduct it as a business expense, and go back to doing what you like to do.

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Clair McLaughlin September 1, 2011 at 9:05 am

Dear Shauna and family, I have been reading your blog for many years now, having found it via the “Yes” post, and I absolutely love your blog, photos and recipes. Sending love and hugs.

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Elena September 1, 2011 at 9:07 am

Boo yah! Don’t let the trolls win. It’s tough, being in the public eye, there is no question. You are courageous and a trailblazer. Don’t change a thing, darling. And that rice looks so good I think I just drooled on my keyboard. <3

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Twistie September 1, 2011 at 9:10 am

Hey Shauna,

This is my first time reading your blog. I was directed here by the fabulous sleepydumpling via her blog entry on online bullies.

I’m glad you haven’t let the bullies make you smaller than you are in any sense of the word. When I saw that picture of Lucy’s skinned knee and the strawberries at the top of this entry, it took me right back to long summer days as a small child eating strawberries straight off the plants in my yard. I could taste the berries and feel that sense that the world is perfect just as it is.

Then I read what you had to say about New Orleans and the conference and what you ate, and I fell a little in love when you talked about people lightening up about what they’re eating every single moment. I loathe Velveeta as much as the next foodie, but for goodness sake! taking time to mock someone for a few bites of the stuff? Pfft. I don’t have the time, the energy, or the need to make someone else lesser. And if I had ordered cheesy grits and the cheese turned out to be something less than snobtaculous, well, I would still want to at least try my grits. I, like you, might enjoy the heck out of them if I allow myself to do so.

I got bullied a lot as a child, and there’s one thing I learned from all the smackdowns, vicious rumors, tauntings, and actual beatings: people bully to make themselves feel bigger, stronger, and more important than they believe themselves to be. They do it because they fear that they have nothing to offer the world, that they have no real power. I can’t change how a bully feels about him/herself. I can’t force them to realize that hurting me doesn’t actually give them self-esteem. But there is one thing I can do. I can refuse to give them power over me.

And really, how pathetic must a life be to find power or pleasure in taunting a complete stranger over her waistline or the shape of her baby’s head?

Pity the poor troll. After all, nothing will piss them off more.

Rock on with your awesome self! Joy is contagious. Continue to be a carrier.

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shauna September 1, 2011 at 9:21 am

So glad you came over. Joy is contagious indeed.

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Sarah September 1, 2011 at 9:22 am

I think you and your blog and your family and your joy are wonderful.
Maybe I don’t say it enough so please multiply this message 1000 times.

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Denise September 1, 2011 at 9:33 am

Thank you for what you do, and the courage you possess, to keep on doing it in the face of so much negativity. What a wonderful perspective you have! And a great contribution you make to our world — through your blog, but even more so by the way you live your life! Keep on keeping on, and dancing with JOY in the midst of it all. :)

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JulieB September 1, 2011 at 9:38 am

What a lovely site. I came to this thought-provoking post just today via John Scalzi’s blog. I’ve bookmarked your site and look forward to reading further. Your recipes look divine, and the photograph of your daughter’s skinned knee melted my heart.
I have not read through each one, but I suspect the comments will show that there are an overwhelming number of quiet fans enjoying your site on a regular basis. Damn the trolls, full speed ahead.

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Julie September 1, 2011 at 9:51 am

I love reading your blog! I adore your enthusiasm for food and that has been a huge part of helping me come to terms with eating gluten free. I now consider what I can have rather than what I cannot.
Your sweet little girl looks like the very picture of health. I smiled when I saw the picture of her skint knee, its good to see kids allowed to be normal healthy little people, having fun.
I hope you continue to do what you do so well

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Margaret Floyd September 1, 2011 at 9:55 am

Shauna, I adore what you do, your voice, your recipes, and your incredible and beautiful honesty in this post. Thank you for everything you are doing. You are an inspiration. It’s sad that some are so threatened by that. It breaks my heart that there is such cruelty in this world, and to think of the emptiness in the lives of those who express it to you. You are a shining star that I am so grateful to have found.

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Nina September 1, 2011 at 10:00 am

I haven’t visited your blog for a while, but I’ve always enjoyed my visits. I’ve been coming here since before you met Danny, but don’t always comment. I think you’re amazing and inspiring and beautiful. I’m so glad that you decided to share this part of your world with us. I’ve cried while reading your posts before, but this is one I’ll never forget. Thanks for being here.

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Katie of Cabbage Ranch September 1, 2011 at 10:08 am

Thank you for doing what you do, and for not letting them win. It’s shocking that people could be so evil… but I appreciate your corner of the internet, and your sharing of your family and your life.

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monica September 1, 2011 at 10:10 am

Hi Shauna,
I’ve read your blog a bit over the years and find nothing but inspiration and beauty in it. It’s hard enough dealing with our own internal gremlins. And so sad that people who are really only just envious of your joyful and beautiful (imperfect) life have to express their envy in hateful ways. Keep blogging. You and your family are beautiful. Your words are inspiring. And you add so much joy to the world with your voice.

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Linda from Wales, UK September 1, 2011 at 10:13 am

Hi. I haven’t left a comment in a while, but I do still read. I’m horrified that this goes on, and doubly horrified that it is happening to you and your family. I’ve known that I have coeliac (UK spelling, folks) for almost as long as you have, and was lucky enough to find your website several years ago. You have never been anything but supportive and enthusiastic. I remember your first date with Danny. You kept us waiting for details. It was ages before you told us his name. I read you as you were planning your wedding, as you were waiting for your baby, and then during the terrible time of her operation. You are one of the MOST POSITIVE and generous people I have ever come across, and there are those of us all over the world who think this about you, so do not listen to those terrible, sad people who are obviously bitter and twisted about something, otherwise they would not be searching for happy people to take it out on.
I have long thought that the blessings of the internet might be on the turn. This is one example, where people are using technology when in the past they would have written poison-pen letters. Technology, and life, will turn on them too. I firmly believe that they will get payback. We may not see it, but they are already doing themselves so much damage by being so bitter. They are obviously deeply unhappy, and there is no way at all that you should allow them to affect you and your family.
We love your blog, Shauna. From near and far – I my case, probably thousands of miles away. Keep going, girl!

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Melissa September 1, 2011 at 10:17 am

Those people are horrible! Its terrible that you have to deal with that everyday. Someone needs to get you an assistant to take care of that stuff for you. Then you wont have to see it. You have helped so many people! I think Gluten Intolerance has become more recognized because of the work you have done. You have probably helped many people diagnose their own issues ending years of suffering. I have only had one terrible comment on my blog and I hope it was the last. Please continue to post your stories. Stories are what makes a blog more then just a collection of recipes. And I love yours.

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A Person September 1, 2011 at 10:29 am

It’s a shame that you’ve had to endure such attacks. I’ll admit that I actively dislike most of your recipes (and your florid writing style makes me cringe), but that has nothing to do with your character, your appearance or your family. I can dislike your product and still wish you well as a person.
Anonymity makes trolls bold, and allows them to say harmful, disgusting things without fear of repercussion–things that they’d probably never say in their real, non-internet lives. Horrible. Me? I’d rather “vote with my feet” by not reading your blog, not buying your terrible books, and still hoping that your life is a happy one.

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shauna September 1, 2011 at 11:23 am

Well goodness, this is rational. Wouldn’t it also be rational to not read the blog at all if you dislike the work I do so intensely? Hm.

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Cathy September 1, 2011 at 4:25 pm

A Person (without a name),
Do you get the fact that you are not contributing to making someone’s life happy, if you are calling their books terrible, disliking their recipes, and making rude comments about their writing style? Unnecessary negativity. There is enough of it in our world. Do you really need to add to it?
If you don’t like something, who cares????? Keep it to yourself and stop spreading negativity.

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shauna September 1, 2011 at 5:07 pm

Thanks, Cathy. I also find it pretty funny that the person’s name is A Person, as well as the email. It’s one of the trolls, pretending to be nice.

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Brooke September 4, 2011 at 11:03 am

Wow, this is so telling! Somebody who totally dislikes your “products” continuing to read your blog??!!! This is SO NOT about Shauna and her “products.” It’s about people who need a place to express their pain, unhappiness and bitterness. I feel sad for those folks and wish everyone could be truly happy inside.

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A Person September 8, 2011 at 10:10 am

My intent was not to troll, but just to provide an alternate side of view. I’m glad that Shauna has so many fans, but there needs to be a place for the detractors, too. That’s what balance is about.

While far from rude, my email was harshly worded, but that’s my opinion, and I’m entitled to it. I’m guessing I’m not the first person to criticize Shauna’s writing, and for better or worse, I won’t be the last.

And no–I don’t really read the site; I just happened to catch this one post, and thought it deserved a logical reply/counterpoint. Like I said, I vote with my feet, and I wish Shauna the best.

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LP September 1, 2011 at 10:44 am

I’ve nevr read your blog before and I, to be honest, have no idea who you are but I will now find out. What a brave amazing, funny great writer you are! Well done for speaking the truth. I am so sorry for the cruel and pointless attacks on you and your family – it is hard to believe the cruelty of some people. For the rest of us, thank you for your bravery… X

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shauna September 1, 2011 at 11:20 am

THank you so much.

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Rosita September 1, 2011 at 10:52 am

I wish I could say I was surprised, but I’m not. I have read enough comment sections to know that you must have recieved some. But knowing that it happens doesn’t make it acceptable. If only people would stop and think before they commented – or like you said got outside “get some fresh air”.

There have been times when I have read someone’s blog and gotten angry because they were so happy or they were doing something I have wanted to do. The difference is I am self aware enough to know that it has more to do about where I am at than where to blogger is at. I don’t send angry, hate filled, nasty comments. I look at what I need to change in me. And sometimes I just stop going to that blog until I am able to read it with an open heart. Because the truth is that I love authentic, honest posts. I don’t have to agree with the author, if they are honest and authentic, I want to read it.

All that to say, thank you for risking so much by being honest. I will keep coming back.

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Jennifer September 1, 2011 at 10:58 am

I love your blog and the good energy you create in our world.
You’ve helped re-frame what it means to be gluten free and that is no small thing.
I always save your blog posts when they can be savored, and I can integrate the emotions they bring up. Kind of like how letters used to be.
Thanks for keeping on.
Love to you & Danny & Lu,
Jennifer

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Janna September 1, 2011 at 11:12 am

Sad to imagine people who are miserable enough to project their unhappy selves onto others. You’ve earned your success, your right to write, your joy. Happiness, in part, is a choice, an attitude. You’ve mastered that, through the good and the bad. I admire that.

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Jill September 1, 2011 at 11:19 am

Shauna,

That was a very classy post. You got your point across without being bitter and disgusting as some of those posters were. There’s well over 500 comments before mine, presumably all people who adore you and your beautiful life, so hopefully that shows how appreciated and loved you are.

I’m not much of an internet person, but I have made time over the years to read your blog, seeing you grow as a person taking charge of her health and life, seeing you meet a man who adores you infinitely, seeing you grow a lovely little person who is already such an amazing thing (similar in age to my oldest, so that’s even more special to me), seeing you not only cope with your gf diet, but continually evolving and adjusting it to fit your life, your health knowledge, and your taste…I’m glad you’re still here. My life doesn’t mirror yours–not all your recipes are things I’d make, as I don’t eat meat and can’t afford all of the produce you use, I’m very busy with a baby and don’t have so much time right now, etc.–but I still appreciate all of your postings, photos, and food advice, and think it’s sad that others have to tear down everything that’s not exactly what they’d do. I also appreciate that your blog is generally about food, and doesn’t stray–the internet is a big place, and we can find political rantings, what color one’s socks are, etc. everywhere. (I do like to see darling Lucy pictures and anecdotes from time to time, though, and when you do talk about something, like health/body issues, they’re always very meaningful and certainly have their place). Keep doing what you’re doing so well!

Oh, and on the Velveeta thing…I eat a largely vegan, often raw, diet, and on a hot, hot June day when I was moving houses, my kids were asleep in the car and I went to the Wendy’s drive through for a big Frosty. And it was good.

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shauna September 1, 2011 at 12:53 pm

I love this comment. I can taste that Frosty with you. Thank you.

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Sharon September 1, 2011 at 11:21 am

You and your family are such an inspiration! This is the first time I’ve commented…I’ve wanted to but I have a shyness about that…I have been following your blog since almost the beginning and because of your writings, I have come to learn that the textures and nuances of food and life are not limited. My health and life are better without wheat and gluten (I was diagnosed in 1990 but played around to my detriment). Yours is a helpful voice out there that allows others to realize there is a richness to the fabric of a life without gluten. The guidance, love and encouragement which emanate from your words, your sharing of your experiences…so many are touched. Keep on keeping on!

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Nicole September 1, 2011 at 11:24 am

A lot of people out there (sad souls who would rarely admit that they, too, struggle and that they, too, fall short of the perfect visions they hold for themselves), want desperately to believe that joy is unattainable without impossible perfection. It is their best excuse for their own misery — and an easy way for them to avoid the challenge of learning to love themselves, be present, and practice gratitude. I truly believe that this is what motivates a lot of the bitter, biting, belittling behavior that is all too common today. My best guess is that these folks are unable to reconcile all of the perfectly innocuous “imperfections” they perceive in you and your family with the obvious joy, delight, love, and reward that you find in each other, in your work, and in your food. So they become convinced that what you offer us is a facade or a charade — and they become desperate to “expose” you. To take the obvious example — in their minds, you can’t possibly be healthy and a bit plump; nor can you look unlike a cover model and not be self-loathing. If you, Shauna James Ahern, can reconcile these assumed-opposites, why can’t they? It’s a challenge they don’t want to face. So when they discover that a few bites of Velveeta passed through your lips, they feel the hollow comfort of a “gotcha” victory. They rip this detail out of context and clutch it in their trembling hands, certain that it proves you are a fraud. Everyone, especially the most unhappy among us, needs something to cling to.

I’m so sorry — but, sadly, not at all surprised — to learn that so much of this vitriol has been directed at you and your family. Please don’t misunderstand my comments — I am NOT attempting to excuse any of the horrific words and deeds that have come your way. Rather, I’m simply trying to think through the psychology behind that behavior. It’s a tall order, but rather than simply ignore the “trolls” who surface in all aspects of our lives, and especially on-line where anonymity quells the cowardice that might otherwise silence them, perhaps it is worth attempting to understand what people behave this way. (If for no other reason than to create a better society for ourselves and our children.) By speaking out and starting this dialogue you’ve invited us to begin that work. We can’t just collectively ignore this type of behavior for fear of “feeding the beast.” We need to root it out. And doing so starts by exposing the behavior and the motives behind it.

Your blog has been an invaluable resource as I grow in my practice of gluten-free living. More often than not, I come to your blog and delight in your delight. I revel in the fact that you cracked the code to delicious gluten-free pretzels and had fun doing so. And then I set off to do so myself, hopeful and excited. But I will also freely admit that there have been days — personally bad ones — when I’ve stopped by to grab a recipe and grimaced a little at the narrative the precedes it. When I’m dissatisfied with the place I’m in, your unabashed joy (and that of others I read regularly) stings a bit. In times of darkness, other people’s light can burn. That, though, is no reason to dim your own light. I would never think, let alone say, the type of things that others have said. A key difference between me and these cruel folks (aside from kindness and common courtesy) is that I understand that your life is not a referendum on mine. You’ve aimed to share your life, not flaunt the things that you’ve attained and I’m still striving for. The trolls and the haters seem unable to recognize that you have not set out to mock anyone or to make them feel inadequate. They are driven by a level of self-centeredness that makes them blind to this truth and allows them to lash out without any regard for you and the others they attack.

I wish we collectively acknowledged this pattern and worked hard to break people of it. Selfishness and self-loathing — fueled by a media that sends the message that we are not enough, ignored by the masses who don’t want to dignify the behavior, and perpetuated inside of individuals who probably don’t have someone to help them realize their own worth — is toxic to us all.

You are a strong, beautiful, brave woman. And I admire you.

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shauna September 1, 2011 at 12:52 pm

Nicole, I would like to take this entire beautiful message you write and send it to everyone in the world. Your wisdom here is admirable. And it teaches me too.

What’s funny is that people forget that my happiness is hard won. That I suffered for years, if not decades, before my celiac diagnosis. Not just in the physical symptoms but in the mental toll it took on me to never feel well. If I am enjoying my days, it’s because I had those years to teach me how to cherish these small moments. I’m aware that sometimes people would prefer that I complain more, but it’s just not me. As you said, we don’t want to dim our lights to sit with others in the darkness.

Thank you for everything you wrote.

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Lilyn September 5, 2011 at 12:12 am

Shauna,
I’ve been a reader of your blog for over 3 years now and this is the 1st time i’m leaving a comment as I’m truly touched by your honesty. I’m so sorry about the hatred that exists out there, and that it is directed at you and your family. The internet is a marvelous thing, but it has also caused a huge deterioration in common courtesy thanks to the fact that we no longer need to face up to our actions. Rudeness feeds into each other, and the lack of basic civility is made that much easier when people do not see the hurt they cause. I do not know why someone would dedicate so much time and energy to doing such negative things. And to say that they are trolls and not worth your time and energy may take away the sting by just a little bit; but it sure doesn’t make it any easier for you does it?

I applaud you for writing this post, for being brave enough to say that you are affected by the terrible things that are being said to and about you. And for your generosity in attempting to understand the people behind them. I wholeheartedly agree with Nicole, that exposing such behaviour is something which you and all those other victims can do to oust these people.

Please go on living your life as joyously as you can! I wish you and your family all the best!

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Melissa September 1, 2011 at 11:28 am

Shauna-
I was utterly baffled to read that–being too naive maybe to believe people would say such terrible things–and for what reason? Your blog is one of my opening pages everyday and I LOVE your stories, pictures, recipes–and I’m not living gluten-free.

What a shining, wonderful light you are. I share your blog with any and all individuals I meet that eat gluten-free and even many that don’t–especially when there is a post like this one. I was satisfied with your wonderful post about New Orleans but completely drawn in (and will probably go back and reread) to the rest of it. Not because I believe these trolls as we’ve all called them need more recognition for what they do but to glean all the wonderful nuggets of gold your writing brings out. Especially the “being Age 35+ and maintaining my weight thing”…its so difficult to be happy with who you are and I’m so proud of you for being an example for all of us to do so–regardless of the trolls.
Loves-Melissa P. in Seattle

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Katie September 1, 2011 at 11:31 am

This is my first time visiting your blog and I was completely blown away by your articulate and candid discussion of the bullying that takes place online. I’m frequently appalled by the bad behavior I see from reader comments on various sites and appreciate you standing up against that kind of cruelty. I can understand the argument that by talking about it we are feeding the trolls, but by ignoring it we are giving them the power to stifle our voices.

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Perrin September 1, 2011 at 11:47 am

What a beautifully written, spot-on commentary on the vituperative evil that spews forth on social media every day. Good for you for so many things, but most of all for calling them out. I couldn’t agree more with the thought you had after you hesitated for a moment to post a photo of your child–”I remembered again how sad the life has to be of that person who pulls up this website again, just to find something wrong again. I found compassion in my breath.” You’re stronger than I am to be able to find that compassion, but I respect the hell out of you for it. You’re doing it for you, and for the people (like me) who enjoy your work. Not them. Bravo, Shauna.

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k September 1, 2011 at 11:54 am

Thank you Shauna for who you are and for sharing that with the world! I love to escape into your blog. I’m not gluten free but I enjoy your recipes (make a lot of food for gf friends) and your outlook on life. My husband once taught a student who liked ketchup on his broccoli. When the other kids made fun of him for it, he would say “Don’t yuck my yum.” Now when we find ourselves disagreeing with each other over small things, we say that and it makes us laugh at how ridiculous we can be sometimes about things that just aren’t that important. The negativity you receive can be ignored. Don’t let anyone yuck your yum!

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Angela September 1, 2011 at 12:10 pm

Shauna – I have never posted here before but I have followed you for years. You are a kind, gentle person and you nor anyone deserves for another person to write such horrible stuff about them or their lovely family. I am sorry for all of it – it is heartbreaking. Your daughter is beautiful and so sweet and your husband is adorable. I lost my husband 14 years ago from a massive heart attack and we never had the chance to have any childrren, so hold on to yours tight and who gives a shit what mean spirited people have to say. Thank you for all that you do for us.

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Kim (Feed Me, Seymour) September 1, 2011 at 12:21 pm

I find you to be an incredible inspiration. If anything, I am slightly jealous at the wonderful, fulfilled, happy life you lead. If people want to be mean and make harsh comments, let them. They are rude. I know that doesn’t always help and doesn’t erase the hurtful things people can say. But you deserve better. You are a wonderful writer, blogger, mother, Twitterer.

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Elizabee September 1, 2011 at 12:22 pm

Thank you for sharing the dark side of being a well known and successful blogger. I would never have imagined the scope and depth of hatefulness you receive on a daily basis. Technology can be so amazing and wonderful, but its anonymity can certainly magnify the darkest parts of the human heart. I almost never post any comments on blogs, but felt compelled to do so after reading this. I know you were a teacher- I am too- and it reminds me of how a few vicious and unbalanced parents can color your semester, or even career, even though so may others support you and believe you are making a difference in a child’s life. Keep up your joyfulness!

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Greg September 1, 2011 at 12:32 pm

Came here via John Scalzi. A very good essay/blog entry, and I hope to returning to this flabbergest. Call me naive, but I’m kind of flabbergasted that a food/personal life blogger gets those kind of hateful comments–as disgusting as it is, it would make sense if you were writing about controversial things that people look to rage out on–politics, religion, etc.–but you’re not. It’s a food blog.

Scalzi makes the point that this is clearly a gender thing–the internet brings out misogyny.

Quick question: Do you moderate your comments from the get-go, before they’re posted? If the trolls know they won’t get a chance to be seen, it might cut down on the hate.
I would also recommend occasional troll-posts, as long as they’re disemvowelled (google Teresa Nielsen Hayden) so they can then be thoroughly mocked by the community. The key is not to allow any whiny follow up posts from the troll.

I’m also tempted to suggest that you could occasionally publish trolls’ email addresses, and encourage your commenters to send them email expressing our views. (Margaret Cho did this with an anti-gay poster once, and it worked wonders–he was begging for surrender in 24 hours.)

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shauna September 1, 2011 at 12:43 pm

Ah, good suggestions all. These trolls are clearly savvy, as they use moveable IP addresses and fake email accounts. (For example, the commenter on this post whose email address is aperson@gmail.com. But the comment moderation has been going on for years. It means I see the comments but no one else does.

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Elodie September 3, 2011 at 10:48 am

Shauna, hi, ditto to what everyone else said about mean people sucking.

I am glad someone got to this because I was thinking of it last night — how you have moderated yr comments for years so that “[you] see the comments but no one else does.”

In doing so, you have created for them a special, dank tunnel, a private line between you & they. Let everyone comment, right out in the light. See if they have the guts, and if they do … delete them. Same difference.

At this point, you have already told us the horrible things people say, so we won’t be blinded. Someone might kick them on the way out. OR step over their writhing slime to make their own clear & shining point. Don’t let them hide. Bring it all out into the light.

If you want. It’s just an idea; obviously you can do whatever you like. Best!

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Greg September 1, 2011 at 12:33 pm

Oh good! You DO moderate comments.

Damn. Haters gonna hate.

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Caroline September 1, 2011 at 12:46 pm

Thank you. Your lovely, lively voice has inspired me to dance round the room. The flamers are likely talking about their disgust at themselves. My 18 month old nephew eats exactly what his body demands, last time he caught a cold he refused anything but fruit, mostly living on oranges for a couple of days!

Great big kisses to your daughter’ adventurous knees.

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Haddayr September 1, 2011 at 12:48 pm

Thank you for writing this. I often write about vaccinations, and get hate mail from anti-vaxxers. I’ve gotten comments about how unattractive I am, as well, from people who do not believe I conform to standards of femininity, and hateful things about my children. It sucks.

I am so glad that you are still here and you are still writing your story.

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Paul Carrucan September 1, 2011 at 1:32 pm

Good for you keep doing what you are doing the way you want to do it.
It is after all your joyous life to live.

Best wishes.

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T.S. September 1, 2011 at 1:47 pm

When someone stands up and speaks their truth and it comes from the heart, it is life-giving and it gives others the freedom to do the same (as evidenced by this endless comment stream).
Thank you for not playing small in order to appease the sad and angry voyeurs.
I am inspired and grateful. May your tribe increase exponentially.

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jesse September 1, 2011 at 1:53 pm

shauna, I have never commented before on your wonderful blog , but after this heartrenching post I have too. I have to be one more voice of love, I love your blog , I love reading bits about your life and what shapes your world. It brought tears to my eyes to hear what you said today, I just want you to know how much my mom and i (both celiac) appericate what you do , please stay strong and don’t ever stop.

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Lynn September 1, 2011 at 1:58 pm

Good for you, for speaking out. It is a shame that success is always met with jealousy and hatred. I applaud your approach – using trolls as a reminder to live – and write fearlessly is a wonderful way to take something ugly, and bring it into the light. Your writing and your food are inspiring, as is your generous spirit.

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Megan September 1, 2011 at 2:03 pm

I imagine those people who write cruel things to you and others are sad, lonely souls looking for some kind of human contact, just a little bit of attention, and they simply don’t know any other way to get it. I hope one day they realize that they are going about life in the wrong way.

Love to you and your family.

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Debs September 1, 2011 at 2:17 pm

Wow. I’m so sorry to hear you’ve been through that, Shana. I’m a first time visitor.

Nobody deserves those kind of comments. I’ve started a policy in my life where I try hard to think about what I’m about to say. If it’s negative, I try not to say it and just move on. This policy also applies to my online world as well.

There’s so much pain and suffering in the world. So many people bear heavy burdens that I’m not aware of. I’d hate–whether in ignorance or arrogance–to cause even more harm to them.

I will say this – I’m not a chef or a gluten free girl but I stayed because I loved your site. You shared about life with such joy! Visiting your blog was like stepping into a friend’s cozy home. It made me smile. :D

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Kimberly September 1, 2011 at 2:21 pm

Shauna, I haven’t commented before, but saw this last night and thought it was appropriate, seeing as you have so many wonderful people in your life as well as the trolls~

“My friends remind me, by their very steadfastness, that truth, beauty, and goodness exist in the world, and that, no matter what, there are and always will be people loving people through thick and thin.”

Those are the people that matter. period.

Best,
K.

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Marisa Voorhees September 1, 2011 at 2:37 pm

What a powerful post. Thank you for your honesty and for sharing the “other” side. It takes strength and courage to put compassion out in the world. And it takes skills and talents to serve them up so beautifully in words and in dishes. I’m looking forward to making your recipe with this post. In my house, it will forever be known as Compassion Salad.

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Ragna September 1, 2011 at 2:58 pm

I was linked to this post by a friend on Livejournal, and am very glad I read it. I have been incredibly fortunate that I have not received this kind of negative feedback in the ten years I’ve run websites and had an online journal. I write fanfic, with many different pairings and in many different fandoms. Google my name and my main LJ account and you find at least thirty stories, if not more. It would be so easy for someone to go “I think your writing is crap, go crawl in a hole and die” but other than one experience when I first started writing and posting I’ve been generally unscathed. I don’t know how you can do this when it is so much more personal. My personal journal is locked down tighter than Fort Knox after a former friend blasted me in comments to a post about my looks, my weight, how I was a horrible parent and I should just roll over and die. And this was from someone I knew off the internet who I had allowed to see my journal and know all the thoughts and feelings I had that I wasn’t already sharing with him. But I digress. I really admire your courage for putting this out here. And I’m so glad you continue to do what you love. Carry on and keep your head high. That’s the best way to show them. And I’ll share this post because everyone needs to read it, I think.

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Judy Schwartz Haley September 1, 2011 at 3:00 pm

“I had to think twice before I put up the photo of the strawberry picnic that Lucy asked if we could have the day after I returned from New Orleans. Bare legs, dirty feet from playing in the garden, skinned knee.” Oh, if only more kids could spend their days like this… skinned knees and all. this is thriving through childhood.

The poor trolls, so caught up in their own vitriol, they don’t understand that they’re poisoning themselves.

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shauna September 1, 2011 at 4:11 pm

I agree. That’s why I do feel bad for them. They walk around bitter and waiting for the next thing to hate. What kind of life is that?

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Little J's Mom September 1, 2011 at 3:15 pm

Your posts are wonderful – a mixture of practical information interspersed with a great story. Don’t let the negativity get to you!

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mamie September 1, 2011 at 3:23 pm

i heard you speak at blogher and since then i have followed your tw/insta/blog and have loved what i found. i have trialed the gluten free life and love it what i am learning about my body and my food through this experimentation. you exude joy and embrace your life and that is lovely and wonderful and good. thank you for sharing it, for continuing to share it in the wake of such blatant terrible jealousy and grossness.

you had mentioned something of the nasty side of your online life at blogher and i was not stunned so much as astonished that folks can find so many ways to vilify your joy. i think this world reacts in such negative ways to joy lived out loud, the ones without cringe and rend their clothing, no wait, this is the internet, right? so they scream foul from the rooftops of comments and anonymous sites and they try to shred you joy.

i say fuck them. as a true believer in karma, i say they are already fucked. i work with the elderly in home care and it is like watching karma played out loud. the ones that lived harsh and joyless lives pay for it as they age and fade, their lives shrunken and stiff. the ones that embrace their joy and love and lives? they go out singing, they may ache and get cancer and be in pain but somehow they still dance through their lives, even to the end.

you will be a dancer. i know that. namaste, shauna

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shauna September 1, 2011 at 4:10 pm

Mamie, you made my day. And yes, I will be dancing.

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Elizabeth September 1, 2011 at 3:49 pm

YES, I’ve yet to post before. YES, I eat gluten all the time. And, YES, there’s flour in just about every crevice in my kitchen from making pizzas and muffins and just LIFE as my toddlers run about my feet. YES, I’ve read your blog for years because, well, I just like you. I like that I feel more like running to my kitchen, embracing the bedlam that is my life, after I read your posts. Because, YES, this is LIFE. This is fun – the embracing who you are, what your body needs, what feeds not just your tummy but your soul. You say YES to life. Selfishly, you’re my reminder to do just that – YES – on the days that I feel like it’s a little out of reach. And for that, I say THANK YOU.

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Jen September 1, 2011 at 4:22 pm

Shauna, Thanks for writing and posting these recipes. It helps many people out there who are floundering with a gluten free diet.

Second of all – Mean People Suck…. Ignore them as best you can and know that you are making a difference.

Happy Cooking – Jen

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unscrambled September 1, 2011 at 4:32 pm

Shauna—

Like many others here, I’ve never commented.

I just want to show support for you against this bull puckey, and say a hearty hooray to your loving approach to your own body, and to health at every size in general. Warmest to your whole family.

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anne cloutier September 1, 2011 at 5:09 pm

Thank you for being so transparent. Aside from your cooking skills and my interest in gluten free food, what keeps me coming back to your blog is your voice – your beautiful, unique voice, as precious and yours as your looks, your life, the kindness and sensitivity that comes through in everything you write. It takes courage to be one who invents and put their heart out, rather than one who gets attention by putting others down. Don’t let them win.

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Jeanine September 1, 2011 at 5:17 pm

I too was brought to tears after reading this post. It was very hard to believe someone would say those kind of things to you and others who are trying so hard to help us folks. After ruminating on my reply I came up with this thought. When you are deleting the trolls responses think …

I am saying NO to you and YES to life, to love, to my passion, to my calling, to myself and YES all of the other people who enjoy sharing the ride with me and my family and friends.

I was hoping that there would be a lot of responses so that when this issue was getting you down you could read of few of them and remember how much good you are doing for so many. Every time I read your post I will say a prayer that you will be strong and persevere , that you will BREATH and know that we waaaaaay outnumber the trolls.

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shauna September 1, 2011 at 5:27 pm

Thank you, Jeanine. I love your list of yes.

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Elizabeth September 1, 2011 at 5:44 pm

Dear Shauna,
I never would have guessed or dreamed that people could be so unkind to you and your family. I enjoy reading your posts on a daily basis. I tweet far more than you and I have 5 kids. Oh well. Can’t fix everyone I suppose… Keep being you please.
As I posted on twitter, thank you for sharing this lovely, delicious and most sincere recipe I’ve ever read. Thank you for sharing yourself.
I relish each day the gift I receive– the posts you make and the love you share to those around you. Thank you!
Elizabeth (Betasig67)
xo

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Julie September 1, 2011 at 5:53 pm

I was directed to this post from another blogger and if there is one good thing that comes from sharing your pain, it is that you have gained yet another loyal reader. Funny thing is, I have recently experimented with gluten-free and was struggling. Finding your blog has given me hope that I can live healthy and gluten-free. For this I can only thank you and hope you can continue to persevere in the face of such awful, mean, and hateful comments. For every one of the haters, there are countless others you are helping.

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Abby September 1, 2011 at 5:59 pm

First of all, when I brought up this post and saw your little girl with skinned up knees and dirty feet it made me happy. A kid isn’t really having fun (especially in summer time) until they are covered in dirt and scrapped up a bit. Good for her! And second… More power to you. I’ve never understood why people would waste their precious lives hating on other people’s… What a waste of time. Don’t let these sorts ruin the happy life you’ve created for yourself. :)

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Renee September 1, 2011 at 5:59 pm

I just wanted to comment and say thank you for this post. I’m SO very sorry for what you have gone through, but today, on my 36th birthday, I am struggling to overcome what you have already, with your body image and health. It helps tremendously to find others who have taken this journey and come out on the other end successfully. Thank you for sharing.

Renee

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Megan September 1, 2011 at 6:01 pm

what you are describing is called bullying. it was mean when we were kids, it is inexcusable among grown ups. when my 11 year old daughter tells me about someone being less than kind, i tell her to consider that someone likely treats the mean kid badly and that seems to take away some of the sting. i also shared with her the entry i am sharing below from one of my favorite non food bloggers, Kristen Armstrong – i hope you enjoy it – and as Kristen wrote – speak up, act out, try new things, make mistakes, say what you feel, risk, reach out, put it out there, have opinions, ask questions, be deliberate, be hasty, be vulnerable, be real. be your own bad ass self – without apology.

“Ever notice how easy it is to find fault in others? There are plenty of timeless metaphors for this very human phenomenon – from the pot calling the kettle black, to the Biblical “take the log out of your own eye so you can see the speck in your brother’s eye,” to those in glass houses should not throw stones.

I hear the playground war stories from my children…who was mean to whom, who called so-and-so a name, who wouldn’t share, who wouldn’t let them play, etc. And I know it in my own life, in my own so-called grown-up heart, when I feel attacked or slighted or ignored. Sometimes criticism can be an invitation to growth, especially when the critic speaks truth with deep knowledge and love. Other times, particularly when a mean-spirited person is just getting their kicks or nursing their own insecurities, it serves no good purpose at all.

I console myself the same way I comfort and bolster my children. I remind them that the best way not to get picked on is to do nothing. Be nothing, learn nothing, do nothing, stand for nothing, and talk to no one. I say this with a smile.“But Mom,” they say, “that’s really boring.” “Exactly.”

A surefire way to get picked on is to speak up, act out, try new things, make mistakes, say what you feel, risk, reach out, put it out there, have opinions, ask questions, be deliberate, be hasty, be vulnerable, be real.

I keep a quotation from writer/comedian Katie Goodman, ripped out of a magazine and framed in a dog bone-shaped frame, on my desk in my office. I read it any time I need to “throw myself a bone.” It says: There will invariably be people who do not accept you. And in that case you must be your own badass self, without apology.

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shauna September 1, 2011 at 8:25 pm

I love that quote. Thank you.

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megan September 2, 2011 at 10:54 am

:) i’m glad you liked the quote – i love the entire essay and have read it many, many times in the years since it was published (2008). what is obvious from the more than 700 comments you’ve received about your experiences is that you have started a much overdue conversation – one that is has touched a nerve with many, many people who have also been hurt by other people’s words – the vast majority of whom don’t blog or have never commented on a blog before – myself included. Not agreeing with someone is fine – good even – but bullying is never ok and doing it anonymously can, at best, be described as cowardly. I have one other quote that I love that I wanted to share – “hatred is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” Words to live by don’t you think? – i hope you continue to be deliberate, vulnerable and real and that you believe only the good stuff – the rest is just very sad noise – because the world needs more women like you -

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shauna September 2, 2011 at 11:02 am

That quote has informed me for years, particularly through this. Thank you.

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Sofia September 1, 2011 at 6:01 pm

Absolutely appalling. I have had to re-train myself not to ever read the comments on any political story posted online, because they are unbelievable. But to mock a three-year-old? I cannot think of anything more hateful, and I’m sorry that you have had to deal with that. But for every troll and miscreant, I firmly believe that there are 100 more of us. Stay strong!

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sarah September 1, 2011 at 6:18 pm

I’ve been following you on twitter and can’t imagine the people who spend all sorts of time reading your work, studying you, and writing about you. They must be quite jealous of your happiness and skills. Why else would one devote such time to mock? I am wondering if these are the same people who come up with Internet and banking scams. They seem to have so much spare time. Perhaps we could find them and put them to work cleaning up after the hurricane or solving the national debt crisis.

I appreciate you sharing about being comfortable in the skin you are in. At 29 I picked up a bridesmaids dress today for a wedding in 30 days. I am left with two choices in order to fulfill my maidly duties: breast reduction surgery or temporary anorexia. But I don’t particularly like those options and I feel good in my skin even if I am a few pounds heavier, some one just needs to tell my clothes that. Thanks for reassuring me- I wonder if it’s too late to back out of the wedding so I can enjoy my labor day weekend. Please enjoy yours!

Thanks for your post.

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Marlene September 1, 2011 at 6:22 pm

Just beautiful.
I am in awe of your grace and poise, and hope that you will always feel the inner strength pouring thru you he way it did when you wrote his.

Live and love with joy.

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Mary Wharff September 1, 2011 at 6:37 pm

I think people who write that hateful kind of stuff are probably jealous of you and your happiness. I have found that there are always people ready to be mean and cause unhappiness just because they have nothing in their own lives to make them happy. Your receipe is great, and I hope you keep writing! Just develop a callous on your delete finger!!

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Erica September 1, 2011 at 6:42 pm

I was so sad to read about the awful emails etc. you receive. It was difficult for me to read. I’m so glad you didn’t let it stop you from continuing to share yourself (and your beautiful family) with us. Thank you!

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Norah T September 1, 2011 at 6:44 pm

You my dear, have gotten stronger and surer because of the emotional cripples in our world, so they have done you a service without even wanting to. You have taken the bad and the ugly and made a beautiful life for yourself! You are one of the people that survives and becomes stronger and richer in spirit and compassion. I really am proud of you and I only know you from your written word! Thanks for not letting the sad people of this world put you down and out!! Keep your chin up and stay on your feet!! Thanks!!!

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Lori Stone September 1, 2011 at 6:46 pm

Good post, girl! V. good! I’ve decided, though, that you must just ignore those that want to suck the life out of you. Keep your head up!

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John Nelson September 1, 2011 at 6:46 pm

I think I have a new hero. You are you, and that is all you need to be.

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dianne September 1, 2011 at 6:47 pm

I don’t know if you are even reading 599 comments, but my comment is that I love your recipes and I love your blog. On my 50th birthday I received a card with the quote by Isabel Allende “After 50, all the bullshit is gone” – So, dear girl, toss out all the bullshit and keep living and loving your family and traveling and hanging with friends and eating and making good food and drinking and looking beautiful! Delete negative comments… negative people do NOT deserve your attention!
Keep on, girl! Keep on!

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shauna September 1, 2011 at 8:22 pm

Oh believe me, I’m reading every comment! (I always do.) thank you.

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Jeri September 1, 2011 at 6:53 pm

Oh Shauna
I went to your site because I wanted to tell you that the picture of you and your family in the new Easy East magazine was one of the best pictures I’ve seen in a long, long time. And what did I find, but your blog on the horrible things people say. I am soooo sorry. But I’ll leave the opposite message. Your family is BEAUTIFUL.

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venividi September 1, 2011 at 6:55 pm

Shauna,
Although i’m not a big fan of your recipes or writing, i’d never trash you so. It is just not kosher. Respect and kindness always work much better than hatred and spite. Haters, you don’t like something, don’t read it; or voice your objections politely. This kind of vile commentary is unacceptable.

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Dawn C September 1, 2011 at 6:58 pm

I don’t often comment on blogs that I read – I’m happy enough to browse the blogging world taking a little bit of this and that from each one. I am so sorry to hear about the nastiness directed at you and really don’t understand what these “people” get from these attacks. It seems you have a lot of support anyway but just to say, here’s one more in your corner :-)

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Tracie September 1, 2011 at 7:01 pm

Shauna I adore your blog and your books. I’m sorry that people try to spoil a great communication medium and try to hurt and harm you. Your blog has changed the way I view my coeliac disease, even though I have been g.f for most of my life. Don’t give up on all you do. Tracie from australia

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Denise Delgado September 1, 2011 at 7:06 pm

How terribly sad that people can be so cruel and ugly with their thoughts and words. I love your blog and I love that you shareyour life and recipes, that you are a real person who chooses to share. I am so touched by your story and am very glad that you will continue to share with those who love you, despite the ugliness of others. Thank-you from one of your fans who cares… :)

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Joyce Summers September 1, 2011 at 7:08 pm

Shannon,
It is sad that our country had raised people who think it is ok to hurt other people. The old saying “Stick and Stones may break my bones but Words will Never Hurt Me” is one of the most “WRONG” statements that was ever said. I do not under stand why people think it is their duty or right to say such hateful and hurtful things. I have been on the receiving end of hurtful words several times in my life and I can only say I hope you look beyond those people who have to be uneducated and very unhappy with their lives and keep on doing what makes you and your family happy. If people do not like you they are free to not read your blog. I hope you are always able to over come what these small people say and have a great live. Keep doing what you are doing and love your husband and your children!

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Lisa September 1, 2011 at 7:16 pm

Could I love you more? Bravo. Sweet, wild, beautiful woman.

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Basilmomma/Heather Tallman September 1, 2011 at 7:25 pm

I am SO proud of you for telling your story! I cannot believe that people take the time to do that! I mean..seriously!

I recently posted an editorial in my local paper where I have a weekly column and also posted it on my blog and on Earth Eats where I am a blogger about how Fast Food isn’t making our kids unhealthy…We (as parents) are. With in 25 minutes of this being online and in print that day I had 27 emails, a full voicemail box and 3 angry people who came to my house. I received 2 letters where they told me to ‘watch my back’ and they would ‘hurt my kids’. I called the police. I can’t take that chance. I am glad I did it and it opened a dialogue that we all need to have…but no on messes with my kids…

Bravo to you and your junk in the trunk. I am in good company with you…and I am NOT looking back!

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shauna September 1, 2011 at 8:21 pm

That is a horrible story! Oh people. I have certainly noticed that here — talk about feeding kids whole foods instead of fast food? Start ducking.

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Kat Hollimon September 1, 2011 at 7:26 pm

I am proud of you for standing up for you and your family and your life. There are so many rotten mean people in the world as you know it’s just sickening that people are this way. Please carry on IN SPITE of them. Be proud of who you are, what you do and how you look. NO ONE is perfect! Even those skinny babes on fashion magazines and stuff have to have their photos air brushed.

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Jill September 1, 2011 at 7:31 pm

Thank you for your joy and courage and common sense and great food and for being who you are despite who others may be. Wishing you much continued success! XO

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Leslie Ryan September 1, 2011 at 7:31 pm

Thank you for sharing your life with us wannabes, thank you for being a real human, thank you for not allowing the trolls to win, but most importantly for remembering that you are the best you that you can be and no one, not even one of those nasty trolls can be YOU any better than you. Are you perfect? Nope, but here is a secret neither are they. Imagine those people that are all filled with hate and meanness all wrapped in bandages from head to toe, barely an inch of skin showing anywhere, why are they wrapped in bandages because they are in pain, they are severely injured and their lashing out at you is to trying to deflect the pain that is so overwhelming to them. Smile when you read their words, say a prayer that they are healed from their suffering, hit delete and move on.

Blessings and love to you my sister. (I too am a HEALTHY non size 4 woman)

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Leslie Ryan September 1, 2011 at 7:37 pm

oh yeah I forgot my favorite quote to boost your spirits, this is so very true. “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” Dr. Suess

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Kiki September 1, 2011 at 7:40 pm

Oh Shauna,
I can’t tell you how this post moved me. I want you to know how you saved me. I have been gluten and dairy free for some time now. I was struggling with “issues” and my ND did testing for food sensitivities. It turns out I have many. I was devastated! Food has always been a source of love for me (my mother is Mexican) and now, it was making me sick, literally. Two days after I was given my results, you wrote a post about YES. It was exactly what I needed to pull me up from the low I was wallowing in. I changed my mind and realized that I was saying YES to health and I needed to get in the kitchen and make it happen. I visited my mother and she jumped in to help me. Together we were able to find some wonderful ways for me to enjoy food again. I still have struggles, but my attitude is positive. I know I am on the path to restored health and you showed me the way to that path. I am so grateful for you and this blog.
Thank you!

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Wendy September 1, 2011 at 7:42 pm

I’m so glad you wrote this – for yourself, your family and all of us who feel the judgement daily. Light and love need space and you have created a wonderful one here.

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jen September 1, 2011 at 7:49 pm

thank you for this. i admire your honesty and your bravery. this world is so much better off because of you. xoxo

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sarah September 1, 2011 at 7:53 pm

I love your posts. Your stories bring up a whole range of emotions, make me cry. Lu is just about the cutest derned thing I’ve ever seen. A while back, you posted a video in which Lu smelled something (lemon? spices?) and just burst into smiles and laughter. At that moment I thought, “I want to raise my kids just like that.” Please never stop telling your story.

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Naomi September 1, 2011 at 8:07 pm

Yet another first time commenter. Your blog made it inarguably clear that a celiac diagnosis was not the end of food. You have what I have; you cook what I cook. It’s been a reference for me for years now, and certain posts, certain breakthroughs (gluten free baking without gums!) are precious lessons learned to me. When someone gets that diagnosis, I send them to you. The public space you create here (the one that allows all this anger to find you) also helps other folks share your discoveries. What you do is important. What you make is valuable. You help.

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earth mama 101 September 1, 2011 at 8:10 pm

Wow Shauna! You have so many comments because you touched so deeply and so compassionately upon something that every single one of us have dealt with at some point in our lives, if not still. The way you wrote it all out just brought up an amazing feeling of busting into tears, yet mostly because I can sense in the great way that these words have empowered you and everyone who read them. We are all individuals with our own shit to deal with, our inner shit, our digging deep shit. No one has the right to point these things out to us, because that is personal business for us and only us as individuals to decide how deep to go. By stepping back, you shine happiness and peace; these others…the “trolls” they are struggling big time. They are so removed from the truth of gratitude and blessings and love of life…I feel sorry for them, although that does in no way excuse their actions. You are such a beautiful woman. You shine it. Others feel insecure by that. Think about Jesus and Buddah…they saw what was important and others mocked them for their happiness. I admire you for all that you do, your words, and your story. I don’t even know you, but I love you. You are wonderful just because you are YOU!

Much Love,
:) Lisa

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49 with Wrinkles, Integrity and an Imperfect Life September 1, 2011 at 8:39 pm

Thank you! You’re not alone and now I know I am not. I have been an online presence in a different area (not food related, but business related) for 10 years. I have experienced the same as you with the attacks and cruelty. It’s gone even further and included threats towards me, my husband and my children.

It’s more than just the anonymity of the web – it’s the access the web gives to those that would otherwise be confined in a well supervised facility or sitting home alone without friends because they have no humanity in their soul and nothing to attract friends with.

It’s called jealousy.

And the greatest way to defeat it is to live your life to the fullest and continue on your own path of joy and love. It does help mute those that shouldn’t have spoken in the first place.

You brought me tears of comfort today. Thank you. And thank you for the wonderful insights into your world and the food you share.

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Lori September 1, 2011 at 8:44 pm

Shauna, I have read your joyful, inspirational blog for over 3 years, since I first discovered my gluten-intolerance. I truly enjoy your open, positive, life-embracing writing as well as your amazing photography. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for all you do to make living gluten-free not seem like such a sacrifice. I also loved your book and the story of “Yes.” I’ve tried to make that my motto, as well. Don’t let the negativity get you down; there are SO many people who have been, and will continue to be, inspired by you and your zest for life!

Much love,

Lori

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Shauna Quint September 1, 2011 at 8:52 pm

Dear Shauna,
I must admit, I have never heard of you until I saw your story from “Laura’s Best Recipes”. She had asked if we had time to read your story. Having the same name peaked my interest and I decided to read it. Of coarse not long after I began reading, I became very angry at people’s ignorance. Please Shauna don’t stop what you are doing and please do not feel the need to explain to anyone why you are who you are and why you do what you do. You could find the cure for cancer and people would still have mean things to say. I wish anyone who has the audacity to speak about someone the way they have spoken about you could walk a mile in your shoes but they probably could not keep up!! I can tell just by the way you speak about your family and your blog, you love them and what you do. You are luckier than most and maybe that is the reason all these people are just jealous. They hate themselves and their jobs and have nothing better in life to do than bash other people. You have a very exciting life filled with a wonderful husband, daughter and a fabulous job which allows you to travel to wonderful places. God Bless you!!!!!

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Megan September 1, 2011 at 9:14 pm

I’ve only recently found your site and haven’t commented until now. I just cannot be silent and feel compelled to add my voice to the hundreds of others who have voiced support and encouragement to you and your beautiful family. Please do keep writing and sharing and inspiring the many people who are so enriched by reading your words.

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Chakra Khan September 1, 2011 at 9:18 pm

You are beautiful. Your hubby is handsome. Your daughter is adorable. Don’t let the “trolls” thwart you because they are too cowardly to give voice to their own lives.

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Cary September 1, 2011 at 9:52 pm

This is the first blog of yours I have seen and I have to say for every 1 troll there must be a gazillion people who appreciate the normalcy of your life. You have a child, you have a husband, a job, you travel all while balancing your sanity. Seems to me you do a fabulous job! I certainly will look you up on facebook but as I heard from Joel Olsteen “DON’T LET ANYONE, ANYONE!!! STEAL YOUR JOY” it is yours, own it, love it and don’t let anyone steal it!! thank you for this article. It brought tears to my eyes that people could be so cruel but joy to my heart that you have chosen not to engage! Hang in there!

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Marie September 1, 2011 at 9:53 pm

I love your blog and your writing! I have shared it with so many people. I love your recipes and photos, but my favorite are your personal stories – the love you have for your husband and baby are so sweet and strong. It makes me happy. I cannot imagine who wastes their time writing you such hateful words – mind boggling. This is the first time I am commenting and I’ve been reading for years, so I’m sure there are thousands of people loving your work for each stupid negative comment you get. They ARE just jealous. Keep up your amazing and honest work!

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Jude Lutge September 1, 2011 at 10:01 pm

Just fabulous, the sentiments, the photo, the recipe.

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Julialuli September 1, 2011 at 10:14 pm

Shauna,
I feel ill reading this. I guess bullies do grow up to be Trolls. I’ve wondered if the “It Get’s Better” campaign is making a difference, and kids tell me that no one is listening. The truth is, it doesn’t get better, we just get smarter. Like you. Speaking up.

Love, could you hire a “weeder” to zap those emails before you see them in your box? I know the other shit exists on the Internet, but you don’t have to read it.

Your joy is real, especially since you continue to put out beautiful posts each week. Thank you for being brave.

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CJ September 1, 2011 at 10:20 pm

Thank you, Shauna, for having the raw courage and unique ability to craft words to confront these jerks. Does anyone remember how, after 9/11, we as a country drew together – and how this was going to change our society? More people in churches, more emphasis on home/family/relationships, etc. One glance at the online responses to news articles speaks volumes; we have certainly not gone in that direction.
Can someone else read and delete these messages/emails for you? I hate to think that even a smidgen of the vitreol lodges in your brain…
Keep the faith!

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Bree September 1, 2011 at 10:29 pm

Dear Shauna,
I have never commented before, but felt I had to after reading your post. First off, I am horrified at the capacity for cruelty that some people seem to have. Secondly, what you wrote about accepting your body and self rang so true to me. I was anorexic for many years, and only recently (and after much treatment) have become well. I am no longer gluten-free (my gluten intolerance turned out to be caused by malnutrition), but I still read your blog, as your attitude towards food and life inspires me. Please keep sharing your wonderful stories and pictures with the world. You and Danny and Lucy are one of the most lovely, healthy, beautiful families I have ever seen. I am only twenty, but some day I would love to have a family like yours. Thank you.

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Gwendolen September 1, 2011 at 10:37 pm

Shauna,

I found this really upsetting and shocking- I had no idea people were saying such horrible things to you and other inspiring bloggers out there! I wish you and your family all the best, you’ve built a beautiful life! Trust in your heart and soul and all the goodness that you put out into the world- it will prevail over the hate and jealousy out there every time!

Warm regards,
Gwen

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Katherine September 1, 2011 at 10:45 pm

Wow! Go you! This is a great post! I wish we would all just have more compassion for ourselves, most importantly, but also for others. Im so glad you’re starting with you and doing what you do. I’m going to try to take your lead and be nicer to myself and everyone else tomorrow. Xoxo

Ps – I can vouch for the rice and veg. Yum!
Ppss – I like the finger paint on your walls. It’s character!

Love to Lu!

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Jennie September 1, 2011 at 10:57 pm

Shauna
I have never commented here before either, but I’ve used your recipies, bought your book and generally enjoy popping in to see what you’ve been up to. I have seen the odd nasy comment (about your work, etc) in other forums and essentially I’ve been puzzled, if people are unhappy, why don’t they do the equivalent of turning off the set? Over the years I’ve realised that these pathetic and miserable individuals need to hurt people who’ve done well, unfortunately the ‘net gives them the opportunity to hurt others way beyond their immediate vicinity. You’ve done well. (I’d like to emphasise that but I’ve forgotten what I used to know about html mark-up). What I’d like to do is give you a hug, please accept this electronic version. [For some excellent descriptions and witty insights into the purile mind of the troll you may enjoy the comments at making light, specifically from the post of 3 July about google's locking of acounts.]
For every twerp out there, many more of us quietly enjoy what you are doing. Courage mon brave.

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DVS September 1, 2011 at 11:14 pm

“Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host. But anger is like fire. It burns it all clean.”
— Maya Angelou

Thank you for writing this. Shining light on this nastiness is the best way for all of us to diminish the power of the sad, damaged people who choose to spend their time hurting others with hateful words.

The most uplifting part of this post for me are the hundreds of comments below it. I hope the words of the many hundreds of us whose lives are touched in a positive way by your writing, your food and your photos (if you’re still reading this far down the comments :-) ) are enough to replete the energy you spend deleting those truly awful comments.

One observation/request – it saddened me to come across words in some of the comments that use this as an opportunity to be hurtful to others:
“Have you hugged people who are a size 4. All bones and fragility.” – It should not feel any more okay to throw a critical dagger toward size 4 people (and the quality of their hugs, no less) than it is to do the same to someone who is a size 12, 32 or 44.

“It is my personal belief that most kids in this country are malnourished, appearing waiflike and scrawny. Not surprising, as they subsist on cereal, skim milk, packaged chicken nuggets and low-fat frozen yogurt. I believe that deep down, the parents of these children are angry because they deprive themselves (and their children) of ice cream and butter. And so they light their torches and rail against those of us who are not starving ourselves.” – Seriously? The intent here is hurtful, as is the effect. My “scrawny” two kiddos eat everything from kale and lentils to bacon, butter, steak, whole milk, ice cream, etc. and they’ve never had a packaged chicken nugget in their lives. They run around all day long. And their genetics mean they’re tiny and “scrawny.” How about if none of us presume to know and judge the things we can’t possibly know about other people in the world?

On this post of all posts, it would be lovely if our supportive comments were just that. Without judgment and criticism.

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shauna September 1, 2011 at 11:17 pm

I am with you on this one. Yes. There’s no reason to judge anyone for size. Seriously. We are all born with different bodies. That’s all.

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Susan September 1, 2011 at 11:24 pm

Beautiful and brave. Thank you for putting that out there.

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Gretchen September 2, 2011 at 12:08 am

I know I haven’t commented much here, just a few times here and there, but I’ve been reading… you were one of the first people I stumbled over when I was trying to make sense of my celiac, and I was overjoyed to find you. I am notoriously bad at baking, but I am getting better, and you know why? Because of your post about weighing for baking. Your post on mixing flours has freed me from pre-made blends that often have something I’m allergic to… or trying to make substitutes by volume that often fall flat, literally. I can mix myself the perfect flour now, that still works right. I am still shy with flour but getting bolder, beginning to figure out how it works, so different from the world where I just throw in handfuls of whatever. Baking simply doesn’t work like that, not until I’ve done it enough to know it by feel. That’s an exciting thought, too. Pancakes, yes, I thought I could make pancakes all right before, but your recipe manages to have loft while still having that whole grain earthiness I love. I can use flax now instead of gum, that always makes me a little sick… I was putting up with that but I don’t have to anymore. It’s not just that you create recipes that taste better, but they make me feel better, too.

More importantly I read of the joy that you put into everything, even the hardest times, and it makes me happy. I read about you being able to go to a farm stand, choose something, leave money on the honor system. I see pictures of your beautiful family and the joy you have together. Your honesty, too — you don’t just write about these bright spots, but all of it. It’s breathtaking and brave, braver than I am.

I’m so sad to hear that someone who has brought me so much joy has to put up with so much nastiness. Thank you for speaking out on it. I really, really, hope it stops.

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Janet NZ September 2, 2011 at 12:11 am

I have just received my first ever seriously NASTY comment, which I have tracked back from my comments to this post.
I need you to know that I can handle it.
The comment made me gasp, then laugh- it is just so nasty. I have to be sorry for such a person.
You are loved and appreciated… and through blogging I have made a few deeply wonderful friendships. Before I read your first book, I didn’t even know about blogging. So, THANK YOU… a million thank yous. XXXOOO

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Mairi @ Toast September 2, 2011 at 12:18 am

OMG…it is just astounding how bitter & twisted people can be. What makes your writing wonderful & individual is what you share…and rest assured most of us love it. And just remember all those trolls are merely projecting their own insecurities. And your daughter…gorgeous. And thank you for a timely post as was on the receiving end of mean myself today :)

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Katie September 2, 2011 at 1:39 am

Dear Shauna,
I found your blog just now and your words touched me deeply. I admire you so much for continuing to be true to yourself in the face of such disgusting hurtfulness. I’m just starting on a journey of accepting my body and putting aside the expectations of others once and for all, so reading this has been very valuable for me. Thank you.
I’m subscribing here and now!
xx Katie

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Louisa September 2, 2011 at 2:06 am

Hi Shauna
I have never written here before, but what I read on your site this morning shocked and saddened me. I am so sorry to hear of the vitriol you and your family get exposed to. I love your site. It is a happy place for me. I happened to pick up a copy of Gluten Free Girl in the library in the first week of my being diagnosed, and it made being gluten free feel like an adventure. Thanks to you I have never felt down about being a coeliac. Also, my first baby was our Little Bean, as was yours. He was small and red and beanlike. So that was just another little connection I felt to you. Thankyou for sharing the joy in your life with me and everyone else who loves your site. The others may go rot.
Louisa

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Karen Miller September 2, 2011 at 2:25 am

Here via John Scalzi. I was viciously bullied as a child. The scars remain. But here’s what I really did learn, and what you know in your heart … it’s never about you. It is only ever about them. You are the walking talking knife through the gut neon light that tells them they aren’t living the life they should be, that they’ve settled, that they’re afraid. So instead of addressing their issues, they look for someone to blame. And among what I’m sure are many many others, they blame you. You have done nothing but be yourself, the best way you can. Don’t let their toxicity tear you down.

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shauna September 2, 2011 at 8:11 am

“You are the walking talking knife through the gut neon light that tell them…” That is an amazing line. Thank you.

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Debbie Qalballah September 2, 2011 at 3:32 am

WOOP there it is! Great post. I’ve never commented either and I spoze that all it takes for evil to thrive is for good people to say NOTHING (who said that, I’m not smart enough to have made that up myself). You are beautiful and so is your family. You can tell you have a beautiful kind heart and that makes sick people mad as hell. Let them stew in their own bile – who gives a shit.

Don’t dare stop being you.

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JoleneSG September 2, 2011 at 4:52 am

Thank you. You’re my go-to-girl when I need a recipe for friends and playdates and I am grateful that you have stayed true to all of you and not just made it about the recipes. I am sorry that you are facing this. Thank you for speaking out.

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Marla September 2, 2011 at 5:03 am

I hardly even leave comments on a blog, even after enjoying the photos and words of the creator. I just had to write to you. I’m sorry that there are people that are so unhappy out there that want to bring pain to others. Keep telling your story because you are an inspiration to so many.

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Michele September 2, 2011 at 5:30 am

All I can say is I am sorry that there are such idiots in the world. Thank you for continuing to write in the face of such hate. Please know that there are those of us who enjoy your writing, pictures and recipes. Hang in there and don’t let them win!

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Jen @ My Kitchen Addiction September 2, 2011 at 5:31 am

Shauna – I am late to comment on this post, but I couldn’t let it go by and not just leave a quick comment. After hearing you speak twice and getting to meet you earlier this summer, I cannot even begin to tell you how inspirational you are for me. As someone who has struggled with my weight for as long as I can remember, and some health issues this summer (that seem to be complicating things), I have nothing but admiration for your being able to feel comfortable in your own skin. It is certainly something that I am constantly struggling with, and I appreciate everything that you have shared. You, Danny, and Lu are three of the most beautiful people I know, and I needed you to know that. *8 second hug*

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shauna September 2, 2011 at 7:29 am

Jen, thank you. And I’m so glad we were together at Big Summer Potluck. 8 second hug back.

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Jeff Rey September 2, 2011 at 5:34 am

That’s as real as it gets…besides, the only good thing a size 4 hater girl is good for is pointing toward the wonderful person YOU are. Keep on being awesome and definitely keep hitting delete on the hate mails. <3

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David Dobbs September 2, 2011 at 5:50 am

Maryn McKenna drew my attention to this. I can’t say I’m shocked by the idiocy and viciousness of the attacks you describe, but I am disgusted. Or rather: not surprised, alas, but shocked, yes. I’m sorry.

It’s a huge problem this, and while every writer and reader on the net suffer from it, it’s depressing and really troubling that women who write on the net seem to suffer many times the volume and ugliness of this nastiness.

Bully for you for writing anyway. Love your description of the pleasures of such conferences (and of reading).

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AbrashTX (@abrashTX) September 2, 2011 at 6:06 am

Thank you for writing about this issue. This shouldn’t be something that you just have to put up with, like the weather. Abusers (and their enablers!) need to be held accountable. Thought you would appreciate Anil Dash’s thoughts on this subject:
http://dashes.com/anil/2011/07/if-your-websites-full-of-assholes-its-your-fault.html

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KimberlyGilbert September 2, 2011 at 6:34 am

This showed up retweeted on my homepage, and I, by happenstance, clicked to read. I have never read your blog, I don’t have a gluten allergy, don’t have kids, rarely do I cook. But you have won over this single thirty-something with your humility, your warmth, and bravery. As well as that salad which I am gonna make, dammit! No take-out tonight. :) YOU are my #FF for this week. Brava. Be grateful, enjoy the day, for it is YOURS!

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sherri September 2, 2011 at 6:35 am

I’ve never commented here before, never say much, but wanted to tell you that I’m totally shocked that people are so mean to you. You don’t deserve that. You are so brave and generous to share your life and your family with all of us. You and Danny and Lu all have life and love shining from your faces, which makes you absolutely radiant and beautiful no matter what shape any of your body parts are. Thank you for being who you are!

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The Big Blue Frog September 2, 2011 at 6:38 am

Never commented before. Never even read your blog before. Keep doing what you love. Screw the asses who have nothing better to do than to anonymously take hits at random strangers online.

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Angie September 2, 2011 at 6:39 am

It takes immense strength and courage to not only be yourself, but to be completely confident and happy with yourself and not be afraid to show it to the world. You are inspirational, and I’m quite glad I found your site today. I look forward to reading more.

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April September 2, 2011 at 6:46 am

Shauna, I read your post last night and wanted to comment on it then. However, it was not a comment I could best leave from my iPod. Heaven forbid auto correct do something atrocious!

I’m in a career right now where my life is open to others for scrutiny, and it is most painful to me when they take on my kids. They are little! Preschool age and toddler…what could they have possibly done to inspire such hate? NOTHING. In fact, the pain is so real for my family that we are in the process of making a career change because what we are doing doesn’t resonate enough with the core of who we are to make it worth standing up to the abuse. I am SO THANKFUL that you are not letting these trolls stop you because it is evident…abundantly clear…that what you are doing is a passion in your life, a blessing to your family, and inspires countless people around the world.

Your blog inspired me to start my own blog. You gave me the courage to create my own recipes and to make food that made my heart sing. Eating gluten-free doesn’t have to be a prison. You taught me that. You have also answered my emails with encouragement and grace. I have appreciated returned comments on facebook. I know you are a terribly busy person, but you still take time out for people because I am certain that is why you do this…you want to help others.

As for your weight – you are beautiful. You are not overweight and your child is healthy. Your husband appears to be like me…someone who eats and eats and hardly gains a thing. We are all made differently, and that isn’t a bad thing at all. As a child I was ridiculed for looking “anorexic.” Little did I know it was a combination of genetics and not receiving enough nutrition from my food due to food allergies. I’m still very thin and get harped on about it, and I think people need to stop staring at other people looking intently for flaws. If we would stop looking at each other’s mid-sections, perhaps we would be forced to look into their eyes and see ourselves reflecting back. We are all people. Every one of us.

Anyway, just wanted to say that the abuse you have endured is horrifying. I would never fault you for walking away from this. And yet, I hope you don’t because I see the light in your eyes in your pictures. You love what you do, and I hope that there is no one in this world who can take that joy from you.

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Gus September 2, 2011 at 6:53 am

I’ve never read your blog, but I saw a link to this post on Twitter, and having read it, I’ll add to the chorus – The trolls are idiots. You clearly know this already, but you have nothing to be ashamed of. And that child with the dirt and the skinned knee – she’s living life, enjoying it, and will be healthier in the future than every child kept in super clean conditions. And there’s nothing wrong with those parents either. If you love your child, interact with them, and don’t do any of the obviously stupid or abusive things, then you’re a good parent. Anyone who says otherwise can stick it where the sun don’t shine.

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Marsha @ Green Mountain at Fox Run September 2, 2011 at 7:14 am

Shauna,
So sorry you have to go through this. Such a terrible comment on humans. But so appreciative that you continue to blog.

Part of this problem is about weight stigma. Would love for you to consider taking part in the first Weight Stigma Awareness Week sponsored by the Binge Eating Disorder Association. It’s September 26-30, 2011. You can read about it here http://www.facebook.com/groups/203322763039626/

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LaurieY September 2, 2011 at 7:36 am

I cried when I read your post. And then I got up and went to the kitchen to finish chores. And my heart grieved some more as my hands plunged into the soapy water for teacups. I seen this mean-spiritedness against that Gal who lives on a ranch in Oklahoma who got her own cooking show. Entire websites bent on destroying her, and her family by mocking and ridiculing and distorting her blog posts, her physical attributes, her history. I never seen such hatred before; grown women treating a sister like that. It’s like a medieval stoning.

Remember toward the end of the film, Little Buddha – the awakening? How them fiery arrows from the forces of Mara turned into rose petals. The light of Presence will dissolve those unbidden comments like sugar in water. I guess people take pleasure in provoking others to work out their own despair. They forget that what they wish for their brothers (and sisters) —- they wish for themselves all the while unable to distinguish Reality from the manufactured realms of their unresolved.

I’ll just take this opportunity to say that You, Chef and that darling little petunia Lu have blessed my life . . . . so dearly. Not just in ordinary ways, but in ways that shimmer down to my toes. Not to mention that I’ve totally regained my health because of discovering your 1st book just 2 days after a Doc prescribed 6 months of Prilosec and a cat scan. While driving home, I said, no f* way Jose, I’m not doing that and the universe made sure I got your book. It changed my entire Life. No more underlying depression, insomnia, chronic fatigue, indigestion, Gerd, restlessness and so on. Not that I don’t get my feathers up from time to time, but essentially I feel at ease with what comes and goes because the fizz (physical) isn’t in a state of allergy. You helped me to connect the dots and literally showed me how to unzip the dark cloud and step into the Big Blue. I also found out I was allergic to soy. Everything else. . all the abundant food from this good green earth, I enjoy with gusto and gratitude. I practically KISS the food on my fork and spoon, anymore. (eating seasonal!)

And reading today’s comments has been cathedral bells in my heart. Ding dang dong . . . ding dang dong . . . a reminder to cultivate a merciful heart and view the mean-spiritedness as pleas for help. Sometimes the parameters get all haywire in folks and they lose their way – they stumble deeper into a dismal world of their own making. It’s easy for me to say “view those devastating words as pleas for help” as I ache to be awake and abide in this life with mercy, but there you are on the front lines –posting your authentic self, shaking hands, teaching folks how to cook, speaking at conferences, sharing your real Life with all of us. Now that I’ve spoken with a little bravado on the subject, the lessons will come to polish my own heart and take off the edges of where I might be pretending.

BTW, I think you’re beautiful. You helped me embody my own flesh and be grateful for the vessel that carries my lightbody to and fro. And your husband’s a doll. Lord above, the way he looks at you through the lens. To know and be known like that . . . to be really seen . . . is there anything more dear? Those green-eyed monsters wouldn’t know a life-companion if they got bit in the butt by one. You two cuddle up and let nothing put asunder. Git on through this stargate like Siddhartha –you let them lotus flowers bloom under each step you take. Steady on, little sister.

I want to say one more thing. This subject has prompted me to look deep down to where I might hold a grievance or against-ness – no matter how small, no matter how cleverly justified and wrapped up real pretty. I aim to have supper with them orphans . . you know, call them to my arms. Thanks for the darshan.

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shauna September 2, 2011 at 8:14 am

Laurie, your comment left me astonished. And so grateful. Thank you.

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Jackie Worley September 2, 2011 at 8:23 am

Just one more comment to add the the comments already posted. Unfortunately, when you are doing something good and right there are always trolls. I have found that if the trolls are not hating on you, you are doing something wrong. I hope you look at the sheer numbers of comments and remember that these are the people that love and appreciate what you do and who you are. If nothing else, speaking out has brought to light and action all the positive that people so rarely hear. So take heed, and eat and blog, and love the people in your life, for it reminds us to do the same.

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Michelle September 2, 2011 at 8:32 am

Thank you for all your brave and joyful writing. I almost never leave comments, but I have read you regularly for years, and frequently refer friends to your posts. You are doing great work, and I so appreciate your sharing of your family.

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Angie September 2, 2011 at 8:52 am

Just wanted to add my voice of support here too, and gratitude for your post. My blog is tiny, but has just begun to receive hurtful comments and reading this post was helpful perspective and soul salve. Your stories are beautiful, and so are the scraped knee photos.

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Celeste September 2, 2011 at 8:53 am

Thank you. I work in customer service. I hear negativity about other people every day. I also hear people say to me as they return clothes that there is something wrong with them for not looking good in the clothes. I have decided it is my mission to make people feel better about themselves. I tell them the clothes arent made right, they are beautiful people and there are clothes that they will look good in, and I try to steer them to brands that are cut differently. I try to complement everyone I can, but especially, those who look unhappy. I thank my coworkers for helping me- especially the grumpy ones. There are coworkers who have stopped speaking to me because I am cheerful. It annoys them somehow. I get the most criticism on how I raise my children from people who dont have any. You are beautiful. Keep blogging. You can always find what you look for. You can look for joy and peace, or you can look for things to be wrong. Sad that so many people prefer the latter.

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shauna September 2, 2011 at 8:59 am

You are doing good work in the world, Celeste.

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tanaya September 2, 2011 at 8:57 am

Oh my Shauna,

I had no idea that people were that cruel and relentless. And I am so, so, so terribly sorry for all that you and your family has had to endure.

Thank you for speaking up and not allowing them to bully you further. I can only imagine how hard and painful this is. I have followed you from day one (and nearly moved into your old green-kitchened apartment!) and have always felt the joy and love that you have for life.

Thank you for sharing whatever you feel is appropriate with us – especially the real life glimpses. You are truly beautiful and most certainly loved.

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shauna September 2, 2011 at 9:08 am

Thank you, Tanaya. And I remember that about the green-kitchen apartment! I still miss that kitchen, in a lot of ways. You keep sharing too.

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Dana V. September 2, 2011 at 9:22 am

Thank you for what you do. Mean people suck.

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Vanessa September 2, 2011 at 9:32 am

Love your honesty. Love your courage. Love that you are here to share your presence in this world. I found your post via Kind Over Matter and love that I have a new blog in yours to read! :)

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Vanessa September 2, 2011 at 9:47 am

It’s ironic how quick people are to be unkind and how genuinely kind people are often hesitant to reach out. Ignore the haters they are unhappy in their own lives and need to impose that unhappiness on others. Don’t torture yourself by reading or dwelling on their comments. Find your joy where you can in life and dwell on that. :)

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Andrea September 2, 2011 at 9:52 am

Shauna,
I also have never commented on here.

I couldn’t stop reading this post. You are a strong soul, and a wonderful joyful person, and I thoroughly enjoy everything you write. You have a gift for writing and the evocation of emotion. It’s what you’re here for and it’s wonderful that you can use this gift every day to uplift yourself and others (not to mention make a living). Thank you.

The only people you have to answer to are the people that love you, and you love back. Nevermind the rest. I don’t live my life in the public eye, but I get choked up and flabbergasted every time I hear of such cruel behavior. I just simply don’t understand how people could be so intentionally mean.

Thank you for sharing your gift with all of us.

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Sassyangelac September 2, 2011 at 10:22 am

May I also say Wow? I just found you today and in one post you turned on some lights for me. This just jumped off the screen in 3D:

“I know exactly why some people must hate your guts.”

“Why?”

“Because you are joyful,” she said immediately.

Thank you.

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Sarah September 2, 2011 at 10:40 am

I am dumbfounded that there are people out there that want to attack you for sharing what you love with the universe.

Keep doing what you do with your gorgeous self and your beautiful family and just hope that one day, the haters can have such a fulfilling life.

<3

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kara rane September 2, 2011 at 10:45 am

dear Shauna~
keep inspiring people the way you do. You are absolutely beautiful.
Speaking and writing this truth gives us all strength. Sadly, there are negative people
who are suffering. The attacks can be very painful (maybe we have all experienced some amount of bullying- I have and it was challenging), but know your Love and kindness reaches many, many more good people. And maybe this post will help those who are suffering to see their own selves clearer.
much kindness*

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Jean September 2, 2011 at 10:54 am

I, too, want to add my voice to the others saying how much I like your blog! I look forward to your joyful writing, period. I especially liked the skinned knee picture of Lu. It reminds me of the skinned knees I used to get, reminds me of a childhood full of fun and freedom.

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Tania September 2, 2011 at 11:12 am

Shauna, I’m so sorry to learn how frequently and how viciously you have been attacked. I agree with the person who mentioned shame. The attackers must have a very deep core of shame, which they do not know how to heal and from which they can never escape. Shame is so intensely painful that many try to shift it onto someone else. You being visible, joyful and comfortable with who you are – they must be unbearably envious! – and so you make a great target. So sorry! It must take real guts to decide to carry on anyway. Please be comforted in knowing there are many, many people who greatly appreciate who you are and what you have to offer. Without having actually met you, I believe that you are a very special person: Shauna, you are courageous, intelligent, talented, hardworking, and loving towards your family and friends. May your peace and joy increase daily.

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jessica paden September 2, 2011 at 11:20 am

the candor and courage of your voice in this post made me flat out proud of humanity (even through the shock of cruelty). being wonderful suits you. keep it up.

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ALLISON September 2, 2011 at 11:22 am

AMEN, SISTER!!! So well written! I love your writing and so appreciate your joy filled outlook on life. I share it completely. I have recently lost my 25 year old son to brain cancer and he, too, was a joyfilled person up until the day he died. He was a blogger and wrote bravely, honestly and with raw emotion, but always inspiring, positive and with humor. Thank you for your blog. I am a gluten free eater and baker and have used so many of your recipes.

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Michelle September 2, 2011 at 11:44 am

Your stories about love, family, the Pacific Northwest, your evolution of career, … and of learning to cook and then bake gluten free have inspired me. Not to cook with more exotic ingredients, but to share wonderful food with family and friends. To let our young children stir the cake batter even though they get it all over themselves and the floor. To go to the farmer’s market and revel in the fresh produce. To savor the very moments that make life rich.

There are many of us who support you silently even though we never post a comment in support. It is distressing that there are those who have nothing better to do than criticize your work, you, and your beautiful family. Living well is the best revenge. Much thanks for the writing that you do.

From a non-celiac who loves Gluten Free Girl and the Chef

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Caneel September 2, 2011 at 11:46 am

Just want to say, simply, ((HUGS!!)) I am crying, this post is wonderful. And the recipe also looks amazing.

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Megan {{Millions of Miles}} September 2, 2011 at 11:48 am

I sat in on your session at BlogHer. I had never read your blog before that, but was so intrigued by your rawness and your realness and I’m always attracted to a girl who knows how to drop an “f” bomb appropriately ;-) I’m so honored that you share your life with the world. And woman- you are freaking BEAUTIFUL! I’m glad that you are comfortable in your own skin. You absolutely should be. You are wonderfully and fearfully made to be the only you that there is and the world is a richer place because you are in it!

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Elissa/Poor Man's Feast September 2, 2011 at 12:02 pm

Hi Shauna, I’ve been following your blog for a while, thanks to our mutual pal over at Orangette. I know that you’ve received 715 or so responses to your post, so I don’t even know if you’ll get to this one. BUT, I figured, I had to write because the mild panic in your description of dealing with the malcontents who take issue with your happiness and success was all too familiar to me.
Some years ago, I made the shocking discovery that someone — a marginally famous novelist/psychopath — had put up a fake, libelous Wikipedia entry about me. It was SO hurtful, so remarkably dangerous-sounding that the Wikipedia folks acted quickly, and took it down. Shortly thereafter, I started receiving weird, dangerous, threatening emails from this person claiming that I was copycatting her website (my blog, Poor Man’s Feast, was not even up and running at that point) based on an article that I’d written 10 years ago that had the same sort of name as the site that “someone” had created to copycat her: my article was called Not Martha Stewart; her copycat website was Not [fill in novelist's name]. Anyway, long story short, I tried to get her to believe and understand that it was not I who had copycatted her; I had never even heard of her. After some back and forth during which I learned that it’s never good to engage with a crazy person, I figured out that she — herself — had put up her copycat website and, well, had a teeny tiny schizophrenia problem. At that point, she decided that we were good friends. After that, she informed me that she was hoping to embark on a career as a food writer. After that, I contacted the authorities.

This is a very long way of saying that there are a lot of exceedingly troubled people —NOT including the schizophrenics — out there who will do whatever they can to “take down” someone who has any level of happiness/visibility/peace/success in their lives. Call it narcissism, call it outright insanity. And no matter what anyone says to you about how much they love and respect your work, it STILL hurts when they say the things they do to you — even though you know in your heart of hearts that they’re the ramblings of utter crackpots. Now, when they stoop to making degrading comments about your baby, that’s a whole other level of crazy.

The good news is that these fruitcakes will eventually turn their attention to someone else, if you choose to not engage. The better news is that, via your blogging platform, you likely have caught their IP addresses, should you need to have someone, say, an attorney, send them a cease and desist letter. Just sayin’. My guess is that it’ll never get to that point because, like I said, they’ll ultimately get bored if you don’t respond to them.

Either way, chin up: you do AMAZING work, you have a beautiful family, and a whole raft of people out there who have a profound amount of respect and admiration for you.

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aurora ann fox September 2, 2011 at 12:24 pm

hi—came to your blog via Patti Digh—what a brave and kind post! more power to you—ignoring hateful people is hard and so is speaking out. Thanks you for speaking out!! I guess I am just lucky with my crafty blog–so far no hate posts ….. it is very sad there are unhappy people in the world who try to pass on their unhappinees and hate to others. You are an antidote to hateful people —and so do keep writing–lovely blog! thanks!!!

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aurora ann fox September 2, 2011 at 12:25 pm

oj I forgot to say–I am gluten free and live in Seattle and I am a fan of yours!!!

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Joreth September 2, 2011 at 12:26 pm

It’s not just bloggers and public figures. I have a profile on an online dating network. My inbox is often filled with people who feel the need to take time out of their day to tell me how much they hate me, how ugly they think I am, how I’ll never find a partner, and what I should do to change my profile to attract someone. It doesn’t seem to occur to them that, if I made those changes to my profile, I’d attract the kinds of people who wouldn’t like the real me, who would then go online and bitch about how all women are liars and don’t portray themselves honestly online.

I am constantly asking why do these people waste their time on me if they don’t like me? Isn’t the point of online dating to weed out the undesirables before bothering to spend time and money on them? Why is it so important for so many people to tell strangers they have never met, and will never meet, how much they dislike them? I’m not talking about correcting someone when they’re wrong or disagreeing on a topic, I mean just flat out “I don’t like you”. If you don’t like me, don’t waste your time on me. Go bother someone else.

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Rohaise September 2, 2011 at 12:53 pm

Don’t listen to the trolls! Listen to us. I’ve been reading your blog for years and have cheered and smiled and rejoiced at how things have turned out and the life you, Danny and Lucy have created, and I have felt honoured to been able to (virtually) share these moments. Thank you and please carry on just as you have been!

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Chrissy @ Fireflies and Hummingbirds September 2, 2011 at 1:35 pm

I’ve just found your blog today, and this post has me absolutely LIVID! I’m so sorry you’ve been subjected to the jealousy and ignorance of what seems to be the majority of people in the world. There are so many people who have nothing better to do than to tear others down. I’m glad you have kept doing what you’re doing. Don’t let them win. Just realize that what they say means absolutely nothing, and their nasty, cutting insults of you say far more about THEM than YOU.

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Kim Mailhot September 2, 2011 at 1:41 pm

Keep on keeping on in your joyful way, Brave One. This world needs people like you (and me) so very, very much right now.
Be Joyful ! Be well !
Cheers !

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Jenni September 2, 2011 at 1:43 pm

Nobody ever wrote a poem worth reading denigrating someone else out of spite, nor made a painting worth remembering that unwittingly magnified their own bitterness. Nobody ever ate a dinner worth savoring that was purposefully repulsive and toxic. Your blog, Shauna, elevates soul-affirming, heart-warming, stomach-sating and palate-pleasing goodness. That’s why I read it. The people you’re writing for love you, and the others have maliciously crashed your party and are pitiful for not seeing how easy and wonderful it is to join in.

Keep writing for the people you meant to write for: for You and for Us. But not for Them.

And take pride knowing that, chances are, even just one out of the hundreds of sad, angry lonelies out there has changed his or her mind because of what you’ve written.

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Nancy O'Connell September 2, 2011 at 1:47 pm

Shauna… I have been reading your blog for about 2 years now. I have never commented… I always want to write and Thank You for being an inspiration to me, my cooking and embracing my life just as it is. But I always pass it off and think there are enough posts of people who support you, that I simply can’t add anything else that hasn’t already been said. This post from the 30th makes me sick… sick that there are people out there that have nothing better to do than attack you, your life, your island (that I think is like some magical place I must visit one day), and mostly your family. I simply can’t keep quiet this time… THANK YOU. Thank you for being you, thank you for being a Kick Ass baker and chef, thank you for sharing your life and your family, and the food you make. You have opened my eyes to a world of possibilities, not only in the kitchen but in life as a whole. YOU ROCK, and so do all the other food bloggers I have found through you… This is a THANK YOU to all of you who help inspire us, the readers, and help us become more creative and understanding people. I am so happy to know that you will keep on writing despite the talking heads. Thanks again for sharing…
Nancy :)

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Suzanne September 2, 2011 at 2:07 pm

My comment is #718. I sincerely hope you have 717 positive comments prior to mine. But just in case you don’t … I think you are brave and joyous! And I am glad that you put yourself out here for us to know you just a tiny bit. Thanks for being you!

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Michelle Black White September 2, 2011 at 2:07 pm

Please don’t let the pettiness of others affect you and what you do. Your posts have given me joy and tears, dining advice, great recipes and a reason to visit Vashon last summer so that Danny could cook for me (gluten free and vegetarian!).

The people who post the negative comments are no different than grade-school bullies. They are so insecure and jealous that they have to attack to justify their own actions.

Keep being joyful and sharing your beautiful family and life with us.

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bonitarose September 2, 2011 at 2:24 pm

here here. I too hv been the subject of ppl that all they seem to wanna do is bring me down, hurt my feelings. they seem to enjoy it. I’ve decided to hell with them. I’m living my life happy. full of joy. full of peace. I honestly do feel sorry for them. Maybe one day they will realize how godless they are. here here.. great post my dear.. loved reading this.. and I’ve shared your link on my fb wall. We all need to stand up more to this kind of behavior. Ppl need to grow up and live their own lives instead of being obsessed with others’ lives. Here here!
bonitarose

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Michele Garcia September 2, 2011 at 3:00 pm

Bravo, Shauna, for standing up, and for reminding me not to listen to the negative voices of others, whether they be real or in my head.

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Star Bustamonte September 2, 2011 at 3:10 pm

I think it is good that wrote about this. I’ve never even once read your blog before, but I will likely be back.

I’m not sure what is wrong with people that they have such sad, little lives with nothing better to do than be vicious with words. Most of them would be easy to pick out if they spoke to people in public the way they do online – they’d all be sporting black eyes and broken noses after a time! Most of the time, I don’t read the comments on blogs or news stories. I banned myself from doing so because they frequently made me so angry I was grinding my teeth down to nubs.

Perhaps, having a blog and being a public figure is a lot like owning your own business. I’ve owned a few businesses. One of the things I learned was that everyone has their own idea of how you should run your business. I came to the conclusion that the best response I could give most people was simply, “And when you open your own business, you can do EXACTLY that!” It pissed some people off, but it was usually the people who spent little, gobbled up as much of my time as I would allow and annoyed other customers.

The one thing I do know, is that you cannot let anyone from preventing you from doing what love. You’re wonderful at what you offer. Keep doing it. I, for one, will be looking forward to your posts and pictures.

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Jill B September 2, 2011 at 4:04 pm

How awesome. Your post. Over 700 comments. The tweets I’ve seen about it. All of it. Awesome. Thank you.

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Sylvia September 2, 2011 at 4:24 pm

It’s all been said before, but I, like, many others above me, have never commented before despite having been reading your blog for years. The energy you bring to the world is clear from your writing and I have always wished to someday meet you and your family. Your blog posts are beautiful, inspiring and delicious. It is one of my favourites to skim at the end of the day to get my mind off school, work and life’s stresses and to remind myself of the beauty in life, people and cooking. It is without a doubt, jealousy and loneliness that is causing these people to lash out with angry words and we can only hope that they will someday find the joy and happiness in their life that you have so clearly already found in yours. Thank you so much for what you do.

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amyd September 2, 2011 at 4:34 pm

unbelievable post…I don’t know if you even will read this…post number 705…but good for you – I totally support you and you are on the right track…don’t they say that a negative experience will generate “x” amount of talk while a positive experience will often generate nothing (this is from the retail world I work in…one of the big box stores…which by the way I love…but the unhappy customer gets all the attention while the happy customer contently goes about their day…) I’m hoping – as mentioned in other comments – that you know there are many more positive thoughts about you and what you are doing than negative…unfortunately these people are silent and going on about their day…which I almost did…but then decided you needed to hear from someone that thinks what you do and what you promote is wonderful…this was my first time reading your blog…it will not be my last…

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Heather September 2, 2011 at 5:02 pm

Shauna,

Keep doing what you’re doing. You bring a lot of light into this world….

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Debbie September 2, 2011 at 5:20 pm

This post seriously broke my heart and made me cheer at the same time. I know we don’t know each other, but to me, you are a warm, joyful, kind, amazing, loving person and your family is wonderful. I recommend your writing to everyone, gluten-free or not, because of what you teach and how you live your life. My day is brightened by you and your words. Thank you for continuing, and remember that there are more of us out there that love you and appreciate you for everything than there are of those nasty, sad, jealous unhappy people out there. I can only hope that they can find an ounce of joy that you have.

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Melissa September 2, 2011 at 5:22 pm

I have never written before, but felt compelled, because I too have noticed how many trolls there are in internet land and now, in everyday life. Too many people are not happy unless they put others down, and that is just plain sad. I think it is great that you love your daughter and celebrate her (and of course, celebrate good food). I myself am in the don’t ever want kids, but I would never begrudge anyone for the love of theirs. And if something I read wasn’t my thing, unless it was clearly harmful or bigoted in some way, I would not comment. I would just not return to the site. Even though I am not gluten free (tried to see if it fixed any of my maladies, but it turns out one of the few things I am not sensitive to is gluten :) ), I enjoy periodically browsing your recipes because they are real food. And you are in Seattle, so I can get a better idea of what is in season having moved here from the south. Thank you for being who you are and doing what you do. Keep up the great work!

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Ellie White-Stevens September 2, 2011 at 5:42 pm

Like so many of your commenting friends, I was appalled to read what you’ve had to walk through to bring us the imperfectly delicious slices of your life, Shauna. When you talk dinner or dessert, we don’t just get dry recipes. It’s food that’s full of real emotion–hope, joy, even loss.

Your words are wonderful. It’s why so many people who aren’t gluten free read this blog. I was grateful to find you when I discovered that my husband and I are both gluten intolerant. And I recommended your first book to my friend Elaine, who found out her lifelong pain and IBS is really celiac. She and I spoke later . . . I’ve just read the best book . . . she’s my new favorite author . . . she’d forgotten I’d recommended it.

I see both sides of the online community recently–the amazing outpouring for your friend Jennie. Over $63,000 so far. And then this underside of snide anonymous evil.

A couple days ago I sent you a random tweet: I love what you do and the intentionality with which you do it. Thanks for being you and for sharing it with us.

I’m so grateful that you’ve kept your life and kitchen open to those of us who are simply thankful that you share. I can’t imagine people attacking my two sons. I would be so angry I fear it would color everything else I would do. I see that God has given you a good measure of grace. Blessings to you, to the chef and to little Lu, who will learn so much about goodness, on a plate and in a heart, from her mommy.

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yvonne September 2, 2011 at 5:46 pm

wonderful post! iam glad you were able to finally talk about it. i believe this is pretty prevalent.
and so true about the trolls; sad, lonely lives they must lead.

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Sara September 2, 2011 at 6:14 pm

So glad you posted this; thanks for the transparency and your hard-won wisdom. Keep doing what you’re doing. Wishing you all the very best.

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Samantha September 2, 2011 at 7:07 pm

I recently googled an author I had read and came across an ‘I hate soandso’ website (regarding this author). Seriously?!?!
I’m always flabergasted at what people will do and say. It makes me wonder how meaningless and pathetic their lives must be to criticise another person, especially something so small and minor and especially against people who seems so kind and wonderful (you included!). Do they really have nothing else to do?
On one hand I think it so sad that a person takes their time and energy (and who couldn’t use more of that each day) and feel so badly for them. Then I think ‘It’s their choice to be a miserable ____ (insert your own foulmouthed word :D ). Why should I be sorry for them?!’
A colleague eons ago told me that it takes no energy to be nice, but it takes alot of energy to be mean-spirited. Why someone wouldn’t take that energy and use it for something they actually enjoy is beyond my comprehension.

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Heather N September 2, 2011 at 7:39 pm

Dear, dear, Shauna,

I was diagnosed with Celiac disease a while ago and ran across your blog when I was searching for information on how to cook and how to cope. My doctor gave the the diagnosis and said, “Go look at books and the internet to figure out what to do from here. I don’t have any handouts or diet information.”

I was eating the “correct” way, according to the books and recipes, but was still having symptoms. When reading some of your older posts, I ran across the information about the gums. I read every label for a month and did not eat any gums and guess what…my symptoms improved dramatically (not perfect, but soooo much better!). It was like a miracle after more than a decade of digestive issues. I have only, solely, just YOU to thank for it. I can never repay you…really!

Ignore the haters and feel the love from all these wonderful commenters today. I love your blog, enjoy reading about your amazing family, am humbled by your compassion and passion for your friends, and will always be a fan. And, you are PERFECT the way you are.

Thank you again!

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lauren m. September 2, 2011 at 7:43 pm

I just want you to know that I see your light and joy Shauna, and it truly is inspiring. I’m so proud of you for deciding to be your beautiful self :)
I come to your site for so much more than gluten free recipes and I am so grateful for the heart and soul you put into your posts – it “feeds” me in a different way. I’m sending love and light your way today and always.

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liz miles September 2, 2011 at 7:55 pm

Hi Shauna,
You radiate Light. So does Danny and so does Lu. You have a warmth about you, you have integrity and honesty that vibrates off the page. You embrace food, life and love with gusto and seem to appreciate its messiness and beauty all at once. Keep fighting their darkness with your light and all will be well.
I really like the idea of someone else moderating the comments. Really, why contaminate your life with it?
Liz

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Christine September 2, 2011 at 7:55 pm

I found this blog and post through another food blog on FB. I enjoyed your voice and was dumbstruck by the disgusting behavior you described. I hope that u cN take some comfort in the sheer numb er of positive posts and feedback and know that the interested, polite and tolerant people ARE out there. They may not be commenting all the time, but they are there. Count me as another new subscriber.

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Jessica in Kentucky September 2, 2011 at 8:31 pm

Hey! Just a little shout out to say that I’m not even gluten-free and I love reading your blog because I like how you write and I love the photos of your adorable little one and your lovely family! It simply makes me happy to stop by. Your blog, I’m certain, far more than anything else, generates this kind of light. Thank you for it!

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Nicole September 2, 2011 at 8:43 pm

Shauna,

I’m saddened to hear people have been so cruel to you about your blog, yourself, and your life! I guess I’m pretty naive–the possibility of that never even crossed my mind. Your blog is so full of joy and life, and I love that! I suppose people are entitled to their own opinions, but I love your response, “I’m sorry that your life is so small and sad, but I’m not going to stop saying my story. I am here.”

Yes, I am glad you are here.

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Swan September 2, 2011 at 8:47 pm

Just want to send some love to you & your family. You are an inspiration to me, I’m sure you’re a terrific mother, and you are beautiful–happy people usually are!

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Lauren September 2, 2011 at 8:55 pm

Hi Shauna,

I think you are awesome! I am not gluten free and I do not have celiacs disease. I read your posts because you are a positive person who writes about what is most important in this world. (Love) I am so saddened by what you have had to experience.

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Sue September 2, 2011 at 9:01 pm

I’ve read your blog for years now, not becuase I was gluten intolerant, but because I liked your tone. And now, I’ve developed gluten sensitivity amongst other things, so I’m profoundly grateful that you’re here, doing what you do, with such grace.

Bless you for your courage.

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Angela September 2, 2011 at 9:55 pm

This makes me think of what Eckhart Tolle says about the pain body…how our true essential selves are full of light and joy and all the good stuff, but some of us have heavier overlays of “ick” than others. I’m humbled and impressed by how gracefully you’re dealing with these people. They really do deserve our compassion, huh?

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Dawn September 2, 2011 at 10:04 pm

Shauna, I think you’re really brave – keep doing what you’re doing and don’t listen to the bullies, because that’s all they are.

If it helps, I have this story to share – when I was in university, I volunteered with a student helpline. Basically, students could call our helpline and speak anonymously to a volunteer on any topic. We got a whole range of callers, as you can imagine. Some people just wanted pizza numbers. Some people wanted to talk about their personal problems. And there were some people who would call us just to say cruel things. I once took a call from someone who said “I hope your mother dies of breast cancer.” Yes, someone actually picked up the phone, dialed a number, and paid for the phone call, just to say these words to an anonymous stranger that they’ve never met and couldn’t even see. And it wasn’t a one off thing – this sort of abuse was persistent and well known to all the volunteers.

This was how I came to realise that people often say cruel and/or critical things simply because they can, not because you have earned their cruelty in any way. It isn’t actually personal to you – it’s personal to them. So stay strong, keep doing what you love and don’t let the haters win.

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Val September 2, 2011 at 10:32 pm

Hi Shauna,
I seldom post on blogs, twitter etc. unless I feel I have something interesting to say… but here, I feel even a boring, very very normal comment will make the difference to counterbalance the bad taste created by much more talkative trolls… thanks for your posts and your blog and tweets and recipes, they are MUCH APPRECIATED and you wouldn’t have so many followers if they weren’t! Horrible people lead horrible lives, they are already punished, it’s actually quite sad.
Val

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tiny September 2, 2011 at 11:35 pm

hi shauna,

keep up your good work. your are a lightworker!!
tiny

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Selma September 3, 2011 at 1:10 am

As many other replies, I have never posted before either. However, this blog cried for me to act…and send a response to show support for your blog. I read your blog from time to time…and it fills me with joy and appreciation every time that I do. I see only perfection in the pictures of you and your family. You have helped me to accept being Gluten-free not just only to improve my health and be rid of painful symptoms…but that it can be “cool” too. I also enjoy the stories of your husband chef because it helps me to understand the life of my adult son, an aspiring chef. (I’ve nicknamed his life with his girlfriend – The Chef and the Preschool Teacher) You are part of my support system to wellness.

I praise you for pointing out the “trolls”.
I personally like to fight them with more sunshine. Rainbows are so beautiful when the sun comes out after a rainfall.

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Holly September 3, 2011 at 2:16 am

Shauna, I am such a huge fan, and have been for a long time. I think you’re a hero for sharing all you do. Thank you!

-Holly

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dawn September 3, 2011 at 4:54 am

Hello,
I read and enjoy your blog as much as you write on it. Thank you.
I am happy that you posted this because these idiots should be
exposed!

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Morri September 3, 2011 at 6:39 am

Hello Shauna ~

If it wasn’t for your amazing stories and blog, I don’t think I would have embraced the amazing world of gluten-free the way I have. Maybe it’s your honesty. Maybe it’s your stories. Maybe it’s your recipes. Maybe it’s all the above.

There is something about true joy and loving life that some people can’t comprehend. And when they can’t bring you down to their level of pessimism and anger, all of their icky attitude is placed onto you. It sucks. It happens. And the people who believe in what you are doing – myself included – are behind you 110%.

Please don’t take down your blog. Please don’t close down the window you give readers about your life and the joy you embody.

I have never met you, and I may never meet you face-to-face, but you have inspired my cooking, my blogging, and even my Saturday. The great philosopher Socrates said, “from the deepest desires often come the deadliest hate,” and that is very [and sadly] true. You are happy, healthy, and whole, and you share it with people (who don’t know you) that may have none of these things. I struggle with having these three things at the same time, but applaud those who’ve found it. And believe me, hon, it seems to me that you’ve got all three things tenfold.

Best of luck,
Morri

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Alison September 3, 2011 at 9:15 am

They say misery loves company. Hopefully those miserable people will find their company somewhere else now knowing how happy you are. Praying for you!

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M September 3, 2011 at 9:33 am

I had a wonderful upbringing. I had a “retarded” brother (he had a seizure disorder) and was teased about him. I was a fat kid. I was teased about that. For most of my growing-up years I blocked out the idiots of the world. Idiots – yes, I can use that word. I am smart, friendly, hardworking and generous. I am a good person. Hell, I’m a great person. I’d give you the shirt off my back if you needed it. The ones who tease, poke fun of others, mock people? They are true idiots. They may be intelligent, but they were not raised to value all human life. Is that my problem? No, it is their problem.

Fastforward to now. I’ve been thru it all – job loss, lost my house, my dog died, I was hit twice by people not paying attention while driving and my car was totaled twice, front and back. I lost my business. Years of unexplained anemia, no energy, til I went gluten free (which is why I’m here!) I no longer have my mom, grandparents, or my brother, most of my aunts and uncles are gone. 2009 was a dark year for me. I took a job as a temp and was hired by the company. I am now management – a government job, I am the third highest person by level in the company. I moved nearly 400 miles to take this job. I am away from what is left of my family and building a new life.

Some of the people I work with resent me. They do not know where I came from, what I have experienced in my life. The loss, the changes, the people I love who are no longer with me. I’m crying while trying to type this because I know exactly what you are experiencing. I have been in my new career for just about a year. The company I work for is undergoing drastic changes – downsizing, imminent layoffs, plant closures are all coming. Despite that – I love my new life. I love the few people who have sought me out to be their friend. They are all, in some way, similar to me. Varied backgrounds, upbringings, but we all share a positive attitude, hope for the future, a work ethic that has us giving 100% each day at the job we are paid to do.

I have been tasked with getting people into productive jobs – that is my work. Many people, the ones with no work ethic, no sense of pride in what they do – hate me for that. They yell at me, call me names. A supervisor came up to me, smiling the other day – “M?” he says, still smiling. “What’s up, Luis?” He is still smiling, though I can tell he is nervous. “Do you know how many people in here hate you?” I smile, shake my head. I answer, “It’s O.K., Luis. They don’t like that things are changing. They are expected to work now, show up every day, be on-time. Change is hard for some people – they don’t hate me because they don’t know me, but I’m the face of management. We will all get through this, don’t worry.” I carry my attitude on my face every day. I smile and say hello to everyone – even the ones who hate me, or management, or simply where they are at in their own life. I look brave, competent, in charge. It’s what I have to do. No – that is wrong. I don’t have to do it, but I love to do it. I am in the perfect place for me at this time of my life. I am truly sorry they aren’t in a good place, but that is their problem, not mine.

You made the right choice – ignore the bad, embrace the good. Continue to smile and say hello to everyone – you do that through your blog. I do that by walking the workroom floor, every day. Delete the idiots – they don’t know you, what you’ve been through. Your blog is a friend to many – I would miss it. Those of us with positive attitudes, work ethics, smiles on our faces? We are the lucky ones.

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shauna September 3, 2011 at 9:36 am

Thank you for this story. I’m hoping that your work grows easier soon. Or, that you can find an even better job, where you can work with people who aren’t so sad. You keep going.

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M September 3, 2011 at 10:20 am

You too!

The funny thing about my work? I am truly, truly enjoying it – even with all of the negativity. Every small victory is all that much sweeter. I think I’m there right now to help the other decent people through this, so that is what I’m going to keep on doing. I had a chance recently to bid out to another job, closer to home, and I didn’t take it. I believe I’m where I’m at for a reason. My managers need me, as much as I need to be needed. Crazy, huh? Hang in there girl, I love your blog. Your Lucy and Danny are your “why”.

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shauna September 3, 2011 at 9:40 pm

I’m so glad to hear you’re enjoying it. Over time, people can change. And hanging in there? We’re going to do more than that.

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Aimee Giese | Greeblemonkey September 3, 2011 at 10:01 am

“And by the way, why don’t you go find a different hobby? Get some fresh air. Make a friend. Life could be better than this.”

Right on sister.

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Desiree Eaglin September 3, 2011 at 10:07 am

I love the picture, skinned knees and all.

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Sarah Brewer September 3, 2011 at 10:19 am

HI… These people who are sending you negative comments are miserable and jealous in there own self. Its good that you simply delete and let go of them. I hope you find peace. I really appreciate your website and all of your wonderful recipes and beautiful family! Its all very inspiring for me!!

Blessings!

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Jessica September 3, 2011 at 10:30 am

Shauna
Humbly, I have come to know that hate people spread is just reflections of themselves, not us. Your happy life reflects back to them reminders of their own suffering, lack, scarcity and instead of looking at their opportunity to work through it, they try to pass it on, denying ownership or responsibility or most importantly an opportunity for themselves. Your blog has created so much. So much hope, love, creativity, glimpses into a life everyone could share with you. But suffering is a scary river to swim in, and congratulations to you for having the courage to swim in it and share with us, your journey.

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Bobbie September 3, 2011 at 11:01 am

I have truly enjoyed reading your blog and am sad to find that there are sick people out there who are attacking your blog. As a FB “friend” and an avid blog reader of yours, sometimes I feel like I am peeking into your life and don’t want to intrude. You have provided me with gluten free alternatives for my 12 year old ASD “foodie”! Keep writing so those of us who appreciate your musing can keep on doing so!

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Rachael September 3, 2011 at 11:34 am

You, your husband, and your daughter are lovely people. Your website has helped me cope with my Celiac more than I can say. I am so happy you do what you do. I am so sorry you have to deal with all that awfulness. I certainly couldn’t remain calm in the face of it. Also, you inspired me to buy my lovely red cowboy boots which fill me with joy every time I wear them (random, I know, but I felt I should thank you.)

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Maureen September 3, 2011 at 1:10 pm

Shauna,
I read this on Thursday and I’m still thinking about it two days later. It’s so horrifying that people would say such terrible things about you and your family. I think your writing is elegant and, as your friend said, joyful. I feel like your personality comes shining through in your postings and I’m impressed that you could answer these trolls in such a dignified and elegant manner. It’s so sad that there are people in the world who would rather stay angry and miserable than find joy and fulfillment. They are simply jealous of you because you’re happy, you have a beautiful family and you enjoy life. Thank you for writing this and continuing your work!

P.S. I think it’s great that Lucy has skinned knees and dirty feet. It means that she’s outside, having a blast, and being a kid!

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Amanda H September 3, 2011 at 1:36 pm

What the F is wrong with people!?! That is unbelievably cruel! Those people need to get a life.

Many years ago I walked with a friend who was very ill, from his front door to the car, a few simple steps, until a construction crew consisting of 5-6 grown men (at least physically) started making extremely derogatory comments to my friend. I mean, how cruel can people be?! The man was dying and they sat there making these hate-filled comments. I followed my friends lead and when he didn’t say anything and once we were in the car I asked him about it. He said, “It happens all the time. I know it’s not about me, so I just move on. I can’t let it bother me”. I, in the mean time was seething! I was furious with how he had been treated.

If it wasn’t for your blog and others in the gluten-free/special diet community many of us wouldn’t know what to do, what to cook, or who to look to for answers when we have questions, and you KNOW we do!

So, THANK YOU for what you and Danny do each and every day. WE appreciate you and are so Thankful for all you do.

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Beverly September 3, 2011 at 2:11 pm

Wow I saw that there were 700 plus comments before mine so I can’t imagine how you will read each one. I know I won’t. But I do hope that everyone of them is saying something positive to you. Life is weird isn’t it? That there are people who really have nothing better to do than be mean to someone else. I am a person who is clear and direct and that I am fine with but mean. Wow. Why? As we move through this life it is hard enough at times to keep on moving and growing. In my mind we need more support for that not to feel bad about ourselves.
Keep loving and showing up….and it is fine to defend yourself as well.

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Judy A. Johnson September 3, 2011 at 2:44 pm

Please continue to write honestly about your life! I rejoice that the hate and ugliness of others’ words has not harmed your buoyant spirit. There’s so much good in your life to counteract the negative. I’m so glad that you know that and share snippets of your life with all of us who appreciate what you are doing.

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Reesa September 3, 2011 at 2:53 pm

I’m so sorry that people send such negativity your way. Saying such despicable things about your child, any child, is bringing evil into the world in my opinion. I agree with others that say for every negative person, there are many more people who truly appreciate what you have to share. I truly admire your positivity and the light that you bring into the world.

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Jan Stamm September 3, 2011 at 3:57 pm

Only recently have I discovered the food bloggers’ world, and enjoy reading about what so many good folks, like yourself, are willing to share. I am completely shocked to learn about the “dark side” of sharing about yourself…that mean-spirited people are harrassing you dear people that are doing so much good for so many. I appreciate that you had the courage to shine your light into these dark corners & expose the ugly trolls, doing that with grace even! Since you’re closing in on 1,000 positive comments on this thread…you may never read them all…but I hope you’ll accept this encouragement to keep writing & inspiring the legions of us that love your work, and admire without jealousy the life you lead.

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charlotte September 3, 2011 at 4:01 pm

I’ve never read your blog before today but I had to add one more comment (with 760 already, not sure you need it but I need to write it!) to tell you thank you for speaking out about this. For this very reason, I stopped reading all Amazon reviews on my book – it was too painful. And I hate that I let this take away some of my joy in my first book being published. I deal with this on my blog too as do all my blog friends. It’s a vicious culture and one I’ve learned to acclimate to out of necessity but it felt so incredibly freeing to see you write about this so honestly and frankly. I hadn’t realized how much I needed to read this until I did. Thank you!! P.S. Love the pic of that sweet skinned knee and foot – toddler feet are the best!

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Eileen September 3, 2011 at 4:31 pm

Oh Shauna, this makes me feel sick inside!! I don’t have my own blog….I had NO idea what all of you are dealing with. Silly me, I just thought all that vitriol and hate was ‘out there’ in the political and business realms mainly. I just can’t imagine people wasting so much of their life on that negativity. I guess it explains alot (or gives an even bigger picture of the world today). It kills me though that they have the nerve to be so personal …esp. about your beautiful, innocent daughter. This is going to haunt me for quite a while. Yes, doing tonglen is probably the best you can do with that….that, and keep on keeping on : ) I admire you and Danny all the more….and all the other folks that write my favorite blogs. Thank you for doing what you do. Just remember how many of us are behind you, cheering you on.

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carrie ann September 3, 2011 at 5:17 pm

Thank you for an amazing post. Thanks to smockity frocks you have a new reader!

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Rosanne September 3, 2011 at 5:28 pm

hey shauna,
i’ve been reading your blog for more than a year and have always enjoyed the joyfulness that springs forth. the family, the friends, and most of all the food. i guess its time for those of us that are here to support you speak up, so that we may drown out those that want to tear you apart. naively, i was unaware those types of people existed, at least, in the quantity that you have expressed. it makes me sad, but it also makes me hopeful, because now that we know, we can do something, as your readers, to respond to it. and please know, that the lives you are touching with your words are more, and bigger, than those that seek to harm you with their words.
peace.

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Tabitha (Meet Penny) September 3, 2011 at 5:29 pm

I know {{hugs}} don’t do much but I am so very sorry for the pain you carry. I’ve been attacked on my blogs before but never as hateful as what you have encountered. My friends said, “People are just jealous of you.” Perhaps. But that doesn’t help me feel any better.

Hopefully, the outpouring of support you are receiving will show you that the percentage of those who truly appreciate you is far greater than those who are bored with their own lives so much that they try to bring you down in your’s.

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Traci September 3, 2011 at 5:30 pm

I don’t know you – but somehow found your FB page and saw this post. First a {{{hug}}}; second – I can relate all too well. I’ve had my personal blog since 1999! I have received some horrible emails via my web site calling me every name in the book just because I happen to have more than the ‘average’ 2.5 children.

I actually did shut down my blog briefly – putting up a we’re closed sign. Then after a few months of a break, re-opened the site, but don’t post often.

I have always moderated comments on my blog. I view it as my online home, my virtual living room if you will, and I expect the same courtesy and manners as one would have if they were sitting across from me looking me in the eye.

The truth is these folks are cowards. They hide behind their computer screens spewing hate and maliciousness because they are hurting. No way these folks could be happy and joyful people to write such things. So I pray for them, then delete the email and move on.

I no longer let them ruin my day. Life is too short to deal with mean people – so I don’t.

Hang in there girl. Keep doing what you do. :)

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Cheal September 3, 2011 at 6:05 pm

I had to comment. Please don’t listen to those trolls! Sending you virtual good vibes and a hug!

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Michele September 3, 2011 at 6:06 pm

Shauna….screw the trolls they are not worth it. They are not worth your time and emotion.

Your doctor is correct about if people would eat what you eat. This is why my husband and I went to a gluten free diet except we also cannot have refined sugar or anything that is processed. We made this decision because neither of us wanted to take any medication. It’s a life style change nothing else, just change.

I would have never know about gluten free if it wasn’t for the broiled peaches that you wrote about. I have been hooked every since and now my husband and I will learn to make bread with new mediums. Life is good and thank you and your husband for all you do.

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Katie@Gluten-Free Food Storage September 3, 2011 at 6:21 pm

Love you! I love how honest you are! Thank you for writing this.

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Sheila September 3, 2011 at 6:56 pm

Oh, Shauna, I just love to read your posts and turn to them all the time. Your joy of life, motherhood, and food encourages me daily.

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Traci September 3, 2011 at 7:05 pm

I just found you through Derfwad Manor. I found a website that’s sole purpose is to run Ree Drummond down. Whatever your opinion of someone you have never met (or even have met) that is no reason to construct an entire blog to degrade someone. Or even to make nasty comments. Karma, baby, karma…

Kudos to what you do. Have a fabulous day!

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Emily September 3, 2011 at 7:25 pm

Brava. I think that you and your family are wonderful. Keep doing what you do so well. Because it would make me so sad to know that these awful, hateful, silly, sad people made you stop. Keep saying “yes”.

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rachel @ finding joy September 3, 2011 at 7:52 pm

Keep on writing and keep on blessing people like me – moms of little ones with Celiac Disease who need to read about how vibrant and joyful a gluten-free life can be. Your writing inspires, encourages, and makes me grateful for the beauty in the every day.

And I am sorry. But, I’m going to tell you I am so glad that instead of stopping you are walking forward boldly and living an intentional joy-filled life.

Rachel

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Terry September 3, 2011 at 8:10 pm

Here’s what I know Shauna: That you have the power to changes people’s lives in a positive healthy way. You helped me and my family with our gluten issues with your recipes and stories and beautiful photographs. I admire you immensely and adore the photos of darling little Lu. And–I have a secret crush on Danny. Please don’t tell him or my husband *wink*
Keep up your good work–there are great things to cook, wonderful people to share good food with and much joy in all of it! xoxo

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Charlotte September 3, 2011 at 8:16 pm

Shauna, I stumbled upon your website early this spring, and have so thoroughly enjoyed it. Your witty grammar. Your passion for your family, your friends, your food. and your recipes…LOVE them! thank you for sharing all that and more with complete strangers like me. It has blessed me. I discovered about two years ago that I have Celiac, and have never (purposefully) eaten gluten since. I have learned to embrace many of the other healthful foods out there I Can eat, and your blog has been instrumental in that positive mindset shift. (I have your cookbook on my birthday wishlist..) so, to echo the words of so many before me, keep it up. Your husband seems like a wonderful, caring, hardworking man, perfect for you. Your daughter is beautiful, and I love her energy and the fact that you’ve instilled such a love for reading into her.
Don’t let the haters pull you down.

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Beth September 3, 2011 at 8:34 pm

I don’t normally comment online at all, but I had to say that you are beautiful. Your family is beautiful. There are many, many, sad and lonely people in the world. Don’t let them bother you, stay joyful.

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Kathleen September 3, 2011 at 8:42 pm

I’m like most…..my stomach hurt as I read this and I kept shaking my head. I/We had no idea what your honesty/vulnerablility was costing you. I love your blog and found it after reading your book which I also loved and told so many people about. Please know that you are loved by many. Thankyou for not giving in. You have a beautiful family. Don’t listen to them!

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Kristy September 3, 2011 at 9:20 pm

Shauna – I found you through Tamiko and I’m not letting go! You are an amazing, beautiful woman who has helped me feel comfortable in my skin just by being comfortable in yours. I adore Danny and Lu simply from your posts. You two are amazing parents…don’t ever think otherwise.

I was thinking about this subject today, how so many bloggers are in the public eye and the negativity that could affect them. I’ve come to this conclusion…screw them. You have unknowingly touched on a nerve in their life where they are unhappy and they have to lash out. They aren’t worth anything. Period.

Next time you’re in Portland, let me know!

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Meghan September 3, 2011 at 9:44 pm

GOOD FOR YOU!! Keep on keepin’ on, cuz you’re doing great!! I can’t tell you how happy I am to read your posts everyday. And that girl of yours is beautiful, and that picture of her with the strawberries took my breath away when I saw it, it’s so perfect.

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Lisa September 3, 2011 at 9:56 pm

Hello Shauna,
I’ve never responded before to your blog, but have been reading it from the beginning. I felt so compelled to let you know how grateful I am that you share your love of food, family, friends with all of us. As a running ragged mom with 3 little boys, your blog always inspires me to parent more joyfully – I so appreciate you sharing stories about Lucy and how you incorporate her into the creation of your family’s meals. Please ignore the “trolls” – and know that for every one of their ugly blog responses, there’s probably 10 dozen people like me who are so uplifted by your writing, but don’t respond. Thank you!

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Stephanie Ann September 3, 2011 at 10:35 pm

I admire all that you do! Just now, as I read your most recent post, I was horrified to become aware of the awful things that people have been saying about you and your family. Don’t listen to them! You’re wonderful and your recipes are lovely and your writing is witty and fun to read. You have done so much with the circumstances that have been handed to you and you’ve done beautifully.

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A Year in Skirts September 3, 2011 at 10:51 pm

I found your site from a link someone posted on Facebook. I don’t know you or your blog actually, but what you’ve said here is SO IMPORTANT that I think everyone in America should read it. I’m so sorry that you and so many other bloggers and public figures deal with this. You’re BRAVE and I’m proud of you for writing about this important topic.

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Lynn September 3, 2011 at 10:53 pm

I’ve been following your blog from nearly the beginning. I had no idea you were (or anyone for that matter!) dealing with what you just wrote about. Here’s the thing: there is only one person we can control…and that is ourselves. You just continue following your internal guide and doing whatever feels right to you. Whatever someone says, feels, or thinks about you isn’t about you…it’s about them. You’re in the public view now. You have chosen to make your life public…so the flack is simply one of the costs. That’s why God gave you a ‘delete’ button. Delete and move on…..I remember when Lucy was born (or Little Bean as you called her) and you posted once saying you weren’t going to talk about her on your site. At the time I thought ‘How can she not?’ and happily you changed your mind. Brenna Brown is totally right.

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carla September 3, 2011 at 11:10 pm

Wow, Shauna, First of all, I came to your site because my sister gave me your book and I have been reading it and LOVING it and wanted to send you gratitude for sharing your experience and your love of food with me and letting me know that I could go to Italy and be ok. I am shocked that there are trolls out there who would diminish anything about what you are doing and I applaud you for naming them. I do want you to know that you have profoundly influenced my life in the most positive way and I thank you for sharing your love of food and life. THANK YOU!!!! (just diagnosed with celiac 60 days ago.)

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Janey September 3, 2011 at 11:25 pm

Wow – I wondered why some of my favourite bloggers took off the comments facility, but now I understand completely.

You are amazing in dealing with that all, so that you have a creative outlet and one that others can enjoy and share in what you so create. Thank you from all of us for resisting the advance of the trolls :)

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PamiF September 3, 2011 at 11:34 pm

Never commented, but touched by your passion, beautiful writing and inspiration. We are the only ones that count, not those who wish to contaminate with their unhappiness and lack of appreciating what is kind and good….that means you. Thank you for sharing. You make a difference that counts. They don’t.

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Nicole September 3, 2011 at 11:54 pm

Hi Shauna,
Despite echoing the sentiment of the last 800+ comments I just had to say how much I love your food blog and appreciate so much how you share your gluten-free and family life so generously with all of us. It is such a joy and you are one of the most beautiful and honest writers I have had the privilege of reading. I did not even consider having Coeliac Disease until I saw someone recommend your site and I read your blog. Now I eat gluten free and feel better than I have in my entire life. My acne that has been troubling me for 15 years has settled when nothing else, including potent medication would.

I am a doctor who lives in Australia and have been teaching my medical students about Coeliac disease and have been using your blog as an example of someone who lives GF and loves it. I love all your links and information and personal story about your diagnosis and coming to terms with your Coeliac disease. To show my support in the face of the too many negative voices out there, I am buying your book as we speak on Amazon.

Please continue to do such an important and wonderful job. I am so appreciative of your effort and thank you and your family for taking on the sometimes burden of public life.

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Linette September 4, 2011 at 1:14 am

Oh Shauna,
I feel like crying. I never imagine that this was going on. Maybe I am too naive or live in a media – free bubble. I am so sorry you, your family and other bloggers are treated like this.
I love your blog and your recipes.
Thank you for deciding to continue your work.

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Sas September 4, 2011 at 4:26 am

Dear Shauna,

What a terrible thing to read and at the same time: I admire your strength of beiing positive even more. I LOVE reading your blog (I check it daily) and I DON’T NEED TO EAT GLUTENFREE AT ALL!!!. I love it, because of the positive vibe to it, the beautiful pictures in it and the fact that it is well written. Most of all I think it is so human in its most positive way. It’s not kitchy- perfect, but perfect in a loving way (as you know what I mean). Someone said she thought of you as a lightworker. ‘Yes!’, I thought, that’s what you are! Love from Amsterdam, Holland

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Karen September 4, 2011 at 5:47 am

Shauna, I want to say thank you. For two reasons. First, and most importantly, your blog helped me realize that I had been suffering from gluten intolerance for years. After my third son was born I felt awful, beyond infant-sleep-deprivation-awful. I was looking for recipes online, found your blog, and after reading about your symptoms, decided to experiment by taking gluten out of my diet.

Turns out all the depression, stomach problems, skin disorders and brain fog were gluten-related. I’ve been gluten free since 2008 and feel better than I have in years. My third baby was born with a severe nutritional defect (now corrected) that we’ve since linked to my celiac disease. My fourth baby was born perfectly healthy.

Secondly, I hadn’t read your blog in a while but came back to it today. This post helped me realize that I have been guilty of judging others and yes, being cruel. You helped me become aware of that, and I thank you. Your writing makes me want to be a better person, and I think that’s probably what the trolls and haters despise.

Keep writing. Protect your little one, of course, but don’t let the bastards grind you down, as my brother would have said.

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Gena September 4, 2011 at 7:57 am

Shauna,

I’ve read your blog for as long as I’ve read food blogs, and I have always, *always* marveled at your exceptional writing skills and wonderful voice. This post embodies everything that makes your writing great: courage. Eloquence. Compassion. And yes, joy.

Gena

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LOVE THIS BLOG September 4, 2011 at 8:17 am

I was shocked when reading this post. I have read this blog for years and have been so thankful for the help, with the gluten-free life, you have provided. I cannot believe that people waste their time saying such awful and hurtful things. It really is sad.

Well, I don’t know if you’ll ever read this, but I hope you keep posting and keep deleting the bad from your pages/site and from your mind. You have helped me immensely!!! I love that you do this! Please keep on!

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Kate September 4, 2011 at 8:26 am

There is so much cruelty in the world, and silence is such a normal response. Thank you for being loud about it, for refusing to accept it with silence. I’m so sorry that you’ve been targeted for hatred.

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Meagan September 4, 2011 at 9:04 am

Wow – I was shocked to read about the comments you get, and REGULARLY? Oh my goodness. It honestly sounds like the same person, who is obviously a looser, and has nothing better to do with their time than bash people.

There are many of us that appreciate what you do. Don’t lose sight of that.

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Laurie September 4, 2011 at 9:24 am

First time here; was directed via a link posted by Choosing Raw on Facebook. I initially clicked on the link for the recipe….looks and sounds wonderful :-)
Then I read this writing. Now, I have liked you on FB, and I will follow your tweets, cause you, Shauna, are a POWERHOUSE! BRAVO!

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Catherine September 4, 2011 at 9:32 am

I am utterly shocked! I read your blog occasionally and love your books! I knew the world was full of crazies and cruelty, but the obnoxious and frankly, stupid comments are just that!
Carry on and keep doing what you are doing. Nurturing a lovely daughter with values and morals that some people will never possess! Ignore them. They are not worth the time.

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Francoise September 4, 2011 at 10:14 am

I remember reading and enjoying a terrific article you wrote for the Guardian and then being disturbed by some of the strangely aggressive comments people had left at the end of the piece. I suppose we can’t control who views what is published on such an accessible medium — and it has to be accepted that the world is full of demented, sad, hopeless, damaged folk. Not excusing their depraved points of view – but that’s what they are – depraved. And, I ultimately feel sorry for them. You can, and should, press delete. It upsets me thinking you have to see their words, but your life is one of beauty and luck and inspiration. You are a whole, magnificent, glorious, beautiful being with an equally gorgeous family – they are unhappy people who reveal the extent of their rot in the comments they leave. Thank you for having an open heart and encouraging others to be brave and open as well.

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Beverly September 4, 2011 at 10:31 am

If it wasn’t for the idiots, I wouldn’t have found your blog. They’ve done the very thing they feared, instead of you disappearing from life, thanks to them you’ve become more popular! Way to go!

I’m going to give your diet a go, there’s a possibility I’m sensitive to gluten and it may well help with the hyperhidrosis I’ve suffered since birth. I’m going to link back to your blog on my website (and blog about you!). I hope you don’t mind me leaving my website link, lets see if we can’t get you a few more fans!

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Lori Watts September 4, 2011 at 11:07 am

Wow, you are gutsier than I am. I write two blogs, one about making pottery and one about whatever happens to be on my mind. Though it gets minimal page views, I turned off the comments on the general-topics blog. The random nastiness was more than I wanted to deal with. It’s funny but I felt guilty about it, as if I have an obligation to allow comments; but no, I don’t. It’s a big internet. If people want to say vicious things they will just have to find somewhere else to do it.
Anyway, you. You are brave & smart & funny, and I am glad I found this site.

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Joy September 4, 2011 at 11:22 am

I came to your website today because I’d heard of it before and wanted to see if I could find a dessert to bring to a gluten-free friend’s house. I am so so sorry people treat you that way. I can’t even believe it! I can’t imagine the strength you must have to keep deleting those comments and not be dragged down by them. Good for you!

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Chris September 4, 2011 at 1:12 pm

Oh Shauna!
I have never commented before, but I wanted you to know I pick up your cookbook and read your blog precisely because your joy and gratitude shines through everything you write. (Oh…and because your recipes are amazing and I love your writing voice.) How refreshing to hear your stories about living the life you love. As a long-time ghost-writer, I admit you’ve given me pause today, as I venture out more publicly and nationally with my own byline. It takes big courage to fly in the face of so much anonymous fear. You go girl! You’re an inspiration.

And those scary people that write you? It says so much more about the state of their lives than yours. Perhaps you can get to a place one day where you just feel compassion for those sad individuals whose lives are that empty. Until then, keep pressing delete! And keep writing!

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Erin September 4, 2011 at 1:32 pm

Thank you for speaking out about your experiences and for being so courageous. I deeply respect and admire your willingness to share and be a presence seeking balance and joy in the world. The thing about the internet is that it allows us to say publicly without repercussions anything that pops into our head. Every single one of us carries tremendous hurt from this experience called living and we have the choice to either channel the hurt into appreciating the joy or get mired in it and continue to spread the misery around (it does love company after all). If humans would just use their powers for a little more good and a little less hate we would probably astound ourselves with how much better off we would all be. Thank you again, and wishing you all the best and every happiness for you and your family.

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Claire Arpasi September 4, 2011 at 1:45 pm

Hi Shauna, You don’t know me, and I doubt we’ll ever meet each other in person. I’ve been reading your blog off and on for the last 5 years, and I’ve even seen you on the Today show. I wanted to let you know that your words left an impression on me, not because I’m surprised by the cruelty of some readers, but because of your persistence in not letting them defeat you. Thank you,

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marylou September 4, 2011 at 1:59 pm

hey gluten free girl – hang in there! the world has lots of mean spiteful people in it – who cares what they think! sometimes their voices seep into our heads – in a moment of weakness when we are down. you have to push them out – who cares what they think! do your own thing – and keep doing it – cuz you do it well!

i don’t know you and have just begun to visit your blog site, but i found your writing superb, your photos fun, and hopefully your recipes (that i am about to try) will be to die for. thanks for being so thoughtful (to those you don’t even know) and kind enough to share with us that which you do well and which enrichs our lives!

all you mean unhappy people out there can go soak your heads in the toilet!

bake on and blog on gluten-free girl!

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Rita September 4, 2011 at 2:10 pm

Shauna,
I’ve just discovered your blog and have fallen absolutely in love with it over the past two weeks. I love your photograph laden posts, beautifully written, and always a good story to pair with the wonderful recipe that follows. It turns what would normally be a delicious plate of food into soul food, something that means so much more than just filling an empty stomach.
Its hard for me to imagine people being so cruel. From the moment I stumbled onto your blog, I thought it was perfect! Its full of joy — not enough things are these days. You have inspired me to get into my kitchen more frequently and start baking and cooking delicious gluten-free food for my little family.
Your show immense strength in dealing with these people. Criticism like that is a large reason why I’ve never tried harder to do some of the things I’ve wanted to do…which is silly, I know, but no one wants to be hated. Especially when you are in your most vulnerable state…being you.

Anyway, thank you for blogging the way you do, and disregarding the people who bash you and your family for no reason at all. I bet for every one of the people, there are one hundred who love you!
:)

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Carmella September 4, 2011 at 2:46 pm

Amen, sister! As a young woman who adores all things food, as a person with celiac, as a soon-to-be-mother, I thank you from the bottom of my full and joyful heart, because you took the high road. Not only that, you are realistic and very self-aware in your thinking and processing through all of that appalling garbage. Your friend is very correct: Your joy is the cause of and cure for all that hatred out there! Hang tough, and hang onto those you love, and the rest will melt away.

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Heather September 4, 2011 at 2:51 pm

Just wanted to add my voice to this beautiful chorus. Thank you, Shauna, for all that you share with us. The dark side of human nature continues to baffle me and I am so sorry that some of it is directed at you and your beautiful family. Thank you for being so strong and for your inspiring words and photos.
Peace,
Heather

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Deana September 4, 2011 at 4:26 pm

Oh my. I am so upset that people would be so hurtful to you, Danny, and your daughter. I had no idea, and I am shocked! I have mentioned you to countless friends and referred to your blog on my facebook page many times for an excellent gluten free resource. I know there are thousands of people who love you and your darling, happy family, and I hope we can all make up for the hatred of a few. Thank you for sharing this painful part of your online life, and thank you for continuing to do what you do so well. Please don’t let them get to you.

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Megan September 4, 2011 at 4:49 pm

Great post. People wonder why kids bully other kids so frequently today, perhaps because grown ups bully others anonymously on the web. The people who make hateful comments probably would not be so brave if they knew everyone would know who they are. You have a great attitude and spirit don’t give the haters the satisfaction of seeing their ugliness affect you.

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Janine September 4, 2011 at 4:50 pm

I was so horrified to read about the weird cruelty you’ve endured: I had no idea. It is sickening. Please know that even though I never post comments nor do I twitter, I’m there reading and smile and saying something kind every time I read your posts!

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Aimee September 4, 2011 at 4:55 pm

Shauna, Thank you for sharing your truth, transparency, authenticity, and love. I opened Sun In Bloom, a gluten-free vegan and raw food kitchen in Park Slope, Brooklyn nearly 2 years ago and felt my whole life turn upside-down… spiraling into emotional eating and the depths of depression as I worked 16-20 hours a day, 7 days a week.

And since opening the restaurant, I’ve been on a voracious journey trying to regain balance. But, what I’ve found to be the most intimidating challenge is the endless hate people project.

I can relate to everything you’ve shared. I often feel like I’m being featured on the cover of Star Magazine and yet I do not receive the celebratory perks… I just have to wake up the next day and muster up all of my love to prepare food and interact with guests for another long day.

Thank you for letting me know that I am not alone.

I hope to have the opportunity to meet you one day. You’ve contributed so profoundly to my inspiration to move through my fear with courage and open a restaurant that would offer my community delicious gluten free options.

With love, Aimee Follette

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Mer @mersworld September 4, 2011 at 7:17 pm

Hi! I haven’t commented before, but I’ve been reading for years! I just wanted to say that I may be only a single voice among a thousand negative ones, but I find your website, your recipes and your stories to be incredibly helpful! I refer to all of them frequently when supporting friends with gluten-free diets or lifestyles! I’m sorry that you’ve had to face such negativity, but do want you to know that you’ve brought positivity into my life through your posts! Thank you.

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Caitlin September 4, 2011 at 7:27 pm

You are beautiful! Your family is beautiful! Your writing is amazing, and your recipes fill my kitchen. Thank you for everything you do, and for enduring horrible words to make sure that we celiacs are well fed. Cheers to you, Shauna- a woman we all aspire to be like!

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Sarah September 4, 2011 at 8:05 pm

Thank you for your refreshing honesty, and I am so sorry for the things that people say. It is hard to understand why people need to be hateful when there are so many beautiful things out there to rejoice in. Know that there are many of us out here who read your posts, and see pictures of your daughter, and your food, and are inspired, truly, by you and your family’s zest for life. And I just wanted to say, I love the picture on this post with Lu’s skinned knee, because that is everything summer is, skinned knees and picnics. Beautiful. Keep doing what you’re doing, and know that the people who support you are all out here, cooking your recipes, and smiling at your stories.

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Adrienne September 4, 2011 at 8:16 pm

There is so much anger in the world. Deep, pain-and-shame-based, terrible anger. I’m sorry that so much of it is directed at you.

And thank you for sharing this. It’s exactly what I needed to read tonight.

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Grace September 4, 2011 at 11:28 pm

Shauna, forget the trolls – you are an amazing, inspirational person, don’t ever stop writing! You appear to lead such an idyllic lifestyle and I bet many people are jealous, and some people exhibit this with a nasty streak. You have such a beautiful family and your daughter is lucky to have such good parents.

Please visit New Zealand sometime!

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Janet NZ September 7, 2011 at 1:09 am

I agree with Grace. If you’d like to visit, I imagine we could do it for you – accommodation free (as long as you three like cats XXXOOO)

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Siobhan September 5, 2011 at 1:33 am

I’m sorry to read that you have had such negative comments. I love that I can google a recipe or sewing pattern and find a world of help and advice, I don’t think I would have started sewing again without this help. I hate that people use anonymity to say things that they would never say in public and although I’m not a blogger, I sometimes feel as if I should blog just to give back. Perhaps I should just leave a few more positive comments.

So thank you for your blog, for being honest in it and for giving us such yummy gluten free recipes!

Siobhan

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Erin September 5, 2011 at 2:48 am

Hi Shauna,
I’ve never seen your blog before and was linked here from another blog. (Don’t worry, I’ll definitely be reading it much more often! That salad looks absolutely delicious!) I just wanted to leave a comment to say that even though you don’t know me and I am kind of just another voice on the internet, I was really moved by this post. The writing is beautiful and the subject matter, while ugly, well, the power that you use to make your statement about it is inspiring. I can almost see the light glowing from you as you take power back from those who have hurt you. It’s very inspiring and I really admire it.

Peace and love to you and your beautiful family.

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shauna September 5, 2011 at 8:19 am

What a beautiful way to put it, Erin. Thank you.

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Lisa Theriault September 5, 2011 at 3:18 am

I’ve never commented on any of my fav blogs, out of fear that what I have to say is too banal to type, but I simply have to let you know I love to read your posts. Thank you for all the joy, love and thoughtfulness you put into each one. I had no idea people would take time out of their lives to post such venom. My emotions as I read your words ran from sadness to shock to anger, how dare these people! You and your family are a treasure and I feel that reading about your lives is a gift, one that I truly treasure, so thank you for all the wonderful gifts you have given me.
Lisa

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shauna September 5, 2011 at 8:19 am

Thank you so much, Lisa. And please don’t worry about a comment being banal again. This one certainly was not. I love the community here. That’s so much better than a well-worded comment.

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Biscuitweddingfavours September 5, 2011 at 3:25 am

I have just found your blog today and cannot beleive that people have nothing else better going on in their lifes to write such nasty things. They are truly sad and lonely people.
I really enjoyed you sharing this with us and for you to carry on doing what you do as we need delicious recipes to follow.
Think about it this way you must be a truly amazing person for people to want to put you down.

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Emily September 5, 2011 at 6:38 am

One of my very best friends has celiac and I remember the long difficult years leading up to diagnosis. Your site is great.
As for this post – thanks for giving voice to what I view as a cultural pandemic of people cultivating ugliness and vitriol rather than trying build a world of beauty. Imagine what we could do with this world if everyone harnessed a creative vision & spirit?!
Anyway, thanks to you for your courage in persisting. I don’t know if I have a thick enough skin, and appreciate those who do. Keep on keeping on!!

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trez September 5, 2011 at 7:11 am

Hi Shauna,
Not to sound naive, but i am shocked at the cruelty of people. I feel so sorry for them; can you even imagine living like that? for thinking hateful mean thoughts? What a horrible existence. It’s there, like all evil, but we don’t have to focus on it. You are good and beautiful and happy and interesting and creative!! and what more can a person want!? Keep writing. I love your recipes, your writing, your story (especially the YES!) and don’t let the trolls in. Keep going. Press on. So many love you. :) You encourage us and enlighten us and show us another aspect of the good life, so please keep being yourself!!!

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arkadystar September 5, 2011 at 7:26 am

Thanks for sharing how prevalent this is. Honestly, I never thought about it, but *of course* everyone must go through this and I am so appreciative that as a reader I never experience it, because you and other bloggers delete this stuff and get rid of it. I hate to run into negativity like that. Just for creating communities online that are spite-free, you and a lot of other bloggers I read deserve some extras kudos (and money?) for making that happen. Thank you!

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Sheila Mainous September 5, 2011 at 8:31 am

I cannot believe that you–or anyone–would receive such hateful comments. What is WRONG with our society that people do this bullying at a distance? Where has decency gone?
I am SO sorry that you have been going through this!

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Allison September 5, 2011 at 8:48 am

Shauna, you are perfect in every way. Lucy is perfect in every way. Danny is perfect in every way. I hope you feel the love that I and so many others are directing toward you and yours right now. Love beats fear and shame any day. Thank you for your bravery.

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sk September 5, 2011 at 9:43 am

Just….wow. You are completely amazing to put up with getting comments like those (and all the rest of the stuff you mentioned!) and still keep doing what you love. You’re an inspiration. There are some seriously crazy people out there. Like, REAL LUNATICS! And they are just jealous of your happiness, jealous of the authentic life you’re leading, and they don’t know how to find that space in their own lives, so they give up and just try to torment people like you. I think they have the idea that there’s only so much happiness to go around, and if others are living their best lives, then there’s not enough left for them. If only they knew the truth! There is so much good they could be doing instead of stalking your blog/twitter! :) That’s my two cents anyway. Keep up the good work!

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Tabitha September 5, 2011 at 9:49 am

Thanks for sharing what goes on in the “dark side” of being a public figure. I’ve personally never envied but rather pitied those with fame because of things like this. I’m sorry for you.

People feel protected from face to face confrontation and just spout out whatever comes to mind. The truth is that they are hurting themselves far more than they will ever hurt the object of their remarks.

I love your blog and I’m so glad you are strong enough to withstand misdirected anger. Please keep writing and cooking!

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minna September 5, 2011 at 10:56 am

thank you for sharing your story. it pains me to hear your story and others who have dealt with similar situations. i think it was so brave of you to speak up about this. thank you.

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Karen Amarotico September 5, 2011 at 10:57 am

Hi Shauna,

I have read your blog from time to time because I have friends that are gluten intolerant and I love finding recipes for them. In fact, today I was hoping to find a recipe for a GF pie (day 152) and instead I read about your trip to New Orleans and then all about the hateful comments you have received.
I had no idea that there were people who would be so cruel and for what? Who has time to hate like that? I am so very sorry that you have had to experience this. I love what you do… and love the pictures I have seen of you and your husband. You both look so happy and in love and that is what the world needs more of.
Thanks for sharing your story.
KA

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Maryanne Burgos September 5, 2011 at 11:13 am

So glad you haven’t given in to comments by people who need a life!

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Kimberly B. George September 5, 2011 at 11:22 am

Hooray for your work in this world–and for your courage to be you! As a very committed feminist, I adore this post. Thank you for its gifts.

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Holly September 5, 2011 at 11:49 am

Thank you for this posting. There are so many people out there that have little to do BUT criticize others or be just plain negative. Keep up the good work because I know many who are cheering you on and appreciate the wisdom and advice provided here. This is where gf people unite!
P.S. I happened upon your recent posting as I was looking for the PB cookie recipe which a friend taught me to pull out of the oven after 6-7 minutes and put a thumbprint in each cookie and then fill the thumbprint with jam or jelly to make them PB and J cookies…

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Megan September 5, 2011 at 11:53 am

Shauna,

Last summer, you shared with us your struggles with weight and treatment and adding more children to your family, and your hopes for adopting and having a healthier self image and being a wonderful mother and wife and cook. And now, you continue to share the struggles and joys of your life. Thank you for continuing to be open with us, especially amidst all of the hateful messages that barrage you. (Really, the comments about Lucy almost made me vomit.) Best wishes to you and your family.

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Dara September 5, 2011 at 12:40 pm

Thank you so much for speaking out. I am so incredibly sorry that you and many other female bloggers have to deal with this rude and disrespectful behavior. Thank you for everything that you put into this site, and know that there are many who appreciate your work, delicious recipes, and honesty about your life.

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Erika September 5, 2011 at 1:29 pm

I have great respect for you for writing what you write about. Thank you for having courage to talk about hard and difficult things.

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Amy September 5, 2011 at 2:09 pm

Trolls be gone!
Choose joy! You know how. Love and kindness sent to you.

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shauna September 5, 2011 at 3:18 pm

Goodness, people. Goodness.

That’s the word that keeps leaping to my mind these past few days, after reading all these comments. (And believe me, of course, I read every single one.) There is such goodness in the world and it far outweighs the negative voices that try to scream loudly.

Thank you.

Writing this piece was a liberation for me. I had to come to a place of peace about all this before I could write it, however. I’ve been dealing with this for five years. You got to read about it all at once. So thank you to all of you who wished the best for us and hoped that we wouldn’t stop creating this site. Believe me, we’re not going anywhere.

I’ve been astonished at how many people RTed this post on Twitter and sent it onto friends. Thank you to all of you who have written here and on email. Someday soon, I’ll answer you all.

Clearly, this is a conversation worth having. Thank you for being part of it.

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Beth G. September 5, 2011 at 4:16 pm

Thanks for speaking up!! You are an inspiration for us all.

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Erica September 5, 2011 at 5:18 pm

I was born with a pretty severe cleft palate and lip in 1978.
Thankfully, my very young mother advocated (read:fought) for me all the way through my young adulthood to make sure I had as normal of a childhood as possible.
Surgeries? Done. Speech therapy? Done.

Despite her efforts I was ridiculed, mocked, made the butt of awful pranks because of how I looked. It was painful, and I spent many a day in tears when I should have been laughing and dancing and playing with other kids.

Today I am a 32 year old woman. I have a Master’s Degree in Acting and am a professional stage actor. I have performed all over the world and won numerous awards.
I also sing in a well-known Seattle band! I am confident, happy and have a wonderful man on my life!

All thanks to my Momma!

While it’s terrible that kids say and do terrible things, I can’t imagine adults doing the same.
But the joke is on them!
Your life is joyous and filled with beautiful people and their joy and love.
Beauty is not just in the eye of the beholder, it is in the courageous who will reach out and grab it and share it with others.

“None can be called deformed but the unkind.”
-Shakespeare

Love to you and yours!

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Janet NZ September 7, 2011 at 1:11 am

More power to you Erica. You are fabulous too!

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Robin September 5, 2011 at 5:42 pm

Shauna, Whenever someone tells me they should/could/will/want to go on a gluten-free diet I tell them they must read Gluten Free Girl first thing. Because of your joy, because of your attitude, because of your practical approach for the food that you can eat. You don’t whine, you dine. After a diagnosis of celiac I believe that your book was THE most helpful tool to get myself healthy. Keep spreading your joy and your life-THANK YOU!

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Rosh September 5, 2011 at 7:43 pm

dear shauna, thank you so much for speaking up and sharing this. your writing means a lot to me and clearly to many other people as well. i am so glad you didn’t let that awful negativity stifle you into a dark corner. may we all be as courageous and joyful and alive and may we all live in a kinder and more loving world. lots of love to you, danny and lucy -she is beautiful and so lucky to have a wonderful example of kindness courage and wholehearted living, and us readers too! :)

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Cristine September 5, 2011 at 7:46 pm

Gosh, Shauna, you and your darn island and your darn happy, healthy family and your tons and tons of darn friends – how dare you. :) I applaud this post! I grew up with the whole “turn the other cheek” credo, but I think bullying has reached epic proportions with the anonymous nature of the internet and it’s time to stand up, call these people out for being the cowards that they are and let them know that we don’t subscribe to their hateful BS. I’ve always loved your posts for your genuineness and honesty and I appreciate that now, when faced with a choice between courage or caving, you chose courage. Thank you for all that you do!

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B September 5, 2011 at 7:55 pm

Shauna,

I must admit I’m not usually a buggy person but I would love to give you one right now. I have read your blog anonymously for some time now on top of having your books. You have really brought a lot of publicity for GF living and it’s not easy. Me? I see myself as more of a Marilyn instead of a Moss. In the 50′s I would have been really popular; thank you for being a strong voice for those of us without a web presence.

B

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rachel September 5, 2011 at 9:26 pm

Shauna,
I’m shocked, stunned, floored….it’s hard to even imagine you receiving so much hate “mail.”. Any, for that matter. I’ve been reading your blog for a long time without writing. I never felt like I had the right thing to say. But your blog has touched me so many times. Early on in my reading I was eager to learn more about Lu, because my daughter, too, had brain surgery as a baby (day 4!), and because I felt this startling to connection to you in so many ways. But that was before you were really writing much about her. I could completely respect that. But I have also completely enjoyed everything you’ve written about your family since you started writing more about them. I’m sorry that people have been, continue to be, so nasty. And I’m glad you’ve spoken up. Keep writing. Yes.

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Judith Cohen September 5, 2011 at 9:56 pm

Shauna,
I first heard of you via The Amateur Gourmet when your first book came out. I didn’t read it at the time because I didn’t think that it applied to me. However, periodically, I would check your blog for your excellent writing and great recipes. During that same time, I consistently spent three or four weeks a year in the hospital with gut obstructions supposedly caused by my ovarian cancer treatment. A friend finally convinced me to go gluten and dairy free a little over a year ago and I have yet to set foot in a hospital since I changed my diet. As you can imagine, this has created a huge positive change in my life after 12 years of repeated gut obstructions. I immediately remembered you, went and bought your book and have benefited from your sage cooking advice and attitude toward life.

As much as all the other writers have commended your good attitude and rightfully indicated that the problem lies in the trolls and not with you, I want to acknowledge and bow to your bravery, courage and open-heartedness in the face of such searing verbal abuse. It might have been easy to brush off if it happened occasionally but the repeated and blatantly cruel intention of it speaks to me of the pathology of the writer(s). It pains me that you (and your family) in particular and other bloggers in general have been the targets of such sadism. Perhaps it is time for bloggers to unite and create legislation that forbids this type of behavior. It is anti-social, uncivil and threatening. It seems to me that it is a form of hate speech and should not be tolerated. I believe in free speech but we should not condone speech designed to hurt or threaten others.

You have been blessed with a beautiful heart, body and mind, not to mention an equally beautiful family. You all exude this beauty. It is palpable and it is healing. Thanks for your eloquent and vulnerable writing and your continued desire to share your gifts with the rest of us despite such ongoing blatant and disgusting abuse.

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Miss Viv September 6, 2011 at 1:22 am

Amen. Really. Amen. You stopped, cared long enough to think about what you were going to write, and then just let the words flow, regardless of the thoughts, and that I find to be simply awesome. Awe-inspiring even. But mostly awesome. There are days when I read your blog, and time may have passed along quite nicely in between, and I sit and wonder when my life will ever become as blessed as yours. Until recently. When I got it. That it didn’t matter what everyone else thinks. That my words are a part of me. That what I say or do only reflects a portion of my soul. And the ones who think it’s tarnished are entitled to their opinions, because the ones who think it’s beautiful are the ones filling my world. So it’s a little strange – but oddly universally ironic – that I sit here and read your words, and find what I have just discovered, extolled so perfectly upon your page. Thank you for sharing, and for being willing to dance your soul in words across this blog. I admire your tenacity, and ability to express how passionately you feel. But mostly I admire your strength and beauty, for being able to honour the beautiful beautiful woman you so obviously are, and will forever be. Love to you, keep shining – you bring so much more joy than you will possibly ever know xx

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Julana September 6, 2011 at 6:12 am

Shauna,
God has blessed you. He loves you and your family.
He loves those nasty commenters, too. May they learn to count their blessings and spend their time being grateful, because their days, like all of ours, are numbered.

We need to make the most of the time we have been given, as Gandalf termed it….turn from consuming (which is what too much negativity does) to appreciating and creating, which seems to be the focus of this blog…

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Dee September 6, 2011 at 6:41 am

WHAT?! I am completely shocked! I cannot for the life of me figure out how ANYONE could say ONE bad thing about you! I know you didn’t write this post to go fishing for complements, but I am going to give them to you. I for one completely adore you, your recipes, your stories, your openness, your books, and your dedication to helping all of us Gluten Free foodies EAT. I’m so sorry that you have to endure such stupid comments, but so grateful that you are wise and strong in the way that you stand up to them.

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Adrienne September 6, 2011 at 7:34 am

Hey Shauna. I just wanted to say how incredible this post is. It had me cheering in front of my computer!! You are so confident and joyful, it’s contagious! And you are an incredible role model. Thank you.

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Trollterson September 6, 2011 at 7:35 am

The making of delicious foods makes me so ANGRY! Gah! Sorry, I just had to comment. The rage coursing through my veins after having read online that a woman and her family live happily and make great food on an ISLAND is just too much to handle. Excuse me while I write some venomous emails to intimidate someone bringing yummy-ness to her family and the world. The horror! I am almost too blinded by my rage to write a highly personal and frightening email, but I have to protect the world from the tyranny of happy 3-year-olds and the– I almost cannot bring myself to write– atrocity of Velveeta cheese. Hurry! To the Twitter! There isn’t much time left to stop this madness!

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healing123 September 6, 2011 at 7:37 am

thank you for continuing to persevere , we are sorry for what you have encountered.
Hopefully, the good outweighs the bad.
What a blessing your family has been to many.
Your little girl is adorable. Perfectly made.
Thank you for all you share.
Hope your day is delightful.

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Trysha September 6, 2011 at 8:03 am

My husband saw this and requested it for dinner last night and it was amazing! I made some swaps: I didn’t have sherry vinegar, so I swapped in some rice vinegar and a dash of sesame oil, roasted veggies instead of grilled.

Is it lunchtime yet? I’m ready for leftovers. :)

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Michelle September 6, 2011 at 9:57 am

Thank you for sharing. It is sad that there are people out there who feel they have to criticize everything. I came across your blog a few months ago and have enjoyed reading it ever since. I’ve been eating gluten-free for several years. I’ve learned a lot of things since I started reading your blog. I recently started baking by weight and enjoy it. Please continue sharing all the things you are learning as you experiment with flours and ratios.

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Lisa September 6, 2011 at 10:08 am

I’ve never commented on your site but have been reading it for years. Thank you for it as I have been enjoying it and have found it very useful. Thank you for telling about these people. Having this out in the open may stop some of it. Lisa.

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Aunt Snow September 6, 2011 at 10:33 am

Thisi s the first time I’ve visited your blog, I was referred here by Mrs. G at Derfwad Manor – brava for you saying what needed to be said, revealing the inexplicable cruelty of some human beings, and dealing with it so maturely.

Thank you.

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K.B. Wagers September 6, 2011 at 10:58 am

You are awesome, woman. Keep going!

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Jen September 6, 2011 at 11:18 am

I vacillate between feeling sorry for people who have nothing better to do than gain some sort of perverse pleasure from trolling, and disgust that they can’t leave well enough alone. It is very annoying to me that I can’t let my kids read through the comments on videos we watch on youtube. Honestly, nothing is left alone. I’m sorry that you, and any other blogger, is also subjected to this garbage.

There are people who cause me to despair of finding decency in the world. Then there are people who uplift everything they touch. You definitely belong in the latter category. Thank you for sharing your recipes, your approach to life, and your beautiful family.

And the picture of your daughter’s skinned knee? Well, that’s life, right? Just makes me want to scoop her up and kiss her (or my own kids, since I’m on the opposite side of the country).

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Liz September 6, 2011 at 12:20 pm

Thank you so much for sharing your difficult story. I don’t have time to read all the comments this morning, however the tone of some of the comments you posted sounds similar and I would posit that much of this cruel commentary stems from one or two people who might even be in collusion. I know it sounds paranoid, but I had a cyber stalking attached to my own blog. Certainly when it was at its most popular there were rude and invalidating comments, however one reader went so far as to contact my professor in a food writing course I wrote about, malign my good name and embarrass the heck out of me.

DON’T LET IT GET YOU DOWN!

You write a beautiful blog that is much beloved by many readers. Ignore the jealous and small minded and go about your own beautiful business.

:-D

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Stephanie September 6, 2011 at 12:54 pm

The negativity some people come up with is terrible to me. My son had craniosynostosis, and I can’t imagine being teased about how my baby looked before his surgery. Some people are just awful and have too much time on their hands.

What’s worse is that not everyone copes with these people as well as you do. My brother-in-law had an idea for a site, but on realizing that he’d have to deal with such people if the site became even a little successful was too much for him, so now he won’t do it. He’s very sensitive to such things, and knows he wouldn’t want to continue if that happened. I hate seeing such people win by keeping someone from so much as starting, not to mention the people who have been driven off their own sites by such things.

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Cristal September 6, 2011 at 1:04 pm

There will always be people who cut others down because they are bored, miserable, etc. Those people will never know the kind of happiness you share on your blog; lucky for many of us you persevere and continue to write about the beauty you find in life and in good food. Thank you.

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Sarah September 6, 2011 at 1:09 pm

I haven’t read your blog before, I followed the link from another blog, and I was shocked to read your post. I can’t believe how small minded people are, and what kind of a life someone has where making fun of, criticising, and viciously attacking other people’s lifestyle, appearance and happiness is in anyway acceptable. How can they sleep at night?

I’m fairly new to blogging myself, and the positive side is that I can see what a fantastic community of support there is for those who think alike. Sending many hugs your way.

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rae September 6, 2011 at 1:17 pm

Hi, I am from Brooklyn and I will absolutely make this sauce!! Don’t let people get to your heart and mind, they are not worth it. You and your cute little daughter are b.e.a.u.t.i.f.u.l:)

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Barrie September 6, 2011 at 1:37 pm

Shauna!

Your post infuriated me to tears.

I have said this before, but it needs to be said again. This blog has always been a ray of sunshine for me and I’m grateful that you are brave enough and strong enough to continue to post for those of us who support you and who care about people in the world.

You have given me a lot of inspiration during some of my darker moments, and I know you won’t let these internet zombies get you down.

Many, many cyber hugs from NYC.

Barrie

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Suzanne September 6, 2011 at 2:32 pm

Just found your blog from Smockity’s link on facebook. Seriously, I can’t believe people say things like that. How sad. No matter the “reason”, there is no excuse for such pitiful behavior. I’m so glad you wrote this post! Good for you! You go girl!

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Jess September 6, 2011 at 2:32 pm

thank you thank you thank you! i really needed to read this..i am new to your site and came here just to see what you are cooking, but really, today of all days, i needed this. i am 24, a mother, and a wife..i have recently been fighting with my image, because i am a pastry chef by trade, i spend a lot of time baking and eating, i have healthy eating habits but i fight with myself because i dont look like i did 6 years ago, yea..6 years..i was 18. what the hell do i expect!? i have since had a baby and i guess its just time to except that i wont be a size 2 forever! people can be mean, and since i have always been thin, now it just seems like everyone notices every inch i put on. but screw them! thanks again! i love food and i am happy and healthy AMEN!

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Denise September 6, 2011 at 2:51 pm

Thank you for speaking out. That was a beautiful post. Don’t let the haters win.

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Holly September 6, 2011 at 4:37 pm

I am horrified to think that people could be so cruel. Why would someone waste their time and go out of their way to be malicious just for the sake of being malicious? I might not agree with everything single thing you write, but I admire your courage and love for life. Your passion and commitment are beautiful, the love you have for your family is beautiful, you are beautiful. Please keep doing what you do.

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Melissa @ TryingToHeal September 6, 2011 at 6:14 pm

One of my friend’s emailed me this post because I have been experience the wrath of the trolls you talk of for the past several months and it’s absolutely debilitating sometimes. My blog is about my job as a field biologist, being vegetarian, running and recovering from an eating disorder. I get hate for every single dang aspect of my life and like you, thought of taking down the blog. But my Father said to me, “Think of all of those that love your blog. They matter much more than those who are simply envious and show it through hate mail.”

So I hear your every word and hope the trolls go away for you. I know how it feels and would never wish it on anyone, EVER. Especially you, I’ve read over past posts and I love them. Hugs!

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Beccaa September 6, 2011 at 9:45 pm

How much wasted energy from all those vindictive, mean, small people. How sad. How wonderful that you decide to continue to do what you do anyway. Ignore the haters and carry on!

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Sara September 6, 2011 at 10:17 pm

(hugs). I’m so sorry you have to deal with this. I am not gluten free, but I enjoy your blog for all that you put in to it, food, love and life… I have a little cousin who is just a bit older than Lucy, and have really enjoyed watching her grow through your pictures and stories. I think some people have a real hard time understanding that other people are actual people, with emotions, etc. Empathy is a virtue. I hope it gets better, but even if it doesn’t, you have a lot of wonderful people who really do care about you and your family, and hopefully they count for a whole lot more than the assholes.

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Liz September 7, 2011 at 3:37 am

I found this post through a link on Food Blog Alliance. I hope you’re doing what Salty Seattle said she’s doing — reporting offenders to the FBI through their nifty online form. And you do not need to justify your weight or appearance to anyone, it’s not their business.

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Alanna Kellogg September 7, 2011 at 6:20 am

So much hatred to spin. So much energy to waste. My god, Shauna.

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Jimmy N. September 7, 2011 at 1:18 pm

Scalzi linked to this post. I am overwhelmed by your honesty and openness. You’re doing great work! Thank you for sharing.

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Anna Stavinoha September 7, 2011 at 3:14 pm

Shauna,
I am sorry to hear of the personal attacks. That is indeed the sign of an unhappy person, who wishes to make others miserable. I want to thank you for your friendly, personal, inspirational posts, not to mention the fabulous food. Please keep it up!!

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Jenn@slim-shoppin September 7, 2011 at 7:35 pm

Hi! I’m a newbie to your site and can’t believe that people are so freaking mean to say such things about your family! I’ve been blogging for 4 years, and I don’t know what I would do if I were in your shoes….but I think you found your answer – KEEP GOING, don’t let vicious people bring you down, that’s so cowardly of people who clearly have nothing better to do with their time making horrible comments.

Live your life, enjoy it, do what you love and f*ck the people who are haters – they aren’t worth your time!

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Janet September 7, 2011 at 8:40 pm

People who feel the need to rip apart other people do so because of a lack of self esteem. They feel bad about themselves and their lives and they feel powerless. So to “elevate” themselves, they have to tear down others. As painful as it may feel to be on the receiving end of their vitriol, in the end, they hurt themselves the most. They should be pitied for all that they are missing out on in life.

Far better to forget the trolls and take joy in living. To quote from Babylon 5 (one of my favorite SF TV shows):

“Here, gathered together in common cause. we agree to recognize this singular truth, and this singular rule: That we must be kind to one another, because each voice enriches us and ennobles us, and each voice lost diminishes us. We are the voice of the Universe, the soul of creation, the fire that will light the way to a better future. We are one.”

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Krisn September 7, 2011 at 9:27 pm

Hi, I just came to your blog from a link. I have never been to your blog before, but am intrigued and will come back often. I don’t normally leave a lot of comments, but I really feel that I should today.

It’s a shame that people have to be so negative and hurtful. Just because you are used to the negativity, doesn’t mean that it hurts any less each and every time.

I love that you shared your feelings about this. My mom used to always tell me “Feelings buried alive never die… let it out. Don’t hold onto the negativity. It’s no good for you” and “never trust a skinny cook” :)

Thank you for sharing your talents with us. Those who don’t care for it shouldn’t waste their time looking at things they don’t like.

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star September 8, 2011 at 7:08 am

This is the first time I’ve ever commented. Can’t believe how awful people can be and so sorry that you have to suffer through this. You have inspired me, however. I’m getting ready to do a food blog and for a bit while I was reading your post I thought that maybe I wouldn’t do it, but then if I don’t the trolls have won and I can’t have that. You are a strong and wonderful woman….keep doing what you’re doing.

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D September 8, 2011 at 10:04 am

Shauna,

I wanted to thank you for everything that you do and send some support from my direction. I am a comparatively newly-diagnosed celiac, and I have been reading your blog since I got the news just over a year ago. I very much appreciate having you there as a resource and learning that there can be joy in this celiac life. Of course, sometimes I get jealous of you and angry because you are dealing with your situation vastly better than I am, because your life improved with your celiac diagnosis, while mine went in the other direction, because your life is full of joy, where mine is not. But you still provide some glimmers of hope.

It sickens me to learn of all of the internet-based abuse you have faced. You, the brave person who confronted the challenges in her life and went on to take that life and make it better. You, the person who wants to help others by sharing experiences. There’s just no excuse for the internet trolling you’ve faced. Some people just have no heart.

D

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Ellen September 8, 2011 at 10:50 am

I’m also horrified by the ugly comments. I don’t eat gluten free, but I keep coming back to your blog for the openness and warmth of your writing. Thank you for sharing, and know that there is a lot of love out here in internet land for you!

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melissa September 9, 2011 at 5:36 am

oh, my goodness. Keep living with joy. It is inspiring.
I can’t believe the bitterness some people hold on to and nourish and polish, not realizing how it destroys them.

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Connie September 9, 2011 at 7:50 am

I grew up with those types of people in my day to day life. I got comments every single day telling me I wasn’t pretty enough, good enough, thin enough, etc. To make matters worse I got it at home as well. My mother could find the fault in perfection. Finally I gave up. I was never EVER going to be all things to all people, so I decided to be everything to me. I did what I wanted, when I wanted, and to *hockeysticks* with whomever thought it was wrong, because it was right for me.

There are always going to be people who think you aren’t what they are, and they are going to call you on it – especially if they think you think you are better then them. Not saying for one second you do think that, but people who are missing things from their lives can feel this way when faced with people who seem to have what they don’t. The more you reach out to people the more likely it is you are going to run across these type of empty people. They waste their time mocking you because honestly they have nothing better to do. Pretty sad hun?

Keep reaching. Keep sharing and keep being who you were meant to be.

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Melanie J. September 9, 2011 at 8:02 am

Your bravery touches me. I look at that picture and think, there’s a child who’s allowed to get dirty and fall down. It’s beautiful and messy, this life. Nothing wrong with that. You just made a new fan, and I look forward to scouring your archives as I embark on a more healthy lifestyle. Peace!

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Cindy @ Wheatless Foodie September 9, 2011 at 8:20 am

Oh my goodness! I had no idea this sort of thing was happening on such a large scale. I’m not sure that I would have the courage to continue blogging if it were happening to me. Thank you for sharing yourself, your family, (your daughter is adorable, by the way) and especially your knowledge. Yours is one of my “go to” sites when I’m looking for gluten free information recipes.

Cindy

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Suebob September 9, 2011 at 8:47 am

They’re very sad, pathetic little people with too much time on their hands. I’m glad you wrote this.

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Ondrejka September 9, 2011 at 9:17 am

I do not blog. I look and listen with gratitude as you open your life and heart and share with us. It is so very brave. Know that you are beautiful and keep on shining.

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molly irwin September 9, 2011 at 9:50 am

thank you. thank you! You’re amazing! I’ve never commented here before, but find this post positively inspirational and spot on in terms of … everything. A bonus … I happen to have all these ingredients in my kitchen, and didn’t know what to make for dinner. You’re the best!

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kelly landau September 9, 2011 at 10:09 am

Reading the disgusting, small-minded, puerile things that people take time out of their day to send you about your life/weight/child/hair made my stomach clench and heave. Literally. How courageous of you and all the other bloggers I love to read to go forth anyway. I couldn’t do it.
But I vowed after reading this entry to be even more diligent about my own thoughts, words, and acts of kindness. No matter how insecure I may be feeling about something, I was not put on this earth to tear somebody else down so carelessly, so hatefully, and with a stunning vitriol I don’t understand or recognize, to make myself feel better.
You and your life/weight/child/hair are beautiful. Keep writing.

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Megan September 9, 2011 at 10:16 am

This is my first time to your site and my first comment. I don’t have a site, but I did have some trolls after me during the last year while I was in grad school (for social work, no less)…people who didn’t like my way of being in the world or the fact that I could be comfortable in my own skin and ideas. They made my life hell and tried to get me kicked out of my program with their spitefulness and lies. Everyone around me told me to ignore them and to just let it pass, and I did — until I found out they were also doing it to other people I respected. Then I spoke up, loudly and publicly, and drew attention to what others and I were experiencing. I initially got some flack for it from people who were projecting their own fears onto me, but I haven’t regretted speaking up for a second.

You’re absolutely right: We live in a time in which many people think there are only two options – their own opinion, and the wrong opinion. To consider the world of ideas, let alone the world of human life, to be solely diametrically opposed is beyond narrowminded; it’s dangerous and cruel. Yes, screw the trolls but also name them for what they are. You and your family are beautiful and joyful, and I’m a new subscriber to this blog precisely because of what you wrote here today.

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corinne September 9, 2011 at 10:28 am

Blessings blessings to you and your family. Thank you for your blog and your beautiful posts. Please keep ‘em coming and listen to your friends/your instincts/your mentors when you feel like submitting to the trolls. xo

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Rhonda September 9, 2011 at 10:28 am

Thank you for speaking out on this Shauna. Sending you and your family warm and positive thoughts.

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Kelly September 9, 2011 at 12:13 pm

I’m so sorry you get nasty comments (and twitter, websites, etc) I don’t normally comment here but I wanted to say that. You are joyful and I love your blog and keep doing what you are doing.

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Average Jane September 9, 2011 at 12:37 pm

How very sad that you have to deal with such terrible people. Just remember that it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. Then hit delete.

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Susan M Burke September 9, 2011 at 7:52 pm

““I know exactly why some people must hate your guts.”

“Why?”

“Because you are joyful,” she said immediately.”

Shauna, you keep on being JOY- FULL!! I love you for it and will keep right on being Joy-full alongside you!! I discovered in January of this year that sometimes I just have to turn my head and look the other way, focus on me, as you are doing, LIVE Joyfully as you are doing!!
MUCH love, laughter and JOY to you and yours!!! <3 <3

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MichelleH September 10, 2011 at 5:58 am

I came here from a link at ‘beauty that moves’ and this is my first time visiting. I read your post. WOW! is my response. I can’t believe people are so rude. Well, I can because I see it daily, but it’s still stunning to me. I love what you’ve written here. WHY do people feel the need to bring others down with them? I just don’t understand that. If you don’t like what someone writes or posts on her blog, go.some.where.else! There’s no need to cut someone else down because you’re miserable in your own life. And how low are you that you need to trash a kid??? SAD!

I had to laugh at your comment about posting the first photo of the strawberry picnic. When I opened your post and say the photo, I smiled. To me, that shot screams ‘SUMMER’. Scrapped knee from playing outside, check. Dirty legs from playing outside (not filthy from neglect obviously), check. Fat juicy strawberries, check. Joy at being outside enjoying summer, absolutely implied.

I say keep loving your life and tell the haters to keep their venom to themselves. Live with joy!

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Tessa G September 10, 2011 at 8:43 am

This post made me feel better than anything I’ve read in a month. <3

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CatieP September 10, 2011 at 7:53 pm

Shauna, I don’t comment often but I wanted to say that I was touched by what you wrote – I still don’t think I understand how pervasive the blog/twitter/etc troll is but I understand a little better now. I’m sorry that you, and others, have to deal with that sort of crap in order to do your job, follow your passion, and to help others out in the world who need/want the recipes you share.

And when I see photos of Lucy I see how happy, lucky and loved she is.

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Grace September 11, 2011 at 5:03 am

You are such a brave and honest woman. We are blessed to read every single post you share. Keep embracing YOU and choosing LOVE!

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Suebob September 11, 2011 at 7:09 pm

I find the hatred targeted at you so appalling. I can’t stop thinking about it.

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Tricia September 12, 2011 at 9:00 am

I am slackjawed. I had no idea. No idea. I’m having trouble comprehending how you keep moving forward with your work in the face of such ugliness. But you do. And good for you.

I followed the link here from ShePosts and I’m glad I did. And so, thanks to the trolls, even though I am not gluten-free, I have now added your blog to my reader and am going to make brown rice salad tonight. Take that, haters!

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bo (laurie) roth September 12, 2011 at 9:38 am

Shauna,
this post just blows me away. I linked here from FB, something about the good bites (easy eats) and wanted the rice salad recipe. Never in a million years would I even imagine that you’d ever received any of this abuse. It’s so eye opening and sad. Meanwhile, I love the recipes and look forward to reading more. And I only got half way through the comments (so many!) all of which I totally agree with. You are a treasure and the gifts you give to the world are joy, laughter, and great good food. Inspired to cook well tonight. love, bo roth (friend o’kim)

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shauna September 12, 2011 at 11:08 am

Thank you so much, Bo. Truly. (Any friend of Kim’s is a friend of mine.)

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katie@agraciousplenty September 12, 2011 at 4:11 pm

shauna,
you are gorgous and talented and joyful. i love reading your blog.
thank you for not letting the assholes win. they don’t loathe you, they loathe their own lives.

keep at it, shauna.
most of us need you and your stories.

best, katie

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scraps of starlight September 13, 2011 at 11:03 am

I also have never commented before but wanted to let you know how important your words here are!
Thank goodness for the shining lights (like you) that won’t be put out by destructive comments.
Isn’t Brene Brown fabulous :)

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Debbie Wiles September 13, 2011 at 2:57 pm

You are practicing tonglen. Good.

A few words from Roger Ebert are still important to me: “Bullies must be miserable all the time, driven to find victims so they can prove to themselves, over and over again, that they themselves are not worthless.” And this as well: “… “their comments have no relevance except as a sad expression of their own misery.”

You are loved.

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Emma September 13, 2011 at 6:08 pm

I know you may not read this (there were a lot of comments!) but I just want to thank you for what you wrote. I’ve been giving myself a hard time for putting on a few pounds this summer we’re building a house and things are crazy hectic. Thanks for helping me move my brain away from that nonsense, for remembering that it is joy that matters.

I’m so sorry for the horrible things you’ve dealt with, I had no idea. But thank you for continuing and doing great work and providing inspiration to so many people.

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Sam Ordos September 14, 2011 at 11:52 am

Let me be the 929th online voice to say THANK YOU for being a rockstar even when you can’t hear the applause. You and your family are inspiring and I only hope that even more people learn from your example and live their own beautiful lives, in the city, the country, or on an island. Thank you for being a witness that we all have wonderful lives waiting for us if we get out there and be ourselves. Thank you for holding yourself to such a high standard, for being brave, for being honest, and for being real, most especially. Seriously. Beautiful.

Know you are always appreciated.

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Morri September 14, 2011 at 4:27 pm

I know I commented a few days ago, but your words really impacted me. I hope you don’t mind, but I talked about it in my latest blog post: http://mealswithmorri.blogspot.com/2011/09/honesty-health-and-stew-beef-enchiladas.html

Best wishes.

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Deborah September 15, 2011 at 6:58 pm

Shauna, I’m going to be honest with you. When I saw this post in my reader a few weeks ago I scrolled through it while on the bus, not reading the post at all. My stop was coming up but I got far enough down the post to see the plate of food so I starred it immediately because the salad looks amazing, but I also wanted to read your post when I had some time to spare.

A few days later I rustled up the ingredients and made the salad for our packed lunches that week. As I sat outside the office, munching away on the salad I was transported to Seattle; out in your back yard, the dappled sunshine, the conversation, the laughs, the delicious quinoa salad and fruit prepared by Danny, your delightful Lucy; all of it so welcoming and gorgeous. It was a blessing of a day.

Now some two weeks later, I have taken the time to read your words and my heart is aching. I am so sorry that you’ve had to experience this even once. You’ve spoken about something which NEEDS to be addressed because the more the more we voice these issues which are present online and offline; the less it will tolerated. I no longer tolerate it because it has impacted on me and my creativity. Way back in 2004/5 when writing about food in this format was new, I was lucky to be part of the community and have made some amazing friends because of it. The Australian food blog community was only small then and was very supportive. Unfortunately after a year or so I too experienced, while on a minor scale to the one you described, a kind of diatribe which upset me and made angry and anxious at the same time. Over time, it got to me; I stopped blogging, I stopped writing about food and my life the way I wanted to. I kept a different blog and even changed my online name, because the diatribe followed me from the blog to Flickr and back again in my Inbox. I feel sad when I think about it because blogging was something I really enjoyed.

So Shauna, I’m going to be honest; please write about it, please tell us when someone is hurting you because I don’t want to ever return to Gluten Free Girl and The Chef and not find your stories about your home, your food, your daughter, your joy. Be well, my friend. xox

xo

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shauna September 15, 2011 at 7:26 pm

Deborah, my friend, thank you. I didn’t realize that is why you stopped blogging. I thought you had just lost interest. May I tell you much I would love to see that come back again? I think often of that afternoon, and how random it is that our paths crossed, and how happy I am that they have. xoxo

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Chantal September 16, 2011 at 8:30 am

I also have never commented and anything I could say repeats the messages of love and encouragement and appreciation of your work that have already been posted. I just felt I needed to add my voice so that you know there is one more person out there that truly enjoys your work and your approach to life.

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shauna September 16, 2011 at 11:20 am

Thank you.

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Melissa VW September 16, 2011 at 12:03 pm

They don’t matter. None of them. All that matters is that you and your family are happy and healthy…the rest is just noise. Cruel noise, to be sure, but noise nonetheless. You and your writing are an inspiration to so many, and that far outweighs the trolls’ bullshit. Keep on keepin’ on, lady. We love you.

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Kelly September 16, 2011 at 6:51 pm

You inspire me with your strength!

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Meg September 16, 2011 at 7:33 pm

Wow! Thank you for your honesty. I had no idea this horrific cyber bullying existed. I must live in a cave or something I guess.

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Kim September 17, 2011 at 6:41 am

Shauna,

It makes me sick and angry to read about the cruelty you have to deal with on a daily basis. I wish there was something I could do to help with the trolls, but I don’t know what I that would be.

I love your blog, your recipes, your writing and usually don’t comment but felt I needed to do so today. I echo the sentiments of the others who have commented here – we love you; please don’t stop what you are doing. You are appreciated by the many, many people who do not send you nasty emails every day.

I admire your enthusiasm, positive outlook, wonderful writing style, and, of course, your stories and recipes! Please keep doing what you are doing. We love you!

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kate September 17, 2011 at 9:03 am

thank you thank you for writing this. for writing about the dark side of blogging. i so needed to hear it. i’ve had a blog for going on nine years, and every couple of years the flow of posts slows way way down. even though i’ve gotten very good at hitting the delete button, it starts to feel like i’m surrounded by people who mean me harm. in the face of the threatened violence, the fear rises, and i shut my voice down. that’s the worst part: i shut down the flow of Yes that is what posting to my blog is.

thank you shauna . . . please keep sharing both sides with us. there are plenty of people out there that only show the happy, the up, the bright and shiny . . . we need, honestly need, folks who find a toughness inside of them to keep beaming both sides of the truth into the internet . . . thank you for showing that there is safety that comes from courage . . .

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Maggie September 18, 2011 at 8:27 am

Human nature can be both cruel and kind. We all need to strive to tap into the kind end of our nature and treat others as we need to be treated. I would challenge everyone that reads a blog to leave a kind and thoughtful comment, just one or two words of encouragement would do. The good folks that take time to write these small pieces of entertainment/information deserve it.

Please don’t let the discouraging words of cruelty define your actions. You are a lovely human being.

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Amy K. September 18, 2011 at 2:04 pm

I am among the many who say they never post, but I had try and help balance some good with all the bad you shared. You have good things to say. I read you often and you have encouraged me in my GF journey, but more important than the recipes you contribute to this world is the little girl you have contributed. She is beautiful! I have thought it often, but never said; I didn’t think it needed to be said. Seeing her sweet little face makes me happy. Thank you for sharing your food, even more…thank you for sharing your life and your family.

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JohannaGGG September 19, 2011 at 1:13 am

Thanks for sharing this – I love your attitude and I am mad as hell at all those trolls – I get the occasional one and it upsets me so I can’t imagine how you cope with so many but I just had to add my voice to those saying that what you do in sharing your life is inspirational and I can only hope the positive comments outweigh the trolls

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Caroyn Ferguson September 19, 2011 at 8:25 am

Bravo! Bravo! Bravo! (a standing ovation) for sentiment and terrific writing.

Thank you for sharing.

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Mel September 21, 2011 at 1:26 am

Dear Shauna, you are AMAZING. You are strong, beautiful, courageous and an inspiration! May the silly people learn. Fast. Meanwhile, we are all behind you…

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Dan September 21, 2011 at 7:17 am

Remember that the things that you and yours bring to this world far outweigh any negative sentiments or trolling that people might “gift you”. (There is a story told by my Vipassana meditation teacher, S. N. Goenka, about the anger and negativities that people try to bring to you. You are not required to accept those things. Turn those things away, and as you’ve wonderfully done, embrace the people.)

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Mordant Carnival September 23, 2011 at 4:39 am

You’re beautiful.

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Kelly September 23, 2011 at 9:50 pm

Wow. I had no idea. It’s ironic that I find you so incredibly smart, and beautiful, and honest, and alive, and that anyone could attack that. You are so right to continue despite them, and it’s inspiring. They must be envious of your amazingness. It won’t bother Lucy either, because she’s being raised by you and surrounded by strong women who are proud of their bodies and who make the world better using their brains. That kind of confidence is contagious.

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Amanda September 26, 2011 at 11:25 am

Good God, I can’t believe you endure this on a daily basis! How unhappy, how unhealthy must people be to criticize a baby? I think it’s kind of fabulous that you decided to write about it though. Thank you. Then again, I think it’s kind of fabulous that you survive all this abuse so gloriously. I have a 3 year old Lucy too by the way. Only the best sorts of people have 3 year old Lucys.

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Jessica September 26, 2011 at 10:10 pm

Hi,
I’ve not read your blog until now or anything, but I followed a link here after hearing about your post. I just wanted to say to ignore those ingnorant idiots that must be jealous of you and your life. Good for you for making a stand and not allowing them to stop you from blogging. I hate bullies. It sounds like you have some that are trying to make your life miserable, don’t let them. Good luck, and blessings to you.
Jessica

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Sherrie September 27, 2011 at 7:40 am

When I saw Lucy’s picture, I saw a fun day had by all…the scraped knee a sign of fun turned awry, then into comfort; a picnic blanket for a perfect midday snack; love. Thanks for continuing to share for those that see what you intend! I just picked up your cookbook at the library because my son was recently diagnosed as allergic to wheat. While I found most of the recipes out of our humble reach, I LOVED reading the love story. You are making me rethink my simple Bob’s Red Mill GF flour purchase too!

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Amanda September 27, 2011 at 1:40 pm

I was that IFBC in NOLA and I thought you were wonderful. Love your blog. Keep it up.

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Stevie September 27, 2011 at 5:18 pm

Shauna

I discovered your existence because of a post written by John Scalzi, so I pottered over here, read a fair few of your comments, and a fair few of your recipes, and became an almost instant fan, a process which accelerated when I got my hands on your book ‘Gluten Free Girl and the Chef’, even though I do not have coeliac disease .

But when I looked at the only customer review of your books on Amazon.co.uk I was outraged because the sole reviewer was completely misrepresenting what your book is about, falsely claiming to have been deceived and so on. This is easily proven to be a lie, completely unacceptable unfounded ad hominem abuse on you, and I have therefore written a fair 5* review which is up on Amazon.co.uk now, so you do now have 2.5 stars overall.

Still, some good has come out of this; I suspect that the abusers probably did not intend to increase both your fan-base and sales figures. Well, tough! They should have thought about that before they attacked you in a cowardly and despicable way, but there again, thinking is not their strong point….

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Jess September 28, 2011 at 10:42 am

I’ve been reading your blog for a long time now but have never commented before. Two days ago I became GF. For 7 years I stuck to a strict lactose free diet and never thought anything of my aches and pains. The last few months however have been horrible. Every medical test the drs did came back “normal”. I just thought I was a hot mess and that this was how my life was going to be now. Two days. Two days and I already feel better.

I almost broke down and cried in the grocery store yesterday. I kept telling myself to focus on what I can eat. All I could think of was your blog. I’m so so so thankful for your blog. I’m not as scared of this GF diet because of it. I’ve always enjoyed baking, rice noodles were already my favorite pasta, and turns out I’m not lactose intolerant at all. Which means when I’m healed, I’ve got a lot of ice cream eating to catch up on. Of course I still have A LOT of learning to do.

You’ve always been such an inspiration. You have amazing strength which is why I’ve always loved reading your blog. You’re family is beautiful, full of life and love. It shows in every picture you post. The love you have for each other makes me smile. Every. Single. Time. Thank you for sharing that with all of us as well.

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Sam @ My Carolina Kitchen September 30, 2011 at 7:22 am

I am visiting from Rosa’s Yum Yums. I am just in shock that this has happened to you. It’s easy to say just forget it. If only it was that easy. The internet makes it so simple for people to hide behind their computer screens and say whatever evil that comes to their minds. They are pathetic. I hope by talking about this that we have encouraged you to stay strong and ignore the evils that seem to lurk everywhere. You will be in my thoughts and good luck. When it gets you down, read these comments and hold your head high and say to h@ll with those who throw stones and give Lucy a hug. Life’s too short to devote any time to the stone throwers.
Sam

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Shumaila September 30, 2011 at 3:37 pm

I got directed to your site through Rosa’s and what you told just sounds so darn awful. I just don’t get why people would be so downright mean to people they have not ever met or don’t even know. Maybe I am naive!
But I am glad you posted about such people, and to them I think your line sums it up perfectly:
“I’m sorry that your life is so small and sad, but I’m not going to stop saying my story.”
Continue telling your story. We love listening to it!

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Gail October 4, 2011 at 2:22 pm

I just ran across you today and read this … a few things came to mind … you are HELPING people :) You are taking the time and effort to help people … and that is beautiful … I have not even looked at your pics or tweets etc … I think my son and I are celiac so of course I am hitting the web reading up … I am sorry you and esp your child are being attacked like that, it’s so ugly and awful as a mother I get that pain … but PLEASE do not stop! You have to know how miserable and ugly those people are to think like that let alone post. Unfortunately we live in a time where the internet allows anonymous faceless bullying… kids esp suffer from online bullying girls and gay kids seem to get it the worst… It’s awful and we all need to stand up to this problem together! :)

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veronica gantley October 22, 2011 at 11:59 am

I have not experienced trolls like that. I have had a few not very kind comments on my site but none as vicious or vile as yours. I pray for you and pray that the perpetrators find peace in what is troubling them. It appears that you have found your voice. You need to continue talking because we all want to hear what you have to say.

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Joyce October 22, 2011 at 6:55 pm

You are helping so many people with your joy, your positive approach to life. I don’t know who would write such nasty comments but you are a beautiful, vibrant role model. Keep on doing what you are doing! It’s hard to be a public figure in an anonymous space.

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shauna October 22, 2011 at 10:17 pm

Thank you, Joyce. This came at a particularly good moment. Thank you.

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Marcelle October 24, 2011 at 9:14 am

For one horrible moment, I thought this was a post about giving into the haters and you deciding to pack it all in for a life of anonymity. So thankful that you have decided to carry on regardless. Keep focussing on the fact that so many people enjoy reading your posts and you are an inspirational teacher to many. I think that one of the best things we can be in life is an inspiration through positive deeds. But hey, failing that, those at the opposite end of the moral spectrum can serve as reminders to us all to convey our gratitude and appreciation more often to those that deserve it and to get still enough that we can confront such negativity without allowing ourselves to be dragged down by it. So, that said, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!!

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Cherry October 30, 2011 at 1:57 am

Hi Sheona, I’ve only just caught up with this blog post from end August. First I was horrified and angered that anyone could be so vicious for no reason, but that was replaced by gratitude and joy that my mind and my life are not like theirs, and that there are wonderful people in the world like you who spread happiness and health and hope. I support the idea proposed by the very wise Jim Rohn (sadly no longer with us), that there are only about 9 or 10 mean and nasty people in the world… they just get around a lot! The rest of us are kind and honest and loving – or at least learning how :) So cast aside the “virtual vomit” that those cracked people spew out – it’s all about them, not about you or your family. (Maybe you could hire a virtual assistant to screen the bulk of it for you?) Sending you hugs all the way from New Zealand, and looking forward to your new book! xoxox

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shauna October 30, 2011 at 9:05 am

I love this idea. 9 or 10 people. Seems about right.

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Cherry October 31, 2011 at 2:10 am

Glad you like it!!
(Shauna – my apologies for spelling your name incorrectly – I have a client called Sheona so my fingers are used to typing that arrangement of letters!)

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Mrs Coyle November 18, 2011 at 4:24 pm

The thing is, so many trolls aren’t doing it to be hurtful. To them, it’s funny. They’re just the web version of a recess bully. They are amused by the rises they get out of other people, and sometimes, they don’t even know that the other person isn’t in on the joke. I work with kids in the justice system, and very often they will say things to one another that I would consider hurtful or insulting, only to find them laughing about it – together – a minute later. Obviously some people are mean-spirited and want you to suffer, but it *is* a smaller percentage than that of those who are just doing it for a laugh. My point is, the amount of hatred directed toward you is in no way measured by the amount of trolls you have. In some ways, it’s actually a show of your success. You have to be really relevant to matter that much to so many strangers, in any capacity, that’s all. There’s a silver lining :)

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Cayla November 29, 2011 at 6:53 pm

Shauna: I hope that you’re most often told, “You’re an inspiration!” because to me, you are. I read your blog when I need a reminder of ways to live a full, joyful life. Your family and your heart are beautiful. The world is brighter because of you, and even though I haven’t ever met you, I treasure you. Thank you for shining!

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Vicky December 6, 2011 at 3:18 am

I’ve always loved your writing and your spirit. Thank you for this post.

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Sarah Parker December 7, 2011 at 12:36 pm

Thank you so much for being open about this! I just started a food blog, and this helps me understand a bit how to handle something like this if it ever comes up.

This story breaks my heart! Hateful people resent joyful people – so sad! You can report these comments, especially if they involve your family. It is scary stuff! People hide behind anonymity, falsely believing that there is no accountability and they can unload their garbage on good people.

It is no one else’s business what your weight is, or how you raise your children! I follow a food blogger who is quite thin, and people write hateful comments about her weight – that she is anorexic or bulimic and sick looking (she is none of those things!).

Okay, enough of my ranting! Thanks again for your transparency and willingness to share. Hopefully the good comments outweigh the bad : )

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Dan Calleja December 11, 2011 at 10:49 am

Your story is quite educational for someone interested in writing a food blog. It sounds like your experience with the negative feedback only strengthened your resolve to write. I have cut out wheat flour and sugar in its forms from my diet for fifteen years with a bit of cheating here and there and have considered writing a food blog myself. I love to cook, have catered professionally and have about 100 recipes already typed into my computer. Your website has inspired me. Best wished for continued success.
PS – Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness sake…

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lynn @ the actor's diet January 10, 2012 at 3:57 pm

I know I’m late to the game with this post but I just had to look it up after hearing your interview on Joy the Baker mentioning trolls. I have just started to deal with this on my blog, but it’s something I have always experienced as an actor. I’m so glad I stumbled upon this, not only because you talk about NOLA (where I just returned from for a second foodie X-mas vacation in a row) but also because you talk about body image, and give this amazing salad recipe as well. Thank you for your honesty and doing what you do! I have, of course, heard of your blog before but never actually seen it. You have a new fan!

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Lee January 13, 2012 at 10:17 pm

Gratitude and joy are actually easier than anger and bitterness.
So sad that more people don’t understand that.
Hugs and love…

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Austin Carroll February 24, 2012 at 6:36 pm

Just wanted to say good on you for speaking up.

I followed a link to your page from the Kindle Direct Community and was horrified by what I read in your blog. I think everyone else has summed up anything I could have said.

It was very brave of you to post this – but it is this bravery that makes others aware. I had no idea this sort of thing was going on!

I am also gluten free so finding your blog was a very nice added bonus. I do believe I am going to bookmark ir right now.

All the best, and keep doing what you do best, despite the ‘trolls’ (I think that is the expression being used)

And if you are wondering why there is a link on KDP it is all good. Someone mentioned how you spoke up. The link, in case you you didn’t already know about this and want to see:

http://forums.kindledirectpublishing.com/kdpforums/thread.jspa?threadID=29485&start=30&tstart=0

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Lori @ RecipeGirl April 1, 2012 at 4:24 pm

I’m not sure why I never caught wind of this post. I believe I was out of town on the initial posting date. My heart breaks reading this. I think as bloggers we all experience this sort of thing to some degree, but what you’re describing here is plain and simply awful. How wonderful that you’ve somehow managed to keep your head held high through all of this. I’m not certain I could be that strong. Hugs to you and your **beautiful** family.

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Lene April 5, 2012 at 11:54 am

I don’t understand people, I really don’t. I don’t understand them in general, but I especially don’t understand the lack of inhibitions that seem to come with an internet account. I also don’t understand not liking a particular site, yet returning to it day after day to get further aggravated. Much as I enjoy a good rant or an invigorating debate, I don’t hang out on sites that irritate me.

So. Bottom line is this: I am so sorry that so many people feel free to act this hurtfully towards you. I deeply admire your ability to roll with it.

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Penelope Bianchi April 9, 2012 at 5:45 pm

This is truly shocking to me. And I got your link from someone else this is happening to!
It happened only once (that I know of) to my friend Brooke Giannetti whose blog is “Velvet and Linen”.

I am grateful it hasn’t happened to me. I haven’t had to do this; but I know of (and haven’t tried) Reputation.com; which someone told me can protect you from this. I have no ties to them; and don’t even know if they are successful, but I have heard that they are. Scary.

Good luck.

Penelope

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le_third April 11, 2012 at 12:11 am

oh dear !! living well is the best retort and you are doing this exactly – well done to you – we meet a 100 people a day and yet we go to sleep thinking not about the 99 who were wonderful but the one who was not …

focus on the 99 :) we think you are fab le xox

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Jari May 22, 2012 at 11:23 am

This is the first day I’ve read your blog. A friend sent me to this very post because she thought you had a story and a message I should hear. And you know – she was right. And you’re right. And your friends are right. You are a strong, joy-filled person doing what you love and have a loving family.

How wonderful!

No wonder there are sad people out there who say things. It’s easier to say bad things about others that you think makes you feel better then they are then it is to do things do help your own life be better.

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heather October 9, 2012 at 11:21 am

i can’t really say anything other than i am thankful for you and the other people who do chose to tell their stories. to go on and turn away from the hate. i’m so sorry. but, thank you for keeping on.

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Rosa January 8, 2013 at 11:18 am

There will always be angry, bitter, nasty haters out there that dont have anything else to do but to be nasty bitter people taking out there frustrations out on others. They are cowards because they can be so liberal and fast typers because of the internet. It is so easy to bad mouth someone on the wonderful world wide web. Of course, because they hide behind it. Delete them and keep moving forward. Their ugliness will come back to bite them. You just keep living and loving life, food and your family.

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